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dact4u: Dis problem started wen I used d power botton to turn off my system

tbaba1234: Even with intimacy, there is diminishing returns.

A younger couple's drive is much higher than an older couple. I don't know about that research but people do get better with experience.

The frequency is lesser and for some even non existent.

maclatunji: Onegig! Onegig!! Onegig!!! Let me know when you are done pandering.

You are going down the "sex is dirty" alley. #Ideylaugh

maclatunji: Older couples who have been there, done that
are likely to love each other more sincerely
because sex is less of a factor.

next you said.............


Even for the ladies, a "mushy" husband that does
not deliver on regular action will not know how
and when his story would enter town.


and

The mushy stuff is not just happening in
isolation. It is towards an end- #Sex.

If the sex is good between the couple, there is a
higher probability of the "love" lasting longer
until the law of diminishing return sets-in.

maclatunji: ^I have never been afraid to make bold declarations based on evidence placed before me.

tbaba1234: Mac is not married.

Studies show that the average man thinks of intimacy every two minutes. Ridiculous, I know but true

Do you not think that this plays a major role in our relationships sometimes even subconsciously?

It is not the only reason but it is a major reason/factor.

There is a point of diminishing returns in a marriage, that is why couples have to do things from time to time to spark up the relationship.

maclatunji: The mushy stuff is not just happening in isolation. It is towards an end- #Sex.

If the sex is good between the couple, there is a higher probability of the "love" lasting longer until the law of diminishing return sets-in.

Older couples who have been there, done that are likely to love each other more sincerely because sex is less of a factor.

maclatunji: The mushy stuff is not just happening in isolation. It is towards an end- #Sex.

If the sex is good between the couple, there is a higher probability of the "love" lasting longer until the law of diminishing return sets-in.

Older couples who have been there, done that are likely to love each other more sincerely because sex is less of a factor.

maclatunji: I 100% insist communication is a duty of spouses just as it is one of the duties of managers in the workplace.

The mistake you are making is believing the word "duty" only means monotonous labour/work.

I cannot begin a lecture about the duties of marriage here but if there are many people who think like you, one does not have to look far to see why marriages fail- people just do not understand the duties/responsibilities attached to it.

Hkana: *in tbaba's voice* I know, I will do the mushy bit too but I love the old couple stage of more substance.

tbaba1234: ^

Sissie: LOL

Thanks.

Good to know you've been inspired. Write it well.

Sissie: Am asleep, am sleep posting LOL

No am not, it's weekend and am on holiday.

Sissie: @deols mushy love means the soft kind of love, the love in Tokyo, so it's not no 2.

maclatunji: Are you kidding or are just posting to argue? The primary duty of each couple is to effectively communicate with each other. Every other thing is dependent on this.

maclatunji: I think people are missing an essential part in the whole marital "love" equation.

baba11: What people don't know is that human attitude is like a mirror:the way you stand in front of it,is the exactly replica of how it's going to give u the reflected image.If we know,remember and use the last sermon of the holy prophet(SAW),we would not be found wanting here!

stmartins4: Av replied d mail... Pls am waitin 4 ur response

stmartins4: Pls am unable 2 check d pm... Cld u pls direct me..

maclatunji: And what makes you think communication is not one of the duties of spouses to each other?

big head: @ONEGIG WHERE U AT MA MAN.
I DID IT.,
WILL POST THE PICTURE SOON.

stmartins4: Pls i cant log on my laptop too.. This is d response it gives me whenever i try to..Your account has been disabled.. Pls see ur system administator.. Am sure am using d real pword.. its win7.. Pls wat shld i do...

deols: and even all of these loving, our 'nonsensical' definition of love is mushy!

Sissie: In essence the love/loving more surrounds the job/work you do for your spouse.

tbaba1234: I prefer old couples. They hardly do the mushy mushy stuff or call each other for long hours. They have expired nicknames . Our definition of 'love' is meaningless. Yet you know that they can't do without each other.

deols: Let them go. Find your own person.

I can relate to this situation. something like this once happened to me.

deols: Some people don't like games. I don't.

I will express all the love I have and the other person can do as he wishes about it. I doubt that I will keep on loving if he won't reciprocate. So he better not be hiding cos I'd be done and he won't be able to bring me back to the love mode.

If I find out that someone is playing games with me, I won't be able to trust him and there would be no second chances after that.

I think You either love the person and express it or don't at all...No games abeg. If you have concerns, talk about it.

kayword: To me, perfectly picturing someone whom you've neva seen before in your dream can only be spiritual, lyk in the case of the prophet (pbuh).

No matter how creative our brain is, it stil has to work with some sort of ''database", whether conscious or subconscious.
You cant just create something out of nothing.

maclatunji: OP, marriages will continue to fail because people hold in contempt words like: "duty", "discipline", "honour" "responsibility" and "chastity" whilst loving words like: "freedom", "independence" "modernity" and "liberalism".

Sissie: True, it is possible to get that but we don't all get lucky. Some people fall head over heels in love and even though they know their spouse is taking advantage of it, are ok with it, except it gets too extreme.

yellowpawpaw: @onegig,

He would hv generated a better answer had he told the truth as it is and ask for help. Believe u me, I will contribute my two cent, so will others.

Like Efe said, most folks always come with half truth. Either u go psycho on d person so d truth will come out or u look beyond d writeup and do d digging urself.
It works like magic here.

My guy don run.
I don't even hv an advice for him cos he is yet to say d truth considering his previous threads.
Guy, do u still beat wife and cheat on her?
Anyway, d answer is up there.
Just asking for asking sake.