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I kind of agree. . . There could be holes in this story. As well written as it is (for a nairaland post), there is something the author might be leaving out. No one changes like that without reason.

@OP

Do you remember doing anything, or was there some kind of change that occurred in you or your wife's life that may have started this change of behavior?

onyinye2:
You can take back your apology. Because it has the same meaning as when Cayon uses "Peace" to end every statement.

Back to more important things. . . . . David. David. David. I just love how you know all the happenings that occured in my life. Especially coming from a guy who has never met me. Knows not a damn thing about me. But still feels he knows what goes on in my life. That is so cute. Everybody let's join in and give a standing ovation for David's mystical powers as an online psychic.

For the sake of your intelligence, don't assume anything about my life. It is just tacky and meaningless because it is never true. And it just brings down your value.

Anyways back to the Poster's faulty story, yeah your advice is worth 5 Stars. Especially coming from a man who gets his daily adrenaline rush from pissing off Muslims. But will go around and tell others as a Christian they should leave their spouse. Oh yeah David you are really mature.

I shall bow down to Master David. For he is truly the Enlightened One.

I don't know what I missed, but this has just gotten interesting.

@poster

If you really mean it, it wouldn't have to be said at all. Those words have been so overused that it has no meaning. From what I have seen, it is also a very good way to ruin a relationship.

The definition of "love" has definitely been screwed around with over the years. OP has no real feelings for this man, and should abandon the the thought of a wedding with him.

Poster:

Obviously, there are things you don't like about him, such as his height (and age, since you brought that up). The man probably has money, and you are probably only attracted to him for that reason. It seems that in this forum, feelings of "love" in a relationship is directly proportional to the amount of money that the spouse has. There are already multiple things you don't like about him, and If you marry him, things are not going to magically get better. If I were you, I would not accept this man's hand in marriage, but it's your choice and not mine.

Solution:

1. Leave the guy alone. It's obvious that he has nothing good going for him. Why are you still around him? If you're waiting for him to magically change, you have been watching too many movies. Welcome to real life, it's a bitch. Move on.

2. Don't give your heart to any man, especially one that you are not married to. Same goes for the guys vice versa. That's the quickest way to emotional distress when something goes wrong in a relationship. I'm not saying to not ever have feelings, but there is also a logical component to relationships. If you throw that out the window in favor of full emotional investment, it's only going to cause problems, as you may not see the signs that may lead you to heartache.

It is actually easier than you think to get over someone. You have to just preoccupy your mind with other things, and you will never have the time to feel sadness over someone who doesn't care for you.

henchmark:
@ topic,
do guys still suffer from heartbreak? well i cant remember when. seems u send too much text messages? your abbreviation of words where becoming irritating, you aint paying for bandwidth, are you?

Oh thank God, I was going to start calling people out on it. This has become a trend lately, and it only makes topics here much more difficult to read, while at the same time making the poster seem uneducated. Seriously, people, you have full keyboards and the English language. It actually takes less energy to type out a coherent statement.

I'm sure there are hundreds of threads on this forum on the same topic. Search is your friend. There is no need to bring this up yet again.

Lovelace:
Sorry but you got played. Pathetic but there's nothing new under the sun really.
Lets look at the facts.
1. From your story,looks like you didn't take charge of the relationship from the start.
2. In fact, you should have seen it coming but guess you were too blinded by it all. Now interest level on her part for you is zero.

This only means two things.
1. She never really liked you,except for when you provide for her needs at every beck and call.
2. She's got someone with deeper pockets than you now. Money,power,respect. The last of which she obviously has no regard for you.

7years of your life gone? Nah, only if you see it that way. At least now you know the kind of slime she is,so why not move on and work on you career. It was never meant to be. Period.
The signs must have been there for you to see, but like i said earlier-blinded by feeble love. Until she called to say she needed space,and thats when you cried,begged or whatever it is you did. Pathetic.

What sort of weak men are we breeding these days ? Because this forum is full of such topics. 7 years of your life gone indeed -so what?

