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CiciReally:
Hello every one, am new here, I hope I can get advice and answer to my confusion and challenge

I been dating my man for almost 2 years, Am Nigerian he’s german, he was open to me from beginning about having some infertility issue, he opened up after we had sex unprotected one day and i was worried about him getting a pill because it happened in his country.

He told me not to worry that he can’t father a child 90% so since then we been doing it unprotected and I never missed my period for a day, fast forward to after a year plus I missed my period after we spend my birthday together, being that i never cheated, I msg him asking him on scale of 1 to 100 how sure he is that he can’t father a child, he said 90%, I waited for another week still nothing so i did test and behold am pregnant, he was excited and insisted I must keep it as he never got any woman pregnant and it might be his only chance, I was troubled, always scared of 9 months, I hate hospital and all that challenges that come with pregnant.

I tried to convince him so we get rid of it but he refused and promised to be there for me.

Now 7 months into the pregnancy his behavior changed, from beginning he doesn’t pay for everything i need, hospital bills etc, I do most things on my own cos i felt he’s holding back cos he’s in doubt the baby is his, now flashback to wen i took in he confessed to me how he been going to sm special church in mountain that’s known for helping pple with his issue, prolly God heard his prayer, suddenly he changed, we agreed to get married so my family will get off my neck etc but now he’s giving me conditions, prenup and DNA after baby is born.

I have no issue with any of that but how he always bring it up, I am so hurt, I cry daily cos am � sure baby is his, only asked him to support fully as he promised till baby is born but his family and friends discouraging him, now will it be wicked of me to cut him off have my baby send him a pic, have him do DNA then deny him right to own him?? Cos i don’t think i all ever forget how he treated me the time i needed him most.

U MUST KNOW THAT GOD HAS USED YOU TO CHANGE ONE LIFE AND HISTORY. JUST IMAGE IF YOU WERE IN THE MAN SHOES? PLS KEEP THE BABY STRONG, DON'T ALLOW YOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL EMOTION TO AFFECT THE PREGNANCY, AS LONG AS YOU CAN AFFORD THE HOSPITAL BILLS NO PROBLEM. MOSTLY THIS KIND OF BABY END UP AS A BOY?

Nonesense is he the man at the top?

LAST WEEK ON MY WAY HOME I ACCIDENTLY RUN INTO A LADY, SHE STROKE A COVERSATION WITH ME, AS IF SHE HAD KNEW ME BEFORE, IN A TWINKLE OF AN EYE, SHE DEMADED FOR MY PHONE NUMBER MY, I OBLIGED,
I FELT SHE KNEW WHAT SHE WANT.

Mr thomas they vex

Odabo123:
I guess my point is I feel like it’s just an excuse because chances are I CAN have children

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BUT YOU ARE NOT TOO SURE ON THE LATER DATE, I KNOW YOUR FEELINGS MOSTLY AT THAT AGE AS A WOMAN, BUT MY ADVISE TO YOU IS THAT AS A HUMAN ALWAYS HAVE AN OPTION IN WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING, AND BE BRAVE ENOUGH TO CONFRONT YOUR FEAR, I KNOW IN THE PROCESS OF CONFRONTING FEAR YOU LOOSE OR WIN, THAT IS LIFE, BE BRAVE IN YOUR DECISION'S, GOODLUCK.

Odabo123:
Shouldn’t love be enough to take the risk

YES, LOVE COULD COVER IT, BUT ALLOW ME TO HIT THE NAIL ON IT HEAD, NOW YOU ALREADY KNOW WHAT THE FUTURE HOLD FOR YOU, IN TERMS OF FERTILITY? THE CHANCES YOU ARE HAVING NOW ARE MUCH BRIGHTER THAN LATER, WELL, I DON'T WANT TO GO MUCH INTO THAT, IT IS YOUR PRIVACY.

Odabo123:
He made the decision. I just don’t agree

MEANING YOU ALREADY KNOW THE PROBLEM?

