₦airaland Forum

Ani Lee:
true. guess it boils down to the big g word hey,

Ebonyeyes:
Why did you take the wedding vows then? Men like you pee me off. You cant eat your cake and have it.

chosen04:
Pls be careful ooo!!! ARE U CALLING OUR ELECTED REPRESENTATIVES THIEVES? Then 'we' are also thieves. Cos its only a small thieves that elect big thieves to represent them. If not how many of them have we recalled?

erico2k2:
ah its Mirs independence we are talking about here, erm i would contribute %50 and she the other %50,After all women should be equal to man nah haba, bw am I sencing denial of responsibilities here?

Ebonyeyes:
Wow good luck with your archaism. I thought Education eradicated things like this but I was wrong

Rosabelle:
Well this our so called intelligence you refer to is what brought you into this world and has kept you alive. Go check the role of the women in your life and come back and tell me. Abi you havnt heard a man who doesnt have a praying woman behind him is lost? And at the same time, when a great man falls deep, he has either ignored the good advice from the 'intelligent' women in his life or he has married an evil one.

As to the 'role' subscribed to us by 'society'. Society is not a ghost or a tree, it is made of people. And people made these roles to suit them. Thats my point. And these roles have been happily preserved by men and sustained by ignorant women. That time is fast coming to an end, I can tell you.

Society cant decide anymore for an educated woman what path she takes (and I thank GOD for that), because education makes a woman realise she is a person and not a tool or a glorified house maid or whatever else it was society made her believe she was. Women are waking up to realising that they are important too, cos we make it happen.

I will never argue about whether or not its a mans world, but wise men before you have found the truth: it IS  mans world, but it wont even exist without  woman! A man may be a great big ship, glorious on the high seas and magnificient, but without a compass - woman, he will float into darkness.
The Lord has set us both on earth and the man is to go fort to conquer and woman is to be his guiding light. So let the man who thinks less carry on. Experience never lies.

So sir when you do get married, better bring up your girl children to be free of societal prejudices, and bring up your boys to realise that the worth a man lays on a woman is what he eventaully is worth.

good hunte:
have any of u ever fall in love with their ladies?

kuzina:
whether or not the state is rich, getting a license to operate cost a lot of money.
I actually went through the process of getting a mining license and I was told to bring
40 mil naira excluding bribe money not counting that it might take you a year or two to
even break even talk less of profit.

You still have to get a location, manpower, equipments etc.

How can the average Nigerian afford to pay such an amount.

DJNiyi:
You forgot the most important resource - people

Singapore has non of the resources listed above yet has the 4th largest economy in the world measured by GDP per capita .Source.

Educated people are greatest resource of all.

Nezan:
^ *sighs*

Ebonyeyes:
Boo boo boo and some boos to your comment Pharoh. You are still skewdly biased. https://www.mysmiley.net/imgs/smile/msn/msn10.gif

erico2k2:
lol I can see,women always got or make it a massive issue when it comes to gender equality.Thats why there are so many court cases arround the world to this effects 

Ebonyeyes:
Why are you taking estrogen for another womans Menopause?

Ebonyeyes:
POST OF THE DAY https://www.mysmiley.net/imgs/smile/happy/happy0001.gif. I have always said it Some of these men are intimidated and resort to the old tactic to get one over.

Rosabelle:
No no. Im not offended. I just feel its not right that its such a huge topic.
You say our african society is not comfortable with single women and I'l tell you why. : It is fear. The african society is dominated by men and men want to beable to talk to men, cos that way, they feel a certain level of security . . safety. And so people want to see young intelligent girls 'married off' so that she's under the control of a man. A fellow man. Thats what it is.

Ive noticed how uncomfortable men are when women call them out on the things they say and do, and Ive noticed they dont like it when that woman is young and intelligent and single.  Because it cranks their pride that she's talking to them eye to eye. It pisses them off that she has the audacity to tell them theyre not as smart as they think. Theyre annoyed that theres no one they can call to make her 'check her mouth' and that really really riles up african men.

And so you get this retort all the time when arguing with a man, that 'your mates are married and having children and you are here running up and down'.
Its an attempt by them to belittle a young woman and to tell her that without those things others have, she is nothing, meanwhile, theyre just angry that a woman is comfortable opening her mouth to talk EVEN THOUGH she has none of those things.
It is bullying, emotional bullying men are very good at. And I fight it wherever I see it.

Deep Soul:
I wonder why people like taking panadol for another person's headache sha

@Pharoh
No mind them jare.

Rosabelle:
You can discuss it with your girlfriend and have a 'stake' in the side she takes, but not with perfect strangers. Its a very personal matter.
Theres nothing wrong with a woman deciding she would rather wait until 'menopause' before getting married, or not at all. These are highly personal issues and I find it disturbing to see how eager people are to talk one out of making personal dicisions.
Its my decision and my life and no one has any business or 'stake' in it.

Ebonyeyes:
Im sorry but this is why society is a mess instead of minding their own business they poke their nose in other peoples business. If a woman chooses to remain single until she finds the one, let her be. Look at the condition in Nigeria many girls are pressured in marriages they are not happy with.