Truth. There's nothing but crying and begging on this forum as of late. Just man up and keep it moving.

werlay:
@chrishenzo thanks very much i realy appreciate d advice. But man 2 b honest its not eazy 2 let 7yrs just go by. But tanxs guys al d same. Just preparing 4 office its a long way from slere 2 V.I

Yes it is, just stop paying so much attention to it, and you will get over it.

werlay:
Am a fon sec guy. But am here 2 seek u guys advice. I startd datin dis gal since feb 2002. Then she was stil in sec sch and i was in my 2nd yr in unilag. It startd so sweet, she was a virgin and i respctd are views abt avin sex til she was 21. Just a yr ago she got admisn 2 a sch in ogun stat. I advicd her abt goin dere.  I told her i wuld pay 4 her diploma fees if she wuld take unilag diploma. Ma parents were willn 2 help wit conectns 2.but she insisted on going 2 ogun state. Recently i startd noticing som changs in er atitud wen i cald her she either not pick or tel me she was busy. But wen she needs money she cals and i immediatly send it 2 her frm office cos i now work in a bank. Just last week i cald er and she told me point  blank she needed space cos she wasnt feeln any spark in d relatnship again. She said we rarely c ourselvs and der is littl or no romance in d relatinship. Dere was noting i dint do 2 mak her chang her mind.

The truth is she's not into you anymore, unless she is in need of financial support, in which you fold to each and every time she calls you for it. Such is life. Just like she shut down on you, you must close the doors on her. There's no point in agonizing over the bitch, really. Take the loss and move on, I'm sure you will find someone else.

I have reviewed the LAMATA site, and the initial idea of building two lines is a good step forward, but as someone that grew up in New York City, I think that if they plan on moving an excess of 3 million passengers per day, light rail would be a very inadequate solution, especially with diesel-powered rolling stock.

I have seen light rail systems in northern New Jersey, and they can barely efficiently hold more passengers than buses, so imagine an overcrowded bus-like vehicle on an at-grade right-of-way, struggling to move people to where they want on time. I have experienced that here, and I imagine it could be a bit worse in Lagos. I think that an electrified heavy metro rail system would be a much more efficient solution to handle that number of passengers.

How much of a cost difference is there between light and heavy rail systems? I can't imagine it will be that much different.

Successful troll is successful.

It's been months and there are still virgin threads? (And in the wrong forum, no less.)

Honestly, as some have put it, virginity is way beyond the physical. It is a state of mind. At the same time, however, when making the connection between virginity and spirituality, and what constitutes as the loss of virginity, take the scripture for example: "All has fallen short of the glory of God." This passage means that EVERYONE has fallen or sinned somehow, and it is up to what you are doing about it now that you realize it. When talking of virginity, this expands to beyond the physical state of "virginity." Virginity can mean absolute purity, which I am quite positive that nobody in this board has attained, unless they were born again.

Getting back to the topic, sex can be defined as any activity that involves the exchange of intimate behavior between a couple, usually in a stimulating manner. It is also usually described as physical intimacy. Such activities can include any activity that is sexually stimulating, such as sexual intercourse, MouthAction, and even kissing. I guess the problem here is that people are trying to draw their own lines as to what is sex, assuming that simply no physical sex == virgin.

The term virgin is usually associated with purity, which includes physical, mental, and other states. When one part of the system is not pure, the entire system is impure = non virgin. For example, you may have never had sexual intercourse, but you have thought of what a girl looks like naked, or had a wet dream, or engaged in sexually stimulating activity (which includes such activities as heavy petting or tongue kissing). How can you consider yourself pure if you engage in activities that are impure, or considered impure outside of marriage? One surely isn't thinking about God while their tongue is down someone else's throat, or when staring at a woman's breasts.

When you look at this whole virgin thing from that perspective, the word is truly meaningless, because, as virginity is an absolute term, nobody can achieve it. It is especially meaningless if the definition changes so rapidly that nobody can keep up, so why bring up a virginity thread every 40 seconds?

I've put some serious thought into this issue, and I have come to the conclusion that the term virgin is thrown around as a sort of social status, to show other people that you are somehow too good, or holier than them, which is basically a sin in itself and defeats the purpose of describing ones self as pure.

If you are are or choose to be celibate, do it! If someone has a problem with it, move on, it's that easy, but these threads need to stop it, because it's getting extremely played out.

I'm sorry if my argument seems all over the place. I'm sick and half-asleep.

Oh hey guys,  what's going on?

