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COntinue doing your certifications (NIPR)

Its a matter of time

cool you can write the fields you are interested in

People here can recommend companies or certifications in that industry

cc: MizMyColi

What you are experiencing is not new

That is the lot of 95 percent of people worldwide not only in Nigeria 

You are working in a private company owned by an individual who has not built processes

Such places exhibit a common characteristic of fast growth if you are a favorite of the owner or career dearth if you are not liked. 
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The options ahead of you are‎

1. Move to another department in the company:
Allows for breadth and exposure
Not so good if you are the ambitious type as you are more of a generalist n not a specialist 
This may not be a huge change as you are already tired of the company ‎
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2.‎Move to another company 
In this case you have to be strategic and patient  as you have to ensure the new job has what you want.
Very few companies will give you what you want..a structure 
I did not see money as an issue for you so I assume structure and development are your key value drivers 

3. Leave and start your own thing
Risk fraught
No need to expatiate on this

4. Change career
This is also a possibility as you have some experience and can tailor your resume to suit any role you'd like

5. Sabbatical and go for further education 

On the issue of reimbursement of training costs, that is possibly a new policy introduced because of you or only for those who have passed the first stage.
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You can take it

If you have to leave before the year runs out, you can repay the company when exit benefits are being computed.

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MizMyColi:
Hence, you should try to put forward the good in you.
That which bears witness to your soul (assuming it is a light filled soul), irrespective of the darkness around.


Thank you for getting .

As they say
Even Abacha had those he loved

MizMyColi:
Okay, first off.....I think the emboldened have a role to play in our becoming better individuals to one another.

Plus, I was trying to broaden my take on the statement "Our actions do not define us, our soul does"
You get?

your soul is unknown
What you can hold is your action

The cheap whôre you spoke about

one may keep on in that life
Another may get an education and move on
Another can open a business and become a magnate
Another marry into.wealth


I get what you hope I get



Any friendship to me is someone who you can trust to be there when you need someone

MizMyColi:
This could go both ways y'know.......
What if the person always means to give but always can't.

In the end it boils down to a person knowing one's self.
That statement, the one you first quoted is a rather personal talk between soul and self.

For example, people may look at me and see a cheap wh0re.
But in my heart of hearts, I know that it's not a life I want.
I may be doing my best possible (to the best of my knowledge) to become who I truly desire.......but no one would know, and they'd still keep labelling me as such.

That is what brought about the statement.

1.if he or she is my friend I would be aware of what he or she can do

So not helping when the need is here
How can that be a friend

A friend in deed is a friend indeed

2.On the statement being self and soul..does it relate to friendship then?

3.
If the person is a cheap whôre..does it mean she is not a good friend

I thought your article was about friendship and not self discovery and awareness

MizMyColi:
Some of us choose to let our past actions/inactions define us.
Determine the chart for our lives.....especially those bad ones.

All I'm saying is that what really matters is not who you are out there.
But who you are in here.
That's what should be lifted out, that's what you should be striving to become.

All too often, I've heard comments like --- "I know I shouldn't have done that, but somehow I did."
"I'm not a bad person (soul), but I don't know why I can't seem to control my urge to lie (actions).

Now, invariably....to the ordinary mind ^^^ the person above is a liar, innit?
But then again, some of us choose to see people for what they really are.....despite their wrong ways.
We figure it's the only way to help lift up the good in them, maximally.

You get?

I understand all you say however actions are the best indicator

All else are intentions

If a person wants to help me with a loan and says all the time he wants to help
yet he wants to always help

And never does

How can I rely on.him

Using a loan as an example

I agree that past action should not hang over one

Ultimately, our actions don't define us, our soul does. Let your soul always remain in a posture of love.....even when everything else negates and contradicts. Let your life be defined against this backdrop; Love (in its truest sense).

What does this mean

MizMyColi

standd:
Mr. Tallesty , what will you have me do? Delete my thread? Start a church?
Tell me oh.

