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8. REPEATED ATTEMPTS BY OACDC TO ENGAGE IBEDC
OACDC did not immediately resort to regulatory or public escalation.
In keeping with our tradition as a peaceful and responsible community, we sought dialogue.
The community invited the IBEDC Business Manager responsible for the Omu-Ijebu area, Mrs. Enitan Banjo, on several occasions to meet with representatives of OACDC and the community.
The purpose of the proposed meetings was straightforward:
1. to understand why Omu-Ijebu had been moved from Band D to Band A;
2. to establish the regulatory basis for the decision;
3. to understand the feeder/service data relied upon;
4. to establish when and how the community was notified;
5. to discuss the metering arrangements; and
6. to seek an amicable resolution.
Unfortunately, despite these invitations, the requested engagement did not take place.
This has left the community without a satisfactory explanation from the local IBEDC management responsible for the area.
It is against this background that OACDC has now approached the regulator.
9. OMU-IJEBU IS A LAW-ABIDING COMMUNITY
We wish to make it abundantly clear that Omu-Ijebu is a peaceful, responsible and law-abiding community.
Our people understand the importance of paying for electricity actually consumed and of respecting electricity infrastructure.
We have no interest in encouraging electricity theft, meter bypass, vandalism, assault or confrontation with IBEDC personnel.
Indeed, we deliberately chose the lawful route of dialogue and regulatory intervention.
However, a law-abiding community must equally be protected by the law.
Respect for the law cannot be a one-way obligation imposed only on consumers.
Where a consumer is required to comply with a tariff, the service provider must equally comply with the regulatory conditions upon which that tariff is imposed.
We therefore respectfully appeal to NERC not to allow the frustration created by unresolved billing and service disputes to push peaceful citizens towards desperation.
10. OUR SPECIFIC REQUESTS TO THE COMMISSION
In view of the foregoing, OACDC respectfully requests the Nigerian Electricity Regulatory Commission to:
1. IMMEDIATELY REVIEW AND REVERSE THE MIGRATION
Direct IBEDC to return Omu-Ijebu consumers to Band D with immediate effect, pending a transparent regulatory determination of whether the requirements for upward migration were satisfied.
Alternatively, if IBEDC maintains that Omu-Ijebu qualifies for Band A, we request NERC to compel IBEDC to publicly produce the regulatory evidence upon which that classification was based.
2. CANCEL THE AUGUST 2026 BAND A CHARGES
Direct IBEDC to cancel/reverse the Band A charges imposed on Omu-Ijebu consumers for August 2026 consumption where the migration and/or service delivery is found not to have complied with the applicable regulatory requirements.
The affected customers' accounts should be restored to the proper tariff position and any excess amount already paid should be credited or refunded in accordance with NERC's rules.
3. ORDER A FORENSIC BILLING AND METERING REVIEW
Direct IBEDC to submit to NERC:
• the meter status of affected Omu-Ijebu customers;
• meter numbers and meter types;
• actual meter readings;
• estimated billing calculations where applicable;
• feeder-level supply data;
• the number of customers migrated;
• the application submitted to NERC;
• the NERC approval;
• evidence of customer notification;
• and the basis for the Band A classification.
4. VERIFY ACTUAL POWER SUPPLY TO OMU-IJEBU
Direct an independent verification of the actual hours of electricity supplied to Omu-Ijebu during August 2026 and subsequent months.
Where the required Band A service was not delivered, the appropriate tariff adjustment and/or compensation should be applied in accordance with NERC's regulatory framework.
5. PROVIDE APPROPRIATE METERS
Direct IBEDC to provide compliant smart/prepaid meters to affected customers in accordance with applicable Federal Government/NERC metering programmes before any future upward migration that requires such metering.