Well, you keep telling yourself that, and one day even you will believe it. You have no idea what my level of education is. Where are your credentials? You copy and paste information that I've seen before, and trust me, it doesn't help your argument at all. It's also fundamental for businesses to to fail when leaders make irresponsible decisions, and bankers are not exempt. When you ignore a problem of such magnitude and keep feeding to it, especially with bailouts and such, it only gets bigger. To have the government jump in every time you have a problem, defeats the very purpose of capitalism. If the public has to foot the bill every time a banker is in trouble, they have every right to have an opinion, even if they do not know much about economics. If anything, they, like myself, take the little time that I have outside of classes, to better understand how bad the credit situation is.

True, a single $700 Billion payout is not going to screw the economy, but that money is the maximum that can be taken out at a single time. If AIG could burn through $61 billion in less than a couple weeks, I'm sure that in a few months, the US will want another $700 billion, and in a few months another, and another, ad infinitum. You are an 'expert' at this, so you know where this is going. This money isn't growing the economy at all, and you know that, so let's not continue to play ourselves.

The bill is vital. . . in destroying the value of the US dollar. Bailouts don't work. By passing this bill, we added tons of dept, adding to the already bad inflation we're experiencing. The additions essentially transformed the bill from bad to worse, meaning for more money coming out of nowhere. Do people not see that solving a credit crisis with more credit is a horrible idea, no matter who it's backed by? A recession is unavoidable, and by simply papering over it over the past decade made the bubble worse. Let the recession happen, but no, we must keep up with our bad spending and escape any consequences. If AIG couldn't handle $85 billion without getting in a worse state, how what is going to happen with this $800 billion? By passing "No Banker Left behind", a depression is all but guaranteed.

Ibime:
What does Obama have to do with the bill? Did he sponsor it? Did McCain not vote for it?

Yes.

Get the phock out of here!

Most of those pork barrels were even added to entice Republican senators. We know they all love pork scratchings. 

. . .Yet still more democrats voted for it than republicans (even Obama, when the bill went through the senate). According to the breakdown of who voted, more democrats switched positions from nay to yay on the bill, so I guess the democrats were more attracted to whatever that was in those 400+ pages. McCain voted for it too, and since you brought up Obama, they have recently shown to have the same position on different issues, such as FISA immunity. Besides, no one directly mentioned Obama. I just said a common phrase that people like to throw around this year, ignoring that these jokers in Washington represent more of the same crap, so chill out.

Wow, this gets better and better. . .

Change we can believe in, right?

Even with Bernanke behind it, I still have no confidence that the bill will do much to sustain the economy at a recession. The truth is that no economist, especially ones appointed by Bush, truly knows what is going to happen. So why rush $810 billion, which will burden taxpayers further? The best course of action would have been to let the damage happen. At this stage, we know where we stand, and we can pick up the pieces, rebuilding the economy to one day be stronger, as bankers now know that when they intentionally make bad business decisions, nobody will be there to save them. There are other economists (who are not affiliated with politicians) who see this, but are effectively muted by Bush's fear mongering, and pressure from the senate and house. I may still be learning on my free time about economics, but it looks as if we're simply trying to solve a credit problem with more credit. Does that make sense?

"No Banker Left Behind" is going to crash and burn in our faces. It may not happen for a little while, but it will happen. The US Dollar is about to be taken for a wild ride.

The bailout isn't going to bear fruit at all. The only people benefiting from this is the large businesses and politicians, who are getting paid and escaping personal responsibility yet again for making bad decisions. I can only see the economy getting worse from this point, and anyone with a solid background in economics can see it. Ron Paul predicted this mess was going to happen now, and if he and other economists are accurate about other things he has written in the past, we should expect something comparable to a depression in the future. It's too late to remove Obama and McCain's names from association with the bailout, as many news outlets already made it clear that they both voted for it in the senate.

RichyBlacK:
Palin's vice-presidency will usher in the era of Dumbocracy in America.

Because this is the first time we've ever had a vice-president in office with minimal leadership skills.
</sarcasm>

Ibime:
Where do you guys get this nonsense from? If we are going to talk about elitists, there is only one party that applies to. The party of the rich. So please stop all this buffoonery. Just because a party embraces intellectuals doesn't make them elite.

