Fatbam005:
How do you explain running into debt, selling property, and even suicidal thoughts, yet he keeps returning? Do you think the person is acting on his own will? You are a joker to think addiction is normal and a person can just decide to stop at best give him time, he will surely go back there

Freedomseeker:
thanks for your comment but you're just been negative, there are some people who have been into this for years but I'm just months counted which I'm working really hard on quiting, well you might have a point for your comment but I'm being positive and strongly believe I will pull out and share a good testimony when I'm finally out by God's grace

Deew22:
For me, I drive a benz c230 2006 which uses a v6 engine, after working on my spark plugs, I am getting 20mpg. I had a scan and it showed that the O2 sensors are also bad, I'm planning to change them soon. Hopefully I get a better mpg cos this fuel price no be for here o

PaigeTaylor:
Hello house. I'm too angry to type. Been married for 10 years with a kid. 10 long hard years.

He always assures me and portrays himself as a faithful man. I have never suspected him of committing adultery, not because he's not capable, but because I wanted to give him benefit of doubt. I wanted trust to be in my marriage because I'm extremely faithful to him. He disvirgined me on my wedding night.

But he does A LOT of flirting on social media. Passwords his phone from me. This has caused a lot of problems between us, almost leading to marriage break up many times, until people advised me to stay off his phone, which I did. I lost my job since February and have been unable to get another one.

Now I'm learning some soft skills online, using my phone but it got to a point where I couldn't proceed because it's an old phone. I told him yesterday morning that I would love to use his phone, he said ok when he returned from work.

Only for me to go to his browser to enter a website address, I started seeing past searches from him.
LOVE SMS YOU CAN SEND TO UR CRUSH
LOVE MESSAGES YOU CAN SEND TO UR EX GIRLFRIEND.

The one that shook me to the bone is, HOW TO SEDUCE MY SISTER INLAW.

She came to visit two weeks back. She is very beautiful and plump and he has always told me he had a crush on her. So I know.
And those internet searches are RECENT.

I feel so disgusted by his presence now, so much that I don't allow his body to touch mine on bed. I feel for my daughter, she's just 6 years and I don't have any money to take care of her. He doesn't take care of me either, but I have put up with him, I have struggled and suffered with him all these years. Only to see this on his phone. I'm beyond depressed.

He's talking of us celebrating our 10 years anniversary by December and thinking of inviting few family and friends. BUT I'M NOT INTERESTED. The love is dead. I've been played all along.

HOW WILL I HANDLE THIS?

uwuana:
Good day fellow nairaland, please I have some Pressing issues on my neck that am trying to laid off, but the more I tried the more a new chapter will open.
5 years ago when I married My wife, my life was in total mess, things was so difficult for me as of then, I was working under contract in a company and the salary was just a peanut, I was staying in a face me apartment, that was when I get to know this family, when my wife give birth to our first child everywhere was rough and tough for me I couldn't even afford the hospital bill because I haven't received salary for two months with the company new policy, well it was this woman my neighbor wife that borrowed me the money to pay, I was so happy and pray for her that for this good she did for me God will answer her secret prayers.well things wasn't going well and my wife suggest I should quit my job that we should relocate to her place in the Niger Delta, I told to have patience that I have a feeling that the job am doing will pave way and things will work out fine, things started to get better and I was able to get a self con apartment and we moved in and left my neighbor in the face me compound, after two years my wife said she going to her place to start up a business, I tried to persuade her to stay but she refused,by December last year I gathered all I have and gave her to go. Well things changed and by January this year a new announcement was made in the company am working, it's no more contract, the contractor was sacked and am the new person in charge of my session and there was huge increase in salary, I was so happy and rejoicing, me that was collecting 35k and now 120k, I called my wife and asked her to come back but she refused, she said business is booming she can't leave it and come back, that she can only visit when the kids have holidays, well by March this year I was able to get new and comfortable place, I moved in.
On Easter day I had a visitors, it was my former neighbor wife and one of her sister, she said she has been to my former place but she was informed I parked out and my former landlord directed her here, I was so happy to see her,we exchange greetings and I offered them what I cooked, she asked about my wife if she has made up her mind to come back, I said no, after all the jolly and merriment they left, I went their place the next Sunday to greet them, everything is not alright, I can see the anger in her face, I met them on a family meeting, I had to leave, she later came to my place in the evening and explain everything that's is going on to me, she said she has been living in sorry and pain see I knew her in that compound, she asked me if wife didn't tell me anything about it I said no, she said she was the bread winner of the family, she the one paying the all the bills including rent and the children school fee's, the husband is a okada rider,he collect the bike on higher purchased, and he doesn't bring anything back to the family, this has been going on like that for all those years and she can't continue again because the Man want to kill her before her time with four children, that was why she called for the family meeting, she was telling me all this things things with tears rolling from her eyes, I told her to stop crying that everything will be alright, after she left I called my wife and asked her if what her friend said is true, she said yes,I was shocked and I started thinking what to do to assist her, I called her and she came to my place, I gave her 20k, she was so happy and thanked me very much, but I didn't inform my wife about the money I gave her friend, later on I started feeling lonely since my wife is around the thought of this woman is always on my head, I tried to fight it but e no work, she came visit one day and she told me she not a kid that I should tell her what's in my mind, I was confused, I thought about the respect and other things I said no to myself,I couldn't say out, she told me she has the same feelings for me, that am the source of her happiness,we both kiss each other, since then our relationship has become something so strong that I can't even break, the more I tried to break it the more it becomes stronger, she has been coming to me steadily and giving me sex, she said her body is mine, and I have been assisting, I helped to pay the rent and children school fee's last term, I talked to her yesterday that what we are doing is not good, how does she feel sleeping with her best friend husband, she said she thought about it also but she can't control it that she doesn't have any feelings for her husband again, that if I leave her she will die, because I have been the one carrying all this burden for her, please advise me what to do to stop This so that she won't get hurt,

