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4theloveofkj:
Would the marriage take place now or can it happen later in future? Because we are both young and there are complications (his mother is very controlling and she doesn’t want him to take responsibility) meaning if I marry him she will always be around that’s why I wanted to find out if it has to happen.

As you earlier mentioned that your baby daddy father is aware of your relationship with his son. This is good. Now, if you both consider yourselves too young and not yet ready for marriage. No need rushing or enforcing it, it is very important both of you have to be sure you really love and care for each other.

About the mother controlling her son is very normal, most African mothers behave that way to there sons. Her worries maybe the following:

1) She's sees you both too young
2) Her son still needs to accomplish lot in life to become independent before having a wife.
3) Also maybe your not nice, respectful and calm to her.

For now, focus on your future and the baby. keep good relationship with your baby daddy. If he truly loves and want you, he will settle the difference between his mother and you.

If you also have good communication with your baby daddy father, keep it good. And for his mother just be calm and respectful.

Don't be scared, worried or filled with regrets, the deed has been done. You still have got alot more to live for.

I wish you well

4theloveofkj:
No I’m not Nigerian. Thank you so much for the information. His family knows about me because we were in a relationship for a while and his father approved of me. Does this mean we have to marry or everything is still ok?

Yes, you need to be married to your baby father as a proof. This signify to his people that your his legal wife and his child will have rights in his family.
Without legal marriage and during unforseen circumstances to your baby father (death) , his immediate and extended family may still deny you and your child major rights to the family.

Moreover for the future of the male child it will be right thing to get married. Unless you plan to cut off your child from his father origin. This might not turn out well in future.

4theloveofkj:
If you’re going to leave negative comments, do not bother yourself.

I am asking what generally happens between families when a child is born out of wedlock to young parents in their 20’s because the father of my child is Nigerian (we aren’t together at the moment), and I don’t know what else is expected within his culture, since I want to be respectful and know what to expect. What expectations are there, and what arrangements are typically made? What traditions do Yoruba people have when a male child is born besides naming ceremony and baby dedication, or what else do I need to know for when those events take place? I’m trying to educate myself. Thank you

Op, I guess your not a Nigerian? Well after naming and baby dedication at the church in the presence of your baby father and 2 or 3 of his well known relatives. The Yorubas believe the first male child of a man becomes his leading heir. So long the man is married to the baby mother, they both become recognized in the man extended and immediate family.

If your yet to be identified by the man family please do so, to avoid you and your child been called outcasts. I hope this helps you

What's the big deal, they paid for the goods and service. To book first class as got lot of benefits. One of it, is what they are enjoying now.

But wait oo, If the passengers don't take them, who will? it's paining the staff no take home for that day.

Poor dude, he might have died of High Blood pressure due to worry and relationship stress. When you start engaging into responsibilities that are beyond you, the dying process begins slowly. And then one day you just give up, can't take it anymore.

Lessons
1) Never initiate what you can not handle and finish.
2) You reap what you sow.
3) Not all that glitters is gold.
4) Love with your head intact not with your emotions.

Poor lady, she now got herself a brand new name for life. Baby Daddy Killer!!!

So Rest in peace to the dead, life goes on for the living.

Shalomdee:
Thanks for all your comments so far but the reason why the girl in question is scared is because the ex is really dangerous and she does not want the daughter growing up in his custody

LOL but op this your emphasis of the ex been very dangerous have you met the ex and heard what really went South between both parties?

Your friend may run to court and claim everything on paper also portray all that is bad about the ex. If she likes adopt another man and force him to father a child which shall never belong to him as blood.

But one thing she will always live forever with till death is the child belongs to the ex whether tradition, court or religion. You can not change the blood of the child. For blood will always be thicker than water.

There was a story early this year of a man who fathered a child for over 30 years, thinking the child was his until the woman confessed the child wasn't. The unfortunate man wept like a baby on live TV.

