₦airaland Forum

Op, the world is changing rapidly and things now are not the way it used to be like in the older years.

Don't get deceived that your lady wont change negatively towards you, when she gets to the higher institution. Because she will definitely do.

The marriage times of now is, what does each partner has to offer for a sustainable and happy marriage? Currently your lady has nothing to offer in marriage asides sex. Is that all you are after in your marriage? .

Take this as the truth, if you fully invest on this lady education and living, you might end up regretting your action. Either your married to her or not. She is not yet psychologically and emotionally balanced for the journey you about forcing her into.

No doubt, on a long term your good intentions will backfire at you. Unless you intend monitoring her like a spirit on campus (why give yourself high BP?) .

My advice, give her room to discover herself, let her mature mentally and emotionally maybe after 5-7years (if you intend wasting more time for a younger blood) . You can still assist as an helper to her education and living if your much capable. But don't use it as a condition to arrest her future and life.

Peace.

OCHKESTINE:
Op.

98% of stories like urs never end well. The 2% that eventually leads to marriage still ends badly, because the lady at some point would begin to feel " if only she had explored other option she would've found someone better".

My advice is simple: forget her and go for someone that knows what she wants. That girl is still a child. Please avoid committing suicide few years from now.


Let me share my story.
I met my ex when she was 19 and I was 24. Paid for her to rewrite WAEC as she had some papers pending. Got her JAMB form and hustled her admission. I paid her tuition and sent her upkeep regularly.
Even sold some personal stuff to send her money so she doesn't lack in school. We dated for 5 years.

Long story short, I got to find out she was dating a Banker in her final year. And have been dating him since 100 level.

How I managed to survive that heart break is still a mystery to me.

She told me I was not enough. That I needed to go hustle and get busy. She mocked my pain, chatted me months after to update me about how she is enjoying her Banker boyfriend.

U might think u like her but I think u have complex issues. U're scared of older ladies. U have the "catch the young " mentality. Taking care of a girl makes u feel incharge. But my brother u're wasting ur time.

Wahoo I admire your courage, God has the best for you.

For Ladies :
If marrying for wealth makes you fulfilled in life go for it.
If marrying a younger man or very older man gives you satisfaction, then enjoy it.
If posting your history from the top to bottom about your life and marriage on SM makes you feel secure and a celebrity. Enjoy your fame.

But, the fact remains life is never a bed of rosy without paying a price.

No wonder you hardly see most cannabis smokers fat. Good news for intending weight loss team

Only in the eyes and minds of physical people will this look ordinary but spiritually she's on a covenant with unseen forces.

PrinceBBlack:
Well for me, i had a girl who i met in 2016. She is currently in her final year and i work with Nigerian Breweries in Enugu. I give this babe a monthly allowance of 50k while she doesnt even get 10k from being that her parents are in the village and he uncle gives her schoolfees.
First, i realized that i loved her so much with my heart that i forgot to use my head. I had a car accident in 2017. i was in the hospital for four months and then relocated to Ibadan where i was till september in 2018 where i was recouperating getting ready for a final surgery. I got her an Iphone X in that same september. In october, i told her that i was no longer getting salary that i wont be able to keep up with the 50k allowance but i could still manage 25k. Do u believe this girl said she cant come to Ibadan cos its far to visit and that i reduced the allowance i give her that what is 25k going to do for her. She finally said if i cant carry out my duty as a bf, that i should let her be. Well it was easy for me... i could part with the money but i personally sent someone to collect the Iphone X i bought for her and told her that the phone isnt my problem but she is an ungrateful piece of a person. Broke up with her and the phone is still in my wardrobe with full accessories since its not up to 1month i bought it waiting for the next person. I didnt love with my head but loved with my heart. If u dont take care of them, na war, if u do, na still wahala.

Hmmn bruv, all you did for her was out of love and deep emotional feeling I respect that. But, not all ladies deserves such full attention.

The bad signs are always there at the beginning, most ladies are materialistic, selfish, self-centered and Non-supportive. I do advise dudes test a lady after 3 months of commitment relationship.

Example Pose temporarily you got a little challenge and see what kind of assistance she can render. This will reveal her true nature either good or bad.

Lastly, giving and sharing In a relationship should be reciprocal even if you are more capable for the both of you. Don't act like Santa Claus always to her needs else you will lose value to any lady. Cheers

When you try to marry a man or woman without a major vision with action in life, the affected lives to regret it. Every man and woman has his or her own demon tamed do not get engaged to someone who brings the worst out of you always.

So why should I care about her tweaking? If she has nothing meaningful enough to give the society. She can go ahead and tweak on live transformer who caaarrrreeesss ?

No discipline, No law and we desire to have same comfort and luxury like the western world . Globally we call ourselves humans but Africans keep showing there nature belongs to a special kind of homo sapiens.

Congrats op, I can't just imagine the havoc this bad guys would have caused at your place. Kudos to those night watch they deserve to be rewarded they did a fine job. lastly they should shoot that guy with tattoo in the leg too his face too strong

Lol , the lady is even a nice person, the op would have returned to an empty house. When you think your smarter than a lady, she will prove to you she's smarter.
God really loves you that your still alive after false deception to a woman. Even the strongest of men in history fell to a woman.

bentben:
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I'm deeply hurt by her actions, blocked her on all social media handles.

Are you for real? Or do I sense a bit of jealousy in you because now she's sharing her expired goods with your boss? .
Lol, your the type of man some ladies do say "thinking with there dick".

Bruv mend your ways and forget the office slut. You really f.up yourself and about ruining your happy home. Gosh, guys like you make illegitimate ladies think all men are the same.

Let me ask you this, How would you feel if a male family friend of yours straffs your wife and you get the whim about it? It will be nice shey?

