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I'm grateful to everyone here who has encouraged me after my traumatic experience, it lightens my heart that so much support could come from people I've never seen, only read from, yet it's like I'm not alone.

Hubby has been asking questions, googling and researching on what might have gone wrong, and is especially pissed that the hospital has up till now, not offered aftercare or anything. It's pointless to sue because honestly, we want nothing else to do with the hospital, and me I just want to heal and be done with everything for now.

Again, thank you all for your love and support, it means a whole lot to me, it really does. Thank you so much.

I'm back. After a loooooong hiatus. Alas, I bear no good news. I lost my would-be rainbow baby after an extremely painful and prolonged labor yesterday. Worse, I was induced because I started bleeding all of a sudden at 35weeks, only to be told after scan at the hospital that the baby's heart had stopped beating. Shrugs. Now I'm trying to cope with the loss. Hubby cried like someone who'd lost the whole world. Me, I'm still numb. Distracted. Mostly on autopilot. I'll recover, I know. Eventually.
For now, I just want to sleep. And mourn in peace.

What the devil...?

Naming ceremony isn't an Igbo tradition. Neither is infant baptism, op please take note. Infant baptism is a Catholic thing and not all Igbos are Catholics. In my area of Abia we do onu nwa, meaning the joy of a child where we sing and dance and pour powder on the celebrant, usually the father of the baby. If the parents feel like it they share biscuit and soft drinks and that's done anytime after the child is born, no particular date. However, three months after birth we take the child to church to be prayed for and blessed. If you wan throw party after na for ya pocket.

These are beautiful...are they affordable, like how much?

dessycute:
Airtime for the first 10 numbers that quote this

Present sir/ma.

ahnie:
I have surprises to give out....just that I haven't seen any receiver yet.
pls kindly indicate if any is interested.

I'm very interested ooo, sis. Please surprise my family this period, it will be wonderful gift

stepo707:
I have never done this online before but wish to assist 10 people(preferably widows, widower , orphans and students). I want to give 5000naira each to 10 genuine people that absolutely need it. I am not sure how to know they do or how i will do the selection criteria. But if i can put a smile on the faces of 10people for this Xmas, would gladen my heart. I expect to disburse the funds on 20th of December
Dont need to send a PM, just state on this thread your situation, would review the 10 and then disburse on the 20th.Thanks

Very beautiful thread. I am happy for the people who received, tho I'm also a struggling mom in desperate need with a young family, I didn't comment because I honestly don't fit your specifications of the people you want to assist. I pray God sees your selflessness and blesses you beyond your wildest dreams. Amen.

PS: if God still lays it in your heart to bless me with anything I'll be eternally grateful. �

Darlingme:
Alright. Thanks.

Have responded to your Dm

Much appreciated. Sent you a mail.

Darlingme:
The aim is to visit new environment, travel within, have some time alone, experience new things, have fun and meet new people.
For those in Lagos, where can you recommend for a newbies in Lagos for a Christmas vacation?

Quite environment, affordable, beautiful, decent people around, close to the beach and safe?
Thank you

You won't like the rough roads to Badagry, if not I'd have recommended some nice places. Plus...it's not that safe anymore for a single lady traveling alone. These days no good. ��

Oh right, please do you reply DMs? I just dmed you, sorry if that's forward of me.

bimberry1307:
My belle full mamas, How una dey? Just wanna say hi! How's the ministry going? It will be well. Una pickin @3 months is saying hi too.

Issa fine boy. Hi to you too, Prince

mayornmn:
I want to born now oooo
What can I do

Uhm...eat pineapple?

tifelola:
Hello house..please is sardines consumption advisable during early pregnancy

Indulge, by all means. I even ate it like that and licked the konkon join with all that oil. Oh yeah.

africaflozy:
You are highly welcome, pls don't be like ovalrose...so serve us something nice

Woah, what I do na?

Cissebae:
sorry mommy, Even me one of my vaginal lip(labia) has been swollen since I was 5month and have complained and given drugs at the hospital but still swollen. Have just been coping with it hoping after birth it will be normal.

