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mickeyrova:
Nah.I'm the one doing the zoning for now!

mickeyrova:
But u might?

kazyhm:
i'm feeling like buying you a very cold origin every time you want it

AmuEwu:
Wow, that must be great. I'll try my best to learn this skill, and I love as you put it 'shut out the voice'

Olarewajub:
Apart from over coming the inner voice of limitation, is there any other tips you can share with us.

AmuEwu:
I'm I the only one whose still finding it difficult to start a conversation with a random stranger, even with this challenge ?

I'll still try it out and report back

DonOms:
Introversion is a personality. And although it's not a stand-alone concept (since no one is exactly completely introverted in the real sense of it according to Carl Jung's Introversion-Extroversion continuum theory), when it is extreme, it can make people easily misrepresent the idea.

Having pointed that out, you can effectively manage other areas of your life by gaining (or learning) social skills such as public speaking, science of persuasion and influence, making friends and interpersonal skills. You'll still be an introvert but you'll have fewer issues with people and love yourself more.

Shyness for example has little to do with introversion. Some extroverts can be shy, trust me. It's just common with introverts but you can overcome it through practice and mind-conditioning. Simply gradually do things you'd ordinarily be uncomfortable with.

I, for example, managed shyness years ago with leadership (forced to be class captain in SS1-3 & eventually a prefect) and group participation (Religious activities). Yours can be something else; you don't have to force yourself to contest for the PRO post in your School society but you can read helpful books and practice what you learn one by one.

An example of the weirdest things I ever did was to sometimes look into the eyes of someone in a public place. Maybe in a large hall in Uni and there is this opposite sex that stands out elegantly...stare at him/her and let them see you doing it then stop after some time. Stand in an elevator and face every other person. Ask questions in class; stop for a minute and chat with that colleague...
Although your heart will pound heavily and you'll sweat profusely or get panic attacks (still happens to me sometimes *covers face*), you'll gradually evolve. Mind you, you'll still crave being alone and all that introvert stuff but you'll have useful social skills anyway. And please always relate with like-minded people who will love you for you and not make you feel less human for being an introvert.

@Olarewajub posts challenges here too and they can be very helpful.

smileyprin:
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I've been just exactly like you described, but recently I've been able to be confident in the midst of people.
1- Join conversation that you're sure you're knowledgeable on.
2- Speak to strangers you see are good listeners and patient
3- Sometimes I just challenge myself to speak to that one person I've been in awe of just to break that fear.

gidjah:
Hmmmmm bored out? That's my middle name dear. Shoot your shots.

gidjah:
Hmmm you will hav to do more than try dear,been there trust me but i thank God things have changed .i can chat qny one up and keep a good convo going for as long as i wish.but it didint just start over day o. I still mostly have my quiet times till date.like send my familly away for summer .i was really ready to make it work.meet new peeps dat aint too boring get acquainted and flow.but you still must be your self most times as your true self 2ill always show up once a while,trust me, you dont wanna miss those pretty moment .Do you know d best times of my life is my idle(single) moments up till date?most people dont even know me to b d talking type except they all know me for my wisdom and excellence at my coordinating atitude.the good thing about been an intro is dat people cant predict u .thus they always r scared and respect u.Be my friend and we talk more.give me a pm if u r interested and i shall hook u up ma.

LostCity:
Oh oh ma"am that's the spirit, and if you want to really work on it,you'll have to reduce your online Tete-Atete and focus mostly on offline/social persona,Because online Persona has always been the norm/avenue/channel for introverts to air their view when bored/ to the bone marrow,
but when you start working mostly on your offline persona,you'll realised that you're more of extroverted.
morning.

olu98:
hello guys,I nid advice on aw 2 chase a family member(cousin)DAT won't leave.am so sick of him.

LostCity:
Aha,You see what i mean ma"am? it's not in your gene,genetically it's just a figment of imagination which later translate to Reality,like you rightly typed ,(background)That's the root.

Ameboperoo:
I think being shy is genetical and the background where you grow up also has a lot to do with it.