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mrvitalis:
LMAO be the strongest leader in this system they would frustrate the living hell out of you ...

Africans keep making the mistake of looking for strong Individual instead of strong system

sweetonugbu:
For me strong institution over a strong leader any day. Who strong leader ep, is buhari not a strong leader?.

Exactly. Strong institution/system/laws/citizens/leaders/mentality. The leader is one of the pillars of the institution, the people are another pillar, house of assembly another pillar, law enforcements, health care, education etc are all pillars that keep the institution strong. If just one of pillars holding a building is unsteady, what happens to the building? Now imagine if more than half the pillars are unsteady, the building crumbles. Every "pillar" Is relevant.

Mac12:
Seems like I'm lying right My dear, if one doesn't tell you what they go through, you wouldn't know. Besides, why would I want to lie about the truth? Wake me up in the next 100years, I'd still tell you same thing. We are saving towards getting a washing machine and getting a help

True, hope things get easier for you.

Mac12:
First of all, i stay in Lagos...
I wake up 4:00 am, prepare breakfast and lunch(plus that of my mother in law who stays with me), prepare the children for school, tidy the kitchen and parlour, take the kids to school before heading to work, pick up the children by 4( cause of traffic) sometimes 5. On getting home, i start preparing dinner, tidy the room, wash sometimes(including hubby's wears and mother in laws'; with hand o), bathe the kids, feed them and get ready for the next day before making the kids sleep. All these and more I do without help. Mind You, my first child weighs 20kg( funny but true), he'll cry for me to carry him and sometimes, carryinghim makes him sleep faster. At a young age, I've started experiencing waist and back pain that i can't stand for long. With all these, why won't I be tired No single help. Even down to when I'm busy with chores outside and the children needs something, i must come and attend to them (The dad is there with them o but i will be called to come attend to them).

On cases whereby I fall ill, mos things will be left undone. Let me just stop here for now

Guy forget o, e no easy at all

Wow sounds like you are exaggerating but if it's true you need to find ways to make life easier for you. Get some help, buy a washing machine or just stop doing anything and let every where be untidy. Your reasons are valid IMO.

Klass99:
@ The bolded, seven blessings to you.

Just yesterday I watched my favourite crime documentary channel and it was about swingers/an open marriage gone wrong, horribly wrong.

That's not the first or only documentary I've seen about swinging ending badly for the parties involved. I think couples start out believing they can handle it, it won't affect or ruin their marriage, but down the line they catch feelings for a sexual partner, start plotting how to leave a spouse and if the spouse is wealthy, they know divorce won't favour them as they'll lose lots of money or a luxurious lifestyle. So, what do they do? Murder a spouse.

In some cases a sexual partner becomes possessive, jealous of the married couple, wants to just wreck havoc and ruin them. Forgetting the protocols involved in such a situationship. From what I've seen, it's not worth it, boring is safe and fine.

Agreed and the STDs that come with swinging is not worth it.

Loreettaa:
You're honest here. Most men who complain on NL paints their wives as the devil herself.

Maybe some of their wives are really like the devil.

99thEnemy:
Just don't have appetite to eat her food too and see the drama that will unfold.

simple revenge.

We cook together so it's not just her food and if I no eat, who go suffer? No be me go hungry? Lol

UjuJoan2:
You know it’s not just women that deny their husbands sex, some men also deny their wives as well.

I think people are born with different sex drives, and it varies at different points in their lives. This your wife you think is denying you sex will sometimes always beg you for sex.

Personally I think people should be free to sleep with other people if their partners are not meeting their sexual needs. I believe in open marriages.

That being said, I think men focus too much on sex. And yet they don’t want to make the second exciting and spice things up. Why won’t she get tired of the same old boring sex? For men all you need is the climax, but women need passion and sexual satisfaction too.

Make it interesting and she will beg you for it.

PS: if my husband left me to do all the house chores he will be lucky if I even sleep beside him at all.

Of course, that's another topic on its own. This one is focused on the wives denying their husband's sex.

Yes sometimes she's the one who initiates for sex but seems I got a higher sex drive than her. Open marriages is a no go area for me. I don't like to share my cookie.

The bonded is noted, very noted.

BluntCrazeMan:
And you now do house chores like a house-boy whenever you need the cookie??
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You have been successfully manipulated..
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She gave me an excuse one time, and she got a four-months break.
Within the four months, she herself got tired of starving inside the second month, but I gave her lots of excuses.
She started thinking that I was seeing someone else.
She fall in love with my phone, trying so hard to know what was keeping me cool.
She started getting frustrated, and becoming toxic, yet I no send her.
I had to touch her one night (in the fourth month) and she responded sharperly.
And after we were both down and tired, I told her clearly that she was the reason we got starved, and that if she enjoyed the starving, then she should continue coming up with more excuses.
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That was the end of her excuses.