IBEDC itself currently states that it has an obligation to address its metering gap and has undertaken free-meter deployment initiatives, including prioritising unmetered customers on Band A feeders.
6. REQUIRE IBEDC TO ENGAGE OACDC
Direct IBEDC management to formally meet with OACDC and representatives of the Omu-Ijebu community to explain:
• the feeder classification;
• the service level;
• the tariff;
• the metering status;
• the regulatory approval;
• and the basis for the migration.
7. REQUIRE AN APOLOGY TO THE COMMUNITY
Direct IBEDC to issue an appropriate written apology to the people of Omu-Ijebu for the distress, uncertainty, financial anxiety and emotional trauma occasioned by the manner in which the matter has been handled, particularly if the Commission finds that IBEDC failed to comply with the applicable regulatory process.
8. PROTECT THE COMMUNITY FROM DISCONNECTION WHILE THE DISPUTE IS BEING DETERMINED
We respectfully request that affected consumers who formally contest the disputed Band A estimated bills should not be subjected to punitive disconnection while the regulatory dispute is being investigated.
IBEDC's own published customer-rights information recognises a customer's right to contest a bill and provides specific protection for unmetered customers disputing estimated bills.
11. REQUEST FOR REGULATORY TRANSPARENCY
We respectfully request the Commission to provide OACDC with the following information:
A. Was a formal application made by IBEDC for the upward migration of Omu-Ijebu/IDOWA 33KV_IKEN OGBO?
B. If yes, when was the application made?
C. What exact feeder/customer cluster was approved?
D. What was the average electricity supply performance used to justify the application?
E. What was the metering status of the affected customers at the time of the application?
F. Were the affected customers equipped with smart meters?
G. When did NERC approve the migration?
H. What was the approved effective date?
I. What evidence did IBEDC submit showing that customers were notified at least five days before implementation?
J. What actual average hours of electricity were supplied to Omu-Ijebu in August 2026?
K. What regulatory basis was used to issue the Band A bills carrying the ₦209.50/kWh tariff?
12. CONCLUSION
The people of Omu-Ijebu are not asking for free electricity.
We are asking for fairness, transparency, lawful regulation and payment for the level of service actually received.
We recognise the enormous challenges facing Nigeria's electricity sector and appreciate the efforts of the Federal Government and NERC to reform the industry.
However, reform must not become a justification for transferring disproportionate burdens to vulnerable communities without strict adherence to due process.
A Service-Based Tariff should be exactly what its name implies:
the tariff should be based on the service delivered.
Where a community receives Band D-level service, it should not be compelled to pay a Band A tariff merely because its classification has been changed on paper.
Omu-Ijebu has patiently endured years of inadequate electricity supply.
The community has remained peaceful.
The community has continued to respect government institutions.
The community has sought dialogue before confrontation.
We now respectfully place this matter before the Commission and trust that NERC will exercise its statutory responsibility to protect electricity consumers, enforce regulatory compliance and ensure that no Distribution Company is permitted to impose a higher service tariff without satisfying the conditions established by the regulator.
We respectfully request urgent intervention and a formal response to this petition.
We remain available to provide further documents, bills, statements from affected residents, records of community engagements and any other evidence required by the Commission.
Please accept the assurances of our highest regards.
Yours faithfully,
For: OMU AREA CENTRAL DEVELOPMENT COUNCIL (OACDC)