ADURA123:


No...this I can swear with anything...she is not just meeting my sexual needs, simple, she complained I have too much sex drive and she is not ready to be killed.

ADURA123:


I am not divorcing to remarry, I want to be alone and be free. Thank you

Skyview01:


Let her put together a business plan for small things like selling that she would like to do and approach relatives, church members, or even friends, I tend to take you seriously when you have a seriously researched business plan.

Ask for help with your plan. As an adult, you should always have a plan of how to take yourself from one level to the other.

Begging to solve your current problem will not solve the problems in the long run and you learn nothing from the process.

I actually wanted her to be selling drinks( soft drinks) but it all takes money bro. She actually studied Agronomy from Unilag but no good job at the moment and life isn't funny.

Life at times will push you too hard to the point that you would looks stupid but I pray to have a total solution to all these for the sake of my children so they won't be a burden to the society.

I really want thank you for you love and care despite the fact that you don't know me neither have you met with me in person.

God bless you.

Nwodosis:

I believe you, we the APC card carrying members will continue buying at the old rate once we fash our membership card, it will favour us and our families. Tinubu =4+4=8!

Nataliace:
The younger brother to my husband occasionally comes to visit us. My husband takes good care of him and support his business dealings.

He trusts his brother that he can travel for weeks leaving us together.

Recently my brother in-law's movement towards me changed.

He sometimes rub his hands on my back as if he was just being friendly. He made strange and unusual move towards me several times and I was uncomfortable with that.

I warned him that if he doesn't stop I will report to my husband.

My husband travelled last week and his brother has begun his behaviors of unexpectedly touching my body and showing up in my room or just following me to the kitchen whenever I am preparing meal.

I thought of reporting to his brother but I don't want to be the reason they will be enemies for life.

How do I stop him so this remain between two of us?

This is sincerely becoming unbearable.

Childfree:


100k is stopping the doctors from performing the operation abi

Childfree:
A thread of yours dated 19th January, you were narrating that you were having a problem with your side chic

A thread of yours dated January 27th you were soliciting for help that your wife needs CS(105k) and that you don't have money. How do you people even sleep at night or reason? You no even get 100k for account, your wife is pregnant, your aren't even that rich or earn huge yet you dey even do side chic, how unserious can it get?

Luckily someone offset the bill for you.

Now this one again.

You said It started months ago so you folded your hands and watch it till it gets to this size and stage?

I wonder how you think and do your things? How comes just 100k operation is a problem for you regarding something that was there for months?

You don't earn, work or what?

werisetogether:
Salute your courage for sharing

But have you considered the option of starting your fundraising from your extended family?

You may raise more funds faster that way instead of appealing to total strangers on Nairaland

All the best

You are on point bro, but I have one of the most useless family on Earth. In family I have former SSG, former Local government Chairman and even CSP but they won't help you. They would rather help outsiders. Am 100% they are reading this write-up.

ahnie:
Take him to a govt hospital.in delta state 0-5 get free medical with cost covered by the state.everything is free of charge

Battlefield2:
Seriously, I'm pained right now,how can one decide to be stvpid and senseless at the same time
Before I begin, I swear to God who made me, this is not a lie,this is a true story....The story may seem long

So I have this friend, a close friend that works in a bank in Lag, he lives In his family house because his parents are late and he earns 70k plus,though he complains every now and then that the salary isn't much, if he collects salary by month end, before the 10th of the following month,he is already calling me for help on transports and all that and once in a while I help him with 1k or 2k to take transports and all that.

