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I am not sure if I am in the right place, but i have a question about trading shares/stocks on the NSE
Is it now possible for me to trade my shares from the comfort of my home using an online portal ?
As an individual, does CSCS now have a portal that i can trade directly on?
Which companies/online portals can i log in and trade my shares on?
are they also safe ?

Thanks
From someone who stopped trading some years back

@poster, are you always asking him for favours?
Is he always footing the bills when you guys go out?
Do you payback after you loan ?

At a certain time in my life, i loaned a gf almost half of my monthly wage
and it was because she needed help, and no one could help her, she never paid
back. After that , you can imagine my response to any girl asking for loan.

If it is money i cannot afford to loose, then i don't have

But i did go out with someone that always paid back without me asking , and i loan from her when i don't have
Its never been a problem cos either one of us always pay back, no nonsense story of " but you are my boyfriend, you are supposed to take care of me"

Nawa 4 some women here, instead of alleviating this problem, they are fanning it
@poster, He married you for a reason, 2015 is not too far, if he wanted to marry the other lady, he would have waited.

Your husband is still very childish. Here comes the time you rise above this childishness.
Don't give him ultimatum, we men hate it.
Find a way of telling/communicating with him on how it feels , and in a way that doesn't sound like nagging

It might just be innocent gists

My ex-gf used to call me all those romantic names when she was engaged, and i told her she had to stop and she wouldn't
now she is married, when we talk, we gist for a long time but i try not to gist odd hours when she should be having nice family time

Has the calls reduced? yes , will it stop ? am not sure, but as time goes, it could reduce to one in 6 months , Will I sleep with her? NOOO

It is better he makes those call in front of you, than behind you.
Your husband needs to grow up big time
and as for you, nobody said marriage was easy, your journey begins here

@ Amefrica, which cage are you locked in, i have been searching for you to release you.

You are not trapped, your desires are clouding your sense of Judgement.
I don't want to call you a kid, but i will say you still have a whole life ahead of you, don't throw it away for one Night of Sex.

I had an experience similar to yours, the only difference was the hot girl was naked beside me and when i rocked the condom, she said no, that i didn't trust her, that's why i was wearing one.
she gave all excuses but i said no condom, no sex, she decided to feign anger, i turned my back and was almost sleeping before she started ranting about how i don't care

1) I will give you some excuses i used to give then that will still work for someone of your age
She says she loves receiving Mouth Action :: Tell her the last 2 times you tried it you fell terribly ill and the doctor has warned you not to do it until you have been with the person constantly for atleast 6 months and both of you are clean (build your own stories around this)

2) She wants sex with no condom : Tell her this is not an option, that you could be a carrier and you are protecting her by not going raw. It doesn't show in the face.

I relaxed on these rules after i had been in a monotonous relationship for over a year and was confident the person i was dealing with was clean and not a grasshopper(hopping from bed to bed ).

It's better to be safe than sorry

I still have my ex-girlfriends name as the password on most of my accounts.
The problem is just the hassle of going to change them all and remembering them.

For the new ones, i don't use her name, and i usually forget (even my facebook account, i have to try about 3 times to get in. Was easier when i had her name and just typed it in, and easy access).

If you don't feel comfortable with his passwords, use discretion in telling him to change it. (Make him feel he is doing it on his own accord and not because you said he should change it).

Guyman02: I can observe that you are a very proud woman, claiming all the good part without giving any credit to your husband. Woman! reduce your pride and try another system by being really submissive, talk to him gently even when there is an argument. Try not to order him around and call him names because he refused to do a particular chore. Try to always put him in a good mood and with time he will surely change.
- Do you declare your income to him or you hide it from him.

- Have you ever asked him if he will need your assistance in anyway to help him start saving and cutting costs since you said he spends money lavishly and has no savings. (perhaps your own or his lifestyles might be contributing to that)

- Do you commend him as a wonderful husband and father in front of his and your own family?

- Do you jointly plan your income for the good of the family or you play the wise one who can handle it better i.e go out there and buy whatever you need without his consent.

- What kind of abuses do you rain on him?

- Are you the violent type and sometimes think of slapping him across the face but restrain yourself?

- Do you think by yourself that you have a deadly tongue or people have told you that?

- Do you call him when he is not at home and tell him how much you love him and that you just prepared his favourite dish and that after eating he must reward you with good lovemaking for the night?

- Do you pray together? if yes, are you among the women who would say 'I come against any woman that is after or interested in my husband and wait for the man to say Amen!.

- Do you tell others how irresponsible you think your husband is?

- Do you tell him that you think you can do without him afterall you have a profession and a job?