Chai, honestly your selfish and heartless not worthy to be called a husband by your wife. You have just brought shame and disgrace to your home.

You can't eat your cake and have it. At the end It's either you breakup your home, lose your job and fight your boss because of the slut or better just erase her existence in your fake heart.
Please disconnect her from your family and social circle in fact, let her know you are now a changed man and wish not to continue because of a nasty dream you had. Advice her too to desist from such life style and tell her to work on her family happiness.

My brotherly advise to you in future, Stop using your life to play ludo.

Tonto is really hurt and pained. All of her outburst is of a woman on destruction mission, but she fails to realize she will be hurting her son future the most.

Never take a woman serious, if you love her so much don't let her know this fully because it will make her exploit you unnecessarily. There are lots of ladies out there, very few are loyal, sensible and God fearing. The others are indecisive, hungry and self centered.

If a woman gives you bullshit the first time, give her a sound warning, if she persists no need to shout or attack anyone. As a man just shift your attention to someone better, establish your happiness and peace.

Most women are kids, if you over pamper them with attention and love they will surely take you for granted because your always predictable. As a man become unpredictable when relating with your woman.

A woman/man that cheats and rubs it to your face is marked as an agent of death. He/She will always cheat on you, avoid such individual at all cost no need for confrontation and accepting apology because if he/she had truly loved you, there will be no other.

As a man if you are a very emotional dude don't invest on a lady that is not yet your wife.

Despite his earlier escape, it shows he has got no peace. I'm sure in his next life he will not prove to be a hard guy or street nigga.

Good job Efcc, if only this young dudes concentrate there energy to some legitimate jobs it would have been better for them. The music entertainment industry is also contributing negatively to the youth, all what you hear them sing about are Cars, Gucci, Fendi, Shayo, Kolo, pussy , baby this, baby that. Abeg when playing and showing all this lyrical jargons why won't young dudes want quick money and benz through shortcuts :-

Seriously our Nigerian law really needs to be reviewed, all this menace occurring in our society everyday has really gotten to the extreme. Why still kill the man after robbing him? We really need harsh laws and discipline implemented like North Korea.
No one should be above the law

Well, I will still blame the government for this embarrassment. The President, Governors, senators, honourable, etc. We the citizens should always make the public office holders to be aware they are servant to the people. They were elected to serve the citizens of Nigeria as public servant to forestall law and order, create policies for the betterment of its citizens. The more Nigerians allow office holders to feel and act like gods with no accountability, the more ignorant they become to there duties.

When the head is sick, the whole body will surely collapse.

wow those guy's are really dumbest to the core. How do you expect to escape from a country that takes security as there top most priority? A Black african foreigner in such action too bad not every country is like Nigeria that you can do whatever you like and get away with it. Too bad the desert awaits there final rest. Already most Arabs dislike blacks with passion and now with added insult of robbery in there country. RIP.

Very imaginative writer and story teller keep it up

cococandy:
Men are polygamous in nature.
So they leave their wives and sleep with other men’s wives. And those men also sleep with other people’s wives and so on and so forth.

It’s all balanced according to nature. At least what we are told.

Based on your assumption, I don't agree with you. Not all men are polygamous in nature. Neither does every married man sleeps with another married man wife. You been told by those who do such, is just an ignorant excuse for them to justify adultery. It is totally wrong and evil, nature will only balance such acts with retribution.

OriakuAmara:
The girl messed up.
There are many firm and more responsible way of handling this without looking stupid,
I don't know the reason for the misunderstanding but this drama is unnecessary.
Quietly ask him to leave your house, don't raise your voice,
If he refuses, POISON HIM

Wow, any man that ends up with you is a goner. I suspect you have committed murder in your past, It's so darn easy for you to give such inhumane advice.

Security code is the three digit number behind your Atm card. I personally scratch that code out of my card after writing it out in a safe place.

Why won't they have body odour, when you bleach from black skin to white skin. With various poisonous chemicals just to look like a white, too much craze for white skin fools!

www.100funnyways2die.com I hope he gets to the next level safely.

As a man never lose yourself worth because of a woman. Aim higher goals for your life with humility. The right woman who will love, cherish and respect you will show up easily. You don't need stressing yourself begging and acting deceptive to get a beautiful lady.
The true beauty of a woman is seen in her character and heart not her vain physical look

Olachase:
pĺs I needed someone to guide me.
I have 3years of full-time work experience in mechanical engineering Technician, I have work with Nigeria Breweries as mechanical Technician during my working with them I achieve my (mechanical trade test) now my point is this I wanted to enroll into OND in computer hardware engineer
cus I only have my S.S.C.E now, pls can I use Computer Hardware engineer results to get mechanical engineering work? don't forget I have 3years of experience in mechanical engineering with achievement of Mechanical trade test!!!! pls ur answer is welcome


no vex for my English hoo

My advice to you enroll for mechanical engineering in your OND get your first degree afterward you can apply for professional certification in computer hardware engineering which will be a bonus. Experience with specialization is what needed in engineering.

Whatever you can tolerate in your dating period, it is what you will eventually live with in marriage. Op, if you see nothing wrong with what she has done then relax and enjoy your type of relationship. But if you eventually marry her, have kids and start complaining about divorce then your a confused male. In short your not an Alpha male with your type of temperament and I bet ladies don't take you seriously . shame

Op you are really hilarious � see me laughing reading all through convo. Most especially that part you told him he was rude and should address you as Sir. Really cracked me up He should transfer you to another customer care. thumbs up! your sharp

I wonder why almost all Nigeria entertainers put on dark sunshades morning, afternoon and even at Night party too haba ? ..are they having eye pain or just hiding behind? I guess they sleep with the shades on too