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Easyy:
I have never been known to involve in long arguments here so I dont want to start. Please could you substantiate what you wrote above.

Pastor Poju is someone I know quite well, even on a personal level. We were in fellowship together @ Unilag, lived together, ate together, prayed together, shared the word of God together and generally did many things together in Mariere. Although we are friends, I have the utmost admiraration for his desire for the undiluted word of God and his complete dedication to the word of God. These things had been evident since we were young guys.

Hello! I also admire Pastor Poju a lot but I heard something I'll like to confirm. I heard he has been married and divorced before. Is that true?

Oblivionsmiles:
I was to type a long epistle discrediting your theory until I saw the last paragraph. So I'll just chill out.





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I think it's a valid theory. What do you have to discredit it?

Hey ladies! Based on the consideration of some factors, I have come up with the best time for a lady to marry if she wants to be educated and have a smooth launch to her career. This is just a theory and you can call it the Nigerian optimal female marriage time theory.

So, the best time to marry as a lady is in your final year at tertiary institution. Why do I say so?

If you marry at the beginning of your final year, chances are you already have your CGPA on lockdown. All things being equal, you should have given birth to your first child before NYSC. For NYSC, as a married lady, you will decide which part of the country you want to serve. They can't just post you anywhere. You will have enough time to take care of your baby because of the light workload of corp members and you'll be collecting a guaranteed allowance from federal government while doing so.

By the time you finish NYSC and you're looking for job, your first child should be close to 2 years old, an age when you can easily wean him/her and even drop at creche or kindergarten.

You and your husband can then suspend having another baby for the next four or five years to enable you focus your energy on getting a job and having a smooth uninterrupted start to your career life.

The success of this theory is based on a number of factors. One that getting married in your final year will not distract you and make you have an extra year in school. Two, that you conceive not long after you marry. Three, that you give birth successfully. Four, that you get a reasonable job after your NYSC. And finally, that family planning does not fail you.

Anyways, that's my theory. For those who have already graduated from tertiary institutions, sorry, my theory can not work for you �. For those who are still in higher institution, you can consider my theory, having it in mind that everything is ultimately in the hands of God.

What do you guys think? Kindly share your opinion and thoughts.

Disclaimer: This post was meant to stir our thinking and be a conversation starter. Do not take it too seriously. I do not take any responsibility, if you decide to follow the theory. You are responsible for your decisions.��

lollmaolol:
Yes I have been contacted
Did personality test and interview at same venue
On the wait again
What about you?

Cheers

Hello bro.
Please, what are their personality test and interview like?

lollmaolol:
Sections include

Verbal/quantitative reasoning
Mathematics
English
General knowledge

Its a paper based test, not CBT.

Thanks so much. You were of great help.

What is the next stage after passing the test? What does it involve? Thanks

lollmaolol:
Its a simple GMAT calculation.
Let the person go with a pencil and calculator.
Its 60 questions in 45 mins. I hope this help.

Thanks so much for your prompt response. I'm very grateful.

I need clarifications though.
So, it's not computer based?
Is it only calculation?
Are there other sections?

Thanks

lollmaolol:
This is not true.

I applied & was contacted for an aptitude test at their ilupeju hatchery.

The test was successful .

Now waiting for the next stage, personality assessment.

Waiting for about 2 weeks now. Still fair

Bro, which position did you apply for and what was the aptitude test like?
I have someone writing tomorrow. Kindly help with what type of questions to expect.

dolak:
Had to go search for you...... If Atiku and Titi could achieve it, then I wish you well.

Wow! Never knew this.

pweetygiftofGod:
An uncle though, he was dating this sister from the east ( Name withheld) but when her family knew about them, they were against the relationship. These two lovers still went ahead thinking the family will later allow them to marry, 2014 precisely, she wasn't sick, like film, she died. From then till now, she's been in the mortuary, her family says, “ full marital rites ” without negotiations will be done before burial plans else, he'll face their wrath.

People who got married with parental consent also loose their spouses. Even though, according to this incidence, they weren't even married.
But wait o, the dead body has been in the mortuary for 5 years now? Who is paying? Do they even allow that?

ImaIma1:
Wow! It is good to hear someone say what I always say. Children should not feel they are indebted to their parents for bringing them up. Who else should have done it? The child didn't beg to be born. In fact the parents most likely prayed for a child.

Many mums keep blackmailing their kids with "I carried you for 9months" as if other mum's that give their children freedom carried theirs for 2 weeks. I consider men that cannot stand up to their mums to be weak.

I completely agree with you.