What I am trying to say is, as long as the ex is alive his child will always be his no matter how evil your friend portrays him to be. No other man can claim and love another man child genuinely as his own seed (his he Jesus Christ? ). There will always be a preference in future if not by him openly but among his own real seeds. Your so called friend will have a long battle to fight in the future. Irrespective how much she tries to brain wash the child from knowing her real father or forcing the new man to accept another man child as his(very pathetic). There will always be a point of difference in there lives.

Unless the child is a bastard blood that he/she won't look or ask for her real father from your friend in future to hear his reason and story. I want you to also know there's always law of karma in whatever we do good or bad. It's just for sometime for individual to reap whatever has been sown.

Forget lawyers and court they will only use you to make money and provide temporal solution. We are Africans not oyinbos and our heritage lives in our blood. Let your friend request calling both families together. Let all sit and dialogue what is best for the child and how it should be handled. The destiny of the innocent child (worst case a female again) shouldn't be played with. Because of two idiotic adults that never knew what they were doing.

A father or mother can never deny ownership of there blood child, but an adopted one can always deny in the future if situations go bad. Asides all this there's a blessing every father or mother places on his blood child head in addition to God divine fulfillment.

Please do not let the innocent child suffer and encounter serious life challenges. Because of the now selfish interest of both irresponsible parent.

Ps... Your gal friend and her ex are greedy and selfish, they will both still be punished by God if they ever make the child feel regrets of been born.

Be strong bro, what makes you to be a real man is your ability to over look the opposite sex childish behaviour whenever it arises.

Why would you wonder such, what's wrong studying in Ukraine?

Awww sorry about your plight, try having a meeting with the Pastor (husband) for confession, deliverance and counseling...Our Lord is merciful you will be saved!

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He sent me an email about this TAS MINER story of a thing. He kept insisting I should call him if I will like to know more. It's best to ignore this type of email because they are fraudsters.

We also need to be careful how we drop our emails and phone contacts on public forums, lot of scammers are here too lurking around gathering up your contacts.

Good job Op for the enlightenment.

Op, why don't you focus on your future dreams now and appreciate only a lady/ladies that value your worth?
Don't keep stressing up yourself emotionally, be prepared you are having a taste of what life and some women can offer in future.

Do you want a lady to keep threatening /blackmailing you? Are you happy to always say sorry all the time to her without committing any offense.

To be a real Gentleman always define your limit and principle in a relationship or else you loose VALUE to any lady..

Hmmmn, I really appreciate all those who are giving you the truth. Pal your future comes top priority before any single lady you intend to marry. Most times I advice people that a single lady your courting does not totally belongs to you until marriage. Expect any surprises from her any day and anytime also inclusive in marriage. Now put your lady in your present position do you think she will blink thrice of the option travelling abroad to build her career or staying behind with you because of love?
The future matters the most, like someone rightly said get established; financially and secure your future. No lady is ready to drink garri with you forever because of love worst of it if she's a dependent she will surely dump you someday with yours kids.

Get your life straight up, ladies will beg and do anything for your love and attention. Beautiful and ugly ladies all over the world with awesome background will cry, starve, fight each other because of you. ( you will get tired sef)

Do you know why ? It's because you have a secure future and a good life you can provide all her needs and that of your kids too. Public will celebrate her as a wife to a well successful man. Women are always like children they collect more than they give its just the way they were configured by God.

My advice about your woman tell her the truth it will take time for you to be fully settled. Age isn't on her side if she can't wait for you wish her well in future and remain as good friends.

True Love really exist, only when you work and have got a secure future as a successful man.

Don't disappoint your sponsor by talking early about present relationship. Get made and become a KING first.

jamesbridget13:
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Thanks

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I love all your post they were all highly informative. Bros please can I tell both the consular & POE the reason I am in the U. S is for =
"Vacation and also to check out the right school for my future possible master degree program"
Could this reason be acceptable enough.... Looking forward to your response, God bless.

mrnwas:
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This has already affected Bittrex.com, Blockchain as we speak. Having Affected these two, i also know other exchanger websites would be clone in the nearest future if not already.

It was also revealed that Payoneer, One of the online banking services that provides users a Prepaid Card with which they can access their funds in any ATM Worldwide has also been cloned.

