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Kobojunkie:
➜ You were probably raised by your parents and maybe even society, tradition, and religion to center your life around men and their ideas about women, a brainwashing to have you believe that your life amounts to nothing with validation from men and religion. (They all lied to you so that they could use you — manipulate you — to their own benefit, not yours.) You need to begin your deprogramming at this point, where you remove from your mind all that you have ever been taught— decenter men and decenter tradition & religion — and begin centering yourself and your self-love in the place of it all.

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➜ There are no badges of honor out there for good girls; as a matter of fact, bad girls end up at the top while the majority of the good girls end up abandoned and eating sheet no matter how many men they try to please(their father's included). Don't be a good girl. Rather, be the girl who has her best interest at heart, no matter the situation or condition.

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➜ Above everything in this life, always choose yourself first—center yourself!

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➜ You need to learn to accept and love yourself, flaws and all, and no longer see your singlehood as some sort of placeholder for marriage. Nature had you born without a dick stuck inside of your vagina as the optimal state of your being. That state remains the optimal state of your being throughout your entire life. If you later decide to choose the option that is marriage and childbearing, know them for what they are... additional burdens —responsibilities —you(with your own hands) place on your life, and not necessarily requirements.

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➜ Do not get married until after your late 20s/early 30s.
⟹ You were born with all of the eggs you will ever need in the life from your mother's womb, and the DNA of those eggs remained biologically intact until you reach menopause in your 50s, so don't let anyone deceive you into thinking time is against you in your 20s. over 95% of birth problems are the result of men, not women.
⟹ Your thinking brain does not fully develop until well into your late 20s and early 30s. This means the chances are tremendously high that any decision you make, particularly regarding your relationship partners in your teens and 20s, you are likely to regret by the time you reach your 30s. So, wait to make any serious relationship decisions until after your brain is fully developed to the point that you are very much self-aware.

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➜ Before you get married(if you choose to get married), make sure the following:
⟹ Do not get married to any partner unwilling to sign a prenuptial/postnuptial agreement guaranteeing you payment of a percentage of the marital communal wealth as your share from the dividends of the marriage each month. No matter how much a man claims to love you or love bombs you during the dating phase, nothing stops him from financially abusing you immediately after you say your "I do's" to him. And under no circumstances should you excuse him for not paying you this percentage every month throughout the marriage.
⟹ Alternatively, particularly if you plan to be a stay-at-home wife for a period of time, meaning you will not be getting any salary from external sources, sign a prenuptial/postnuptual agreement with your future partner requiring that you be paid at least half of the market cost for the work you will be doing in the home during all of that time — cooking, cleaning, babysitting the children, nursing babies, laundry, emotional regulation/counseling of children and spouse, home finances, running of errands, event organization, carrying the babies during the pregnancy, etc. These are all jobs that ordinarily people would be adequately remunerated for. A wife should be remunerated for her contribution of these services to the family company, too.
⟹ Investigate the emotional, mental, and social intelligence of your partner. This will go a long way in determining how beneficial that marriage will be to you and to your children in the end. It is also the best way to determine whether a marriage will bring benefits or heartache and suffering galore.

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➜ If you choose to get married(marriage is choice not a requirement):
⟹ Never get married under the traditional marriage configuration. You were not born a slave, and no man has the right to subjugate you even in marriage. Never let it happen to you.
⟹ Remember to center yourself every moment of the marriage.
⟹ Keep your social life and friends from before marriage completely intact and healthy, even in your marriage. That is the support system that will help you the best in maneuvering marriage, and in recognizing and avoiding any potential bullsheet that might be thrown at you in marriage. Also, keeping your social circle from before marriage helps you protect your boundaries and peace of mind better than any other group, including your partner.