Mr Samuel Ogunsanya
President
Omu Area Central Development Council

Mr Surajudeen Adeyemi
Secretary
Omu Area Central Development Council
Cc:
1. The Chairman, Federal Competition and Consumer Protection Commission (FCCPC)
2. The Chairman, Odogbolu Local Government Area, Ogun State
3. The Honourable Member Representing Odogbolu State Constituency, Ogun State House of Assembly
4. The Honourable Member Representing Ijebu Ode/Odogbolu/Ijebu North East Federal Constituency, House of Representatives
5. The Senator Representing Ogun East Senatorial District, National Assembly
6. The Speaker, House of Representatives, Federal Republic of Nigeria
7. The President of the Senate, Federal Republic of Nigeria
8. The Honourable Minister of Power, Federal Republic of Nigeria
9. The Honourable Attorney-General of the Federation and Minister of Justice
10. All Print Media Houses
11. All Television and Radio Stations
12. All Online News Media

OMU AREA CENTRAL DEVELOPMENT COUNCIL (OACDC)
Omu-Ijebu, Odogbolu Local Government Area, Ogun State, Nigeria
Date: September 17th, 2026.
The Chairman
Nigerian Electricity Regulatory Commission (NERC)
Abuja, Nigeria.
Dear Sir,
PETITION AGAINST THE ARBITRARY AND PROCEDURALLY DEFECTIVE MIGRATION OF ELECTRICITY CONSUMERS IN OMU-IJEBU, ODOGBOLU LOCAL GOVERNMENT AREA, OGUN STATE, FROM BAND D TO BAND A BY IBADAN ELECTRICITY DISTRIBUTION COMPANY (IBEDC), DESPITE PERSISTENT POWER OUTAGES AND ABSENCE OF THE REQUIRED CUSTOMER ENGAGEMENT, NOTICE AND METERING CONDITIONS
We write on behalf of the good people and electricity consumers of Omu-Ijebu, Odogbolu Local Government Area of Ogun State, through the Omu Area Central Development Council (OACDC), the umbrella community development and welfare body representing the collective interests of the people of Omu-Ijebu.
This petition is made with the greatest respect for the Nigerian Electricity Regulatory Commission (NERC), the Electricity Act and the regulatory framework governing the Nigerian Electricity Supply Industry.
However, we are compelled to formally bring to the attention of the Commission what the community considers to be a serious, arbitrary and highly disturbing change in the electricity tariff classification of Omu-Ijebu consumers from Band D to Band A by the Ibadan Electricity Distribution Company Plc (IBEDC) without the transparency, customer notification, metering compliance, service delivery and community engagement which ought to accompany such an upward migration.
We are a law-abiding community. We have no desire to confront, obstruct or antagonise IBEDC or any government institution. We believe in the rule of law and the established regulatory mechanisms for resolving disputes.
It is precisely because of this commitment to lawful and peaceful resolution that, after several attempts to engage IBEDC locally, we have been left with no alternative but to bring this matter before the Commission.
1. THE REGULATORY FRAMEWORK FOR MIGRATION BETWEEN SERVICE BANDS
We respectfully draw the attention of the Commission to NERC Order NERC/2023/003 – Order on Migration of Customers and Compensation for Service Failure under the Service-Based Tariff Framework.
The Order provides a defined procedure for migration of customers/feeders between service bands.
Among other requirements, a Distribution Company seeking upward migration is required to submit to NERC:
1. the name and location of the feeder proposed for migration;
2. the metering status of the feeder;
3. evidence that the feeder has smart meters, since only feeders provided with smart meters are eligible for upward migration;
4. a report on the quality of electricity supply covering at least two weeks and establishing the feeder's eligibility;
5. the current and proposed service bands and applicable tariffs;
6. the number of customers affected;
7. the proposed effective date; and
8. other justification for the proposed migration.
The Order further provides that, following approval, all affected customers must receive notification at least five days before implementation, identifying the feeder, affected areas, current and proposed tariff/service bands. Such notification is to be made through bulk SMS and supplemented through websites and other appropriate channels. Implementation is to commence from the first day of a billing month.
OACDC therefore respectfully requests the Commission to establish whether IBEDC followed every one of these mandatory procedures before moving Omu-Ijebu consumers from Band D to Band A in August 2026.
In particular, we request NERC to verify:
• whether IBEDC submitted the required application;
• the exact feeder covered by the application;
• whether IDOWA 33KV_IKEN OGBO was specifically included;
• the metering status of the affected customers;
• whether the affected customers were equipped with the required smart meters;
• the two-week quality-of-supply report relied upon;
• the actual average hours of supply to Omu-Ijebu immediately preceding the migration;
• the number of Omu-Ijebu customers affected;
• the date of NERC's approval;
• the effective date approved by NERC; and
• the evidence showing that affected Omu-Ijebu customers were properly notified at least five days before the migration.
2. THE PROMISED SERVICE LEVEL FOR BAND A HAS NOT BEEN EXPERIENCED BY OMU-IJEBU
NERC's Service-Based Tariff framework currently defines:
Service Band Minimum daily supply
Band A 20 hours
Band B 16 hours
Band C 12 hours
Band D 8 hours
Band E 4 hours
The central question is therefore straightforward:
If Omu-Ijebu was moved to Band A, where was the corresponding Band A service?
The community experienced persistent power outages and prolonged periods of darkness during the very month in which the supposed upward migration was implemented.
August 2026, the month for which the Band A bill was subsequently issued, was characterised by continued interruptions and inadequate electricity supply in Omu-Ijebu.
It is therefore difficult for the community to reconcile the claim implicit in a Band A20H bill with the actual electricity service experienced by residents.