Thanks To Nigerian Internet Marketers Tom Blaize Gabriel and Olawale Isaac Odejide Who made this known to unsuspecting users like myself and others out there.


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Donmatlock:
You are good ma but you didn't tell the whole story. Did you marry her as a friend or out of coincidence? By your training you are disciplined and you want to keep your integrity by avoiding divorce too. Fine! Now, have you sat with your wife before, say about 1am to have a heart-to-heart talk. Tell her you still love her and your daughter? That you want a happy home and would want her to make this marriage work?that you'll be there for them? Take to treat her better. Kiss and hug her before you leave the house and when you return. Buy her little gifts like ice cream, earrings and stuffs unannounced. If she doesn't love back call be a liar!

Oga, have you forgotten your in Nigeria and dealing with with Nigerian ladies.. #laughing @ ice cream # the lady may just smile and say 'thanks but do I look like your daughter? .. This method works only in Europe and with some exposed well mannered Nigerian ladies.. Not all of them.

Most of them need auto factory reset once a while by themselves, not you forcing it. Don't just give yourself heart attack when your unfortunate to marry those wit mental sickness. simply ignore them and be praying they get well soon. That is if you can endure

freshvine:
When a man marries a bad woman, his life will become one of confusion and at a point the man is likely to start thinking he's the fault.

Op, for the fact that you brought your problem to the public domain shows you married a BAD wife. Don't mind those clamouring for a second opinion from your wife... Are the expecting your wife to come here and collaborate your story, is it not if possible to defend her self and wipe up sentiment too?

My advice : You cannot win this war no matter how you try even though you love your wife cos she's determined to KILL you. SHE DOESN'T LOVE YOU. Her actions, attitudes and character has made you a SELF CENTRED man. You can't keep her yet you don't want her to seek a man she truly love. It's time you DISMISS this marriage for the sanity of all.

Seek for a woman that truly desire you too.

Let me tell me one secret. There's something call chi (guardian angel) that protects a REASONABLE GOOD MAN from harm or untimely death. Each time you are with the wrong woman ( wife) for example, the angel will seize your blessings and make you beggerly just to frustrate and make you leave the unwanted guest. No matter what you do, it'll never amount to anything until the EVIL guest leaves. whenever you then get a good woman that loves you and ready to support you, your destiny will blossom and opportunities will avail.

Take this pointer seriously.

Infact I wish so much love, to buy you a gift
You have said it all completely case closed next.

sheeda995:
Sometimes I wonder why people divorce because of petty things, but now I know that its because either one of them is a fool(low IQ), or both of them are fools, but in your own case, you are not just a fool but a naturally wicked man. And also, you are very very heartless, in fact the adjective for your wickedness and heartlessness is not in the dictionary, the first thing you did was to bring this discussion here and allow people who already have bad marriages use their mouth to say rubbish. And you have the gut to say you love her? please what kind of love is that, let me tell you what you have for her----
The reason you don't want her to leave is because you want to always and continuously own her not because you love her.
About her Nags, to all those stupid men always accusing a woman for nagging, you need to kindly study psychology. because no human being nags without a reason, People that nag mostly are the type that cannot really communicate their feelings to others and such they nag because they are angry, not comfortable or something is disturbing them that they can't even interpret themselves. Stress is another major cause of Nagging, and the best solution is let the person understand what Nagging is and why she nags. Nagging is not a nice feeling at all, so please you must have either be the cause of her nag or something else us causing it that you are not paying attention to, that's why she transferred the aggression to you.
Please what sort of human being will abandon his wife and child for weeks not to talk of months? How can you dare travel without her knowledge? Even if your friend travel without your knowledge, you will feel bad about it not to talk of your wife.
Another thing people don't understand about money is that people who are emotionally disturbed spend money anyhow, maybe just to derive pleasure, it takes a very strong human being to be wise when emotionally disturbed especially when it has to do with someone they love, and the reason she's highly demanding from you is because she want to punish you in some ways, and that's the only way she could, she want to punish you for everything, for marrying her,making her go through pains etc. I don't think she will be able to forgive you because if I were the one, I can't ever forgive you. To the point that you changed your simcard, do you know the number of times she would have dialed that number of yours during those periods?
And you have the gut to blame her for your deportation? How is that her fault please? You were foolish enough to make the mistake of illegal work, but you couldn't blame yourself, you then shift all your blames to her. And please how much are you giving her that you are saying you are giving her money? With the situation of Nigeria today, take money to market and you will see how fast it will go and discover you haven't bought anything, The truth is that she is intentionally punishing you by demanding from you and not giving you rest of mind.