- Do you bring your profession to the home and doesnt know where to draw the line e.g are you are a lawyer who sees everything in the home from a legal perspective or an accountant who thinks everything should be numerically correct or a medical personnel who thinks that the man is sick in the head?

Please answer the questions which you have consistently dodged in this thread. But most of all, if you start showing him respect and love and treating him as the head of the home and avoiding telling him things and words that you will not use or utter to your boss or employer he will never be tempted to leave home again.

If you really want to save your marriage, you need to read the above , over and over.
No doubt, you have an immature husband, why continue with an argument when you know what the outcome is??
you would be what we call a passive aggressor.
You can't cry blue murder when u get an expected outcome , when you are the one who keeps making the mistakes.

Mistake 1 : you married someone you didn't know (Probably because he is handsome) after a long distance relationship
Mistake 2 : You know your husband knows you don't love him, why should he care, since he is going home to a lady that doesn't love him and without no doubt doesn't respect him
Mistake 3: An argument starts, you know the outcome if it escalates and you keep at it, then come back and say he has run away

Has it ever occurred to you that your husband grew up in a house with women bickering, fighting and nagging, and the best way he learnt to adapt to the situation was shutting down and staying away from these situations as much as possible, and due to this attitude displayed by women around him growing up, he would have preferred remaining single?

Now he is married, when you start doing one of these things he experienced growing up, his brain goes into flight mode and deploys the tactics he has always used since childhood

I deduce you have a bad tongue, and your posts seems to suggest you are a christian, you do know what the bible says of what a woman's tongue does to a household?

I for one can't handle arguments, so i tend to avoid them, but i certainly won't leave the house for you for days.
If a man feels comfortable in a home, he would always go back there.

If you want to make your marriage work, you have to start the process yourself, as you sound more matured than your husband.

You know the way we say a man needs to handle and manage their woman, you would need to manage your man. He has to learn that he can still sleep beside you after an argument, only you can show him that

Get your husband to the point he feels like you love him, and you support him and you guys are on the same team
this involves doing away with disrespectful words like " you are lazy"," i don't know why i married you" , instead start saying positive stuffs to him about your marriage and him.

Call sometimes, when he is out and say you and the kids miss him and put the kid on the phone to say hello daddy.
A simple sorry can solve a whole lot of mess. I do say sorry even when i know am right, when the other party strongly feels am wrong. It doesn't make me weak, it just fixes the problem, and many times after some days the other party finds out she was wrong and asks why i said sorry when i knew i was right, i just say i love you so much than to miss a moment with you because of a silly thing like that.

Many times your partner learns to say sorry too, this doesn't mean you might not come across an odd ball who would never apologize even after finding out they were wrong.

Change is not gonna happen overnight, but after a while you will start seeing changes.

Most times i see people opening up threads that are not about how to genuinely solve their issues, but to gauge how many are on their sides and support what they are doing or plan to do, they would sift through the thread and pick what affirms their actions

When something is broken, the natural way to fix it is by identifying what caused the break, what factors have been causing it to break, what are the possible solutions, you try different strategies to see if they could work, not planning an exit strategy.

As a christian, stop asking for solution to your problem from people who do not share the same christian values with you.
Read your bible, it tells you how to build your home and be a wife. Also pick up christian books on marriages.

Finally anyone reading this, forgive me for my long epistle

konami001: Self-centeredness of the highest magnitude ... Now that daughter of hers is going to be haunted all her life by this experience... and she is going to grow up with suicide at the back of her mind... She has negatively impacted the lives of her children. Poor children will now grow up being told lies about their mother, only for them to discover that she committed suicide when they grow up... sad! sad!! sad!!! Clearly, she did not love any of her children enough to see them as worth living for... Who will now take proper care of the children now?

To many of you small girls here, coming to nairaland to seek advice on how to ride joy sticks, let this be a warning to you... If you are not going to stick around to take care of your children after delivery, if you have plans to commit suicide after bearing children or to jump from one man's house to another after laying here and there, better continue with your lesbianism oooo please...WE DO NOT NEED ANY MORE MOTHERLESS CHILDREN....

don't be quick to judge.
There is something called postnatal depression, where after a lady gives birth, she becomes depressed. They become withdrawn, and start having a lot of self negative inner talk.
Many people in Nigeria don't know about this or the symptoms. I believe when these ladies are committing suicide, they have already convinced themselves its better they are not in this world.

I know someone that had it, i saw all the signs, i made sure i kept talking to her even when she didn't want to talk, I avoided any negative remarks , i kept saying positive stuffs and was able to convince her to see a psychotherapist. She didn't want me to see the evaluation results, but i already knew the answer.