The community respectfully asks NERC to independently obtain and examine the feeder-level supply data for Omu-Ijebu for August 2026 rather than relying solely on IBEDC's billing classification.
If the required Band A service was not delivered, the Commission should apply the appropriate service-failure and compensation provisions of the regulatory framework. NERC itself states that where the committed service level is not delivered, the applicable tariff can be adjusted following regulatory verification.
3. THE ATTACHED BILLS PROVIDE EVIDENCE OF THE ABRUPT CHANGE
We attach, as documentary evidence, copies of two successive IBEDC bills relating to the same account/feeder.
The first is the August 2026 bill for July 2026 consumption, which identifies the customer as being on:
Band D8
with a tariff of:
₦32.44/kWh
The following bill, being the September 2026 bill for August 2026 consumption, suddenly identifies the same customer/feeder as:
Band A20H
at:
₦209.50/kWh.
The second bill shows 207 kWh of "Fixed" units, with zero present and previous meter readings and no meter number displayed.
The resulting current charge is:
₦46,618.99
while the total amount due shown on the bill is:
₦65,777.84.
This is not merely a marginal adjustment.
The energy tariff increased from ₦32.44/kWh to ₦209.50/kWh — approximately 6.46 times the previous rate.
For a quiet, predominantly residential and agrarian community with many elderly and retired residents, such an abrupt financial burden, imposed without adequate explanation or demonstrated improvement in electricity supply, is deeply troubling.
The community therefore asks NERC to determine whether this billing was lawful, properly authorised and consistent with the applicable tariff and customer-protection regulations.
4. THE METERING ISSUE REQUIRES URGENT REGULATORY INVESTIGATION
This aspect of the matter is particularly important.
The attached bills do not display actual meter readings. Instead, they show:
• Present Reading: 0.0
• Previous Reading: 0.0
• Units Used: Fixed
• Meter No.: apparently blank.
IBEDC itself publishes customer rights stating that customers have a right to a properly installed and functional meter, transparent electricity billing and proper information about electricity services. It further states that unmetered customers must be billed strictly in accordance with NERC's estimated-billing methodology.
More importantly, NERC Order NERC/2023/003 provides that only feeders provided with smart meters are eligible for upward migration.
We therefore respectfully ask the Commission to investigate how an account apparently still being billed on a fixed/unmetered basis could be subjected to an upward migration into Band A.
For avoidance of doubt, our complaint is not based merely on the fact that the customer was not issued a prepaid meter. Rather, our complaint is that the regulatory metering requirements applicable to upward migration appear not to have been satisfied, and the bills themselves raise serious questions about whether the consumption was based on actual meter readings.
We therefore request NERC to direct IBEDC to produce the complete metering and billing records for the affected customers.
5. ABSENCE OF ADEQUATE NOTICE TO THE COMMUNITY
NERC's migration order requires affected customers to be notified at least five days before implementation, with information about the feeder, affected areas and current and proposed tariff/service bands.
The people of Omu-Ijebu were not, to the best of OACDC's knowledge and records, given the required meaningful notice or community-level explanation before the change.
There was no adequate public engagement explaining:
• why Omu-Ijebu was being moved;
• the feeder involved;
• the new tariff;
• the expected daily supply;
• the effective date;
• the basis for the classification;
• the metering arrangements; or
• the mechanism for challenging the decision.
This lack of communication is particularly disturbing given the magnitude of the financial consequences.
IBEDC's own published customer-rights statement recognises the right of customers to be properly informed and educated on electricity service and to receive transparent billing.
6. OMU-IJEBU'S COMMUNITY PROFILE DOES NOT SUPPORT AN UNEXPLAINED BAND A BURDEN
Omu-Ijebu is not a major industrial or heavily commercialised urban centre.
It is a relatively quiet and sparsely populated agrarian community whose residents are predominantly engaged in farming, small-scale commerce and other modest economic activities.
The community has a significant population of aged and retired persons whose electricity consumption patterns and financial capacities are materially different from those of densely populated commercial and industrial areas.
We recognise that NERC's formal migration order is primarily feeder/service based and does not list population density or commercial capacity as standalone legal tests for Band A classification.
Nevertheless, these realities are relevant to the Commission's assessment of:
• electricity demand;
• consumption patterns;
• commercial load;
• network utilisation;
• customer vulnerability;
• affordability;
• and whether the community has genuinely received the enhanced service level that would justify the higher tariff.
We therefore urge NERC to examine the actual feeder data rather than relying simply on a broad feeder designation.
7. THE COMMUNITY'S EXPERIENCE IN AUGUST 2026 CONTRADICTED THE BAND A CLASSIFICATION
The most disturbing aspect of the matter is the timing.
The community was moved to the higher tariff category at a time when it was still experiencing serious electricity supply challenges.
In other words:
The price was increased first, while the promised quality of service was not correspondingly experienced.
The people of Omu-Ijebu consequently felt that they were being required to pay for a level of electricity service which they were not receiving.
This is precisely the kind of situation for which the Service-Based Tariff framework was established — to ensure that the tariff paid by customers corresponds with the quality and availability of electricity delivered. NERC describes the SBT framework as one in which tariffs should reflect the level of service actually delivered.

