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[quote author=Efemena_xy]Now, how about those art classes of yours? Care to
convert an artistically-dead-novice into an
er...Renaissance/Rembrandt/Da Vinci expert?[/quote]re what?

Mistaking me for someone else i guess?

yellowpawpaw: Onegig, let's forget d gender for now.

Let me tell u a little thing I learnt from nl.

The first posts r always as it is.
Now look at d @op's initial posts.
I don't hv to c chebube posts to know he rnt telling d truth hence my posts.

What he did was simply shifting blame and going on defence.
Those first posts, didn't generate the kind of heat he wanted, he now posted something about sms to diff men so as to shift the blame entirely from him.

Aside chiebube's revealations, I was gearing up to ask him some questions about snooping around d wifey's phone if he doesn't hv skeleton in his cupboard.
My pple said that a knife cutter no dey allow knife pass his back.

I am not a gender person i was just suprised the way everybody were jumping to attack him without first asking him questions like why does she act that way.

I am for solving issues not laying blames and pointing fingers as to who did right or wrong.

Anyways, i believe he should sit her down and talk to her about his misgivings.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]OMG!!

A wife beater and a player??

Breeze don blow, fowl yansh don expose!

.[/quote]I do not normally go through someones previous posts to form an opinion.

I believe that might compromise and influence your responses.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]No?

And what do you think was driving force that promoted this statement of his?



You think a man who "trusts" his wife will utter such a statement??[/quote]There is a difference between "suspicion" and "accused" . The confirmation of the first validates the second.

Yes, trust is earned and it is evaluated daily based on the actions of an individual.

He trusts her but she is giving him reasons not to again. He is human and wants to validate and affirm that trust once more by asking her to clear the air on things.

What do you want him to do?

Close his eyes and pretend he trusts her even when he sees a differing action?

I do not support him nosing around her private mails but now he has stumbled on one he feels he is suspicious. Who do you think needs to reaffirm the trust?


Whose phone is bringing up trust issues?

I guess if it were the other way round you would have advised the lady to confront her husband about such suspicious mails.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]You doubt my logic, yet you concede that trust is a vital ingredient in a marriage? Aren't you contradicting yourself here?

A partner / spouse who wants to play the fiddle will do so, irrespective of whether you check their phone or not, or monitor their activities. They'll simply get smarter at covering their tracks.[/quote]You are jumping the ball. He has not accused her of infidelity he is just wondering why she would lock her phone.

Lets forget about she covering her tracks or not. We are here and talking about the phone. When we get to the point of monitoring her activities we would cross that bridge. As of now, the question is why cant she reciprocate the gesture of her husband who leaves his phone open?

If it is because of the kids she passworded it, why can't he have the password? What is so special about her phone? What is the secret in there?

Efemena...........please we just want to know why?

[quote author=Efemena_xy]It's hard because it shows lack of trust - a basic foundational ingredient for successful marriages!

What makes you think giving him her password so he hungrily thumbs through the contents of her phone like his life depends on it, will stop his insecurities. If anything, that'll feed it even more.

First phone, then what next? Email account? Facebook / twitter access? Opening up her mails that come through the post? Bugging her phone and listening in on all her conversations?

Where does it end, if ever? The guy's got serious problems and he needs to sort them out first.[/quote]He never accused her of infidelity. Let us be realistic here. You have a spouse who locks his phone always and any enquiry about such is always met with fights and disagreemenets. What would you conclude?
You can conclude from her body language and actions that the excuse of locking the phone because of the kids is a facade.

Am not advocating he starts scrolling through her mails and stuff but i believe in open relationships. What is so hidden and precious that someone she calls her husband cant see that is holed up in the phone.



Also, trust is earned not given.

Why are all the ladies being one sided?

She locks her phone and doesn't give out the pin and you say he is making a molehill out of nothing. What is wrong with her giving out the password? why must a phone be the cause of their problems?

Why isnt she sensitive to her hubby's fears? Simply give him the password and put his mind at rest.

I may not give out my phone naturally not because i have something to hide but when its causing disagreements why wont you just show him the contents and let things rest?

Is it that hard?

That is why you need to learn to play the stick and carrot game.

Although i would never want to intentionally hold back but some people have a way of making you feel like a fool for loving them more. If i notice such a behaviour then I would autochange.

Its an equal amount in return for any loving done. I guess such people tend to start noticing a change in their partners when you start treating them same way and they may kick start deliberations on changing things.

Buoyantic: off your system,or reboot when it shows windows press f9 continuously

and what would happen?

Horppy: broda, i've installed d driver. But after instalation i went to check d following: graphics memory dat was 64mb,
dedicated video memory : n/a ( which means Not Available).
System video memory: n/a
shared System memory: n/a.
Bro, is dis normal or wat?

normal

The system is not really it when it comes to graphics like i told you earlier.

Mee234: It's window 8. can u still help.I don't want to format.

Since you have the pin for windows 8 follow these steps

Step 1: Sign in with PIN code

Step 2: Press Windows +X, and click on Command Prompt (Admin) and Yes.

Step 3: On the Command Prompt, type in: Net User username newpassword

and press Enter to reset a new password for Windows 8.

[b]Note: [/b]In the user name option enter your Profile name. If you used two words with a space within them i.e strings

put the user name in double quotes for example lets say it is big sam the way you would type it would be "big sam"

Choose a new password by typing a password in the newpassword space. It can be anything like 12345 or anything you want


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All this people talking anyhow. Its not you i blame, it is muki that took this thing to the frontpage.