DavidEsq:
Omo, my wife tell me one story about one babe wey future mother in law no allow rest o. Na so so trouble: "u wld never marry my son" matters. Las las, then kuku separate. The mama go bring one geh wey she like. Guess Wetin happen? Na that girl wey the mama like naim kill the mama. The geh come tire for the way the mama dey so so dey com the house. The geh com quarrel with the mama, push her fall. Omo na so mama take off o! Marriage end o.
In fact Wetin me be dey plan before ehn. If dem no accept my babe, after I don try to convince dem, I go separate, com marry geh wey I know she bad die. Na that geh go show dem shegey wela. Me I go suffer but I sabi bear rubbish o just to make my point. But las las I still married the chick of me dreamz and I no send their wahala. I dey flex my marriage dey go and my wife funny pass warri geh.

Imagine, the woman ended her life because of her stubbornness.

LadySarah:
My mums only bro came after 5 of them girls.Everybody wanted to have a say of his choice of a wife.he brought his love home an ogoja woman from cross river state and my grandma refused.For yrs he pleaded even when there was a preg scare they didn't budge.She would curse with her flat breasts that he suckled .
Her crime-not Igbo.

Last last,she later brought her choice,a week before his traditional wedding he died.His trad date was used for his burial.He was 35yrs and had been ready to marry the non Igbo woman for 9 yrs but for my grandma.

They later travelled to Lagos to meet the lady and enquire whether she actually had a child for him but nothing.
No son ,no grandchild.

Who she gon blame?What does the Igbo woman have that the cross riverian didn't have.She bitterly regrets it today and hasn't recovered since 2012 from it.


If she/he is worth it ,go for it.Life is too short for another creature to make yours filled with regret.
If they quote Eph 6 vs 1,quote verse 2 for them.

Imagine?! What a sad occurrence.

samydo:
People are just misunderstanding this post

Yes o. It's for people to share their experiences not just advice.

5thElement:
Thread says those with experience should share. Instead, people are giving unsolicited advice.

Thank you o! �

sampete:
This is about my Elder Sis.

She wanted to get married to a man who was way older than her, he was practically my dad's age mate. My parents and the church refused to okay the marriage. She threatened to kill herself if she wasn't allowed to marry the man. Parents were forced to okay the marriage.

They have been married for years, no kids. Still praying for them.

And there are people who married with parental consent and didn't have kids for twenty years. Even Abraham and Sarah had delay in having children and they didn't have more than one.

cnonyechi:
The bible says honour ur father and mother that your days may be long.

I have seen people who went against their parents and some resulted in d death of one of d spouses.

I have also seen people who went against their parents they r very much alive but sooo unhappy.

How will u feel wen u advise ur children and they decide not to listen.

For ur maraige to be sweet and successful both parents need to bless d union

And you have not seen people who went against their parents and have a successful marriage?

Thank God for this thread, at least you have read good examples too.

DrOBD:
SECOND TRUE LIFE STORY.

Let me first state that the success of every marriage or home has nothing to do with parental consent. It strictly depends on both couple. Otherwise we wouldn't have high rates of divorce today. If a marriage won't last or if there would be an adverse event, it would happen anyway, whether there is parental blessing or not. I can prove it. Again, if it is possible to get the blessings of your parents, please do as this will promote family bonding and unity. However, if it is not possible and you are convinced, damn the consequences (which is largely social) and marry the person you love. Your parents have lived 2/3 of their lives, you are perhaps close to 1/3.

Now to the real life event.....
My friend's parents married without parental consent and they are doing extremely well, one of the most successful families I know. The major issue was tribal. The man was Yoruba while the woman Igbo. The man's parents refused stating all sort of reasons, they first attributed it to God, then they said they visited some prophets and then later said the marriage will not be blessed with children. The guy insisted, and married the girl. The girl's parents also didn't agree. They said she was their only daughter and they wouldn't want her to go into a family that don't appreciate her. Her father was very bitter. They both sat down and decided to go ahead almost with no consent from both sides (little support from the woman's side). When the man's parents found out, they disowned him (maybe not officially, they said they don't want to ever see him again). A lot happened within the period.

The man is a top engineer, the woman a big business woman, they are both close to 70 years and their children are doing well (some are abroad as doctors, engineers and lawyer). Both families eventually reconciled and are in good terms till date. When the man's father was sick, it was my friend's mother that took care of him till he passed on. She became his favourite and he was always praying for her and her children.