Loool, ah tink say na only me. Come dey wonder weda na too much dry nack cause am

In other news, someborry should do weekend for me na ejoo... cravings haff finish my life..I want roasted yam, raw indomie, and Iya Nonso's sinfully delicious fried rice with moin moin....oh Jesus. Save me o

africaflozy:
You say Common buy the food fo us jooor Hope you are good?

Odi egwu. Wetin I know say I owe na one crate of half mineral, shikena.

Good morning doc, it's been a while I checked in here. Hope you are great?��

I'm the lady you counseled last time after I had a miscarriage and I'm glad to announce to you I'm expecting again, praise God. I've a concern though.
I took Fansidar for malaria when I was fifteen weeks gone, this is not my first pregnancy so before then I used to feel slight flutters. Now, I noticed that since after taking that medicine, I no longer feel the flutters at all. I am saving for my 20 week ultrasound, otherwise I'd have just gone for scan to be sure my baby is doing okay. I need some expert opinion or reassurance, whichever is appropriate ����

africaflozy:
Oya clear road for team APRIL

Team_NoDulling
Team_Favour
S/N Monicker EDD Gender
1. Africaflozy 05/04 unknown



Other April team members should come and register sharparly.... remember NoDullling

2. Ovalrose. 10/04 unknown
Duly registered. Where do I collect card and pack of food?

threegees:
VERY LONG POST ALERT

Ngwanu, grab ya popcorn and juice, and enjoy the jolly ride. I will try to summarize cos story plenty. I hope it will be a worthy read.

PRE-PREGNANCY
My marriage was at the verge of being over because I had had enough of its wahala, coupled with a man who things were not going well with, and then, who was steady pouring his frustrations on me. Hubby and I didn't use to talk to each other sef, let alone play mommy and daddy. I had secretly planned my relocation to Abuja to get my sanity and move on. Before then, I was on contraceptive pills since August 2013 after I had my daughter, and it worked perfectly well for me, until October last year. Things were so bad financially for us and for me that I could not afford to buy my pills. How much? #150!
Yes! It was that bad. I got tired of begging people for money to get by so I locked up, afterall, I wasn't having sex with anyone.
Fast forward to early January this year, a friend who had been talking to me asked me to approach hubby and give him sex, and that from there, we could talk things out. He never supported me leaving my marriage. I had just finished my period and felt I wasn't fertile so I have nothing to lose. I approached hubby at night where he usually slept cos we weren't sleeping in the same room anymore. I seduced him and voila! it happened. Guy didn't even withdraw. I wasn't perturbed too since I had been on pills for almost 7 years. I thought belle no fit enter just like that na.

DISCOVERING PREGNANCY
So, I wondered why my period was unusually scanty in January. Imagine, I had forgotten about the sex. I was preparing for my relocation to Abuja, buying a few things and all when it dawned on me that my last period only came for one day. I explained to a pharmacist where I was buying deworming drug for my kids and she asked me to get a test strip and test for pregnancy. I laughed and declined. After buying the drug, she didn't have #50 change, so I asked for the test strip na.
Saturday 1st February, 2020, I wanted to pee and remembered the strip. I did the test with confidence that the pharmacist didn't know what she was saying. Lo and behold, two bold lines were looking at me. I was confused. I went to buy another strip o. Did the test again, and the two bold lines showed up again.
A mixture of emotions went all through my body. I walked up to hubby who was sleeping on the couch (Someone I hadn't talked to in months). I showed him the strip, he too was confused. He didn't say a word. That night, he moved back into our bedroom. I cried cos I felt this pregnancy is going to destroy my secret plans and preparations, and I couldn't bring myself to abort it. I kept doubting until I went for a scan and they told me that I was pregnant cos they could see a fetal pole.

EARLY PREGNANCY
Hubby mysteriously and miraculously accepted the pregnancy. He pampered me like no tomorrow. I had terrible morning sickness. He would make tea and bring to my bed. He'll boil water and keep in the bath tub for me to bath, make ice cubes for me to chew on while at work. Oh, my husbandman did everything. I was just a vegetable. This was same person who had been my live-in enemy for months. That was how I was able to manage the first few weeks until covid19 wahala and we were all at home. I wasn't working, hubby hadn't been working since 2018. No way to feed or buy baby things. Pregnancy after 7 years. I had nothing. We had nothing. Then hubby started drama.