I guess my sarcasm tags are nonfunctional today. I didn't claim that anyone was an elitist. As for the democratic party embracing intellectuals, you must be joking, I've seen just as many illiterates  as 'intellectuals' riding the liberal train, as it is today's popular, today's in party. Real intellectuals shouldn't pledge allegiance to any particular group, but rather think for themselves.

On to further nit-picking. . .

LadyT:
Oh please stupid has no other word. Stop making pretensions to superior importance because everyone is being lighthearted about her awful interview. From her answers she clearly knows nothing about politics and shes in politics. She couldnt discuss Hamas nor the Gaza strip she jumped into Iran and didnt even answer the question? Thats just one example of her foolishness.
I'm sure after that debacle she will be forever trained on answers she has to give so she no longer disgraces herself

I quite agree more than likely she will be the Next VP no way will americans vote in a Half breed Negro. They would rather have a pitbull in lipstick.

The problem is, everyone makes "lighthearted" comments so much that it's hard to tell if someone is being serious or not. This thread may have started as such, but I am sure that some people on Nairaland will take it further than that, and it already shows.

She wouldn't be the governor of Alaska (as small as the state is) if she knew absolutely nothing about politics. Not many governors of small states are thrown in front of a camera and given interviews for the entire nation to hear, so there could be an explanation why she did so badly, compared to career politicians who could have been trained rigorously on interviewing. I'm sure she will be train on how to answer questions afterwards.

As for the debate, just as Palin could not answer some questions directly, there were times when Biden was reduced to rambling too (but I guess it's cool to ignore that, because we're such elite democratic supporters, right?)

But yeah, the question was still not answered.

omoge:
and nig without debate see where they are.
am in shock there isn't debate during nig election ?

i think it is a nice thing to debate no matter the outcome. this election is an eye opener. let us see how nig next election will look like.

Probably the same thing.

Oddly enough, on the floor. I've always been more comfortable lying on my side on a hard surface.

I would subscribe to satellite to watch for the physical altercations alone.

not when many are one paycheck away from moving into the New York subway station as a permanent home.
Things are very different.
If Obama had been a white man ,this whole thing would have been over.

That may be, but we are at fault for this mess too, by depending too much on credit and living outside our means. The economy is going to tank regardless of who is in office. That bailout bill (the one that both candidates support) is just going to accelerate the process.

Also, have you tried sleeping on the benches in a standard NYCTA station? That, cops, and bad ventilation would make it impossible to make any NY subway station a permanent home. (except for 59th Street on IND Central Park West, that station is pretty nice)

Uche2nna:
Those were her main targets and I assure U she quite made an impression with them 2nite. As long as she did not say some outrightly stupid or dumb, then she is good . Those guys in bold letters wont even know when one is answering the right questions or even giving the right answers. As long as she comes off as regular people, then all is cool.

Its no coincidence that she keeps on stressing the point that she does not rotate in Washington circles and was always quick to point out that Biden was first and foremost a politician. Remenber this " I was for it before I was against it". She knew what she was doing.

And it was no coincidence too that Biden kept bringing in his everyday life into the debate (The story about the guy filling his tank, his frequent trips to the home depot   and then the coupe de grace was when he showed that face filled with sadness). He knew the game the woman was trying to play. She was not there to answer ur questions the way U want it (She said it herself). She was trying to get at a particular audience.

I can agree with that. Both of them were not really answering the questions in their response, but were selling themselves to a particular crowd. They both actually did well in doing so, and surely people on both sides of the fence will show their impressions in class tomorrow morning.

[quote author=davidylan* link=topic=178478.msg2886766#msg2886766 date=1223004161]Ask Orimili, i think he heard it. Or ask Joe six-pack.[/quote]. . .And I have yet to see how Obama's administration will differ either, as his voting record as of late has been pretty much inline with Bush's (and McCain's) (see FISA, revised bailout, etc. . .)

I'm not a McCain supporter by any means, but people seem to fail to realize that there are leagues of people out there that will vote McCain regardless. All this hype without looking at the reality of the election process is actually hurting any real progress.

We'll see. I remember a similar "defeat" of Bush/Cheyney by Kerry/Edwards four years ago. Never underestimate the voting behavior of the American people.

KarmaMod:
Hiliary would have chewed that woman and spat her out like spoilt moinmoin.

The frustration on Biden's face was beyond amusing. He had to keep converting it into a grin.

. . .or cried and played the "I'm a woman" card. . .