₦airaland Forum

Greenscientist:
I know many will come in defense of this man.

But the simple thing is, Muslims wear their hijab everywhere why should they off it because they want to go to school.

His argument is baseless. Will Sango worshipper wear their traditional attire to market any day anytime? Or will a Christian lady in choir wear the rope outside of the church?

If you want to wear the above(eeku and rope)to school, you're welcome. You'll get tired.

By the way, this is lagos not Abia.

Modified.

Nigeria is not a secular state but a religious state, it simply means everyone has the freedom to practice their religion.

Part of Muslims practising their religion is allowance to wearing of hijab. The British system was designed to favour the Christians that's why most of you feel comfortable.

Imagine if UAE is a bi-religious state making Sunday a work day, if you're a practising Christian and a citizen, will you sit and not talk? This is the similitude of our fight.

Non-Muslim should be allowed to wear their attire if it is anywhere in their religious book that they should do so.

Bomboiy:
You think a core Northerner from Kano or Adamawa will leave Kwankwaso or Atiku and vote for Tinubu?

zionmde:
Ndi Obi is a SE something will cry hard today
We will rather vote Agbado, cassava and corn next year so we can balance supply and consumption

Am happy everyone is getting to know that people supporting obi are those tired of APC and PDP and are yearning for Change

I hate politics with passion, I hate anything voting but I saw hope in Obi and for the sake of posterity I will queue under the sun and in the rain and cast my vote for Obi, that's the much I can do to salvage this country

Bomboiy:
I have said it severally that outside the southeast,Edo people are the most OBIdient, people thought I was clowning.

The problem with most people is that they don't know that 2023 will be a different ball game entirely. Nigerians are tired of PDP and APC,we are now OBIdient.

With SE in bag,Edo state and SS as a whole will be a big boast. Our only concern will be NC,so many people will be hit by Hurricane Obi next year.

Bonesbreaker:
What structure are we talking about self if NNPP alien with Labour party is totally game over for APC And PDP nothing will make them win like this APC can never win in SE,SS is it PDP That will win LP IS TAKING OVER THIS REGION MADLY LIKE A WARLING FIRE!!

uthlaw:
no b matter of girlfriend,that amount won't be enough for feeding, transportation,recharge card and data!

Outstrip:
What does diplomacy have to do with having a brain. The reason why the so called women you are saying have "harsh" husbands are forced to suffer is because of advice like yours. If they had their own individual things going then they would not have to wait for a man to be there for them to survive. Any sensible person who reads half of what you write should have no faith in you. Talking about because a man decided to marry me then , Are you even aware that you are a human being. Maybe your husband has not told you yet so until then that is debatable. What nonsense. I should bring my husband here to read this drivel. There are some people we know that are just like you. My moms bestfriends mother raised them on her own after her husband left them for an educated woman. She did not sell herself. She worked with her hands and somehow managed. All her children are educated and she did not humiliate herslef by hanging on to a man's balls that did not think she was good enough.
My husband married me as I married him. Nobody forced me and I was not looking for someone to pay my bills. I was looking for a life partner not someone to validate me because I cooked a piping hot pot of pepper soup and told him how he was lord of all he surveyed. I know very many women like you who are single today and still lying to themselves. You have not the slightest idea wht submission in marriage is. You are just simply hoping that if you do not act too smart he will keep feeling the need to protect you from the big bad evil world out there that is so bad for a woman to help herself SMH

mutter:
well if a woman leaves her husband because he is harsh and goes out into the world without being able to cope, she has got a real problem. In a bid to fend for herself and the kids she  might be forced to swallow allot of humiliation from people outside, even have to sell herself. So better  stay in the marriage.
You need to know your own situation might not be similar to many other women.
My husband knows I  a very strong personality with allot of drive so all the more he appreciates my submission towards him.
Have you ever heard of  being diplomatic. If you practice it at work why not at home. 
Do you think because a man married you, it gives you a right to speak and act without control or consideration.
A man is the head of the home.
There is no compromising that. As the head he has to make or sanction all decisions.
If you cannot submit to this you are weak and lack discipline.
Anarchy, chaos and disorder do not require any special qualities

You see, This is where marrying a loser comes in , if you end up with a loser  issues like these will definitely arise

@Topic

Being submissive does not mean you can't voice out your opinion when the need arises, you have a say of you own as well. But staying behind a man and letting him know that he is incharge not minding our income helps a man feel worthy of his position as the head of the house.

Men are babies, you have got to treat them as such with care, respect their views and pamper them silly. When I want to go ahead and handle some project by myself I'd always seek his opinion first, men always feel threatenend if their wives does not share their views with them.

If he says no, he does not want me to do it then I just sit my backside down no stress, I am not even interested in sorting out any gender issues, infact he knows that I rely on him for a lot of things especially the difficult things like, checking out why the the TV connection isnt working, stuffs that has got to do with electricities e.t.c , sometimes he even jokes about it and tells me that I dont wanna die but want him to thats why i never deal with some electricity issues It is just a feeling of being the much weaker vessel.