Oluschenco:
Women worth more than money, but they are sometimes problematic

C2H5OH:
omokekere olojukokoro

Ebonyeyes:
My sister ask me o! They should concentrate on their own marriage and relationship

Rosabelle:
Ah toh. I just didnt want to fire him. I dont understand oh. Which one is a man's business with menopause??

Ebonyeyes:
Am I that predictable?

Ebonyeyes:
Yes I should have said some

chosen04:
YOU SPOKE MY MIND!!!!!
I think the rules are being abused just to please few persons

buttie:
i am a 20 year old graduate, i have two men in my life, there is one that i know loves me but cant stand his looks so do everything to frusrtate him, i got entangled on the internet n we had already started dating by the time i meet him so every little thing he does is an issue for me, the other guy i have only seen once n i really lyk doesnt live in nigeria, hes from a wealthy family n im makin plans to visit him but he has not said anything abt money to pay for me fare or for my passport, i dont even know if i like any of these tow guys. and the second guy is already fallin in love. what do i do i need to do something fast and gett my mind to my professional exam in december

Ebonyeyes:
Why string along Guy No.1 if you dont like him like that?  Is it not better to break up with him or are there benefits you get from stringing him along? Guy No.2 is abroad abi? The euphoria is still there lemme tell you abroad guys are not all that, he probably is living with his obese white wife that he married for papers.

Peace in the Niger Delta region appears to be on the horizon as the main militant group, the Movement for the Emancipation of the Niger Delta (MEND), has declared an indefinite ceasefire.

A statement yesterday by Jomo Gbomo, the group’s spokesperson, said the decision is as a result of the group’s negotiations with the Presidency.

According to him, the group’s leader, Henry Okah, after a series of meetings with the Federal Government, has conveyed a “welcome shift” message to the group, saying the government has expressed its readiness to engage in serious and meaningful dialogue with every group or individual towards achieving a lasting peace in the Niger Delta.

There is, however, a tone of ambivalence in the statement sent to NEXT by Gbomo, in declaring the ceasefire. The statement read “MEND will not disarm until the time is ripe. This means that we will be lurking in the shadows to monitor the dialogue which must be progressive.” It also declared emphatically that “We are not a part of the amnesty exercise because we see ourselves as unrepentant freedom fighters who have no reason to be apologetic for fighting a worthy and just cause.”

However, the group declared an indefinite ceasefire from October 25th (yesterday) to enhance the dialogue between the government and the Aaron Team, which the group has selected to negotiate MEND’s demand for peace in the oil-rich region.

MEND had previously threatened to resume hostilities against the Nigerian oil industry and the Nigerian armed forces on October 16,

2009 after the expiration of a 60-day ceasefire declared on July 15.

Negotiating with government

On when the negotiations will commence, Gbomo told NEXT in an email interaction that “that will have to be initiated by the government but we hope it will come as soon as possible before dialogue is seen as another delay tactics.”

The group had a few weeks ago named some individuals, which it called the Aaron Team to help negotiate with the Federal Government. Among those named are Mike Akhigbe, a former Chief of General Staff, and Nobel laureate, Wole Soyinka, among others.

On the details of the meeting between the President and Mr. Okah, Mr. Gbomo, quoting the group’s leader, told NEXT that “he said the meeting was held at the private residence of Mr. President and the atmosphere was warm and cordial. His impression (Mr. Okah’s) of the president was that of a man with a good heart surrounded by many bad advisers. The minister of defence who has been ranting and threatening was not at the meeting, so was the National Security Adviser; two men we associate with fuelling the crisis.

“The president wanted MEND to create an enabling environment for dialogue and peace and the government on their part was willing to engage in frank talks over the root issues that have led to the current unrest,” he added.

Ceasefire timeline

When NEXT sought to know the possible length of the new ceasefire, MEND stated that “we have offered an indefinite ceasefire as a show of good faith and expect the government will reciprocate by being sincere in using dialogue as a tool for advancing peace and justice instead of using it to prolong the ceasefire.” The group warned that “the dialogue does not have to last for more than 12 months to conclude”. It also announced the withdrawal of Annkio Briggs from the Aaron Team.

The exit of Ms Briggs is by mutual consent, according to the statement, adding, “She was not dropped but was excused to deal with some personal and numerous activities which may mean a huge sacrifice on her part to belong to the Aaron Team.” Ms Briggs was the liaison officer for the Aaron Team. She has been replaced by Amagbe Denzel Kentebe.

Other members of the team announced in September by the group apart from Messrs Akhigbe and Soyinka, are Luke Kakadu Aprezi and Sabella Ogbobode Abidde.

Eaglebabe:
What exactly is your mother's worth?

TheSeeker:
Some are worth pain, agony, regret, misfortune; when some are worth so much happiness, success, fortune, blessing - name it. No matter what you say some women will forever remain nasty and some will remain blissful as they've been wired to be.

Sagamite:
Come to think of it, Ebonyeyes, if you think housework should be 50-50, do you think when you go out like to restaurants and for entertainment it should also be 50-50 since you are also working 9-5?