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uplawal:
after he had squeezed the hell out of the breast,hes now complaining,men sha

She should lie on her bed the way she has laid it. She is the one who gave the guy the chance to mess her up so she is the one to be blamed. It is a lesson for the girls anyway so they know what they are getting into trying to have the fun of their life.

_{You cannot eat your cake and have it}

Ebonyeyes:
I disagree with that sentence guys talk o! But yes you are right even if we give criticism, it should be done carefully and with tact.

I am not saying that guys don't talk but ladies talk more than the guys. i should say in a ratio of 5 to 1. The ladies are more disillusioned by that perfect Hollywood Mr Perfect with clean shaved face, hair-cut, with a six pack tummy. He should be bodily fit and nice nails. Smells good and stuffs like that. I think you are using yourself as a comparison to other girls. Maybe you don't complain much i guess. Guys do want to complain but they don't want to get the lady offended just like the case at hand now.

Off-Topic , _{Are your thoughts here a reflection of the real you or just an internet posture?.}

Ebonyeyes:
Well if you dont want to be a baby papi very soon, I advise you to put a rubber on it.

Is abstinence not the best answer?

Can you summarize your points to make it more direct? they are just too wide and i don't really know where you are coming from or should i just reply based on what you have written? What exactly are you driving at?

Faaaakaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

Ebonyeyes:
But whats to be gained from telling her her chesticules are sagged? nothing except you are want her to get a chest augmentation I think its best to keep quiet about it or bow out of the relationship if it bothers you that much. If I tell my guy his little man is not my type because it is too small or too big, it wouldnt help because he cannot do anything about it except if he opts for surgery so my best bet is to bow out of the relationship as well. Unless both parties are truly inlove, then they can overlook it.

You have said it all and i must applaud you for that. There is nothing to be gained except both parties are married and truly in love. Some things are permanent like a sagged breast and cannot be changed. It is better then to pull out of the relationship if it gives you a problem but what reason will you give then? IMO we should accept any shit we get from BF/Gf relationship. A marriage situation is a different scenario and should be done with wisdom and very carefully. But do you know girls complain a lot about the physical attributes/appearance of guys more than the guys do to them?.

Ebonyeyes:
I guess you have a point there but people need to say these type of things with tact not insensitively like this man did. If I told a man that he was a mess in bed and he performed badly, that will destroy his ego but if I told him that hunny, I like it like this and want to be touched like that, I tell him how to do things without hurting his feelings.

You have just brought out the main point i was trying to make. The truth is yeah the guy made a mistake how he presented it but it is not an abomination not to say such things like most people are trying to justify here. When a guy doesn't shave, cut his nails and do so many other things. Their girls do device a way to pass the mesage they want and believe me not that they don't get angry but they still do it. It is because the girl has said it in the right way and right intentions, coupled with other factors like her character and personality.


But the truth is that in the case of the girl they have termed it like a taboo and no matter how you want to present it, majority will still get offended. Just check out threads on nairaland and see the number of threads from guys how they are condemning girls with pot bellies, sagged breast, stretch marks and many more. Then you will know that guys are frustrated sometimes but they don't spill it out all in the name of not offending the girl. Before you say jack they are cheating on their girl with someone else why overlooking the other qualities of their girl.

There are several ways to overcome the problem of a sagged breast ( and others ) only if both couple decide to be understanding and not selfish.

Ebonyeyes:
Apart from gravity and child birth what else can sag the breast? Was there a lesson I missed somewhere . As for 9ja guys performance in bed, yes the girls come here to slag their guys but they dont tell their guys that because you and I know that would dent his ego. So those girls are actually being sensitive to his feelings.

So does complaining on Nairaland solve the problem at hand? After complaing the next thing is to form a thread that i am not sexually satisfied by my hubby. Before you know they are cheating. Thats why i said people should do away with the ego and sensitve feeling thing. Some men don't care about a sagged breast and some women also don't care about performance likewise. But if you do care and there is problem please say it and find a solution to it.


