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Phones / Re: Samsung Unveils Galaxy S8 and S8+ by Orimili(m): 11:09pm On Mar 30, 2017
martineverest:
did u even read my comment before commenting?...pls,read with comprehension

Please write about things you actually know. MKBHD is NOT a trusted software or hardware reviewer. He's mostly flash and little substance, and he is very Biased.
Phones / Re: Samsung Unveils Galaxy S8 and S8+ by Orimili(m): 9:08pm On Mar 30, 2017
martineverest:
MKBHD is one of the most trusted and followed software/hardware reviewer....anandtech is the most trusted hardware only reviewer,tho...they are more technical than MKBHD

This is the most ridiculous statement I've ever heard. MKBHD is nowhere near the level of Anandtech as far as depth and details, and will probably never be. His videos are 90% production quality, and the rest is basically him reading spec sheets out loud. Also, he's not a software reviewer. The few bits of videos he's done in that regard were terrible.

I'd trust the word of Anandtech infinitely more than I'd trust Brownlee.
Politics / Re: December Deadline Missed: Where Is The Lagos Light Rail? by Orimili(m): 5:53am On Jan 03, 2017
Four missed deadlines? That's horrible, and there should be some sort of investigation as to why the project is continuously held back. At this rate. I don't think we'll ever see actual service. There is no reason for anyone to be content with such lack of progress.

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Politics / Re: December Deadline Missed: Where Is The Lagos Light Rail? by Orimili(m): 2:18am On Jan 03, 2017
Disappointing... and I'm just coming out of NYC's newly opened subway extension on Second Avenue.

Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 2:56pm On Dec 10, 2015
baby124:
Do you have good hygiene and eating habits? Do you act desperate or childish? Ask for a fair analysis from one of your female friends. You are doing something that is turning them off. Most likely strong mouth odour

If you read the previous posts, my hygiene is impeccable, and has been completed a lot. No female friend wants to provide an analysis


I honestly feel that marriage probably isn't for me. I need to focus and put my effort into something more useful, because this only looks to be a dead end. No matter what I try to do or change, there is something so ugly about me that it drives everyone away.
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 2:06am On Dec 10, 2015
Rukemi291:
Let colleagues, friends assess u.

I've done that with no valuable results
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 7:21pm On Nov 18, 2015
winar:


That could be the problem.

Perhaps they stopped talking to u when they realized u are a nigerian.

They could think u are just another scammer or u only want them 4 green card.

Next time don't say u are frm Nigeria, and lets see hw it goes.

And if dat is not d problem, den it could be spiritual. Av u hurt a lady deeply in d past?

Most of these girls are Nigerian (or Nigerian-American) as well
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 11:06pm On Nov 17, 2015
winar:
Do u live outside Nigeria?

I live in the US
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 4:55pm On Nov 17, 2015
ogawisdom:


Go out and make more female friends at least 7 female frnds n talk to each once a week. After sometime like 3months down d line u can consider dating one of them.

Act like u have a girlfriend arnd them and only need them for casual friendship.

U give them too much attention and care n dts a turn off for ladies, a consequence of focusing on only one at a time.
If u ve 7 or more u wont notice even if three walks away jst make more female frnds n stop being a looser.
Am sure even bill gate will get turned down by some ladies so b a man n stop crying over nothing, u can't have every girl u want nobody does but u should at least have three out of ten, anything more than three in ten u r a ladies magnet lol. Again sharpen ur yarns if u kw wat I mean, learn scoping skills tongue

Try 7 or more at a time n thank me later.

By d way I hope u ve put ur life together b4 looking for ladies and not some broke ass n never do well kinda dude.

If this fails then those old men in ur village are at work with their African magic, go n see TB Joshua ASAP

It is definitely failing. I've already lost contact with another.
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 2:48pm On Nov 17, 2015
Update:

I've just lost contact with yet another girl, even as I've tried to take others' advice on this thread. I'm starting to believe there's also a spiritual element to this.
Romance / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 10:24pm On Nov 11, 2015
ultraviolet27:
Okay are you Edo? name implies an Edo Guy

I'm Igbo, from Anambra State.
Romance / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 7:30pm On Nov 11, 2015
ultraviolet27:
Orimilli Where do you live please??
I mean where you reside can you please add me on watsap 08160378405

I'm in the US, in NYC.
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 7:29pm On Nov 11, 2015
iebanehita:


@OP, I believe by now you know humans don't reason alike. What your family and friends didn't see in the conversation that transpired between you and your dates can be pinpointed by someone else, of which Pidggin offered to help but you turned it down. You are guilty of hasty generalisation.
From some of your reply, they are actually borne out of frustration.