Odabo123:
I am posting this for advice. I met the man of my dreams in Aug 2018. He is from Nigeria, he had only lived in America for 5 months when I met him. I am an American citizen but not by birth I am originally from the Caribbean. I don’t know Nigerian customs other than what he has taught me. We are both currently enrolled in university obtaining our professional degrees he is in finance sector I am in medical field. He is 34 and I am 32 neither of us are previously married or have children. It has been a wonderful romance but we have had our hiccups along the way as most couples do. My family fear he is not genuine but I do not feel this way. He has had some women as friends that I did not approve of. Nonetheless we are working through that. I have met his brother and spoken to his sisters and nieces. I love his family. They remind me of my own very solid and loving. He has only met my sister but agrees that my family seems like his. Both of our parents have been married over 50 years. The have no outside children neither of us were raised that way. We both come from Christian households and attend church together when we are not working. A month ago after we had been dating 7 months I asked him a hypothetical question. “if I could not get pregnant would this be a deal breaker?” His answer was yes it would be and further to this he informed that he would either file for divorce or get a woman outside of our marriage pregnant because kids are mandatory for him. This surprised me, I am high risk for pregnancy (he was told from the start) the plan was I would plan with my doctor and get off any medications that might hurt the baby, this did not mean I cannot get pregnant we may just need to try longer, or it might be complicated, but as with all women there is never a guarantee. I asked him for assurance that he would not step outside our relationship, if we had this issue and I would in return assure him that we would try to have as many children as he wanted. He could not give me this assurance . I asked him to let us try to get pregnant now so we could know and If I got pregnant we could get married he says he cannot get me pregnant outside of marriage.
Now he wants to end the relationship.
Is this how any Nigerian man would react or is it more likely that he is looking for an excuse to move on?

I THINK THE PROBLEM IS CLEAR, YOU ARE PUSHING HIM TOO FAST WITH YOUR DECISIONS, FIRST HE IS A MAN, ALLOW HE TO MAKE THE CHOICE, THEN YOU CHOSE FRIM IT.

sherylbakky:
You have to understand that we value children so much in African marriage ma'am.

To answer your question ; Not all Nigerian men will act that way but the truth is, majority will act like that.

My opinion ; Dont try getting married to him since you have issue. Look for a man that would understand your situation and who will love you for who you are.

Stay cool.

I THINK THE PROBLEM IS CLEAR, YOU ARE PUSHING HIM TOO FAST WITH YOUR DECISIONS,
FIRST HE IS A MAN ALLOW HE TO MAKE THE CHOICE, THEN YOU CHOSE FROM IT.

Texman21:
me i even thought is the normal meat pie that they use to sell

I SWEAR

adaksbullet:
his that while u are haved too replyed me 4 time?

THERE WAS TYPING ERROR IN MY FIRST THREE (3) REPLIED. SO I TRIED TO CORRECT THEM.

adaksbullet:
Am just alway thanked mine god mine father that am haved small williwilli


Their his no different if am on eretion or flasid

. OH BOY, MY OWN MR THOMAS, NA DIE, I HAVE TO CHANNEL MY THOUGHT TO SOMETHING ELSE, LIKE SAD EVENT, IT WILL GO DOWN NATURAL LY, BECAUSE THAT THING TOO BIG, I PRAY IT SHOULD NOT DISGRACE ME IN PUBLIC ONE DAY.

adaksbullet:
Am just alway thanked mine god mine father that am haved small williwilli


Their his no different if am on eretion or flasid

. OH BOY, MY OWN MR THOMAS, NA DIE, I HAVE TO CHANNEL MY THOUGHT TO SOMETHING ELSE, LIKE SAD EVENT, IT WILL GO DOWN NATURAL LY, BECAUSE THAT THING TOO BIG, I PRAY IT SHOULD NOT DISGRACE ME IN PUBLIC ONE.

adaksbullet:
Am just alway thanked mine god mine father that am haved small williwilli


Their his no different if am on eretion or flasid

. OH BOY, MY OWN MR THOMAS, NA DIE, I HAVE TO CHANNEL MY THOUGHT TO SOMETHING ELSE, LIKE SAD EVENT, IT WILL GO DOWN NATURAL LY, BECAUSE THAT THING TOO BIG, I PRAY IT SHOULD DISGRACE ME IN PUBLIC ONE.

adaksbullet:
Am just alway thanked mine god mine father that am haved small williwilli


Their his no different if am on eretion or flasid

. OH BOY, MY OWN MR THOMAS, NA DIE, I HAVE TO CHANNEL MY THOUGHT TO SOMETHING ELSE, LIKE SAD EVENT, IT WILL GO DOWN NATURAL LY, BECAUSE THAT TOO BIG, I PRAY IT SHOULD DISGRACE ME IN PUBLIC ONE.