Jump almost 2 years now, She has gotten far better now and doesn't get depressed quickly.

In as much as it is not as bad in Nigeria as it is here because of our beliefs and upbringing, I think for us men, if your partner is pregnant, know more about Postnatal depression and things that could be done.
Am pretty sure that if this man knew about this, he would have found a way to help the wife before it was too late

Am not married, but one thing i do know is that the top 2 causes of breakdown in marriages are sex and finance.
i don't think a man or woman should deny his/her other half of sex.

Some might argue that what if you don't feel like it? don't forget that we all have different levels of sex drive,
imagine what would happen if a man of high sex drive marries one of low sex drive or vice versa, i just think it is a quick way of driving the other to another arm.

If you are tired or don't feel like it, just allow the other partner do the work or you form ' I am aSLEEP ' ( you could get caught out)

@baba, why now??
why u post b4 me??

ok make i do wetin all dey do now for this site.
i have reserved my space, i will come back and comment later ..

@Jidegirl:
there are 2 kinds of people, 1 sees a glass of water as half full, another sees it as half empty.
She either sees her kid as a baggage or a blessing, it all depends on how she sees it.

Our perceptions are not always reality
as long as she weighs all the risks and minimizes them.

She does sound intelligent and responsible, the fact she has a kid, isn't the end of her life.

jidegirl12: [/b]

You're confused.

@first bolded her boyfriend is watching her back

YET

@Second bolded you flipped again and rubished your whole epistle that being said Who are the 'WE' you referred to in your second bolded ?

Constructive feedback * clears throat* yeye dey smell, you'd never change.

And for those 'constructive' contributors that doubt the freebies mentioned , it's very rude to condemn what you have no freaking clue of.

People just want to hear rubbish to soothe their guilty conscience, do whatever pleases you Abeg.

@jidegirl, life is not clear cut, am not a magician or fortune teller to tell the intent of her BF
you cannot judge the boyfriend based on your feelings, the fact that a man is going through that length is a rarity, doesn't mean it cannot happen.

Sometimes you have to approach life looking at both the advantages and disadvantages, calculate your risks and make a decision.

You need to always read between the lines and not type because you can, part of mitigating her risks, was an advise that she has to make sure that at least she has 70% of the fees paid while in Naija, that way if the boyfriend pulls out, she knows she will complete the program by looking for a petty job, and work towards a sponsored PhD, and still come out with the goals she had set herself from the onset.

@poster contrary to what many have said about your boyfriend, i think he is watching your back
many people here don't know what the daycare cost here is, even working guys are complaining
what happens to you when the financial burden becomes too much
how many men here will foot a woman's school bill without being married to her?

Sometimes you have to make sacrifices to get to where you want to be and get the best for your kid.
I don't see anything wrong in you leaving your kid with his grannies while you go and better yourself for you and your kid
the only issue is will they give him back to you when you come back??

After i was born, my mom had her NCE and wanted to get her degree, she had to leave me with my grandmum (from dads side) and when she will come back, i wouldn't let her or anyone carry me.
I feel no resentments towards my mom, it is still with the job she got with the degree , that she sustained the house not too long afterwards when my dad lost his job.

Jump forward 28 yrs later, no one cares about what happened then, but the fact that we are all doing well now.

Then am sure they would have called her all sorts of name for leaving her young baby to study and wondering what kind of wife my dad married (especially when none of dads siblings were graduates).

Map out your strategy, get all your fees paid upfront(or atleast 70%) while you are still in Naija.
get your kid one of these andriod tablets or ipad, do video calls from time to time.
If you dont trust the inlaws to help with this, give it to your siblings, load it from time to time and they will visit your kid so you do these calls.
Sometimes these technologies are used to solve issues like this.

Nobody said that it was easy, but it is worth it, once you sort yourself, you can then come for your kid, am sure his granny will be willing to let him go with you especially when they know he is going to obodo oyibo.


***The reservations we have is that it is very rare for a boyfriend of 6 months to take up this challenge, We wouldn't want him to hurt you or cause more damage

mo6man: I'm in lagos, she has been in the east for the past 1 year, she just just finished her youth service and returned to lagos last 3 months,

Once i saw this i just knew it is finished.
Guy, that is not your baby, the baby is for someone else, she came back to sleep with you so that she can put the pregnancy on you.
All those crying na wetin some people go call emotional blackmail or abuse lol.

You know the truth, save your money and do only 1 more pregnancy test, if they say it is the same length of time, then she is lying.

She did her calculation , what she didn't factor in was you taking her to the hospital and the pregnancy date being revealed.