So solution to your problem
1. Pray to God to forgive you
2. Beg her and beg her friends, beg her family members, tell her everything how you do not know she's in pain, how you thought she was the one punishing you, send those that can help you talk to her for her to forgive you because I am sure the hatred she has for you cannot be measured because it weight is just too much. And the only reason she is still staying with you is because of the money you are sending her and I am sure that as she is, she has already made up her mind that men are useless and no need to have husband
3. Ask her to tell you all her problems, the one you caused and the one you did not cause, and help her provide solution to them
4. Be her friend for now, always ask about her progress in life, discuss with her your future plans, carry her along in all other plans you have
5.. Give her time to forgive you, she can't just switch like that, it may take months, you will have to continuously do her good for month to convince her you have changed for the better
6. Beg her to pity you and tell her about the works you do, how hard it is, promise you will always be there for her and Beg her to be there for you too.
7. Even if you guys later divorce, at least the hatred she has for you that is eating her up would be eased, or you don't know that when one is in such condition, it would affect her interpersonal relationship with others too, that's is why in Nigeria, there's no sector one goes that one will meet 75% nice people, most of them are harsh, especially hospital workers, lecturers, Non teaching academic staffs etc. So please do us the favor of that.

Clouded post I have ever read, please tell me are you married at all?
If you are not then, you can hardly understand the travails of marriage and what is needed for both parties to be loving, caring and supportive to each other during trying times either in marriage or courtship.

When a man is facing temporary challenges, he needs encouragement, love and support from his partner. Not nagging coupled with insults from the woman, for a man to run away from home because of his wife, it means she's a terrorist who can kill a man fast with high blood pressure haba.

Sometimes I marvel at how ladies are totally over dependent on a man either during courtship or marriage. Now a married woman has the effrontery to tell her husband she will leave the marriage because of her demands are not been met.

#laughing#Please let her go, Menn don't ever beg a woman if she wants to leave you because your hustling to meet up her needs. Worst of all begging her family members or friends is outrightly moronic, where are they when you tried providing for your family. Don't ever lose your dignity as a man to them.

Advice ': Man if your hands are clean and you did nothing to upset your wife despite your hustle. Then forget about her keep providing for your kid, if she allows it fine and if not let her be. You will always be the father of the child till eternity, don't live a miserable life because of a bad woman who has your child and wants to enslave with it.

Lastly Never beg a woman, I repeat NEVER BEG a woman to stay or love you, if she decides to leave, let her Go! Else you will regret it.

Only matured well mannered and loving woman should be treated as a priceless Queen.

As a man beating a woman is wrong. We all should know by now, most Nigerian women are naturally born potential liars. I guess the economy places them into a competitive zone, with the survival of the fittest no loyalty syndrome.
For temperamental men out there, consider this if you got a loose cannon mouth for a wife no need beating or physical brawl with her. Just go on a extensive vacation or relocate. Give her time to auto factory reset herself. If no forthcoming changes, find a temporary loyal puppy that will give you peace of mind and joy. If she still doesn't change stay away for more months, at the end she will regain her senses never to repeat such.

Note: if she apparently refuses to change physiologically, please leave her alone and collect your kids. Life is too short to be killed by an ill mannered woman.

So tell me, at old age why do you think women live longer while the men die before them. It's because the old man finds it as the easiest route to escape such a bad woman.

Men love your good wife treat her special as a queen , women love your good husband treat him as a King, honour and respect the father of your kids, your silence does not mean your a fool.