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➜ if you choose to have children(children are a choice not a requirement), make sure you are fully aware that:
⟹ You are the one to decide for your own self to have them(not a result of external pressures). Children are a burden that is usually solely borne by the women who have them.
⟹The moment you become a mother, you can't unbecome a mother, and in the case that the man you had the child with decides he no longer wants to be in your life and that of the child, or he dies, or he even stays a present-absent father to that child, you alone will have to carry that burden all by yourself.
⟹ You risk your very life — battle with death itself— with every pregnancy. So many women die during pregnancy or childbirth, with many of them dying careless deaths, and even after that, conditions such as PTSD and other complications that result may leave them unable to return to who they were before it all. So, prepare your mind, your body, and your bank account(never depend wholly on your partner/husband in this)if you choose to be pregnant.
⟹ You are not a retirement plan
⟹ Child-free living is also a valid course of life

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➜ Some of the best soft skills you could ever gift yourself with are emotional, social, and mental intelligence. Those are the pathways to wisdom in this life that will help you better navigate this life and make more regret-free decisions the most.

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➜ Again, even where it concerns a man, a job, opportunities, family members, always choose yourself first— center yourself— so you do not become another statistic on the journey that is life.

GameGod:
I advise you to save more money and go for psp , unless you still want to experience the good old days.

asalimpo:
hmmm ... is this how u degenerate. It's now a matter of fight.
I was logically refuting your claim based on practical experience.
That you can write 1m loc in a year (a physical impossiblity by the way) doesnt mean
your code or program has superlative technical merits!!
THINK!!!

STAY ON THE LOGICAL LANE.I'M CALLING UR CLAIM OF WRITING 100K LOC /YR a lie.
And i'm stating tht 100k a year is only possible under duress.
Not saying it's impossible but under duress. I'm talking of well designed , no fluff, no imported code, all code written by the author system.
If you have anything to say, counter the point logically. Stop fuming like a kindergaten kid.

asalimpo:
Actually integer types should be descendants of Doubles. Y?
Because all integers can be expressed as double types, just tack a '.0' to it and it becomes a double.
Also mathematically, integers are
subsets of doubles (i.e rationals).
But in most oop languages, integers are separate entities directly descending from abstract class Number/or Real same as Doubles.
This shouldnt be,it's a design flaw.

if i were to architect the heirarchy,
Long Types (actually integers) would
descend from doubles,
which will descend from Real (Real numbers)
which will descend from Number.

Presidentman:
I'm trying to enable the members of my website to upload and consequently update their profile picture.
Please, someone, how do I do it?

yorex2011:
Their homepage now

Dizu:
Abeg som1 sent a huge amount of recharge card but just got lost from my text messages, plz some 1 help, what could be the problem?

dockokwus:
The fear and frustration is that a governor is showing shallowness and behaving st upidly and your likes cant point it out and you claim being literate.
Does it even make any sense to you,that once you are proven to belong to a secret cult,you are sentenced to death!
Sometimes the way some of you reason defies all logic.
Just because I pointed out the commonsense error in the law,it now equates to fear and frustration!
He should go ahead with it,afterall its same Ekitians he would be killing at a whim.
Frustration and poverty has surely deprived your likes of commonsense.

dockokwus:
The amala governor has come out to show his shallowness again.
First,the constitution supercedes any kpomo or ewedu induced state law and its only in murder cases that death penalty is allowed.
Secondly,how can any sane person prescribe death penalty for just belonging to a cult group!
Third Fayose shud be ready to execute many Ekitians because i am sure that eith the level of poverty him and buhari av unleashed in state and federal,many Ekitians may have fd secret cult membership and its false security and wealth,an easy get away route.

Reminez:
What is this OSU saying

Chidexzy1:
how do I do it

4kings:
Huh?

4kings:
Do you mean TheOtherGeek?

Jenifa123:
OK boss

dhtml118:
@olyboy16, your accusation of me swaying people to my platform is just what I cant take. On this board, we post links to facebook, stackoverflow e.t.c but now when I make anything concerning my own platform, it becomes a crime?

Care to explain that?, before you start quoting bible anyhow. Even Seun that you are defending is an ATHEIST, ask him what he thinks of your bible and your belief.

Haha, you are too funny. But as you have noted, I am pretty influential on this board, and no matter what people like you say, i will always have followers everywhere I go

dhtml118:
@olyboy16, do you have anything interesting that you have done that is worth mentioning? I doubt it seriously, it shows in your hate speech.
You hate this dude and myself because we have actually built something, why the beef? There are so many people marketing stuffs on this board, bitcoins, e.t.c but you are not criticizing them. You are a very backward person, and I dont want people like you on my platform.