If you want to stay with her because you love her, then you are free to do it.
but you need the truth, sit her down and tell her that you will love her and take care of her and the baby, but she should tell you the truth, that if after 9 months dna says you are not, then you will leave her.

i won't advice you to marry her until after she has put to bed, as her next scheme will be to get you to marry her before the baby comes, and when that happens, guy you are tied

wifeofwhyme222: This my Oga and I became close he assisted me in many areas...yes I developed feelings 4 him. But dis was very under control I work with this man almost 24hrs of the day...and he was always dere.... he assisted me in areas that I needed my hubby 2 but he was too busy

Yeah we know, he really assisted you

wifeofwhyme222: This my Oga and I became close he assisted me in many areas...yes I developed feelings 4 him.

We certainly now know who the Oga@thetop is

wifeofwhyme222: ...he said he has never laid his fingers on me that is a lie he has belted me twice and used a shoe 2 beatme up too...simply cos I said he should cut off from dese women.

It is surprising that you say he is physically abusive and in your 17 years of knowing him, you can only count being belted twice, also so convenient that an abusive man didn't panel beat you after discovering your infidelity

wifeofwhyme222: Tell me how much can a woman take..even if I am a robbot. U all judge and insult me..calling me names that are unthinkable...u can think all u want I am not a bad wife neither am I a bad mother. He told me from the onset this marriage was a mistake now I am ready toright dat mistake I cannot continue 2 torture myself and suffer in silent. Recently I was diagnosed with high BP.. as a result of too much worry and stress. I av asked him does he wnt me 2 kill myself before he knows I am sorry?

Men don't do unto others what u cannot take he must realize dat.

@wifeofwhyme222, your husband thinks your marriage is a mistake because he had options and he choose you and you turned out to be not the quality he thought you were.
You are loud, arrogant and just obnoxious.

@whyme222, every marriage has its up and downs, you never could tell what would have happened if you had married the other ladies. But know that everything does happen for a reason, i will implore you to forgive your wife, you might want to take a break from her for a while to heal. I have never been in your position, but i know we do pray that may God forgive us as we forgive those who trespass against us

wifeofwhyme222: I slept with my colleague 2wice yes....I shouldn't av done dat I av no justification. I was depressed and needed someone 2 talk 2....we both realised what we were doing and put a stop 2 it...that period if he can be truthful my husband can testify 2 how that affected me that period.I was dying in silence cos I wanted 2 tell him. I was scared....he failed 2 mention he found out 5months after all had ended...I slept with dis man march ending..and it ended, 5months after I put 2 bed..[/b]I was wrong and I av been suffering in silence and in the open....[b]my husband failed 2 mention I had 2 travel 4 1whole week without my baby, 2 cover an assignment so as 2get money 2 the the needs of the home cos we were starving. I came back after 7days and my baby rejected my bosom milk cos she hadn't sucked 4 long. Now he said I was aving an affair and sleeping with another mab without condoms...

Dude why do i feel like Jeremy Kyle,
The sooner you get a paternity test, the better for you, forget that the baby looks like your mom

From the story i was told, my mum had to go and handle some stuffs after i was born, i was left with my grand-mum, and when she came back, i just wouldn't let her carry me, but she didn't act as you
and my dad lost his job at the birth of my younger one and my mum had to teach extra lessons and also farm and sell some of those produce to sustain the family and didn't go through your route of emotional blackmail

wifeofwhyme222: Another time still while I was pregnant dis same man didn't bathe 4 4days he was busy chatting with a woman on yahoomail..describing in details 2 2 make luv 2 a pices woman the spots 2 touch 2 set her offs lots of raw personal chats...how did I see dis? He fell asleep and I saw it...I woke hoim up asked him and he said. She is a ldy he gave a ride and she complained 2 him she can't seem 2 get pregnant 4 her hubby...pls my husband is an engineer not a therapist or a councellor...

The colleague you slept with, is he a therapist or counselor

I have read both stories and sorry woman, you are just so loose
your husband happens to be matured , were you expecting that your husband will be brandishing words with you, a man that covered your shame by not exposing your atrocity to your lovers wife??

you can't be begging your husband for 8 months if you knew he had girlfriends and was sleeping around and was also a dead beat (This is called the emotional card blackmail) Stop trying to pull the wool over our eyes

You cannot after many years start holding to something that happened when you were single
I have known many guys who had multiple Gfs and made a choice of one to get married, and once they get married, that is it.
What were you expecting, that the other girls will be happy and go without a fight??