You and these your missing education the child birth i know but what do you mean by gravity? Don't you know tieing wrappers like a married woman when you are not sags the breast? Not wearing bras also makes the breats to bounce and start falling quickly. Too much pressing and squezzing of the breasts during sexual intercourse also adds to quick sagging which was the case of the girl in question. Now she has eating her cake and wants to still have it . she was told the truth to her face and people are saying the guy is not sensitive to her feelings. Mind you this issue is different for married and unmarried relationships.

It is better to remain a virgin until marriage

Ebonyeyes:
Nature gave you the needle d, k and there is nothing you can do to change it just like gravity defied her boobs and there is nothing she can do _{except plastic surgery which is risky}. I think we should be sensitive to people's feelings.

I am sensitive to people feelings don't get me wrong, it is obvious in the girls case that it was not gravity that slagged her breast. We both know the reasons and lets not pretend about that. For the issue of the needle either it is big or small is not relevant so much to the performance during the do. You can always hear how ladies condemn naija guys here on NL that they are not good in bed even with the big needle.

  There are other  reasons for a slagged breast other than through sex though.

michelin89:
If you can't write something meaningful, avoid embarrassing yourself.

I wasn't refering to you as the lady who asked stupid questions neither was i abusing you so don't get it wrong. _{Sorry if that offends you}

Ebonyeyes:
You wouldnt want a girl saying your d, k looks like a needle and barely registers now would you?

Why won't I want that? if she doesn't say it how do i know i have a problem needing a solution? its all about understanding sister.

michelin89:
If you can't write something meaningful, avoid embarrassing yourself.

Thank you and what is not meaninful to you? I don't get it, my reply to 190 or you?

  There are just so many pretenders here (male) acting to be good in the eyes of the girls here. I am an advocate of reality and truth, if a girl asks me am i fat? i will tell her the truth no need pretending. The poster has offered limited explanation and i choose to blame the girls in situation like this. You cannot eat your cake and have it. Someone asked when did the breast became slagged? First month, Second or at the Fourth Month. why lie to a girl and allow the relationship lead to an unhappy marriage .when you are not satisfied with what the other party has to offer please quit and tell the reason.


Please before you crucify me same goes for the ladies , if you don't like what the guy has to offer , end the relationship or say it and don't give the excuse that you might bruise his male ego. I don't believe in the theories of 10 things you should not say to a partner in a relationship.

Thank you @190 say it like it is no pretending. If it is not panadol it cannot act or be like panadol

@Mich same goes to the ladies some are stupid as well asking stupid questions.

@poster Good you have saved both parties the trauma so time to look for a better girl jare.

2-2

@skyeranger all you have said will be solved by the word choice.

@poster Your statement has done more good than harm to both parties so don't condemn yourself .

Education does more harm sometimes than good if the lady does not have a proper home upbringing.

Offtopic
I am there already and i have read the last two pages and i will do more but first have you find out if the relationship is for real or all these nairaland stupid love games?

Can i come and beg for you too as well? Modify your post so people can click on that link directly, space like this

Anabel:
nethacker please i need your help, come to this post and beg rokky 4 me https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-280702.2432.html#msg4686176 thanks

Ebonyeyes:
Wow, just wow so a girl is pregnant because both parties did the do but somehow its her fault? Wow one hears incredible things everyday.

My statement was about @anabel labeling all NL guys to be bad which she said she has a proof of.  Come to think of it, did you miss the statement of chosen04  a female like you who said the girl is to be blamed for a pregg after the do?   _{I supported her claim though with some reservations}

Anabel:
you no carry bible and correct psalms with 3 days white fasting join am.

Take it easy oooo, _{Any guy wey try shit with babes like you don suffer ooo} Swear naked, dry fasting and wicked psalms all because of pregg?  

koolchicco:
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Na 2day!U no how many times wey I don swear 4 people and they are still buying Jeeps and Houses?

Tell them o jare gone are the days of swearing and all these naked myth

_{There is no monopoly to evil least you forget}

Hmm what could that proof be? Girls normally want to play the victim part in a relationship IMO.