At this point, you have to unlearn all what you know about dating /relationship and relearn. I suggest you try out some advices given here, but this time, be creative about it.

Yes it is frustrating, and I suppose I can do what you are suggesting, but where do I begin?
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 9:25pm On Nov 02, 2015
lastchild:
do you believe in anything like a spiritual problem?

Yes, but I have absolutely no idea why it would be...
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 12:01am On Nov 02, 2015
petiteee:
Bad breath? Body odour? Is it like dat with female frinds? Do u ve any How do u laugh? grin

Absolutely not. I get a lot of complements about my physical appearance and hygiene.
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 11:58pm On Nov 01, 2015
Pidggin:


My apologies, did you notice I stopped responding after a while? You whine a lot dearie, I got bored, I guess this is the problem. You need to make yourself interesting. Hope I was able to help, take care.

But you still replied, and your actions prove nothing but to antagonize even further. Sadly, I've been busy and didn't notice your futile stunts. Unfortunately, it doesn't help at all to throw blanket statements like "make yourself more interesting." Thanks anyway.

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Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 11:53pm On Nov 01, 2015
ogawisdom:


Ur problem is simple u act desperate n dt scares them away

I don't act desperate at all
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 11:14pm On Oct 31, 2015
Pidggin:


Study people, find out the thing that interest them, talk about those things, tell them about your interests too, ladies like guys with good sense of humor so loosen up.


These are all things I do on a regular basis. She will stop responding eventually, no matter how much she appears to like me. Honestly, I'm not all that interested in dating anymore.
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 6:06pm On Oct 30, 2015
Pidggin:


Doesn't sound interesting

I don't know what would make me interesting
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 11:02pm On Oct 29, 2015
Pidggin:


I tried to help you, but if I don't have an idea of what you say during your dates there's not much I can do.

I mean, its not as if I voice record my dates and phone conversations.

My text messages are all "good morning, how are you, I hope you're doing well." And she would reply likewise, of course, until she stops responding.
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 10:39pm On Oct 29, 2015
Pidggin:


Okay

Am I really that much of a loser that I don't deserve to know how and where to improve myself? It's like marginally failing every course you take, and the instructor tells you only that you're not smart enough to pass.
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 10:05pm On Oct 29, 2015
Pidggin:


Okay, maybe you might want to send me a transcription of your dialogue with at least one of these ladies, I may be able to point out any flaws I see, between, it seems you are not even reading my responses.

I am, and it is not the first time someone has suggested this. I have sent transcripts to family and friends. The only rresponse I get is "I guess she's not interested."
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 9:15pm On Oct 29, 2015
Pidggin:


I have noticed you are the one assessing yourself, not them. They may not think so. Easy, being upset won't solve this problem.

Then why can't one woman tell me what is wrong? Is this a trait of all women, to just run rather than stand and tell the truth? If this is so, then I'm no longer interested in dating or relationships. I find it uncanny that every single girl I've met has done this exact thing.
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 8:54pm On Oct 29, 2015
Pidggin:


Sorry dearie, unfortunately it is their impression of you that makes them act this way. Do your dates know themselves? I don't think so, they may not react this way with another guy. Check yourself, what do you tell them during your date, what do you guys talk about, do you know how to read people's body language?

That's what makes this so frustrating. I don't say anything to make anyone feel uncomfortable. I'm always a gentleman, and very sincere. If I knew what was wrong, I wouldn't be so upset. It upsets me to even talk about this.
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 8:24pm On Oct 29, 2015
Pidggin:


My apologies if I hurt your feelings, I didn't mean to. Why do you think they don't want to remain friends? They feel there's nothing to discuss with you, also they don't let you know because they do not think it is worth their effort to bother. But, don't be dismayed, you seem like a nice person, you will surely meet someone nice and caring soon.