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Pickabeau1..
My singular point is, if religion and whatnot has not helped us realize that what truly matters is Loving everyone ( regardless of tribe and religion, for our collective peace of mind), then we should start preaching the gospel of togetherness, brotherly love and peace more often.

Then maybe, just maybe people will stop fighting for 'God' in such a way that brings harm to others.

That's all.

Standd
That same point is in the same bible

You just wrote about the good samaritan

MizMyColi:
*sees him on the thread*
*picks race*

I was never here.



Someone remotely hacked my account and posted that.

Good Morning

Lol
The similarities are there
Anti religion
More of the heart
Etc

stand

I have read your article yet I don't understand your point
What is your punchline

This is a verse in the Bible

I Joh 4 20-21

If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?
And this commandment have we from him, That he who loveth God love his brother also.

Are u saying the fact that we have fundamentalists or hypocrites in the church negates the word of God

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Aside
I see a lot of similarities between your post and MizMyColi;s stand

Noloss:
Wife is expected to do house chores before going to office in d mor, do d laundry, prepare d kids for skool while hubby drops them @ skool, hubby is @ home all day long but how can d wife expects him to help with d house chores! What a mark of disregard, simply because hubby is not working. D whole house is dirty but how on earth is dat a man's work. We've all forgotten dat a woman is also made of flesh and blood like man, she is face with strees in d office, traffic on d road plus house chores @ home, any attempt to make man see d need to help is tagged pride. NIGER MEN, do unto ur wives what u would want them to do unto u. Thanks

Why do you think this is a naija phenomenon
Must we bash anything naija to feel better
This is an American debate which happened a few months and still generates tons of debate till today
See Fox Debate here http://mediamatters.org/blog/2014/05/04/fox-is-just-asking-are-female-breadwinners-a-pr/199162


Excerpts from a TIME article on this http://time.com/87890/fox-news-female-breadwinner/

But the data, such as it is, tends to support the view, crudely put by Morris, that men find not being the breadwinner a little unsteadying. Pew research shows that most Americans still believe that having a mother at home and a father at work is the best arrangement for raising a family. And it’s true that men’s self-esteem is very much tied up in their ability to do well at work and to make money. Studies have found that men are more likely to cheat and feel worse about themselves when their wives make more than they do.

Oh.. I forgot that whites don't cheat.. only naija men do

However as usual, bashing naija males is the favorite pastime of the females here

[quote author=Bre post=31264849][/quote]Stay blessed x

Bre:
You see, I was woman enough to state my own shortcomings and how I outgrew them to now have a more positive outlook on men and marriage. I said all that to now show that this article further solidifies my belief in a happy matrimonial home and also how that stems from a good man.

Once again.. it flies over your head
You grew up as you professed
Is the message not about growing up and seeing the strong male characters which have always been round about you

For you to only read my comment and not just pick out the negative, but fixate on it and also try to underhandedly insult me shows that you are not ready. I've made up my mind on how positively I now want to view the world, which I believe is the correct way, but you seem really bitter about that. Suit yourself

Boohoo... now its me who is bitter
I only highlighted your own words

I see you have really grown up
Females here are never ready for frank feedback

The men around you did not change
You did

Go figure

Instead of writing articles telling men about the need for emotional growth why not write articles telling people like ou who are not grown up and are unexposed to boot?

You see, the problem was with you all along

You based on your beliefs on what you read and not what you experienced

Bre:
I used to believe that most men had such an immature understanding of the true nature of a marital bond, given the way the media portrays men as whorish and with tunnel vision for making money and little room for much else. Of course, as I grew up and became more exposed to my male peers, I realised how superficial such an opinion was. The interview below was taken by a black American journalist perfectly tells the gains he has made in life brought on by the benefit of being married, which I find beautiful. I also hope that any guy out there reading this who needs to grow emotionally and change their view on marriage is touched in the spirit. I'd like to know your thoughts.



http://theybf.com/2015/03/02/news-anchor-tj-holmes-celebrates-his-5th-wedding-anniversary-reveals-why-he-got-married

mcdokwe:
Believe it or not, if the man moves to the UK, he and his family who are likely to be dependent on him would have to strain you awhile for succour whilst he tries to get employment or not and the same women here would berate his lazy ass for living off a woman thereby giving you the impression you are doing something that never should be done in marriage.

