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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Liverpool Vs PSG: UCL (3 - 2) On 18th September 2018 by openmine(m): 8:41pm On Sep 18, 2018
gmaribel:
Liverpool playing as if they are using Duracell battery
grin

TravelRe: Passenger Killed After Fatal Accident Along Benin-ore Expressway. Photos by openmine(m): 2:19pm On Sep 18, 2018
Always a head on collision which can only indicate some thing....impatience!

Where are we really running to?

Even if you intend catching up with an appointment, is it worth risking your life and that of others?

Over speeding kills!

My dear passengers,don't sit there and watch that reckless driver gamble your life away.....
Ignorance is not an excuse!
FashionRe: Meet Miss Ambassador For Peace 2018 Contestants (photos)* by openmine(m): 10:01am On Sep 16, 2018
I will go for Williams,atima,Deborah,jemimah!

The rest esp abiodun ....... lipsrsealed
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Tottenham Hotspur vs Liverpool (1 - 2) On 15th September 2018 by openmine(m): 3:17pm On Sep 15, 2018
holuphisayor:
Liverpool weren't playing anything special IMO
Yeah In your own opinion
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Tottenham Hotspur vs Liverpool (1 - 2) On 15th September 2018 by openmine(m): 2:53pm On Sep 15, 2018
holuphisayor:
Tottenham looks terrible today.
Barca players would be raring to go grin
They were terrible because they played a better team!
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Tottenham Hotspur vs Liverpool (1 - 2) On 15th September 2018 by openmine(m): 2:52pm On Sep 15, 2018
As usual,we defied the odds and came out victorious.....
For those who said Kane will eat LFC raw,please look for the nearest transformer and do the needful..grin

"Tottenham" check!
PSG next.....

YNWA
FamilyRe: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by openmine(m): 8:43am On Sep 14, 2018
Let me also contribute to this topic
@OP
Let's be very clear here.....You didn't do well at all!
Trust when destroyed is very hard to repair!

Like what some one said, what if the gamble didn't work?
Its still a gamble no matter how we want to see it!

Imagine if after years of looking for a child,you then discovered he was sterile and he knew all along but didn't tell you...how would you feel or what would be you reaction?

Secondly,you had the opportunity of telling him about your early menopause immediately after you had given birth!

But you delayed and allowed him to start having "suspicions" about you hiding something from him....that was when you decided to tell him.....!

Wrong timing!


Timing is everything!
You don't tell someone about such a grave issue when such person is being suspicious....!
You should have waited for a while before telling him about it!
Such person will think you are still hiding other things from him...that's why he asked you to stay at home and take care of the kids(Maybe because he thinks you are no longer trustworthy)....a decision which is borne out of emotions which is not the right one!

However,you must find a good time to sit down with him and talk to him about the issue politely while still apologising for what you did!
Don't try to put up any reasons or try in vain to justify your gambling acts!

Just make him know you understand what he is going through and assure him that you will never hide any thing that concerns you or the family from him.....!

Don't worry about him asking you to quit your job
That was an emotional outburst which will subside as you show him how much you love and cherish him!
Or what will happen if he suddenly loses his own job or becomes incapacitated(Godforbid)?

May peace and love continue to reign in your home!
FamilyRe: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by openmine(m): 7:53am On Sep 14, 2018
extraswag007:
madam, I salute your courage and I'm so happy the odds were in your favour...
But I have some questions for you and I'll appreciate if you'll answer it with all sincerity.

How will you feel if you've successfully married him before finding out he's not fertile?
I'm sure you'll easily get over it and continue living your life right?

Would you have told your husband this whole thing if the gamble hasn't worked in your favor?

Would you have told him the whole epistle if he hasn't been aware of the fact that you've stopped seeing your monthly flow?

Truth is you have every opportunity to tell him, if not before the marriage, then after you had your triplet...
Deceit in relationship is so painful and sometimes sorry ain't enough...

I do not in anyway support you quitting your job since you've been able to discharge your duty as a mother and a wife before you let the cat out of the bag, and don't in anyway give a second thought to all those who is asking you to leave him.