My dearest friends, look before you leap. If there is an obvious reason, for instance you went to school up to PhD and you bring home a school cert, your parents may not agree based on that, or perhaps you bring home a known criminal that will endanger you your life, if I were your parent, I won't support it. In the absence of any genuine reason, forget the talk about "what I am seeing". Nobody can see for you, only God can. Pray to him and let him direct your steps. If you are good and meet a good partner, your marriage will blossom with prosperity.

You've really done justice to this. Thanks

DrOBD:
@Olumyde. This topic will always be a controversial one. I strongly believe in parental blessing. However, not all parents mean well for their children, vice versa, otherwise parents wouldn't sell their kids for money or children use their parents for rituals. Some people are damn wicked even to their family members. In such a case, should the lady/guy wait for ever?

I will tell you two true life stories. Firstly, my parents, and then a close family friend's parents.

My grandparents didn't want my mom to marry my dad for reasons best known to them. My mom went ahead without their blessing of any member of her family. She knew she loved the man and that was enough. They tried everything humanly possible to separate them to no avail, they even cursed/abused her (note that they are from same tribe, different village). For over 5 to 10 years, my dad did not step into his in laws house. I wouldn't want to go into so much details. That union is blessed with 3 men and 1 woman, we are all above 30 years and prospering to the glory of God. My dad became the best in law of my maternal grandparents before their demise and the whole family is together and prospering. My mom still says her life would have been miserable if she didn't marry my dad. I wouldn't be typing this today if she wasn't strong willed. They later accepted the bride price several years after they married officially (not cohabiting).

Second story is even more interesting.

Wonderful! Thanks for sharing.

agaliboy:
I deeply regretted my decision. That's why I am a divorcee now. My Dad is late but my mum saw through my ex-wife's pretenses, but i was too much in love to listen to her warnings. My ex was from a broken home and I married her as an Unemployed person.

I started seeing the things I didn't even notice during courtship just one month into our marriage. Maybe because we had a long-distance courtship. She was very egoistic, full of malice and never listens to any kind of good advice. We both had strong personalities and I couldn't bear to report her to anybody for the shame of being reminded that I was warned before I married her.

The final straw was when I discovered all the lies and contact she still having with an ex she knew before she met me. She was visiting him behind my back and even collected money from her when she needed some balance to buy a car after I had already given her some money. She lied that it was her brother that gave her the money. The truth came out when her brother came back from the U.K and unknowingly revealed the truth. I got to find out they've had romantic outings together whenever I was out to work.

A quick advise to younger guys: LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHERS. THEY SEE BEHIND THE 'CURTAINS' WHEN IT COMES TO FELLOW WOMEN.

Thanks for sharing your experience. If the objection is directly to the person one wants to marry, I think it should be taken seriously but ultimately a man has to make his own decisions and take responsibility.

Moneystopnonsen:
Married against my mother's wish. She never liked my wife when she was babe then in school, simply because she says I give her attention too much more than i give to her.

Fast forward to after 8years of dating her, mum complained about how can i be stuck with one girl when guys where frolicking about.

After Nysc i started planning marriage, mum actually arranged her friends daughter for me, she was hot, but me i overlooked her because I was hell bent on been opposite of what my father was.

3 years ago i married my wife, mum only came for the traditional. She gave me plenty condition for my white and i was like why will my own mum want to sabotage my life simply bcoz of jealosy. Because of her I didn't do white wedding. I went to the registry and married my wife.

Today I have 2 kids and my wife is my back bone, mum still detest her and is pretending, I have made it clear to her you can't love me, love the kids she gave you and dislike her.

Recently she went as far as smearing my wife's image To my younger brothers who are not in Nigeria, I wonder what she wants to gain. So am paying her back with no access to me at all. Until she retraces her step.

If u notice I didn't talk about my dad, he is alive, his an old arse hole for university of Ibadan females both students and hostel female staff, he can gift u a car just to lay u.

Mum is just a control freak. She has lived her marital life yet wants to live another through me, but kole work ooo

Interesting experience. She must have said you have been jazzed. lols!

jaxxy:
I know a frnd who married without his parents consent tho I’m not sure if the father gave his approval bt I know the mother didn’t accept to it bt he discussed the issue with his pastor and after trying and seeing the mom wudnt come arrnd their pastor approved their marriage. The Mom was still adamant until they had their 1st kid I think and then she soften up. Now they are all happy.


The question is u need to know, examine and clarify ur moms reasons with others u trust and are more experienced and ur pastor if u have a good one, just to be sure there’s nothing ur missing out that’s she probably sees. It’s very important u clear that up.

Thanks for sharing your friend's experience.

odyx:
Guy I hardly comment on NL but experience have often prove pre marital Parental view point about couples and in-laws wrong.

