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njokuuche77:
I understand your point. You should also understand that alot of people are ignorant of alot of things. And come to think of it, the internet has answers to alots of the questions.
I am a full Blood Nigerian and proud to be. Nwafór kà mbu. Afterall if i wasn't a Nigerian, abeg wetin i for be. Lol

Okay, jisie ike nwanne!

njokuuche77:
Didnt pick offense with you .
We disagree to agree and vice versa.

Okay. No problem.

njokuuche77:
I hear you madam Phut.
You can now clap for yourself.

I apologize for any harshness on my part, but some of the statements I have read on here are downright, egregious

njokuuche77:
Lolz, you should know it was an irony.
I can equally take you through the technicalities of this argument you choose to have. Its obvious that black genes are dominant over white.

Okay o. So now you say it’s obvious that black genes are dominant, yet you chose to say white sperm is richer, in response to a person who was airing similar views.
Someone on here even said that light overcomes darkness and lots of other ignorant statements I have read on this thread. Unfortunately, I read a lot of self hating comments from Nigerians. Other people who may even hate themselves, hide it, and nobody else will be none the wiser. But some Nigerians just let it all hang out.
Well, if you claim it was meant to be an irony, then I take my words back. No other race of people are better than Nigerians. Nigerians as a whole just have to believe it from the depths of their being. A healthy self esteem, does wonders.

njokuuche77:
My point initially was, if you claim to be an epitome of knowledge, why dont you for the benefit of doubt explain the reasons on the "World Wide Web"

You have no point. Explain how you came by the hypothesis that white blood is richer. Your statement was beyond dumb. It only requires a vestige of knowledge to understand that ... epitome not required.

njokuuche77:
Offcourse i dont know it all. The normal thing to do would have been to give your own reasons rather that condemning mine and walking away.

But nna, the unreasonableness of your statement is self evident nu! What do you mean by, white people’s sperm is always richer? Which kind of inferiority complex is that? And to loudly proclaim it on the World Wide Web?
And there are similar comments by one or two other posters, on this thread. Why are some Nigerians like this? If you proclaim yourself as last, then last shall he be. As a man thinketh, so he is.

njokuuche77:
Cos their sperm/egg is always richer.

Thats a very idiotic statement.

Sorry, not sorry!

Probz:
Mhm. This one’s even out of my depth. Ndo.

No problem. At least you tried.

somcherry:
Actually Azu doesn't directly or necessarily mean Support,
but in some context, laying on someone's back or giving someone a back can be translated to 'Support'

I translated Azu as back/Support, while yours seems to be Past/history

Support is greater is what I have always known Azuka to mean.

I am sure that there are other meaning,like the one you gave.

Yes Azu is back. But back does not equal, support. That is where you are making your mistake. In Igbo as well as English, you give support by lending a hand. Not giving a back?? The closest thing in English would be giving a shoulder to cry on (which is used in a consolatory sense).

Try using Azu as "support" in an Igbo sentence. That is when it would become manifestly clear to you that your translation is wrong.

Biko, nye'm aka = Please give me a hand/support.

somcherry:
Azuka actually means support is greater.
Giving someone a back can literally mean supporting someone.

I beg to differ. Support is Nyem aka - Literally to give a helping hand. Azuka as in the case of the name means past/history. The opposite of Azuka is Nkeiruka (Nkeiru being the future). Let me call the erudite scholars to come expound on this matter

cc: Tochex101, Pazienza, Probz, Scholti, Dremca.

Dremca:
I've decided to scrap "Nweke" and use my native name as my surname and keeping an english name as my first then probably adding another native name as my middle name. Just as I said from the begining, I want to read meaning to my names not an ancient name that has no clear definition as a surname. You're really one in a million and very grateful for your advice. I will simply say "AFAMEFUNA." Dalu!

Yes, Afa yi efuna, my dear.

BTW; Yi is my Oguta dialect coming through. We say Yi and not Gi.

