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DEAR LADIES:I saw this somewhere and I think its useful:
COMMON MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE WHEN DISCOVERING AN AFFAIR:

When You Have just Discovered That Your Man Is Cheating On
You...Please DONT DO THE FOLLOWING:-

(1). DEMANDING TO KNOW ABOUT THE OTHER WOMAN:
The truth may hurt you. Can you handle the truth?

(2). INSULTING THE OTHER WOMAN:
You are giving her power, she doesn't deserve. Especially if you insult her to your husband e.g. how is your slut doing?

(3) .FORCING HIM TO CHOOSE, THINKING HE WILL CHOOSE YOU:
There is no competition here-you will lose this one! She is new & they are in the honeymoon phase, you on the other hand are an old habit.

(4). CALLING HIM EXCESSIVELY TO CHECK ON HIM LIKE A PRISONER:
He may start to avoid your calls even if he is not doing anything bad just to protect his freedom.

(5). BEATING THE OTHER WOMAN UP:
You are creating sympathy for her. Now she looks like your victim to him. With this one you are still giving her power.

(6). THREATENING TO LEAVE JUST TO SCARE HIM:
You are giving him ideas. You make the grass seem greener on the other side.

(7). CRYING:
He wont feel sympathy for you-he will feel burdened by the tears.

(. SNOOPING:
Dont hurt yourself unnecessarily. You will find what you are looking for. Dont break into his e-mails. Dont scroll his phone & dont go through his messages.

(9).BEING IN DENIAL EVEN THOUGH THE SIGNS ARE THERE:
Do something about your knowledge or you will make yourself sick. Some diseases are stress-related. Deal with your issues; dont bottle them up.

(10). TELLING HIS MOTHER:
For crying out loud! This is his mother!

(11) .COMMITTING SUICIDE: Seriously, Once you're gone, you're gone!

Put The Phone Down.
It Is Wise To Leave His Phone Alone. when you are hurting, deal with Your Disappointment Instead of Going through his phone only to find More Truths that will hurt you.

When His Phone rings, Leave The Room Even if its Ringing unattended To, Leave it Alone. Dont answer his phone. Learn To Be Strong And Ignore it.

Children sometimes may get u so excited.I really see no point in posting their pixes on social media. Just be thankful in ur heart dat God has blessd u. Simple...and keep praying for them.

Very pathetic. Every child has access to google... Sure he must av watched porn films maybe on his fone with his friends. Parents av a lot of work to do. The society has gone real crazy and has nothing to offer but pollute innocent souls. May God save us and protect our children from this evils.

2legit2qwt: I understand that but ideally, are there expectations as to who does what? We all know the power of money and i'm all up for couples stating their intentions for clarity, commingling finance is big deal.

. Expectations as far as I am concerned still boils down to mutual cooperation and understanding if they are both sincere to one another, whoevers purse is larger ofcourse bears more responsibility. That's y its just best to marry ur friend.

What works for a couple might not work for another. It all depends on the parties involvd and what foundation they have built.

What works for a couple might not work for another. It all depends on the parties involved...

Let her realise the gravity of what she has done and tell her to expect betrayal from a friend because what goes around comes around. Let her know about STIs too. U need to be closer to her than ever and continue to talk brains to her hea, coz she might not have stopped. Most importantly, pray for her

Recently, she slammed a padlock on my fone sayn she wanted to see wat was inside. I beat her mercillesly sha.

Children, intresting creatures! They cld be so funny!!! My 3yr old dota never accepts she bedwets. She always claims someone poured water on her bed.

[color=#990000][/color]These things happen daily. Parents need to be at alert and vigilant. Am tired of these cases at my work place(a barraks hospital).two weeks ago was d case of a 10yr old boy and his 3yr old sister. He actually penetrated bt dnt destroy d hymen. Made my heart bleed. The parents were advised to seperate d two kids coz the boy wld forever see his litl sis an an object of such.Its so pathetic.... After so much talk wt d lil boy. He confessed dat he watchd porn on one of his classmates (Jss1) fone. Parents are d cause of all these. Why give a 10yr old a fone wt internet facility. Affulence or what do we calll that. Childrens internet use shld be monitored till age 18.God save us!!!

Sorry abt wat ure goin tru. i feel u. however, if dat his first car its expected dat he treats it like a baby. so i dnt blame him especialy if hes still payn fr d loan; he might av fears of u bashing it. so be patient nd hopeful dat someday he'ld get u one too. what if he dnt av one, uld live now, abi? so bone

sexmatters has said it all. ild just add dat u check wt ur finger after every menese to ensure d string is still there, coz occasionaly there r cases of displacement. also when wearin d IUCD, ensure strict hygine to prevent infections. cheers!

its really unfortunate. ild would like to kno some details before contributn: are they legaly maried? how old is d mariage?do they have children yet?

Eg:in d univ,i borowd a frind my schl fees to secure acomodatn.By d time he returnd it was late nd i had to pay fr late

Giv examples of events that are not too private to avoid them probing ur privacy.exampl above is ok. BEST WISH

Yes. I took lessons and learnt other ways of doing it better. I always learn from mistakes. BEST WISHES!

Theres no mosque arnd. Moreover huby is a private persn nd doesnt like famly isues dscusd outside

Tnx. She wakes him always bt if she dares pray alone he qurels biterly & tels her shes proud.wat more cld she do?

A woman whos huby finds it dificult to wake up for fajr prayr @ d right time bt wakes @ abt 6.30, must she wait fr him?

Good things dont come easy. Squeez the schl bills into ur income. Uld just be suprisd at hw u will cope. TRUST GOD

U r nt bn selfish.Beter fr u sinc ur huby undrstnds,make d sacrific.ULD BE SUPRISED@ WAT PLANS GOD HAS FR U.uld SURVIVE

Ure not yet married and u already have this feeling. Pray fr Guidance. It might nt be worth it.

My dad did a lot.he ate frm d pot in presenc of my friends.I sighd@ him nd he anouncd aloud wats d big deal.

Every family has its own PECULIAR chalenges.Wat maks a strong man is ability to overcom.God may use u fr hr.Dnt leav her

Wat am sayin is dvorce doesnt come too easy.Best is fr her to pray hard dat he changes.Ther r alwys chalenges in mariage

Above me;i dnt think ure maried.coz if u r,uld kno divorce doesnt com easy.I REPEAT THERS NO PERFECT MARIAGE.ASK UR MOM

Dear.For the sake of ur childrn, 4giv.There is no PERFECT MARIAGE.Be strong nd withrw d emotions u av 4him.

Call her nd explain to her politely but if she does nt change, u may quit.

Damo pls dont move near such pple.They r nt GOD.pls talk to ur creator abt ur probs nd wishes.such hapnd to som1 i kno

Guys pleses stop all these. Lets have fun in d forum. Please. Make peace nd stop yabing.

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