I hope you find the answers you seek and the peace in your home restored...
God bless your triplet with Long life and good health
May the odds forever be in your favor.
Godspeed and good luck to you.
The most brilliant comment on this topic of discus!
A super recommendation for OP
Over-Sense will not kill you!

FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by openmine(m): 6:42pm On Sep 13, 2018
pocohantas:
Then I wonder what you will say about your reply. That is by the way, what of the glasses? I wouldn't want to read you wrongly next time grin
grin grin
madam pocohantas..thank God you have explicitly acknowledged the fact that you have "eye problem"...Oryah go to the nearest medic centre and correct that defect....possibly get a new set of medicated glasses!

Or am I the one that made you not to see clearly?
grin grin
FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by openmine(m): 3:18pm On Sep 13, 2018
pocohantas:
LOL. When are you buying me the iPhone? grin
grin
FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by openmine(m): 3:15pm On Sep 13, 2018
pocohantas:
I didn't attack you. I guess the word poor irked you. I just love that word, after evening newspaper wink and if your moniker wasn't a familiar one, I wouldn't have used it "on" you.
Am not worried about the "poor" tag.....
its common and normal to receive unsolicited jabs on a faceless forum....grin
its just that your first quote sounded like that of a paranoid feminist who wanted to take out her frustrations on me! grin
FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by openmine(m): 3:03pm On Sep 13, 2018
pocohantas:
Bible apart, it is also basic male ego at play. I work with so many of them. Behave too independent and they see you as just another man. they don't like it , makes them feel under-appreciated and utilized.

Behave the opposite, chill and watch them play god. I don't even know why feminist are stressing themselves. Men were created to make life very easy for women. You just have to know how to handle them smiley
So you knew all these...yet you were openly attacking me....?
Hope your mood doesn't swing per hour?
FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by openmine(m): 2:52pm On Sep 13, 2018
pocohantas:
Yes. That is why the bible asked women to submit. You don't use logic to follow men (as a woman). They love the damsel in distress. If you ain't submissive, please fake it...

And watch them labour all their lives to provide for you wink
So now you don enter bible section abi? grin

FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by openmine(m):
pocohantas:
Me? Feminist?
No!!! You are the head of the home.

So, should I send the PM now? smiley
Haba why are you denying your rightful tag nah?
Or is that tag dropped when you need to make a request?
Just asking.....grin
FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by openmine(m): 2:33pm On Sep 13, 2018
LuciferKristi:
Corrected
grin
This one you are directly attacking her....seems you guys met but had issues afterwards?
FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by openmine(m): 2:31pm On Sep 13, 2018
pocohantas:
If all the thing I typed were in your comment, it simply means we are saying the same thing na. Anyway, roger Sir wink

Yea, I just saw the glasses part. I need a new one, should I send a PM? smiley
Haba I thought you were are semi feminist?
You can easily get one for your self nah....
Are you not capable? grin
FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by openmine(m): 2:27pm On Sep 13, 2018
TonyeBarcanista:
My brother, everybody is "rich" on social media. I think that Lady is poor, hence, her narrative to use poverty just to target "broke guys". If you probe her you may be shock to realise that she lives off people (perhaps men).
grin
Bro you are wicked

FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by openmine(m): 2:24pm On Sep 13, 2018
pocohantas:
All this epistle. Triggered much?

Anyway, my point is simple. It works both ways. There are men who wouldn't want their wives to drop an influential name, same way some women be quick to adopt an influential name. You dig?

I didn't call you a poor man o, I said poor man issue dey too much. That's general, not about you. Don't have a heart attack grin
grin grin
Seems you need a new set of glasses or an optical glass cos all the stuffs you typed were properly explained in the post you quoted!