But why bother, then, with the entire dating process? If you are thinking about being involved with someone, shouldn't everything be worth the effort to discuss? If not, then how can you seriously consider that person as a potential spouse? Imagine if you get married, and your husband disappears and ends all communication. Do you think it would be worth his effort to explain why?
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 7:59pm On Oct 29, 2015
Pidggin:


It seems you are going for girls that are more mature than you. When they sense your level of maturity is too low for them, they will end all forms of communication with you.

If they are more mature, they should know how to let the guy know that things will not work, or that the couple should remain friends. Ending all forms of communication suddenly is one of the most childish things to do in any situation or setting.

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Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 7:56pm On Oct 29, 2015
MoltenMagma:

Don't tell me you have NEVER had a girlfriend?

How could I have had one if I can never get past the first of second date?
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 6:43pm On Oct 29, 2015
seXytOhbAd:
@OP, I think I'll have a better understanding of your problem if you could kindly explain :
1. How the initial phase of the relationship feels like. Do you go out of your way to please them
2. How constantly you keep in touch with your gf's in terms of face to face meetings or how many phone calls in a day you have.
Note that many women nowadays have sex...regularly. You being a virgin might be a problem though.

1. It seems as things are going well. Conversation is interesting, and there is a lot of getting to know each other. I try my best to please. My most recent attempt was going to visit her at school, knowing it was a two hour drive out of my way for work.

2. I try to keep contact at least once or twice a day, and give her a chance to contact me. I'm told that it is normal for guys to always have to initiate conversation, but when there is no answer, it is frustrating.

We both have very busy schedules, but if I can fpro the few seconds to send a text message, then I don't see why a more socially mature person cannot do the same.

3. If that is a problem, then I guess she wasn't serious about a relationship in the first place.
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 6:02pm On Oct 29, 2015
5minsmadness:

At what point will 'I am a virgin' come up in a conversation if not when things are getting hot and heavy

From the conversation you've been having here u sound kind d of like a depressed apologist or something. Sorry if that sounds harsh but I kind of know the feeling. Who cares about the current trend of taking someone out? Do your own thing! All these girls not picking your calls don't you have thier house address? Why not pay them a visit?

Personally I think you haven't found the girl that tickles your fancy that's why you are letting these girls go. If you see a girl u like and she stops picking your calls you don't give up like that. You go after her. You visit. You bring a movie or lunch with you. Or better yet invite her over for lunch. You send messages and emoticons once in a while. You do SOMETHING.


You sound like you are defeated even before you start. Don't. Even the polio guy that lives down my street has two girlfriends.




Because doing my own thing has led to my current state of loneliness. Especially, In the US, there is extreme pressure to conform to certain social standards, most of which is defined by popular media, which doesnt align to how I was raised.

At this point, "going after her," is a futile exercise. If she can't take the few seconds to even acknowledge a call/text/etc, its clear that she is uninterested. Going to pay her a visit can be a disastrous move, with her possibly labelling me as a stalker or accusing me of harassment.

I don't want to sound defeated, but these are the cards I am dealt every single time.
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 12:41am On Oct 29, 2015
sisisioge:


Wowzer, you are going to have to take mindfulness 's advice again. Maybe you should send a message to all of them and hope at least one respond. Meanwhile, invest a little in the service of a finishing school. Talk to a groomer. You sound alright, maybe you have a bad habit you don't know of. You will be fine.

Maybe there are a lot of things wrong with me that I can't see. I'm just not good at this at all. Ive heard of these etiquette schools, and they've led a lot of men to be labeled "soft," which is an additional burden I don't wish to put on myself. I don't see the point of reopening wounds, because if those girls didn't answer before, they won't answer now. They probably scoff at or outright block me.
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 12:19am On Oct 29, 2015
sisisioge:


OK...


Have you been seeking girls looking to be hitched too? If you two started out on the same page , chances are that you would over look imperfections. I think you should look for girls looking for guys .

The thing is, it seems like we start on the same page, and everything looks great until one day, I say hello and constantly look at my phone for a reply or call that will never come.
Family / Re: What Could Be Wrong With Me? by Orimili(m): 12:07am On Oct 29, 2015
sisisioge:


OK. We are getting close...

...but you mentioned you were a virgin. Truth is girls don't like virgins. You probably should keep that bit of info to yourself until the girl has grown really fond of you. I personally can't imagine dating a virgin, that's taking me back a decade!

I haven't mentioned that since years ago. Unfortunately, that will come up in conversation at some point, and I'm not going to lie about it.

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