And it was my pleasure. Chi gozie!

Dremca:
Wow. Thanks for this insight. You're very correct with my first name as english, middle name as native and wanting to make my surname english. What if I convert my middle name which is native to become my surname, then I'll be having only two names: first name to be english and surname to be native, no middle name. I really don't have problem with a bearing a native surname but the meaning of the "Nweke" which to doesn't have any origin and deep meaning aside "Nwoke amuri ubochi eke." Can I do without a middle name. Thanks so much, I'm very much grateful for your responses.

Well you can do that - use your native name as your last name and keep you English first name (that is if you dislike Nweke so much)
However, a better alternative even would be using your current native name as a last name (that way your children answer it as their last name as well) then you pick another native first name for yourself.

Best of luck in everything you do, nwanne!

Dremca:
But I don't think you're a traditional worship as a way of not accepting the white men imperialism and also to preserve what our fore-fathers left behind. Having said that, do you think still having at least one native names in my name will make me loose sight of where am coming from, does it make much difference. I look forward to your kind response. I really appreciate.

I believe in God. I am not a Christian although I was born one.
When I was a child, I was told about my great grand parents and those that came before them and how great they were. I was also taught about Christianity and how Jesus was the way the truth and the light and how no one can get to the Father except through him. One of the thoughts that crossed my young mind was, are they in hell? How can God the father let such good people go to hell? Yes, I was an inquisitive one and still am to this day.
Religion has been around forever. Man has always pondered about the meaning of life and if there is a higher power. And what I can tell you is that through the aeons, they have gotten some of the answers right. Some of these religions are older than and predate Christianity. Christianity copies quite a bit from Ancient Egyptian religion and Islam obviously copied a lot from Christianity. Now these religions were spread by convincing, warring against and subduing others into agree that theirs was only one way to God. They also used this for their imperialistic expansion, hence the wholesale attempt to destroy cultures, while imposing their own.
Some famous person said of the colonialist: when the came they had the Bible and we had the land. But when they left we had the Bible and they had the land.

That is why you see Nigerians being overzealous proponents of Christianity. As Chinua Achebe said, we are like people who go to a funeral and cry louder than the bereaved.

Now, even among the different Christian sects in Nigeria, you see the subtle warring for supremacy. Well, I believe God is bigger than this and that all that inter and intra wrangling for superiority, is man’s base nature shining through. While our ancestors got something’s wrong (as did Ancient Christians) they also got something’s right as it relates to God and the universe. So to conclude, I am a spiritual being striving toward a better understanding of God (and not necessarily under the aegis of Christianity).

Dremca:
Thanks for your input. Do you think having a native name in my names will make me loose my identity.

Yes having an English last name will contribute to you and your future generations losing you identity. You are voluntarily, watering yourself down. You previously said you have an Igbo name (which maybe your middle name for all I know. So you definitely have an English name (possibly your first name) and now you want an English last name as well? Biko, chegharia. Have a rethink and retrace your steps. All your names (first and last) should be in your native language. If your parents gave you an English first name, you should try to remedy that in your children as opposed to making it worse (giving them an English last names).

Between the First and Middle name, the first name takes predominance. So those Nigerians that move their native name to the status of a middle name, are just deceiving themselves. Of all the names, the last name is most tied to your heritage. Changing it to an English name bu aru (abomination). Did you know that when the slaves where brought to the America’s they were forcefully stripped of their name and their last name was made to denote whose slave they were? If you see a black American family with the last name of O’Neill, their slave owner was most likely Irish. Manigault = French. O’Malley = Irish. Stewart/Stuart = German.
There wa physical slavery and now there is mental slavery. Break free.

Biko, chegharia!

Dremca:
I've really learnt one or two things here. Can you suggest a native name that relate to "Nweke" with a deep clear meaning.

Hmm ... do you not speak or understand Igbo? Why then do you need me (a stranger) to pick a name for you?