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There is no where it is stated in the bible that you can only marry one wife, neither is there anywhere in the bible where it is stated that you should divorce your wives after accepting christ.

Daejumong:
Hi Daejumong, I am a new Christian convert with 4 wives! My pastor said I need to send three of my women away except the first wife! He said it is called restitution and it’s important for my new life in Christ!

My wives have all given their lives to Christ as well and I love them and not keen on sending any of them away.
I am a 38yr old man living in the northern part of Nigeria and I used to be a Muslim .

Sir, what should I do? Can’t I keep all of them and we all serve God together?

englishmart:
You may not understand how blessed you are if you're from a family like this.

Before you can claim this kind of trust that doesn't make them ask questions, are you trustworthy yourself.
Are you the type who borrows and never pay back?
Are you the type who never shows appreciation for things because you feel entitled?
Are you the type known for blowing money on things that don't make sense despite knowing that people who borrowed you the money are also struggling themselves?

Before you say your family is this and that, vet yourself first and make an unbiased assessment and submission.

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TruthsFM:
Hebert too was young. I don’t think he reach 50 years of age?

herbert should be 56 0r 58

you should thank your stars that you met her, go to elders in your village and ask for certain prayers and offerings you need to make to fully maximize the potentials that your relationship with her offers. put everything on the table from the beginning to let her know where you're going and try as much as possible to faithful to your own conscience.

don't let anyone use religious jingoism or crass naivety to confuse, if your stars align and she is truly what she claims and she loves you, you have everything to gain if you are not the lazy type.

Note: they can be overtly jealous, stubborn and protective, that's why you need to wisely and maturely handle every situation that arises between you.

cheers!!!

will divide the land into six portions for easy accountability, one portion will be for animal Husbandry where I will raise goats, chickens, cows, sheep, ram, snails and fish if there's a flowing river nearby. one portion will be for planting cereals like corn, millet, wheat etc. one portion will be for plantain and banana farming, one portion for yam, potatoes and cassava farming, one portion for palm oil farming, last portion will be split to plant things like pineapple, oranges, mango, watermelon, melon, cucumber, pepper, tomatoes onions etc. and a small part of the land will be used to build food processing factory so that the farm can be an end to end production house.

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if people pay attention to details just as you have pointed out, we should all bury our heads in shame rather than applauding a 4th place finish.
Note: I am not condemning the athletes themselves, for everything they have been able to achieve thus far is by personal effort which the Nigerian nation still manages to frustrate every step along the way, for I can imagine the psychological impact the disqualification of ten of their colleagues would had on them.

szczescie:
Shame suppose catch Una

Africans and Nigerians in particular are shameless

Nearly cannot kill a bird

Nigeria at Tokyo Olympics 0-0-0

Bermuda island at Tokyo Olympics 1-0-1

Bermuda a tiny poor island nation sent only 2 athletes to Tokyo Olympics

They won 1 Gold, 1 bronze

You with your shameless 200million people yet just less than 30 reps at the Olympics still nothing to show for it, even one bronze you haven't seen its noise you are good at making, shame suppose to make you keep quiet but no shame so you keep making noise anyhow.

if you love your children and yourself, the best time to send her away is now. if you make the mistake of getting her pregnant, you might live with regrets for the rest of your life. plus even though I don't know her story quite well, but I have seen enough situations to know that her husband didn't abandon her as she claimed. you will soon know the truth, but let's hope it is not too late then.

family6644:
I need serious advise from experienced nairalanders, please forgive my lengthy message because it requires detailed explanations.