This
https://www.gq.com/blogs/the-feed/2014/03/03/05-BILL-MURRAY-CLAPPING.gif

UjSizzle:
I don't understand this question. He already crossed over to the other side and came back.

Oh..i remember
He died as a hybrid and came back when the other side collapsed

Adek15:
Esther, the Original Witch, made and enchanted six gold lapis-lazuli rings for the members of the Original Family of vampires (also known as "The Originals", so that they can prevent burning from sunlight. Although the Originals cannot be destroyed by the sun, the sun will burn them before they heal. Without rings in public they would expose themselves as vampires.

Super!

Esther is not d original witch though

oP..
Can you take a sabbatical from your work place
Or unpaid leave of absence
You can use the time to study an online course

Be positive...
You may use the time to bond well and hubby nay still want you guys back in the UK so he can raise the kids in a saner environment

5minsmadness:
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

I had to laugh at this..

Smartestelvis:
dere is a reason why science detest SS ppl,if we continue 2 ignore d hazards,den dere comes a generation with 99% ss......so its a big no 4 me dats y i get my chicks tested b4 our relationship even heat up

Quick one

How come tyler did not die when the magic rolled back

He died at some point to become a hybrid

miracle kissing man

kilokeys:
kissed and pronounced healing

u are truly a miracle man..

u hv cured her from konji

MizMyColi:
What I do na
I just wrote

I don't see any issue if they have d means

Another good anime

Hell sing Ultimate

NLSince:
Hey Guys,

I'm in a fix right now. I created this account to seek advice about my current situation. I have seen some very good and some not-so-good advice being dished out here. I really hope I get more of the former.

So there's this lady who I'm interested in dating. infact, I was about to ask her out yesterday when one thing led to another and she told me she was SS.

Here's a little background to this:
1. I consider myself a good guy. I'm not a player and I can't date you if I don't see us heading to the aisle. I have been in relationships before which have ended but I don't date with the intention of ending it.
2. Because of Number 1, I don't just ask out anyone. I start by being friends and then if I see a future, I'll then take it forward else we mutually friendzone ourselves. I'm different, Bite me.
3. This Lady ticks most of the boxes I think is important. And I actually believe(d) that this would be my Last Bus stop. However, I don't want to get a wife who'll leave me soon.
4. I'm AA

I'll be grateful if you guys help me with answers to this:
a) Should I go on with this? or should I free her? or go against everything I believe in and break off the relationship once her next crises comes. (OMG, that's brutal. I'm cringing just writing that)
b) I know if we have kids, they'll be AS. What chances of survival does she have? at least to get up until 70. She's 25 right now.

Searching for a wife is hard. I really don't want to lose a good one (If I don't have to) and start searching again.

cc:s

AA n SS have no issues
However the only risk area is during labor but ifthis is managed (good hospitals or even abroad)
I see no issue


MizMyColi

This story is convoluted

Is she based in Ilorin or what


What is the cause of the marital issue?

LOL....

In my experience female wards get more monies than their male siblings

You better calibrate or is this just a thread for thread's sake

Charles4075:
I won't be surprised.. Every 80 to 90 percent of ladies today will definitely do this or something similar to this.. A lady who's married to a single father always have this irrevocable hatred for the step-child. Many won't agree to this but sadly it's true.. 2 year old baby- that lady needs to be dipped in honey and staked out in an ant farm.

You are right

There's a potential seed in women to hate another child in proximity aside their own

Only a very enlightened woman will not succumb to this


There was a thread by a Lady which expressed how she really felt about a step child
That is how most of them feel at the subconscious

https://www.nairaland.com/2128507/having-child-future-husband-already



May God help our kids from.evil women