Let me tell you a little story, There is a female relative of mine that did not teach her children a lick of Igbo. I spoke to her about this on several occasions, over an extended period of time. She continued the same thing. Then one day she sees me and says I should be teaching her son Igbo. I just gave her the side eye. Why should I teach him when I see him maybe once a month, for at most, an hour at a time? While she lives with him 24/7 and knows how to speak Igbo? As passionate as I was about the whole matter, I just had to let it be. People, show there ambivalence or their I don’t care attitude in different ways. And I think this your response/request is veering a little toward that.

Anyway, I will give a bit of the benefit of the doubt. Our names are an expression of ourselves, hopes, aspirations etc. Whenever you speak your name, you should be speaking life and blessings onto yourself. Tell me what speaks to you as a person, and I will give you the nearest equivalent in Igbo.

signature2012:
How work 2day?

Work is great. Finishing up for the day

Christianity and Islam were used as a tool of imperialistic expansionism and we can see the result here.

Dremca:
Is good to know you love your surname maybe because of the way it sound or the meaning but I pay more attention to meaning. There are funny Igbo names I can't give my children. Name like "Azuka" (back/backwardness is greater). It may sound nice to many but the meaning is awful. Same applies to names of other tribes.

It’s a shame that you are intentionally misinterpreting Igbo names. Azuka never meant and will never mean that backwardness is greater. Azu in Azuka means the past. Azuka means the Past/History is great (and accordingly should be given great reverence). It’s almost like saying that you have to know your past to appreciate your present.
We are great because of our ancestors that came before us, from the 2nd to the 10th generation and beyond. A r. Let me ask you this? Do you think your ancestors are in hellfire? And do you think you are so much better than them and all that they represent (because a Whitman came with a new religion and told you so?)

Dremca:
I currently bear my grand-father's name as my surname "Nweke" which means "A boy born on 'eke' market day" (One of the market days in Igbo: Eke, Orie, Afor, Nkwo) It could literally mean "son of a python" (Nwa- meaning Child, Eke- meaning python). Also from my findings it is affiliated with deities which I can't deeply explain.

Imagine having kids someday and my children walk up to me out of curiosity wanting to know the meaning of my surname and it sound meaningless. So I have decided to bear my grand-father's second name which is "Laurence" (his is Lawrence) which has a better meaning and acceptance. If the surname was Eze/Obi (meaning king) or any other meaningful name, I wouldn't have bothered changing it. I want to read meaning to my names, for the fact that my family members bears same surname doesn't mean I should do the same.

I would appreciate if you guys have a diverse view of the name if is worth keeping or not.

Cc: Lalasticlala, Mynd44

Nweke is an absolutely beautiful name and you should not change it. It means child born of Eke day. If igbo’a had no concept of time and did not count the days, it would have been used against them as a sign of incivility. And here you are working over time to denigrate said culture. Just like Ghanaians name their child after days of the week: Kwame, Kojo, Akosua etc, is the same things Igbo’s do.
Nweke can never mean child of a python. Igbo names are not literal so trying to give them a literal translation is a deliberate miseducation of the masses. Also Igbo language is tonal. One word can mean several things depending on the tone in which it is said. A good example is, Akwa. So when we know what a name means metaphorically or in the context in which it was used, it is disingenuous to swap it out for similarly spelt but tonally different words.
When the colonialists came, one of the ways in which the suppressed our culture was by insisting that people be baptized with English or Latin names. The colonialists have physically left our shores but some of us are so brainwashed that we willing carry out the masters work with gusto and try to be more Western than the westerners.
What does Lawrence mean? Man from Laurent? And how is this a better meaning than Nweke?
If you are going to change your last name, change it to another traditional Igbo name. There are plenty of good Igbo names. If you choose an English name, it would be very clear what you are doing. In one or two generations (tops) your descendants through your doing, will probably be bearing English first and late names, and the Conquest would be complete!
When you live abroad and see people that have been stripped of their heritage, past and history and how bereft and rudderless they feel, it becomes all the sadder when you see Nigerians willing throw their away, for no good reason

signature2012:
Cool and you?