I lost my wife exactly 3 months ago, 4 years of relationship and 13 years of marriage with her before she passed on, she left behind 3kids, 13yr old girl 7yr and 3yr old boys. I understand marriages are full of their challenges but we have been through the journey and we came out victorious having a loving and happy home, a union other partners appreciates.

My late wife was so organized and we trainned my kids to be independent while she travels on local business trips. So I just needed to continue our family habit of buying and stocking everything at home while they manage themselves with the help of an older maid who has been part of the family for many years, in short, we are faring quite well as I continue to mourn my wife and carry on with life.

Here is the problem, from a lot of condolence messages coming in on my Facebook, I had the chance to reply some of them 2weeks ago, I met this single mother of two who invited my kids to her daughter's birthday party, i was reluctant but she said it is time to start taking the kids out since they are yet to resume school, exactly what they needed at that point was the usual outing which has been missing for a while since their mother's sickness and after her demise, approx 6months in total. She said it's not a loud party that she needed only my kids for the small sitting room party.

I decided, went to the party with the kids, it was fun for the kids, I have not seen them happy like that in a long while, it made me happy too, they fell in love with the two sisters and their mother all like a miracle, my little 3year old boy started calling her mommy, others follow and it all seem like a family reunion. We left late at night with her girls asking that they meet again the next day which was a Sunday. To cut it short, my kids and hers agreed to meet the next day except for me. To be honest, the lady is a nice and lovely person to be with, she's a realtor who can work from home, she's real and beautiful, she has been a single mother for 4yrs after her husband travelled out and abandoned them to marry another woman, that's according to her.

She called me that her kids could not allow her rest, they said if we can't come, she should bring them to our house, I mildly rejected but i was persuaded by my daughter and my first son to have them around, I could see that they have bonded quite well, I want my kids to be happy too, that's what I have always wanted for them so I agreed and gave them our address. To cut the story short, I find it impossible to separate the two families that has come together to become one, when they were leaving back to their house my kids pleaded with me to allow them go with mommy to her house, I understand that is real because she's lovely with kids. I had the confidence to trust my kids with someone for the first time in my life. They didn't want to come back, I had to go and pick them up the next day, all of them made sure they came back home with me, we started living together as a family and everyone was enjoying it.

It became an automatic affair with her, I was worried about it been too early, I had to involve few of my friends to seek opinions, some were happy that i could get a good mother for my kids this soon, others asked me to stop the family union and give it a little time to study her character. I suggested some space but she felt very bad, she thinks I am sending them away. I had to allow them stay while I use the opportunity to observe the new found love and family.

12days after, I realize that in a bid to reorganize me and help me to move ahead in life, she totally disregards anything that concerns my late wife whom I still hold dear to my heart, same as my daughter and my adopted daughter, I don't like to address her as a maid. We loved and cherished my late wife, everything she introduced seems to be strange to the norms of the family. If I try to raise my concerns for her to adjust, she will simply tell me that the dead is dead and I should just forget everything about her including whatever she stood for as a mother and wife.

If I try to talk some senses into her to make her understand that brooding over the dead is different from honouring and respecting the deseased, she gets really angry claiming I am comparing her with a dead person. Whatever she discovers as our way of doing things in the family she disregards it and replaces it with her own way without minding how we feel as a family or how easy or difficult it is for us to adjust.

It looks like we are the only ones tolerating and accommodating them here, I have tried with no avail to stop her from insulting the memory of my late wife. I discussed with each and everyone at home, they all wish I could perform a miracle to have them leave because no one can tolerate the mother and kids anymore, I am equally fed up myself and willing to take a break.

I have a friend who is aware of my problems with her, he told me that I am the problem here, he said it will be hard for any woman to fit into our family way of doing things and it will be difficult for us to cope with a different way of life introduced by another woman.