My guy has exact experience but after the wife and his mother became best of friend even more than her own daughters.

But still convince ur mom

Thanks for sharing your guy's experience.

Tallesty1:
No experience so I will be sharing my senior brother's experience.


Dude came home one day with one tall bae like that from Anambra.


He called the fam together and introduced her as the girl he will marry, Oh Boy.... My old man no even let him finish before he provoke.


He said it ain't happening, that all his kids will marry from my state.

Mumsy calmed him but she sef no support the thing.

Later that night(after the girl don go) he(dad) called us together and started giving reason why we should not marry from another state.

My bro told him that he and the girl don tey so he no fit leave am like that.

I told them to let him marry whoever he likes after all nah he go live with am.


But the reason I supported him be say me sef dey date one girl from Anambra that time.

Mumsy later gree but palee refused so with mom's support, we do strong head go marry her.


To cut the story short, the lady is my dad's favorite daughter in law till today and they're happily married with 4 kids.

2 boys and 2 girls.

Thanks for sharing this.

frankman365:
You don't need any experience to know that you shouldn't marry without their consent - my humble opinion.

After God, next is your parents!

I know that is one of the popular advice one will get. But what if it is even because of God that you are making your decision. Then you will have to decide if God is first or your parents.

Anyways, this thread is for people to share experience. There are other threads full of different advices.

Advice is cheap! Talk is cheap! Don't we usually say, experience is the best teacher.

Before creating this topic, I tried to search nairaland to see if there's something like this but I couldn't find. The closest I saw were advices on how to go about things when your parents object to your marital decision.

I am currently at a crossroad in my marital decision. My mother does not want me to marry my fiance because of her mother's behaviour.

This is not a unique issue and I know many people have faced something like that in the past.

I know all the advices but what I want to know experience of people who have gone ahead despite their parents' disapproval.

If you have gotten married without your parents' consent, what was your experience? Can you kindly share, so everyone can learn?

iykebest1:
congratulations on your graduating with distinction.

I think it is possible, but if you are disposed enough, it would make more sense if you come down to school yourself and get a first hand information

Please, any information on whether the admission is still ongoing?

Hello guys. I heard the admission is still ongoing and that there'll be a second batch of screening. Is this true? Please I need an answer before I waste my money. Thanks

kcpumping:
Pls friends, I have a friend that went for a sales rep interview thereafter, he has bin called for a driving test....He is worried and would like to know what to expect from d interview and how he could come out triumphant.....urgent responds pls, God bless you all .

Can you please help with the info of the driving test?

pol01:
guy, somtime dey do written too!!like wen i wen for nigeria brewery we did written

I know this thread has been a long time but I honestly need this info and I can't seem to find it anywhere else.

How was the written test like?

analice107:
Mr Black, how have you been?
I want to first and foremost say, if the man of God did what he is being accused of, it's wrong, But my dear Black, Christianity is a big mystery to the onlookers.
I don't know from when in the history of christianity that given became a problem. If we are to follow the Biblical Principles, given to God and to the ministers of God, for their upkeep and the work of the kingdom is an integral part of christianity. How it became an anathema is what I don't know.

If we should actually sit down and pick and analyze scriptures many mouths will be closed here.
Today, I was studying a passage of the Scripture which addressed what we are crucifying the MOG today for.
From the old Testament where they weren't even taking the message far and near, they were all kinds of giving to the servants of God.
As a matter of fact, in the OT, you can't go to see or consult a servant of God empty handed. If you must seek the counsel of a man of God, you go with something substantial.

Today I was reading about Saul, before he became King Saul. His father's Assess got missing, him accompanied by a servant went out in search of them, they didn't find them. They found themselves in a community where Prophet Samuel was, and the servant suggested they went to seek counsel from the prophet, but Saul said No, We can't go to the prophet empty handed. It was a standard procedure that, you must present something anytime you appear before God or the servant of God.

In the New Testament, it continued. Peter gave his boat for the Master's use, afterwards, he received fish that he could not carry.
The feeding of 4 and 5 thousand men, Jesus took from the people, multiplied it and gave back to the people. Couldn't he just call for food? Afterall he did it before, He caused manner to fall in the Wilderness.
During the Apostles Ministeries, Money was given to Men of God for their up keep and for the furtherance of the ministry.
Let's see what Apostle Paul says here.

1 Corinthians 9:1-16 Am I not an apostle (a special messenger)? Am I not free (unrestrained and exempt from any obligation)?

Have I not seen Jesus our Lord?
Are you [yourselves] not [the product and proof of] my workmanship in the Lord?