Whenever he travels I feel so completely alone, whenever he is around me I feel safe and I know that there is someone God has set aside to protect me. My rock he is, I stand on that rock without fear of falling off cos I know he wouldnt let hurt come to me, my husband is the pillar(after God) I hold onto , he is the pillar of my home, the pillar that keeps me standing without falling off, the pillar I hold onto in times of mourning, sadness, sorrow, happiness and joy

GOD specifically created the shoulders of men for we women to lean on and cry on, His shoulder is created to be tough and I just go there when I know i cant go any further, it does not mean I cant tell my husband what to do, all I do is stand behind him and show him the right place to go to, whilst being in charge at the same time.

I can only teach my kids what life is all about from my feminine perspective but my husband is there to show my boys how to become strong men and tell my daughters what to expect from men when they grow up

My life would be a misery if I did  not have such a man beside me, and I have no problem with being submissive 24/7, 365 days 52 weeks

Some men rock

Nwaka77:
You have said it all. I read something similar in a pamphlet that came with my booklet "Daily Bread". It also said that submission as the bible notates does not mean that one person lords over the other.


@Poster
What many don't understand is that submission comes naturally to a woman when you treat her with love and respect. Is that not why the bible commanded men to love their wife like Christ loved the church? Do most naija men really understand what it means to love another person like Christ loved the church? It means unconditional love. What I see in most Naija marraiges is conditional love. If you love your wife like Christ loves the church, you will not sit there and watch your family members rain abuses on your wife for whatever reason. If you love your wife like Christ loves the church, you will not marry a second wife all because the first wife could not bear you a son or children. If you love your wife like Christ love the church, you will not be running after university girls and committing adultry all over the place putting yourself and your spouse at risk of catching an STD. If you love your wife like Christ loved the church you will not act like a brute showing little love, affection, respect, or consideration for your wife. If you love your wife like Christ loved the church you will not come on an online forum and bad mouth and bash your wife to strangers you probably will never meet in real life rather than going to her and trying to talk things over and sort out your differences. If you love your wife like Christ loves the church you will not come home after a hard days work and just sit down and stretch your legs while your wife who also works full time outside the home and contributes to the bills slaves away in the kitchen. You will get up and help out any little way you can so she does not get burnt out. If you love your wife like Christ loves the church you will learn to show appreciation through words and actions every so often even if its a peck on your wife's cheek followed by the words "Honey appreciate you. Thank you for all you do." That is what motivates women to please you or as you prefer to call it, submit. I have no problem submitting to hubby because the man is too good and takes that command of loving me like Christ loves the church seriously.

Unfortunately, from what I have observed, the average naija man can care less. You want submission yet you people are constantly on a bashing tirade of the women. I have never experienced so much HATE for women like I have seen on this forum. What have I not read? "Women are necessary evil", "women cannot be trusted", "should I put my will in my toddler son's name?", and the women bashing threads are endless. With that kind of a mind set, I doubt you will be able to show love to your wife like Christ commanded you to. Most of you naija males convince yourself that it is not a good thing to show love and affection to women because in your little minds, you are convinced that a woman will walk all over you if you do. Women are wired to crave affection like men crave S3X. So if you act like an aggressive jungle monkey towards your wife, where will she find it in her heart to submit to you? Don't you know that loving your wife selflessly as Christ commanded and your wife submitting to you go hand in hand?

So here is my stance, the day you males learn to genuinely love your wives [b]un[/b]conditionaly like Christ loves the church will be the day you will no longer have to worry about whether a lady will submit to you. You see how the poster Mutter talked fondly of her husband? Well, do you think if her husband treated her like crap and showed her no love, affection or respect she will be come online and speak so fondly of him? I don't think so. Once you people have learnt to treat women with love and respect (something naija society/culture does not seem to encourage), then you can come back and talk about submission. Chikena!

mutter:
I am really kind of spoilt and like to get my own way, that`s why I submit to my husband totally.
Submission is the most powerful weapon a woman has against a man.
Submission more or less means, "his will be done", "his wish is my command".
Very simple just get your wish and will to be that of your husband and it will be done.
How easy it is to get a man to do what you want, when you let him take all the decisions.
When you show a man love and respect, he would always try to please you.
I can get anything from my husband. I know how to ask, when and how long I have to ask.
If need be I go down on my knees and beg.
I never do anything without his approval and permission, I never say no to his wish.
When you have a good husband that is no problem at all.
My husband is like my father, mother, brother, sister, best friend, lover, all in one.
A part of me. The only person on earth that takes a decision and I trust fully that it is my best interest.
I not only submit to him, I virtually worship him, if it is allowed to use this word for a human.
He is my pride, my dignity, my hold and my comfort.
In the past he has taken some decisions, that were different from my wishes, but they always turned out to be the right ones.
In the past he sometimes gave me the go ahead but advised me it was a wrong move, I still went on with it, only to realise he was right.
then I have to go back to him to sort out the mess, even if it is only lending a consoling ear.
Now when he starts with his, you can , but I don`t think it would work out.
I just drop the idea immediately. Because he would be right in the end and he is the one to iron out the mistake for me or together with me.
I think another aspect of submission is being able to prevent disagreements, quarrels and heated arguments.
the easiest way to do this, is with simple words like sorry and please forgive me. It works wonders.
We have never had a serious problem in our marriage because we both know how to make use of those words.
Later when the heat is over one can talk rationally about the situation