He who had told his mom of my pregnancy out of excitement at the early stage when she came visiting started telling his family members that he is not sure he is responsible for the pregnancy. It was his brothers' wives who started calling me to ask what happened. He refused to give me a dime to get the hospital requirements and baby things. I had to beg my mom to feed. After sometime when people were allowed to move, I'd pack a few clothes and my kids and go to my mom's place to stay so we could eat. It was that bad. In June/July, same DH told his family and mine that he wanted a divorce. They called for a family meeting. No one supported him, not even his family. Everyone of them was trying to do whatever they could to make me happy. One would send me money, the photographer did me a free photoshoot, everyone would frequently call just to make me happy. After everything was resolved, he admitted that it was frustrations that got the better part of him. Amazingly, in all these, I was not perturbed one bit. Till things got back right again and I decided to enjoy my pregnancy.

LATE PREGNANCY
So schools were asked to resume but because of how advanced my pregnancy was, coupled with the bad roads and outstanding debt of school fees for my kids, I couldn't resume. My kids couldn't go to school too. We just stayed at home waiting for this baby to come and let me have my life back. It seemed like forever. No sign of labour or approaching labour. All along, it had been a perfect pregnancy, but by week 38 or thereabout, my BP started rising like dough with yeast. At every antenatal check up, I was given nifedipine under my tongue and I was told it can be managed and not too serious. My feet was swollen and heavy at week 40. I was given an injection and told I would drain the fluid through urine. It happened like that, but a week after, the swollen feet returned much more than what it was before sef, and very painful. I just felt it was the end of pregnancy so I wasn't bothered. I never knew I had eclampsia. Never experienced it in previous pregnancies, never knew anyone who had it too. I just wanted labour to come.

LABOUR/DELIVERY
My EDDs had passed, no sign. If I hear that someone had put to bed, I'll feel bad that mine hadn't come. Until I begged hubby for sex. After he managed to do, the next morning, I saw my show. I was excited. By Sunday 18th, I started having contractions. I went to the clinic and after vaginal examination, I was just 4cm and asked to go back home till contractions were stronger. All through that night, the contractions were hellish. I was using a contractions timer app until it got to an average of 15 minutes by Monday morning. I had my bath and left for the clinic. Though I can't remember how I got to the hospital that Monday morning, I only remember I was checked by the matron and told I was 6cm. That's all I remember.
My mom and husband told me they came to meet me on my bed in the ward, and I told my mom I couldn't see anything again.
Before she could say sorry, I started convulsing.
She said I started foaming in the mouth and stretching. She screamed and called the matron. The matron put spoon in my mouth, beat me and all, just to stabilize me. They managed to stabilize me a bit and put me in the matron's car to take me to another hospital where they can handle my case. On the way, while in the car, my water broke and the head of the baby was showing. I started convulsing again. They beat nonsense out of me to stabilize me, yet no way. I was still stretching. My husband's hands were in my mouth, I was bleeding from the mouth, he was bleeding from his hands because I had clenched them with my teeth and stretching. On getting to the hospital they were taking me to, over 10 people rushed to hold me as they said they screamed Emergency o.
I was rushed to the delivery room. They tried to stabilize me as the convulsion started again. They finally did and when they checked, my BP had shot up to 202/100. They said the baby is not big but because of the high BP, if I push the baby, it will be 50/50 or I run mad or maybe paralysed.
They fixed oxygen. The first tank finished. They fixed the second one, then brought the BP down a bit. Then, the doctor told my husband it is a 50/50 chance, he should sign the consent form and choose who they should save. He said he shouted and said God forbid. He wants both his wife and his baby. He said he kept telling me in my ears to remember my other two children, my mother and him. He was speaking in tongues like no tomorrow. He called his mom, my pastor, everyone.
When the doctor to perform the surgery came, he asked both my mom and hubby out of the delivery room. They couldn't even take me to the theatre. The doctor faced the wall, knelt down, prayed, sent them out and did the caesarean. When he brought out the baby, she cried a bit, stopped and turned green. They abandoned me and fixed oxygen on the baby. They stabilized her, then faced me. The operation was done around past 9am, I regained a little consciousness and opened my eyes by 9.35pm. I didn't know where I was. I woke up and was telling my husband that the baby in my womb is not allowing me to be comfortable and that I want to turn to my side because I was sleeping on my back, he was laughing at me.
With the way he was looking at me, I then asked him if I have given birth, he said yes. I didn't believe. I said it was a lie. He bought the baby to me, I still didn't know where I was. I regained full consciousness on Thursday morning. Me that gave birth since Monday morning.
My recovery was fast and still in progress, and we were discharged on the following Friday.
God did a great thing and indeed we are glad. I am happy to have my baby in my hands. Daddy is glad. Big brother and sister are elated, and my mom can't stop singing and dancing for joy.