I hope I can get one or two advices that could help. I am quite confused

The Nigerian army rebutal shows that they are smart by half, is it true that the north east got a total of 61 recruit instead of 50 if we are to go by the analysis of 8 candidate per states and the extra 2 added to the other geo political zone. note that there are six states in the northeast.

is it also through that the northwest got 64 candidates instead of 58 that they are entitled to based on the analysis in the rebuttal because there are seven states in the northwest and 7*8=56+2=58.

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either present or not, his mother-in-law has no right to do anything concerning his child without his express permission.

to the guy, you are the one that knows where the shoe pinches in your relationship, but you have to consider several factors before making your final decision, in the meantime, you can ignore everyone and be alone to clear your head and know what you want to do next. childs naming can be done anytime you feel you're ready, just let them know that they can't give name your child as anything they do in that regards is a waste of their time.

I, like many people here may not understand exactly how you feel because scenarios will always be different, but having been in and survived a suffocating relationship, I will only say do what is best for your sanity and be truthful to yourself when answering the questions as to why you don't want her anymore. But above all know that time and patience resolves a lot of things, don't loose a diamond while picking up stones.

chatinent:
You wanted to divorce her because of her mother. Her own mother!


You have been looking for a credible reason to cling unto for the break up.



Now, you see this as a stronghold, hence you deploy traditional rites.


Whatever happened to “for better for worse.”


It is a detestable thing to me reading comments from men who feel are always right in relationships. Have you taken a break and reasoned things from her angle?

You weren't present on the day of delivery due to some personal reasons of yours, fine. Why the rules over the placenta?

Ok, I understand the rites. They should keep the placenta for you till the month you decide to reconcile with your wife?


Which family in disunity will allow the husband's people to come and boss around in the time of delivery when the husband himself didn't show up?


How do you expect a woman to hate her mother because of you!


Even if there are things you don't like, set things straight amicably; you are only a husband not a god!

You are a mere man feeling principled. Release the twist.


Sorry, I don't mince words.

a lot of people are blaming the lady without understanding her plight. she is 40 now, meaning she was married off at 15, deprived of proper childhood and teenage experiences. now she's a full blown woman who just wants to assert herself, it's not just about the money and don't be quick to use your Nigerian poverty stricken to judge her, there might not be any side cock anywhere, every human being desire and deserved to be free

it is shocking to see Nigerians who come online everyday to talk about Yorexit, Biafrexit etc which is simply a demand for freedom from a forced marriage coming here to judge without thinking deeply.

ON THOSE WHO MARCHED FOR LAYCON IN THE NAME OF OGUN YOUTHS

It shows how senseless we've become as a nation and as an organization. And to think this is happening in my state makes it doubly disgusting. When custom officers were killing innocent youths, secondary and primary school pupils at the border towns between Ogun/benin Republic did Ogun Youth March?
When herdsmen are rampaging and killing our people in parts of Imeko, Ogun/Oyo borders around mamu, ogere, Oru Ago Iwoye axis and rather than face the issue some power brokers were even suppressing it from making the news, did Ogun Youth march?

When police officers in the name of SARS /Efcc were marauding our streets and cutting short the life's of young and promising innocent talent, did Ogun Youth march?

When Ogun Youth were representing at cowbellpedia or when they were manufacturing Covid test kits at FPI, OOU and some other places did Ogun Youth March to drum support for them?

We are shamelessly bereft of ideas, that's why we can be proud of this nonsense when youths in Egypt are currently marching for good governance. The youths in Mali saw to the end of a non performing government.

And don't dare say you can also organise your own March for what you believe if you are not comfortable with this one. Check my records out, some of which are here on zuckerville, I have always been organizing, leading, joining and supporting marches for a better Nigeria consistently in the last 20years.

Who cursed us?

By Oluayan1

With this write up, bro Femi has shown that he is the worse mediocre ass licking praise singer out there and a forgetful one at that.

He forgot to mention that 70% or more of all the projects he mentioned were approved during the previous administration with Nigeria having fully paid their counterpart funds for many of the projects that were JV before the last administration handed over to them and they just took delivery of the already paid for materials when they came in.

I don't have time to respond in detail to such an egbon who was once a beacon of excellence that some of us used to look up to, only to sell his integrity for a pot of porridge.