It might not always work, you know your wife and that's probably why this worked because you know her weak point. I don't mind doing the house chores with her but sometimes I simply forget

fluffybaby:
You never heard of husbands denying wives sex too?

Of course, that's another topic on its own. This one is focused on the wives.

Sorry but oga learn to cook and have fun with the kids. Make it a Christmas they would remember for a long time. They would not be missing their mum much if you give them attention, take them out and if you can cook good food.

Chiquitq:
Back in the day, when I was married...

He used to see his girlfriends every night

He did not like pre-intimacy

He would treat you as if it is a favour

The room had no door and there was another young man in the house and our young children that might come in any time

He did not provide for the family...

Too many reasons to mention

I lost all interest

Sorry it didn't work out with him and you had to go through all that. Sometimes you have to kiss my frogs to find your prince.

But yea I agree with your reasons, he didn't deserve any cookie from his wife(you) with that behavior. You try o, you are a strong woman.

UberEats has a policy, I think it's a 6 minute wait and if the customer fails to show up at the address, the rider has the liberty to dispose the ordered goods any way he chooses to.

Klass99:
The assumption that money is the reason many women lock up, is a sweeping generalisation and erroneous.

You just said money is not the case in your situation, so what is the problem? If you followed the thread I mentioned, you would know money wasn't the issue with most men who shared their stories.

Bad hygiene, an unattractive look and selfishness in bed, may top the list before money. A recurring theme on NL with men is always money, money this, money that. It is NOT ALWAYS about your money or the lack of it.

Are you a neat/clean person, are you good to look at? Will a woman look at you and think damn...... I would like to touch those biceps or run my hands all over his body? Are you well mannered or classless and ill mannered?

There was a front page thread where a guy talked about investing in one's self physically, spiritually, mentally and financially. He emphasised on the physical aspect, mentioning how he looked so much better and attractive to women, since he started working out. Guess what your own gender people did? They bashed him left, right and center, claiming all a man needs to do, is have money to get a woman

In my mind, I was like, when will some of these self proclaimed logical people learn? What that guy said was so on point, but money no dey gree them see road. All the men I see working out in my estate look good, are sexy and appealing to me. I even told one of them (one day) in sincere admiration of his beauty, he seemed glad to hear it, said thank you and we went our separate ways.

You people think we don't like nice things and we are all about the money, abi? What is it sef? Are some women not hustling legitimately to make money too? We are moved by what we see too, we are either moved to;

1. Admiration/interesting private thoughts or....
2. Repulsion and disgust.

Sorry, this was longer than I intended, but consider it an education in female psychology.

I only assumed money was one of the issues because I have read stories. I didn't say most women, I just said many women. This is a valid reason for women because if a man if not helping in the house financially then there's problem.

Now you are saying what I want to hear. Bad hygiene, selfishness in bed, unattractive are some possible reasons too. Some women will probably say "we don't have intelligent conversations any more".

Thanks for the lesson in female psychology, I want lessons please

Funkyswagzz:
Oga the surprising thing is ppl will believe the garbage. Like how did they arrive at such stupid conclusion?

If all the boats are owned by one person or company, I would suspect insurance mago mago.

Klass99:
I am not married but I thought it would be nice to read from married women to know or understand why this occurs. It might help some married men self reflect and self correct where needed, if a particular situation applies to them. For example if it's poor hygiene, selfish or poor performance in bed, not providing, etc............ I am just speculating.

I followed Gaggii's thread on this same issue/topic, it was one of the most educating and entertaining threads I have come across on NL. It was delightful to see grown men being candid and vulnerable about their realities. I laughed hard at some comments, shook my head at comments from oversabi and ITK men, who aren't even married and one comment in particular broke my heart. See comment below;



Even though the user is a complete stranger I felt bad reading this, especially the words in bold. I think as women we underestimate how much men would really like to feel appreciated, complimented and loved (even if it's through sex). There were valuable lessons from Gaggii's thread and I appreciate the education in male psychology it provided me. A similar education (in female psychology) from married women, for men, would be appropriate. Let's learn from each other, but, I understand why some women may be reluctant to participate/share. The trolling, bullying and insults on the forum can be something else, especially towards women.