Last weekend,he was discussing with me on WhatsApp about car washing business,telling me it's lucrative and all those....I didn't pay much attention to it until he called me on Thursday and started crying...I asked him the problem,he told me a cousin of his sweet talk him into car washing business that it is lucrative and he can earn as much as 5k a day washing cars and he dropped the bombshell

He told me he sent in his resignation letter on Monday and Parked out of his family house telling those ones that he has been transferred to another branch, he moved to the one room apartment the car washing company provided to him n 3 other guys and started work. He said he hoped in his mind that if he can make 5k a day, he can save as much as 3-4k daily and that is a big improvement to the bank work

The reason for the lamentations now was things are not the way his cousin told him,he said since last week Monday up till this moment, they have only washed maximum of 3 cars per day and at the end of the day, the owner only gives them 5h each in which he used for eating. I requested for video call on Sunday and he is seriously looking lean and unkempt

He apologized that he didn't seek an advice from me or anyone before taking that bold move, he told me he is seriously depressed and wants me to profer a solution to him

Problem now is,he told me he is ready to quit the work and come to a different state that I am in other to restrategize.....I don't know what to tell him because I don't have much too and I'm struggling too because I'm sure if he comes,I will be fully responsible for feeding and all that
Moreso,I can't tell him "No" because right now,he has no where to go,his parents are late and he has already packed out of his family house rendering him homeless,moreso he is my very good friend

So I seek an advise from you all
Pls advise me, I'm confused!

sixtus3606:


Where in Lagos? Send me a PM.

Antichristus:

GRADUATE? OF WHICH UNIVERSITY OR DO PEOPLE GRADUATE FROM LEARNING TRADES THESE DAYS?

PrinceGallant:

He did not even know how to lie

Untube:


Your mummy kicked you out coz you behave like bush boy🙄

Not because of that, she still sees your dad in you, maybe you resemble your dad.

At times, you forget about people's mistake and focus on yourself. Let me tell you a short story. There was this woman that always brings her two sons to my house every



Saturday, she comes to wash clothes and clean up the house. I like her kids coz they are smart and intelligent. I always allow the kid to come inside to play with my kids, eat and when they are leaving, I will give them gifts. She came one day without the kids, I asked her and she told me that she had issue with her husband, and the husband took her kids to village without her knowledge.

She is from akwa ibom, the husband is from Benin. She did everything possible to have her kids back but the husband's family refused. She reported to police station, but she don't have funds to mobilize them. They even threaten her with juju. Now she gave up, she settled with her husband but the husband still refused to bring back the kids.

The husband story was that both of them are struggling, can't afford to feed, the reason he conclude to take the kids to his parents in the village for proper feeding and care.

You see ehn life happens, if you scale through, forgive all the parties involved so that you will have peace of mind to enjoy your life, and also have no case to answer before the Almighty God.

Forgive your dad if he is still alive, make peace with him. When you close to him, you will see clearer pictures of what really happened that leaders to sending you and your sis to village. I wish you all the best in life

JetApartment:


Your story is filled with half baked lies, you said you and your elder sister (6 years old) in the second paragraph but her age reduced to 5 years old before the end of the story...Chai!

You also claim you started tapping palmwine at age 5...haba did your parents who were based in Lagos started teaching you how to tap palmwine in your mother's womb?

sixtus3606:


Omo...this story is quite painful. Honestly. Are you currently in Lagos?

peretei2024:


Don't pray for life to push you too hard

Gentlesoul2021:


As I saw that part, I knew the story is all shade of rubbish.... Weyrey fit climb high tree at age 5

VinnyBaba:


OP,

Ur story is NOT well constructed.😒

Starting Tapping wine @Age 5 or 6 and selling it to make money.

Hope no be LIES you dey blow for here? 😏😕

Nice2023:
Even me,I can't forgive such a stupid mother.

It is even irresponsible of ur dad to be far away from u.

U must be unfortunate to have such a wicked parents,there is simply no witchcraft that is greater than this honestly.

Pls,be consoled and be kind to ur children. U are a typical example of what it means to survive this world.

Don't argue with that fool up there anymore...his own would have been worse off if he were u.

It is easy for them to appear good online but devil in their closets.

Wodu89:
You are holding on to grudge that's how many years old now please ? You have two children plus youre now an adult. Meaning up to 20-25 years old situation?


Na wa o