Anabel:
pharoh and nethacker, you guys know that am saying the trith, why must i eat you up? you no be food and even if you be food, you no go sweet at all

No doubt about the truth part but you should know better that it is not the total truth. There are other factors attached to the kind of behaviors you see here on nairaland. I told you it goes both ways, Just like you said all NL guys are bad so will the guys also say that all NL girlz are bad. So who is saying the truth then?

nethacker:
Sorry lets clear d air here  . r u refering to me or Pharoh . If na me ,if u see me u go chop me raw _{cos i sweet for face die n my third leg too is welcoming}    

She dey refer to you jare brother   You forget to add maggi to your soup  

chosen04:
But why will a lady take in without her man's consent?. Any lady that annonces unplanned pregnancy is immature and unwise!

It happened by a mistake is actually the ladies mistake, so I wont blame any man that denies Paternity.

I wish or let me say it will be better if most girlz will think and act like you just said but still that should not take away the fact that the guys should also be blamed a little bit as well or should be asked to put in a little effort as well to prevent an unwanted pregnancy.


_{If you must dine with the devil, do so with a long spoon}

Anabel:
you no kno say no better guy for this NL

Why na? You know it goes both ways? Am i among the bad guys?

Are we not in recession at the moment now?

Why don't you call that number @gift?

The advent of E-passport in Nigeria was welcomed with the hope that the nightmare of obtaining an international passport is over. Nigerians who are in the Diasporas are about more elated with this development, These are for obvious reasons. These include the possibility that the waiting and processing time will be reduced and the prospect that many of them will not need to travel home to sort out some passport related problems. To some of us in this category, if any of our places of resident commission or embassy is lucky enough to be allocated one or two the E-passport machines, then, this will be our own share of Yar’dua’s legacy. As it turns out to be, those of us resident in Malaysia are one of the lucky ones whose prayer of being allocated the E-passport machine was answered.

To launch the machine, we trooped all out en-mass to the High commission by adorning the best of our attires. This is not to say we do not harbor fears of the uncertain because the machine is one thing and the irritating attitude of the staff of the commission is another issue which the advent of the machine cannot solve. At least, our problem has reduced by one inch. There were some doubting Thomases in our midst who felt the machine may be another Nigerian government abracadabra. They withheld their sigh of joy until the machine was commissioned by issuing a valid E-passport, hence demonstrating the genuineness of the whole thing. Still not done, some still considered the whole thing a scam, so, their decision to allow the machine work for some months before they can settle for it as a real development. To God’s glory, they were disappointed to see the machine work as effectively as promised by the commission. God! Nigeria government is changing for the good. However, the restoration of the government and commission credibility in our minds assumed a turning point as facts started emerging on the amount being levied as procurement cost for the E-passport. In fact, since the first day when the machine was commissioned, some smart ones amongst us have started to raise very sensitive questions on the two regimes of payment being demanded by the commission. There is the 110USD which is to be paid to the central immigration and the 30 USD which is to be paid to the coffers of the High commission in Malaysia. People wondered why the 30 USD should be paid, more so into the coffers of the commission. Questions were raised about the need for the money, but, the High Commissioner with his I don’t care attitude did not bother to offer any official explanation.

Realizing that things were not working in his ways, he made us know through the Commission and NIDOMY that the 30 USD is administrative charge. This met with further suspicion, therefore making people to be more interested in why they must be responsible for the Commission’s administrative expenses. However, people again exploited the NIDOMY programme scheduled to mark the country’s 49th independent anniversary to air their views on the same matter. This time the High Commissioner in his above everybody style was absent, so, he delegated some of his High ranking staff to represent him. When the question was asked again by aggrieved Nigerians who graced the occasion, the tone of the response which was albeit fatherly, diplomatic and persuasive changed as it was now said that the extra 30 USD is meant to be maintenance fees. What only changed was the nomenclature, but, the same line of justification was offered to the same old question. The approach with which the question was responded to offer a temporal smoothening effect, the pangs of which was to resurface as soon as the programme ended. Due to time constraint, people were unable to flog the issue to a logical conclusion.