This one is deep but yea it happens. Some men have it worse than others or some have it easier than others. Me I'm just curious what reasons other wives give, some might be funny even if it's a serious marital issue. I know money is a reason many women lock up, luckily that's not why my locks up.

The irony, fire by the water side

All the above comments are irrelevant. You lot aren't married women, would be nice to hear from married women and what makes them deny their husband's the thing. I'm sure there are lots of reasons and married men here can learn a thing or two.

The question is for married women. What is/are the reasons that you would avoid or refuse sex with your husband?

My wife's own is when I get lazy at home and I don't help in the house chores e.g cleaning, cooking, bathing the kids etc. She won't fight with me or argue but when I touch her like this, she will find a meaningful excuse. She's tired, not in the mood, headache, tomorrow, I need to shower first and I'm too lazy now etc. I found out myself that it was when I helped at home that there were no excuses, it's always a happy ending.

Someone should borrow me eraser, let me use it to erase those marks on his face.

Sentiments aside, this man is right. If Nigerian leaders had this confidence in doing the right thing, the citizens will be encouraged to do/live right or they will be afraid to do wrong and face the consequences.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ULWRPRHpzww


Important quotes from the video:

"This is what our people are expecting from our government, that's number one".

"This is why our Government was elected".

" This is why Poland is so safe"

"Not even one terrorist attack"

You need to stop wearing that mask and let your skin breathe and heal.

According to the findings of the prosecutor's office, Nigerians have been involved in frauds for nearly four years. Officially, Chukwudi I. studied nursing, Idasu A. worked as a nurse in a hospital. After hours, however, they pretended to be American military and engineers. They seduced women they met online, and then extorted money from them, the investigators argue.

It appears from the case file that they operated in a larger group. Their compatriots provided them with false passports. Using these documents, Nigerians opened bank accounts. One of them, in an outpost in Chekhov in Lublin, founded Idadów A., pretending to be Sophia George.


The Nigerian woman and her companion were looking for victims not only in Poland, but also in Germany, Scandinavia, Great Britain and Belarus. They mostly used Facebook. They promised the women they met there to live together. Then they asked for money.

One of the victims - Krystyna B. - was convinced that she was talking to an American officer who was on a mission in Syria. The man was to send a package with $ 3 million to Lublin. To collect it, it was enough to pay the shipping costs. Krystyna B. thus lost over 90 thousand. zloty.

Two Nigerians from Lublin ended up on the dock. They were to deceive dozens of women, claiming to be, for example, American military. Their loot was nearly PLN 2 million, the prosecutor's office determined.

The investigation into this case lasted for over two years. The investigators had to reach dozens of victims from various countries. The trial in the District Court in Lublin will not be short either. On Monday, the indictment could not even be read. Pursuant to the recently amended regulations, the court must notify all aggrieved persons from the European Union about the trial. It should be done by February 9, 2022, because then the first hearing was scheduled.

The main defendants - Chukwudi I. and his friend Idasu A. - have been arrested from the beginning of the case. On Monday, their defense lawyers demanded that their clients be released on bail. The prosecutor objected, noting that the accused could flee the country. The decision to extend the detention will be made by the Court of Appeal in Lublin.

So I decided to buy some crypto coins about two weeks ago. I spent $109 on the 12th of November and today the same coins are worth $206. I'm definitely investing a lot more in crypto, this test I did just proved me to that money can be made fast. There's no bank or finance house that will give such profits in a short period.

I don't know why the federal government banned it's citizens from investing in it. I think it could be because they have to way to impose taxes on the money/profits made from crypto.

PS
I don't know a lot about crypto, so don't ask me questions on how I did it, go online and study it and take the step that suits you.

Try this with my son and get arrested. Pedophile pretending to be playing

Your friend will probably be denied a spouse visa.

They got married in 2019 and haven't seen each other since then. This is a red flag because in Australia, if a couple have been seperated for two years or money, it can be used as a ground for divorce. No genuine couple will get married and live seperately for two years immediately after the marriage.

madjune:
Who else do you think?

It must be his show off daughter-Cuppy.

Then that's not flying solo isn't it? Bros was with a shorty joor. Cuppy won't do tour on a private jet like a kid in a candy store. No be today she dey enter jet.

taylor89:
Are you this stupid and daft? Like they can’t remove my sim and put on another phone? You’re really an empty garden please stop derailing my topic till brainy ones bring up an idea

Requiring my transaction password? Did you not read the part I told you they could reset my transaction pin via sms according to what the banker told me

Easy bro. Go to EFCC and they will take it up. It's easy work for them

Who recorded if he flew solo. Something is fishy