There are things that can be solved in house.

Mee234: can u help. forget my pw. but i can still assess my laptop through pin (my pc have two long in options).

Send me a pm.
Always willing to help but get a windows 7 or vista disk handy.

If it is xp..........you dont need a disk to reset the password.

AK Money: Billing Things

Yeah..... Just like we bill all of those seeking help on this thread.


https://www.nairaland.com/301179/post-computer-pc-troubles-here/388


If you don't have anything to say then just pass and keep mute.

Maybe you could show me anyone i have asked for money just to fix anything.

What you lot don't understand is putting such a tweak in the open is unethical and might fall into the wrong hands who would misuse it.


I have asked him for proof of ownership. If he can present it then viola in 3 minutes he would have regained the control of his system.

Festinl: Pls wot shud I do again cos I don't want to format d hard disk drive

Is it xp or windows 7?

Horppy: bros thanks so much, i've downloaded it but is nt compatible wit window 7. Wats d way out bro?

go back to the device manager

Right click on the video adapater. Click install.

When it pops up. Select install from a location.

SELECT your local drive c>swsetup then select ok. It would search and locate the file

big head: I really love ur reply.

Of course I can show u the proof,

1. My picture is on the log on inter-face.
2. My files are all over the PC.
3. I could have formatted it but I'm using it for my project in school.
4. If you unlock it and see it does not belong to me in any ramification, don't release it to me.

Thanks in anticipation.

send me a pm.

zeemoore: Biko, this isn't cool
It's "ungentlemanly"
U dnt av to tell d whole world u just broke up with ur gf
I knw it's none of my business
Call me a busy body if u want but I'll tell u what I feel abt ds whole ish
D drama hereon isn't worth it
Get a hold on urself and move on with ur life
Sh.I.t happens all d time
Throw 'em deuces up nd move on to something better
#o need gbogbo eleyi mehn

Abi. When he was having it good no one heard complaints she was bad and arrogant.

The way the thread seems, its like a one man show to paint her in bad light. No matter what happens, take the positives, learn from the negatives and move on.

You should know she was once an extension of you and any diss or name calling she gets here you also share a big chunk of it.

Move on !!!

big head: People pls is there any software or alternative that I can use in unlocking my laptop as I've forgotten the password used.

Thanks

There is but you need to show proof of ownership before i send you details.

SIR ANDREWS: who are you replying?

abi

help me ask am.

replied x5..........lol


Just kidding. Op..........

Enjoy your vikin search.

Seriously...........there's always a sly way of achieving your aims without showing your hands.#ghostmode



Those advocating he should follow them to the party........please on what premise?. It appears he is not the party type and why would he go to someplace he is not comortable with? If nothing, i will term that as blackmailing him into something he is not interested in.

@OP

Can you think out of the box?



You want to curtail this partying behaviour and in the process not offending anyone. It is simple. You cut off her cushions.

How? Can you pay the nanny to travel out for an unexplained emergency for two weeks? All she just has to tell your wife is something just popped up and she has to attend to it.


I bet your wife would be conditioned to stay at home to take care of your daughter. During this period you can use subtle ways of hammering your points home.

You need not offend anyone. You have shifted the onus of explaining why they cant go out to your wife and in the end have your wife at home. How you marshall your points to make her see reason should now be your problem.

Alfa Seltzer: There is a certain religion that only sees everything through bloodshed, violence and destruction.

Please dont bring religion into this.

Was it religion that caused the civil war of 1966?

You can always pass your points without sounding like a bigot.Thank you

[quote author=X-factoria]How come you didn't see examples of countries who divided successfully? There are examples of Uzbekistan, Kargaztan, Chechenya, (all the xxxx...tans from the former soviet union), the eastern european countries who came off of Yugoslavia, those who broke away from Czechoslovakia, and coming to Africa - Eritrea successfully broke away from Ethiopia in 1993!

Pointing to a seemingly challenged disintegration would not invalidate the objective call for the disintegration of Nigeria. One fundamental thing that makes the case for disintegration more compelling is the lack of a common heritage among many constituent tribes that make up Nigeria. Hausa has no shared history with Yoruba, Igbo, Ijaw, Efik, Ibibio, Jukun, Berom, Kanuri etc so it is extremely difficult to appeal to a common heritage to sue for peace and understanding. The only thing that can make up for this is a binding agreement derived from a genuinely constituted national conference in which all member nations in Nigeria would agree to deal with each other based on agreed terms - more like the terms by which many independent states became a member of the Union in United States. Absent this, we are better off parting ways.[/quote]Same thing i was about to ask him. Scotland is undergoing same process now to detach from the UK. No one is making an hola balo on that.


Must every separation be seen through the prism of violence and destructions?

Are we animals that we believe we cant simply decide what we want and how we want and reach an amicable resolution without bloodshed?

Pque: thanks a lot 4 d advice bt I hope it wont format d system

It wont format it

I don't normally comment on such threads.


But that was hasty? Ain't it the Nairaland lady again?


You two looked promising and am suprised at this. Anyway goodluck.

Horppy: bro i really appreciate ur response, it is nt install. Hw can i install it?

http://www.dell.com/support/drivers/us/en/04/DriverDetails/Product/latitude-d620?driverId=984X8&osCode=WW1&fileId=2731098204&languageCode=en&categoryId=VI

download the file from the link