While taking their lunch, this issue was the major one which was discussed on virtually all tables. There was no end to the interpretation and names given the 30USD levy which to some is official 419. There was also the suggestion that it should be called official E-scam. However, there was the consensus that the money is an act of exploitation because how on earth, will a government expect her citizenry to be defraying its Commission’s maintenance expenses. In the first instance, the 110USD is overcharging if one is to go by the fact that it is twice the amount payable at home to obtain same passport. We therefore reject any attempt to make us responsible for the maintenance of the E-passport machine and on the basis of this we therefore demand that:

* The Federal Government of Nigeria should produce the directives which mandated the Nigerian High Commission in Malaysia to collect the additional 30 USD. We have demanded for this from the Commission and there was no document provided to that effect. If there is none, it shows the 30USD is illegal and must be so treated by the appropriate anti-corruption agency
* The EFCC and ICPC should dispatch a high level investigating commission to Malaysia to investigate this scam and recommend appropriate disciplinary measures against erring officers.
* The refund of the 30USD to those from whom the fees have been collected should be made with letter apology offered for intentionally exploiting them.

In event the government of Nigeria fails to act and nip this crime in the bud, concerned Nigerians will not hesitate to picket the High Commission and begin a strong E-campaign against the government for exploiting its citizenry through his officers in Malaysia. There is no end to how we will address our grievances because this is nothing less another demonstration of irresponsibility and the failure of the government to act on time, will surely spell doom.

http://www.saharareporters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=3879:efcc-and-well-meaning-nigerians-save-our-soul-from-e-passport-rip-off&catid=81:external-contrib&Itemid=300

The best solution to your problem is to find the source of this problem and solve it from there.

Thank you Jesus.

CBN to create risk management department
There is palpable unease in the nation’s economy as stakeholders await the outcome of the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) and Nigeria Deposit Insurance Corporation’s (NDIC) audit reports on the last batch of the 14 banks yet to know their fate.

BusinessDay gathered last night that the development has brought about value-erosion in the banks being audited and is consequently causing disquiet in the entire economy.
Indeed, a more disturbing aspect of the situation, fresh investigations reveal, is that at least, five chief executives of the banks may be removed as was the case of Intercontinental Bank, Union Bank, Afribank, Oceanic and Union Bank, any moment from now; being the outcome of the special audit conducted by CBN and NDIC.
For instance, it was further learnt yesterday that the painstaking decision, which will serve as a soft-landing measure for the chief executives who have been having running battles with the security agencies in the last few days, may take place immediately after the release of the audit report slated for first week of October. Some of them had their passports seized and later released, raising further doubts about the financial health of the institutions they run.
However, not oblivious of the negative consequences of the last action when five chief executives were sacked in one fell swoop, the current action will be through the various boards of the banks, so as to provide soft landing for the embattled chief executives.
“This may be the logical conclusion. But this time, it is expected that the various boards of the banks will be used to execute their removal. I am not sure of the exact date, but it’s likely that after the meeting of the CBN board to deliberate on the report and other topical issues, the results might be announced next week Friday and thereafter, the banks may be advised to execute the removal plan, possibly the same day,” a source confided in Business Day yesterday
Again, it was gathered that the resort to the bank boards for the execution of the programme may have generated heated debate between the CBN and NDIC, even though reason was allowed to prevail at the end of the day.
It was also revealed last night that the committee of governors of the CBN would meet next week, while the meeting of the board is expected to come up first week of October. Then, a proposal to restructure the apex bank, the financial stability and the audited report, will form the plank of decisions to be reached at the meeting. Even at that, a new department, Risk Management is expected to be created.
While four of the banks had serious infractions noticed in their books, one was particularly carpeted over issues bordering on corporate governance.


http://www.businessdayonline.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=5293:four-more-bank-chiefs-to-go-next-week&catid=1:latest-news&Itemid=18

If you have distinction in mathematics and further maths.

You need to read what is in that link to see the rot in our society.

http://www.naijarules.com/vb/news-current-affairs-art-culture-politics/22461-want-easy-sex-sexplosion-campus.html

it is good but most people are concerned about their privacy.