Even if I am not considered an apostle (a special messenger) by others, at least I am one to you; for you are the seal (the certificate, the living evidence) of my apostleship in the Lord [confirming and authenticating it].

This is my [real ground of] defense (my vindication of myself) to those who would put me on trial and cross-examine me.

Have we not the right to our food and drink [at the expense of the churches]?

Have we not the right also to take along with us a Christian sister as wife, as do the other apostles and the Lord’s brothers and Cephas (Peter)?

Or is it only Barnabas and I who have no right to refrain from doing manual labor for a livelihood [in order to go about the work of the ministry]?

[Consider this:] What soldier at any time serves at his own expense? Who plants a vineyard and does not eat any of the fruit of it? Who tends a flock and does not partake of the milk of the flock?
Do I say this only on human authority and as a man reasons? Does not the Law endorse the same principle?

For in the Law of Moses it is written, You shall not muzzle an ox when it is treading out the corn. Is it [only] for oxen that God cares?

Or does He speak certainly and entirely for our sakes? [Assuredly] it is written for our sakes, because the plowman ought to plow in hope, and the thresher ought to thresh in expectation of partaking of the harvest.

If we have sown [the seed of] spiritual good among you, [is it too] much if we reap from your material benefits?

If others share in this rightful claim upon you, do not we [have a still better and greater claim]?

However, we have never exercised this right, but we endure everything rather than put a hindrance in the way [of the spread] of the good news (the Gospel) of Christ.

Do you not know that those men who are employed in the services of the temple get their food from the temple? And that those who tend the altar share with the altar [in the offerings brought]?

[On the same principle] the Lord directed that those who publish the good news (the Gospel) should live (get their maintenance) by the Gospel. But I have not made use of any of these privileges, nor am I writing this [to suggest] that any such provision be made for me [now].

Can we now see that the men of God deserve these things and even more? People who quickly quote Apostle Paul, can then now see that these rights were Apostles' rights too? That he gave them up doesn't mean, they weren't his rights.
Why do we bring judgements against ourselves without finding out these things?

The Philistine Brethren were the poorest at the time, but in their deep poverty, they didn't stop giving to the up keep of the servant of God.

Philippians 4:15-19 And you Philippians yourselves well know that in the early days of the Gospel ministry, when I left Macedonia, no church (assembly) entered into partnership with me and opened up [a debit and credit] account in giving and receiving except you only.

For even in Thessalonica you sent [me contributions] for my needs, not only once but a second time.

Not that I seek or am eager for [your] gift, but I do seek and am eager for the fruit which increases to your credit [the harvest of blessing that is accumulating to your account].

But I have [your full payment] and more; I have everything I need and am amply supplied, now that I have received from Epaphroditus the gifts you sent me.

[They are the] fragrant odor of an offering and sacrifice which God welcomes and in which He delights. And my God will liberally supply (fill to the full) your every need according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus.

Satan knows that the way out of poverty is giving, he is using against ignorant Christians and they accept swallow it.

If a servant of God today, walks into a widows house, and is told that all she and her son had, in this hash Buhari wheather, is two cups of garri, no hope from anywhere, but the man of God insists that the widow offers the last 2cups of garri they had left in their entire house to him, what will be the reaction of some people here?
But Ellijay did it, but when the widow obeyed, for three and half years of Famine, the two cups of garri never finished. When others were crying for hunger, they had to eat because they gave to God first.

When the Widow came to give her last mite (offering) in the congregation where Christ was, He knew that was all the woman had, home and abroad, why didn't Christ stopped the woman from giving?
Kingdom prosperity can only be achieved though giving, especially to God.
@Ops.
Sorry for the long post.

All this long post just to defend fraud.
Show me a place where Jesus or the Apostles charged money for prayers.

If you give, to the work of God or to man, you will be blessed. But that does not give anyone the license to force people to give.

Samuel did not ask Saul for money. Jesus did not ask the widow for money. Jesus borrowed Peter's boat and returned it. Elijah was in need of food and he said make my own first. No evidence that he ate everything. God did not command Elijah to take food from the woman while he had enough to eat at home. And immediately, the woman had abundance. Many people give to so called men of God and suffer after giving.

Jesus did not take food for himself. He took the food to feed the congregation. That is compassion. How can you even compare that to way many preachers demand money nowadays.

I can understand the poster who hissed above.

DeConsultant:
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Please help out. I filled the online business name registration forms. However the preview information was incomplete, even though I filled the forms completely and correctly. Stuffs like sex, occupation etc appeared as N/A even though i filled them. Should i go ahead with the payment?

Has anyone experienced this before?

Got an invite for test yesterday evening