₦airaland Forum

onatisi:
you obviously didn't read the article carefully and thoughtfully because if you did you will notice that the points she raised and discussed is what is affecting over 80% of mothers,wives and women in nigeria. more than 70% of those women going to pastors,imams ,shieks and prophets are always molested or should I say slept with by these people and yet they don't say it out. Do u know whether your family member is among them? She has raise very good point and which is the devil targets these women with lies and fake prophecies and once they swallow it they are hooked. Many married women are sleeping and servicing the sexual fantasies of their pastors and imams all in the name of getting a spiritual solution to their problem. If I were u I will take this woman advise and warn any female member of my family or friends about the dangers of listening and believing many prophecies.

ruuudboy:
Even though i hardly discuss my marriage issue with people, i called her dad this afternoon to explain what happened. He was surprised and later talk to her including her mum

I know it could have been worse reporting her to my own parent

ruuudboy:
We have always heard about husband abusing their wives. How is it always like, the other way round? I have never laid my hand on any lady before not to talk of my wife and i don't think i can do such.

As a husband how do you handle it if your wife lay her hand on you either by slapping,punching,biting or rough handling? As a wife, how did your husband handle the situation?

I have been married to my wife going to 4yrs now and yesterday was the second time we had misunderstanding that led to serious confrontation.....Initially when it all started around 9pm, i kept quiet and didnt respond to her ranting. When she realized i wasn't responding, she moved close to me, started punching me, bit me and somehow slapped me in the process with serious ranting "you'll kill me today."

I tried as much as not to retaliate and removed myself from her, ran to the visitors room and locked myself in there....she continued talking and started hitting the door with a stick, after which i realized that with the way things are going, neighbours on the next flat might want to come and asked what was wrong, which i do much detest.

I started begging her from inside after which she calmed down and i opened the door.....we talked it through till late in d night and settled our differences which she later apologised for raising her hand on me and promised never to do that again no matter what happened.

The issue now is, i put myself in another man's shoe that how do people handle things like this in marriage as a husband?

As a wife, how did your husband handle issues of misunderstanding? The first thing that came to my mind yesterday when she hit me was the word of my boss who always say, AT THE HIGHEST POINT OF PROVOCATION, ALWAYS EXERCISE CAUTION.

Married peeps, how do u handle this?

denedene:
wah bou godwin elumelu?

aisha2:
Disclaimer oh, I didn't advice that you should just jump.in and marry one of your suitors oh just because you want to marry. Take your time know what you want and if any of these suitors have those qualities.
Marriage is not tinini tanana

teemanbastos:
Most of these would be actualized by the APC led Government come 2015..

Weah96:
We're here talking, using our mouths and fingers, meanwhile this brilliant little girl was the one facing the abyss, with her very own body on the line. People don't care until sh)it happens, believe me. I'm pretty sure that she made efforts to refuse the advances of the brute before deciding to get rid of him.

Appealing to tradition is like making an appeal to absurdity. If a group of people decided to chop off the heads of their firstborn children, out of tradition, should we allow them?

There are lots of adult women everywhere, including where this man lives. Sick, sick, man. I'm glad he got taken out. The collateral damage is tragic, of course, but most collateral damages are.

Ilamina:
Chibuke Amaechi

sirman:
Hahaha rioting & disorderliness, as is expected of any APC gathering

Balyz:
she should be hung by the next until pronounced dead, anyone who takes another person's life willfully deserves the same treatment. the girl has to die

Weah96:
We don't need those genes in the population. They are deleterious, Nigeria has enough problems as it is.

The girl didn't go out and kill random people. She killed a pedo)phile who had probably already r)aped her and a few appeasers.

Even if it turns out that one of the deceased was another child, it would be tragic, but the parents would still be the ONLY ones to blame. Producing offspring is a completely voluntary process. If you make them, you're responsible until they become old enough to assume that responsibility.

midetinz:
May Allah's wrath be upon you and your household. Amin

Weah96:
Why is she guilty? Is it for insisting that marriage should only occur between two consenting ADULTS?

I happen to share her opinion. The guy was breaking the law and expecting to be rewarded with food. Nature always balances herself out.

The parents of the girl are the ones responsible for those homicides.

If anything, these events show that the girl has a good head on her shoulders. She needs a scholarship.

lekinz:
Who re we to be blame

Her parents ... - For encouraging the early marriage system

Her Late Husband ??... - For marrying a teen

A 14 years old girl ..

What does she knows

A girl that ought to be in school , learning and preparing for her future

She's here marrying a 35 years old man

This can't happen in France where I school

Unibenstudent:
I am in love with two awesome girls ,and they both love me in return!nthe question is,is it realistic or possible to wed them both when the time is right,,and another thing is the both of the ladies do not know each other! Matured advice pls!

soladel:
There is no cassava varieties that are not good for garri, we have a lot of varieties in iita, I have a book on that, close to 59 different improved varieties released for farmers, I can send anybody the book free of charge if you are interested. According to jethro, when you want to cultivate cassava, plant to the specification of the target processor. Regards.

Blaze124:
As for palm oil i can source that but the problem is i dont know how to sell it in north cus havnt being or know anybody there. But where can i source plantain at a very cheaper price here in the east?

donmalcolm21:
That is a real woman not these berem, obiaghelli and Ngene Ukwuenu women wannabe

MizMyColi:
Well, true, that.
If he's the pestering kind who just won't understand no matter how I try to make him see, I employ maximum avoidance, to a fault.
I won't even accept any gifting or make him feel comfortable around me.

There are people too, that we meet, who you bond with and at the same time you just know, this one's filial.
I have one in particular who does exactly what you've described below.
He tries to steer clear because he knows it won't happen, yet He loves me deeply.

Now whether he agrees or not, there are those times when we all need someone to show us that they care.
That's what I try to do despite his feelings for me or not.
I think he understands.
I also know when to cut off, like go radio silent.
It all boils down to wisdom being profitable to direct a person's path.