You just typed without comprehending!
Too bad!

heart attack? for a mindless and inconsequential comment?
You must be high on some thing strong this afternoon!
Got better and productive things to worry about!
FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by openmine(m): 2:18pm On Sep 13, 2018
blackgold2018:
Next four generations b bearing names like Amaka Ogbonnaya Kayode Okoye Musa-Fredrick
grin grin
As in some of them have "men" issues in their lives!

imagine a lady in the next 4 generations bearing surnames for 4 geopolitical zones grin

Amaka Nneka Abdulkareem Dokubo Dayo grin grin
FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by openmine(m): 2:06pm On Sep 13, 2018
pocohantas:
Why don't you also ask yourself that question. Would you ask Dangote's daughter to change her name.
grin
Sorry are you the lady I quoted?
Or are you her lawyer?
Please mind your business if it doesn't concern you!
Thank You!

pocohantas:
Zahra is still Zahra Buhari Indimi... her husband didn't die. Choi! Power jam power. This is why the rich should marry among themselves.
So what about the wealthy guy who married the daughter of the former governor of rivers state?
Don't just single out zahra as a reference for not adopting her Hubby's name!
Why didn't zahra choose to adopt her mummy's name instead of her dad's name?

Please use your head for once,you are more intellectual than this!

You don't know the reasons behind not changing her name after marriage!
So don't come on nairaland and make assumptions without any substantial evidence!

Its obvious your likes have reading or comprehension issues!
Can't you see where the lady you are blindly defending said she won't adopt her Hubby's name?

its a choice and a discussion between two adults....
So what about okonjo iweala?
or Hilary Clinton?
Were they fools to have adopted their Hubby's names?

So let's say Trump married a billionaire's daughter,would she want to be addressed in her father's name or Hubby's name who happens to be the president?

pocohantas....i may not know you personally but your posts previously implies that you are more intelligent than this!


Like i told the lady,if you dont want to adopt your future hubby's name,the sensible thing to do is discus such with him!

If he agrees,everyone is good....if he disagrees,then let him move on to someone who sees nothing wrong with such!

pocohantas:
Poor man issues dey too much grin
grin
I laugh in Latin...
I wish you knew the one you addressed as a poor man....
So much for hidding under a nickname in a faceless forum!
FamilyRe: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by openmine(m): 1:29pm On Sep 13, 2018
Uniquetani1:
Nice idea
Good it was brought up
Y should I forgo my Dad's name bcoz of marriage?
My title changing from Miss to Mrs is enough.
God doesn't support oversabi
Your mummy adopted your daddy's name whether by choice or law is not important!

Please discus such with your "fiance" before you get married to him!

Don't stay and make assumptions only to quietly bear your future Hubby's name after all the online rants!

And besides,does a change of name take away your abilities or rights as a human being?

Would you say such if you were going to get married to dangote's son or otedola's son?
NYSCRe: Kaduna Corper Battling For Life After Soldier Assault In NYSC Camp. by openmine(m): 12:32pm On Sep 12, 2018
GentleMoney:
Enough Is Enough..
FG Please! Cancel NYSC..
God bless Nigeria..
Will that stop the obvious brutality of soldiers most Nigerians witness everyday?
You don't kill a mosquito with a sledge hammer!
RomanceRe: Is It Proper For A Lady To Give Her Number To Guys When She Has A Boyfriend? by openmine(m): 12:09pm On Sep 12, 2018
MissJoy29:
Solution to unfaithfulness you mean?
Yeah sorry... thanks for the correction!
RomanceRe: Is It Proper For A Lady To Give Her Number To Guys When She Has A Boyfriend? by openmine(m):
kunkelhanspeter:
Go and marry her so she will stop sharing her number to strangers if you are scared of losing her you can’t use bf of a thing to tie a lady down what if you disappoint her tomorrow what will happen?
grin
So you think marriage will make a partner faithful to you?

And once she gets married,all the things she used to "do" before marriage stops right?

grin grin grin

Bro,if you cherish the longevity of your innocent heart,please don't employ this kind of mentality in your life unless you want to lose it one day!

Marriage can never change anyone or make any lady loyal to you!
Aside love,loyalty and faithfulness is very paramount both in a relationship and marriage!