God help us from our enemies

After training and subsequent posting to an unconducive environment as a P.O before the postponement of the election this is what INEC as me to come and collect allowance. #4000. Pls someone should tell me what is happening.

dallex10:
In a school, they are 180 students in 100 level. 110 students offer courses in Aerospace engineering, 88 offers courses in cyber security and 65 offer courses in ICT. If 40 students offer courses in both aerospace engineering and cyber security, 38 offer courses in cyber security only. Find the number of students who offer:



A. All the three courses



B. ICT only



C. None of the 3 courses



D. At least one course



E. Either one or two of the three courses



Represent it with a Venn diagram



My able mathematicians, help a brother.

5k at stake before 4PM

My answer after trying D question, although I am not a mathematical.

A) 102

B) -8

C)10

D)70

E)8

I did nt watch what happen today, some pls summarize the event for me.

I did nt watch what.happen to, some pls summarize the event for me.

Oga, goan watch the video very well and understand what he meant. Yes he's rich, so what?? Can u work for God and still be poor? Yes can still work for and be poor, it depend on the purpose.

I THANK GOD THAT THEY WON, LET SEE HOW 2019 WILL UNFOLD, I AM EXPECTIND INCLUSIVE ELECTION OR A RE-RUN. IF YOU KNOW, YOU KNOW, IF YOU NO KNOW, YOU GO EVER KNOW.

Pls we need non biase and non partisan person to tell us the true situations of Ekiti State election. I mean a resident of that place. Thank you.

theEYe21:
No! A woman can’t do without a man socially, economically, spiritually and financially. Am I missing something?

No! A woman can’t do without a man socially, economically, spiritually and financially. Am I missing something? Yes, you are missing me.

NA WA OH

I thought she said the attorney general of the federation should be asked to extract her back to Nigeria? But refused.

Does that stand as a chance?

HELLO EVERYONE, I WANT TO KNOW THE MEANING OF THIS ENCOUNTER WITH MINE FRIEND WITH AN INSANE MAN. I AND MY FRIEND WERE DISCUSSING WHEN A YOUNG MAN INTERRUPTED US, WITHOUT ANY SIDE DISTRACTION HE FOCUSED ON MY FRIEND AS IF HE KNEW HIM BEFORE AND AS HIM TO ACCOMPANIED HIM TO FIRST BANK TO MAKE SOME WITHDRAWAL BUT MY FRIEND IMMEDIATELY REFUSED TO ACCOMPANIED HIM DUE TO SECURITY REASONS. AS WE WERE TALKING A NEIGHBOUR WAS PASSING BY, WE ASKED THE NEIGHBOUR IF HE KNEW THE YOUNG MAN? HE SAID YES, THAT THE YOUNG MAN WAS A MAD MAN LIVING CLOSE TO US. YOU CAN NOT TELL IF HE IS A MAD MAN ON THAT FATEFUL DAY BECAUSE HE WAS WELL DRESSED, EXCEPT FOR HIS DIRTY LOOKING FEET, ON A SHOES. PLEASE I KNOW THIS MEANS SOMETHING WHAT DOES IT MEAN, SINCE MY FRIEND DID NOT ACCOMPANIED, BECAUSE HE WAS UNKNOWN TO HIM. THANK YOU.

[quote author=Osuman post=64292506][/quote]pls, I need good reply for this post, not just viewing without commenting.

Johnpaul01:
Your first just morata(ed) his only opportunity to escape everlasting poverty

thanks but I don't get you.

Hello

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