JosephXavier:
We don't care if they're serious or not

On Peter Obi's mandate we stand

Anywhere he goes, we will go

There is a move to merge NNPP, ADP,PRP, SDM, APM into labour party and hand him the ticket of Labour party and make Kwankwaso his running mate if PDP refuses to field him

Voiceofthestree:
I am a Yoruba man. I don’t support this man at all because Nigeria need someone strong not just a slow pole useless man clamming to be pastor. Nigeria need someone like Peter Obi or Fayemi is another good candidate. But the likes of Oshinbajo he can only try

Rastaramsey:
That's it my brother....
That niggar hasn't done anything to please the common man...
Just a bunch of fake promises...
There was one time he told us not to do Yahoo that he will disburse 500m to the youth....

ibechris:
U are not lying my brother.

In fact,I have three children and I am a salary worker.

It is killing to to see how bad things have turn out to be...(mind u it is a global tragedy) not a Nigerian thing.

My rent is #800,000 and it is not going down which is typical of our economy.
However,we shall always survive and God will not shame us.

You are a billionaire
You can't rent that type of us when your salary is not up to a million or close to a million

Tony818:
My wife told me I don't take care of a child

I have forgiven her though but those words still ring in my head almost everyday.

This is a family I have sleepless nights when there is no money

I try my possible best to provide the basic things we need in the house.

I just went flat when she said those words...
I had no zeal to go out and Hustle again.

Those words really got to me because in my case my Dad didn't take care of me.

And because of this I vowed to be a good and responsible to my new born son...

Who send me marry sef

JERRY1925:
Seriously, be scared.
It's really not an easy adventure.
My marriage is three month now..mehn, ill say marriage is meant for the brave.
U have a lot of things to learn.
Another fact is, u will no longer put urself first.

Seriously, be scared.

bmdmix14:
Why? Nigerians going to church do they pratice wat they were taught in church?

DontGiveUpYet:
Is it that they are not teaching their followers the right thing? Why the killing and riot then?

God1000:
This breaks my heart, so people just stood there and watched her being beaten to death, nobody intervened

wis3:
It's temperament issues for some people. Going about disrespecting other people's faith and that which they so revere isn't exactly supposed to make them happy. There have been happenings like this in the past. One should know better.

wis3:
still doesn't mean we should go about saying foul things about other people's beliefs.

Penguin2:
https://dailypost.ng/2022/05/11/2023-pdp-nec-throws-presidential-contest-open-mark-chairs-convention/

Reality3080:
If he see 3rd for pdp primary,he try well well

siofra:
Why do they pretend like they don't like false lashes on ladies?

Ever since I fixed it on Saturday, I've not been able to rest.

I get at least 10 toasters a day.

But online all of them pretend to hate it. Why

generalwo:
What about us wen no get 600k but we have 600k responsibilities hanging over our shoulders every month, all depending on our 5 figures salary?? What do we do... How do we cope?? Advise please!!

Kriss216:
He can't even be APC presidential candidate.

stunnert:
I remember that year the company I was working with lodged me in one of those fancy hotels in Ikeja. On my last night there I had a bottle of big stout and nkowbi at the bar which had a good view of the reception, where I saw one lady with super super extra big mighty ass checked in one the rooms which happened to be opposite mine. I finished my drink and left for my room, I was just about to sleep around 10pm when I heard a knock on my door, I got up and checked thru the peephole and it was the big ass lady I saw, I opened the door and was about to ask wtf she wants at that time when she quickly apologized and introduced herself, I notices she was probably in her 60's, she the told me her AC wasn't working and the hotel technician wasn't around to fit it and all other rooms have been booked and if she could spend the night in my room, saying she wouldn't mind crashing on the floor.
I was about to say No when I saw that ass again, I then allowed her in and told her she could sleep on the bed and I would sleep on the floor but she didn't agree and we both agree to both sleep on the bed, immediately we got in bed she asked me if I could cuddle her from behind, I actually tried to do just that but dick too stubborn and when she realized I was having a hard on she grabbed and one thing led to that other and we ended fvcking for four good rounds.

We both left the next day, we still keep in touch tho and still manage to fix match once in a while where we fvck our brains out

Serial48:
Never!

Serial48:
Thank you and for sure