A lady or guy who is not loyal and faithful in a relationship has a high probability of cheating when they get married!

If you are in doubt,look at the increase in divorce cases recently in Nigeria and you will understand that marriage is not the solution to unfaithfulness!
CelebritiesRe: ''Celebrities Suffer Depression Because They Live Fake Lives'' - Kelly Hansome by openmine(m): 4:31am On Sep 12, 2018
just one of the reasons.....
there are many reasons why celebrities go into depression!

....In their quest for fame and wealth,they forgot the 'little' things that matter so much in their lives..!

They forgot the things that made them happy or brought joy to their soul for a blind pursuit that is causing them great pain and sorrow!
PoliticsRe: Ibrahim Shekarau Picks APC Senatorial Nomination Form For Kano Central Zone by openmine(m): 4:05pm On Sep 11, 2018
....and his posters are pasted all over the place at yenagoa bayelsa as a presidential candidate of PDP grin
FashionRe: Meet Nia Franklin: Biography Of Miss America 2019 by openmine(m): 2:09pm On Sep 11, 2018
Noel1:
So I should fry water?

She go tell you how many cucumbers go don suffer for that title?

Abegiiii
grin grin grin
CrimeRe: Lady Hitting A Man With Shoe For Bashing Her Car In Lagos by openmine(m):
hmmm....if the guy hits her in retaliation,the entire world will hear her "own side of the story" through social media esp twitter!
PoliticsRe: Oshiomhole: Jonathan Started Vote Buying In Nigeria by openmine(m): 11:31am On Sep 11, 2018
People are still talking about GEJ even after he lost since 2015?
RomanceRe: I Like Her So Much But She Is Not Emotionally Ready. Help Me Out Ladies by openmine(m): 8:45pm On Sep 09, 2018
Timekeeper:
Advise me as a guy, shud I just cut
communication with her totally and move on or I shud
still call her and talk Sha...
Seriously to me, I don't Wana be friend zone Cox I
truly wanna court her..... But she on the other side,
is damn too free with guys and I don't think I can
take it...... BEFORE I told her how I feel, I use to call
her to meet outside her hostel and we talk for some
hours.
But now that she is not ready, do u think I shud still
be doing all wat I use to do to her or I shud just cut
her off and move one....?
Bro U have already been friendzoned by her!
The moment she said she wasn't interested should have been the right time to take a walk!
She was even the honest type......
Since she is a carefree person who doesn't want any kind of commitment like a relationship, let her be..!

Yes U can start by cutting of all kinds of communication with her...So that you can focus on better things!

Since you are still studying,I will recommend that U put all ur efforts on making good grades and aiming to be something great in life!

Be successful though legally!

Don't settle for less or for people who can't see your worth!
Just move on with your life!

Trust me,there are better ladies out there!

You will discover later on that the lady you were breaking your head for was not worth the time and was only just a distraction to your main objective in life!
SportsRe: Seychelles Vs Nigeria: AFCON 2019 Qualifier - 0 - 3 (Full Time) by openmine(m): 3:43pm On Sep 08, 2018
oladele00:
Since PMB came onboard, things have been going smoothly for our super eagles...
shocked
RomanceRe: I Like Her So Much But She Is Not Emotionally Ready. Help Me Out Ladies by openmine(m): 4:11pm On Sep 07, 2018
tunjilana:
Bros...Emotionally detach yourself from her and play the game..don't take her too serious so u don't hurt urself or end up marrying somene who doesn't love you with her whole...

It is possible she is eyeing someone or trying to get with someone who isn't giving her attention or she is still holding out for her ex...don't be that guy...move ur heart far away from her...U may still be there physically sha in case u want sex with her but take off your mind...

And if she eventually comes around and says or act ready, be sure of why she is ready, be sure it is not cos she has bn used and dumped by someone else and then suddenly see u as available, be sure it isn't to get back at someone, be sure it isnt in a desperate bid to marry...

Marrying someone who pretend to love u is the biggest headache u can give urself...let her be...
superb

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