I am just trying to relax after a long day

signature2012:
Hello phut?

Hey, wassup!

signature2012:
Ok,i work in manhattan too.

I actually live in Manhattan and work in Brooklyn

signature2012:
Wonders will never end.Some men are just too weak to be a man.
@phut,are you still in manhattan?

Yes, I am.

armyofone:
It would have been best if he discussed with your husband who in turn gives you head up about the plan for temporary stay - when are you coming and when are you leaving - madam must know.
Ask your husband how long the guy is going to stay.

It is a trap o! She should not do it. The man cannot move in cha cha. Because once he gets a leg in the door, it will be a struggle to get him out. The writing is on the wall. She should cajole, sweet talk or do whatever it takes to get her husband to see reason with her. Like an earlier poster stated, he should move to the self contained, with his sister.

paybak:
no tell me say you don quick vex oooo. Na joke level we dey ooo mami. And thanka for your advice tonight.

I no vex o! And you’re welcome.

paybak:
Ashawo.. I ask you make you come advise me you dey find something else.. Lol. You wan use her do morohunmubo(i see something carry come) before you go de-activate ba? No wahala.. Aunty phut wey you dey oooo? Coman answer your crush. God yaff finally provide for you a miracle NL husband.

And who tell you say I Dey look for miracle NL husband. Just because I advise you out of the goodness of my heart

paybak:
no be my fault aunty phut.. I no dey selfish. Infact i hate fish, trust me. But i always under perform with a condom. I can't do anything with it. I hate it i swear and i can't start asking girls to go for test before we'd have sex or so. How many girls i wan talk that to? No wahala sha, thanks for your advice. I go try change.

So make a commitment. Condom use would not be an issue if you were married. But if changing partners up and down is what you choose, changing the gender of your partner is not going to solve the problem. Decisions, decisions ay?
Anyway, I have spoken as the aunty that I is. I don’t really post a lot. But something about your post pushed me too. Don’t jump from frying pan into the fire

Jupxter:
You;re smart, been watching your comments for some time. Insatiety is the problem, gross inability to find a relationship and stay in it without drama. People are dramatic, selfish, place huge expectations on people and won't make the faintest of ammendments to be a batter person for the other party. Let's leave that aside jare. Ilove ya intuition. R u single and free to mingle?

My brother, I don marry ... born oh!

Jupxter:
Your "1" almost felt like I. For a moment i thought you gave the dude the infection

Lmao! No be me o! I don’t know the guy from Adam. But truly dude needs to fix himself. A lot of times people go about expecting, expecting, expecting from other people. That is the biggest problem in relationships because most people are too selfish and are always thinking about what they want. People that have this to an extreme, never find true happiness and fulfillment t because those come from within and not from others. You give an insatiable person, Queen Sheba, and they would still find fault.
OP change and improve yourself. Don’t try to mold the world into your perception of what it should be.

@ paybak: You are wary of girls because 1 gave you an infection in the past. You don’t like using condoms. You are now becoming attracted to guys.

Do you know that homosexual sex (anal) has the highest incidence of STD infection. Why don’t you face and fix the core issue, which is your hatred of condoms,instead of trying to externalize the blame? If you do not fix the core issue, how can homosexual sex help you?
Izizi nti ike na eso ozu ana - The stubborn mosquito follows the corpse into the grave. Be guided.

kimbraa:
You're making a mountain out of a molehill. Like the average Nigerian girl doesn't see marriage as poverty alleviation. What I stated was an inferred knowledge, you needn't see it that way.

Ginaz was right. You made an assumption

Fukafuka:
.....Right from birth

O te go since I heard this your username