BS Submitted as I sign out of the month of October, extremely grateful to God for how far He has brought us. Indeed, it was a journey! Boots officially thrown into the lagoon

Your story brought tears to my eyes. And has encouraged me as well. I'm not working, either, infact we barely get by, but I believe that one day very very soon the sun will shine again and it will be okay. Congratulations and God bless you and yours

Chylove9000:
Ba


Double blessing .
My two bouncing baby boys landed on 29th Oct via Ecs.

Mother and children doing great .
Safe delivery to other Mama's

It shall end in praise.

Amen! Congratulations, I'm so happy for you. I haven't gone for scan yet,( still dey find money for pregnatone, heh heh) but I pray it isn't twins o. Ah kint tek it.

Krak:
My wife finally delivered through CS. I am very thankful that mother and child are both doing fine.

Its been a very traumatic and stressful month, we nearly lost the battle but we won and we are victorious. There was a period during which I could not sleep for up to 72 hours.

Despite the fact that the financial demands were unrelenting and very overwhelming, and there was nothing (I am a private school teacher without pay through the lock down), somehow I was able to borrow from friends, family and even strangers.

And very importantly, we are filled with satisfaction that all our efforts were not in vain.

I have now learned that high BP and edema during pregnancy should be taken very seriously.

I happily announce to the house the birth of my son.

Congratulations!! May he be a great blessing to your household

africaflozy:
Ehen...see this mama o, don't let me hit you with my small bump o

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africaflozy:
So shall it be in Jesus name. You are welcome.
It seems you are team April.
I've been waiting for other April Mamas. Oya let's talk. Will you be the cappo
Receive the oil

Nah, I'd rather be assistant cappo. I nominate you for captainship. Thank you!

Rhemaville:
Welcome your journey shall be smooth and end in praise

Thank you! Amen!

Please o, I want to register on this thread... seems like a whole lot of fun!!���. I'm bout sixteen weeks gone.. after a previous miscarriage...soooo most times I find myself panicking if I feel out of the ordinary...I so want this baby to be my rainbow baby... ���

What's your business about and what's your location?

thecongrega:
Apply Now.

Please can a resident of Ojo apply?

I was telling my neighbor yesterday that toothache isn't something I want to wish my enemy. That thing can kill. Wallai. In my first pregnancy I lost two teeth and half died. This second one now, oh chi m. I'm actually taking overdose of calcium because I've brittle bones, but the thought of being afflicted with another round of toothache is too much to bear. I intend using ogorogo and salt or alum to fight it as one is starting to show me signs of loosening again. Ugh!!

obalola7:
Credit has been sent: confirm

Received. Thanks.

obalola7:
What's your name ?
For those that sent their opinions they all have received their cards... If you didn't receive your card before the editing, it's because I didn't see it. But resend it again and you will be rewarded with the initial credit value.

I'm yet to receive the airtime since Sunday, despite resending the mail as you requested. Please check. Akudo Friday

obalola7:
What's your name ?
For those that sent their opinions they all have received their cards... If you didn't receive your card before the editing, it's because I didn't see it. But resend it again and you will be rewarded with the initial credit value.

Akudo Friday.