If e sure for them that they're doing well, why are they not holding press conferences and allow real journalists and not those they've given brown envelope to to grill their government from time to time, why are they trying to gag the media under the guise of NBC code?

A country and its value system

It is no longer news that the founder of facebook visited Nigeria yesterday. As expected, every tweets, instagram feeds and of course facebook post was all about this young, gifted but humble man who though is about same age with me, but has achieved and touched more lives positively than I can ever imagine to touch in a life time (though i know there is room for overtaking). But in this brief peace, though i know I can't exhaust all the ways Mark Zuckerberg challenged our value system as a people, but I will touch on the few one's that quickly comes to mind.

1. Mode of entry: he came in silently (like the biblical thief in the night) without much fanfare and noise, that I am tempted (a) to believe he doesn't trust the Nigerian security apparatus to give him adequate protection and therefore believes the best bet is for him to sneak in and before any kidnapper or other person who might have ulterior harmful plans towards him could strategize, he would have been long gone. (b) he was raised with a value system that understands that (in alhaji Alabi Pasuma's word "ariwo ko ni music) noise is not music. Compared to some Nigerian bloggers who just because they have about 2million participants on their platform will not allow us to rest with silly and unnecessary information just because they want to come from Lagos to Abuja and even sometimes from Lagos island to mainland.

2. Mode of dressing: it is not new to see a yahoo boy who just swindled someone of $500 to be dressed in dog chain, sagging his trouser (showing of a dirty boxer short ), thinking he has arrived having spent all the money on clothes and fake bling bling with an unkempt dreadlocks. But here is a man worth $54billion, yet dressed in something not up to $500 (he's not even wearing a wristwatch). (a) apart from yahoo boys, you also see some banks and so call fortune 500 companies whose total asset is not up to $10billion and the will be using dressing, age, ethno-religious affiliations etc. instead of content of the applicants head, to judge during recruitment exercise. No wonder many companies have lost the service of geniuses they ought to have employed and have settled for average performers who knows how to dress or speak to impress (I am putting this one in because all my classmates who are first class students are not good dressers and I habe observed them ober time that they perform better when they dress simple than when they dress to impress)

3. Mode of meeting people: while a Nigerian local government chairman or governor (just because he has managed to acquire $50million through fraudulent means) will be disturbing our peace with siren when passing by our neighborhood, just to get our attention. This $54billion dollar clean money trekked the streets of Yaba, Lagos without heavy police escort, and met everyday people doing what they know how to do best at CC HUB, ANDELA Nigeria and a few other places.

There are many other things to consider, in his coming to the most populous black nation on earth (at least we know his visit is not a charity case visit, its a visit to explore the brimming technology potential that is written all over the walls of the country, but our clueless leaders couldn't see. And instead of investing in it are asking our youths to go back to farm. (N.B. non of the top 20 economically vibrant countries in the world is an agrarian economy, but thats a talk for another day)).

The difference i see between Mark Zuckerberg and all that I have compared him with is the value system of the environment where they grew up. Nobody will give you preferential treatment in most western countries because you're a rich man, neither do they have time to be drooling at your feet, because higher percentage of them too are gainfully employed and so don't have time for nonsense, reversed is the case here. The value system here taught many of us that except you show off, you won't be accepted, that's why you see many young couples go into heavy debts just to put up a show stopping wedding, and also some borrow to by aso ebi while neglecting children school fees. The value system here don't care where and how you got the sudden wealth, all they want is, jusy get the money. That's why Nigerian youths will come online to celebrate thiefs who are bleeding the economy dry because of their ethnic or religious affiliations to such thiefs.

If we must see the radical and progressive change we desire to see in Nigeria the first place to start from is a change in our value system. We must stop honouring a thief or a tyrant because we share the same ethnic or religious affiliations. We must learn to call a thief a thief and a tyrant a tyrant instead of celebrating their shenanigans. We must begin to let our conscience instead of our sentiments to guide us when addressing personal or national issue. Until we start re orientating ourselves on the positive values we must hold dear, values such as hardwork, probity, accountability, meritocracy, dignity of Labour etc we are going nowhere as a nation, I rest my case for now.

Ayannuga Olugbenga Paul aka Oluayan1 writes from Bissaula in Taraba state, northeast Nigeria
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