Your husband was only here to find a solution to the predicament you put him into and not to bash you

Has anyone here had to settle a dispute between a husband and the wife,
the women tend to use the same tactics and same story line:

1) He physically abused me, and where she knows this will not stand, she starts with he abuses me emotionally (that is the new one trending)
2) He is lazy and a dead beat, doesn't provide for me bla bla bla

Women with the kind of stupid excuse they come up with to defend their stupidity.
This is the reason when a 21 year uni student is planning my life on how we will live a happy life for the rest of our lives, i tell her that it is not simply going to work, cos i have noticed this trend of women after many years calling the guy a cradle snatcher and how they took away their youth and took advantage of their naivety , even though they were the ones planning the whole thing from the onset

@Acid, just give up, i understand where you are coming from, you are trying not to condemn the poster, but also at the same time not praising her silly actions.
You are probably pissed off that she is justifying her actions
Unfortunately we are in the 21st century, where foolishness has become wisdom and people can't tell the difference, something wrong has become so normal, it is now a norm.

If I am to summarize what you are saying, it is:

You don't have any problems with her at all, she is free to do whatever she wants
but for the sake of living a life with no future regrets

1) Maintain 1 partner
2) Don't air your dirty laundry in a public forum with your face attached
3) Maintain an air of dignity by dressing decently
4) Getting drunk is not a cool feature ( well except if she is British ) and even at that it is still not cool

I think the poster is a very intelligent girl, she knows when she is wrong.

Acidosis stop drinking another patients medicine, just say your 2 cents, only time will tell if you are right
also stop trying to drum your points down, not everyone has the same assimilation level or moral standards
also don't rope yourself into unintelligent arguments, cos you might be doing this with someone 10 yrs or worse 20 yrs your junior (Imagine what that will look like if the person was standing in front of you)

@Jack, are we not saying the same thing?
how are u going to mentally un.dress the sexy seun?

NL, take time o, i typed "u ndress" and it replaced it with uncloth

i have been looking for this TV picture, abeg does anyone have a clearer one.
I was discussing with my colleagues about rentaghost and only 1 of them knew the program, the other ones were like, there is no way i could have watched the program, they kind of think there were no TVs in Nigeria and we busy ourselves climbing trees

jackbauersballs:

lies

@Jack, i don't know any guy who has picked up a scantily dressed girl and said he wants her to be his girlfriend,
but am pretty sure that if you had a girlfriend, when you toasted/chiked her, she was decently dressed or with a good sense of dressing

Jack, abeg what is the lie there??

@op, i can't say you are hottt.., but i think you are ok, you've got a nice body for your age,
based on your prior posts, i think you should slow down as the body is prone to tear and wear.
You don't want to be getting to your late 20s and your mates who should be asking your hand in marriage, will be calling you aunty.

I will tell you something no one has told you subtly,
If any guy sees you dressed like this, what we are thinking is : This looks fit to service me tonight
the next morning, we look at you and ask you when you are leaving, or find an indirect way of throwing you out

The beauty of a dress and good dressing, is that you can cover those body parts and keep the guy guessing what they look like, and after he discovers it, he could still look you in the eye and tell himself, i think i can keep her.

Guys I don't think you guys should bash her this much,
she is still a kid and learning as she grows.
she just wanted to know if she was hot or not

jackbauersballs: Calypso lips looking like something from the great abyss

OP must be a mutant with super B!J powers judging by those lips....

Lips looking like they could suck mans brains out through his dik
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This comparison cracked me up

This guy don dey craze small small.
The guy don do crazy things, so tae nobody they send am
anybody remember MJ?

Lady Winona: I'm going to give the op a benefit of doubt and believe him when he says that he doesn't expect anything in return but then isn't he contradicting himself here? Clearly, he wants something no matter how little and by dt I mean the op expecting the girl to be grateful at all times, not necessarily cos the girl likes him or anything but simply because he got her a job. Do u have any idea how frustrating that must be for the girl? To always be in perpetual gratitude even when she doesn't feel up to it? Pls, let's cut the girl some slack. To be a bigger person here, pls, stop calling her, let her be and come to you instead. That way, you are sure the relationship is reciprocal and not based on your attention or whims alone. I see no other way to have a relationship. FYI, the reason this can never happen to a fellow guy is simple. You will never find the compulsion to call or 'ask' after him or his job n pay etc like u re doing to this poor girl, and what's more, won't come here to complain about it. It's really a different world we girls live in. SMH

I can understand the guys plight, he doesn't have to want anything from a girl to be friends.
He just feels pained that she now sees him as someone with a lesser social status than her.
If I got the poster correctly, he would have wanted to still be close friends with her whether she has no cash or if she earned a million bucks a month.