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Habybullah:
Wish ma IYAWO would read this!!! I always boast that I could never hit a woman. I never ever laid hands on ma sisters or any other woman @ that! But in the 2 years of our marriage, I ve hit ma wife twice! Coz she wouldn't just ever shut up! Calling me names, calling ma family names.

Send her back home for training

Well since you don't have to take me seriously.. You can move on to other things....continue your kitchen krusade


Soon you will release a list of dos n fonts

Bring your own pot and stove

bukatyne:
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SO all you understood is 'me and my family?' in this whole thread?

SMH

Funny enough, you never dropped your opinions on the OP instead started throwing jabs here and there [/s]

Madam...
No one is dragging with you Na
Do I need permission to post on this thread too since you are the connoisseur of etiquette?

...Or the Air conditioner to save on power

bukatyne:
And your point is

You have not made any point/ dropped your opinion; just drifting from one side to another.

Those who understand do..
Keep hustling in your kingdom

I know many of your type
Me and my family in not so many words

damiso:
Ok..PH is South south too abi?

One can never say.

Ezatily
If your travels bring you that way, one of these days..

Have fun

Timbuktou:
Latent truths, right there.

True that ,,.. bro

damiso:
Where is SS?

South South

This Niyola is not bad..

ezatily//

crackhaus:
That's actually the norm to most, but this woman just needed to hear something sweet and romantic - the man didn't oblige

damiso:
Ok...I no get pawa again jare seems the etiquette/manners point is subjective.

Hosts be accomodating, ,guests just carry go

Abeg who will host me out of all this excellent host we have on NL I will be coming with my 2 year old who is one man ransacker you must not vex if he ransacks your underwear cabinet o

We will have loved to

Dont know if your itinerary comes close to my end in the vibrant SS

if these are the best of our Media personalities, we need to arrange for more talent shows

Big ups however to
Facially
- osas
- Stephanie
- Dolapo

Last Bullet
For sex appeal
Only TWO

MoetAbebe and Pearl hart

OP Go and organmise a talent hunt

whether he says it or not
The reality is that one is working for his wife n kids

Seldom does one spend more than 10% of his income on himself directly
Th bulk of it goes to wife shopping, vacation, school for kids, feeding, inlaws..

At times like this January na debit sef till February

as in,,,...

Timbuktou:
Isn't it strange that in the age of enlightenment in which we find ourselves, society is degenerating before our very eyes. Yet, these virgins will come on here and denigrate wisdom that made our ancestors survive evolution. Too much knowledge, too little wisdom.

Timbuktou:
It's not about him punching her. What ever happened to the good old-fashioned method of sending her home?

This technique worked wonders in the old days
The old men knew best

im still waiting for the divorce wolves

This thread is too mellow for one that deals with spousal abuse

Hosts now encourage you to come along with your int'l driving license so you can use a car for shopping and whatnots or lease a car

Some go for as low as 60$ per day(insurance inclusive)

Why should a host be driving around all day or cooking all day

This thread on spousal abuse is so mellow.....

interesting read

bukatyne:
Hope you read the OP

Your wife can enter your friend's kitchen she has not met before without their permission like '...'oh, nice to meet you Mrs. P, please feel free to make breakfast etc. etc.'

Read the OP.

Continue to rule over your kitchen
Soon people will come and visit you with their own pots and pans

in my experience so far

In the West-- kitchens are open and no biggie
Some even allow use of cars as i noticed there was a comparison of car to kitchen

Here - kitchens are temples and are forbidden to everyone but the hostess
Some even dont allow their husbands to take meat from pot of soup.

The hostess was out of line
She did not like the girl frend and had a superiority complex

Hosts should be accomodating
You allowed them in

damiso:
True and I concur...But I would like to ask a question though and that is where the lines of etiquette and culture or should I even say manners be drawn? Eg If you do me a favour as a friend that I know is no biggie to you and I don't say thank you will it be wrong or 'holding another to your high standards' if another friend takes offence that I did not say thank you simply because I and you friend A sees no biggie in it?

Be I no be kitchen klux clan last night na hubby still fry dodo for the kids before I got back from work and I gladly tucked into my share with his legendary egg sauce I even invite people to come over and cook stuff that I don't know how to so I can learn from them..Life is not that hard jare so this is not even territorial for me or about gender or about the kitchen but etiquette not juston the part of a host but a guest as well.

Here women dont want trespassers in their kingdom

BoboYekini:
Apologies, but what's all this about a background being an excuse for poor judgment/bad behavior? I don't care what your background is, just have common decency and be civil/non-confrontational. In fact, be friendly. Especially with guests. Or isn't that the hallmark of the traditional African culture? Hospitality( which pretty much includes allowing your guests free reign of your property) ?

.....
I think I will watch out for how chill my partner is with random guests before committing o. This is serious.

Each person has a background which determines their behaviours and thinking
Ascribing those norms as a standard of right thinking-ness for everyone else is what should be condemned

aisha2:
They are on their own abeg. They left a thread calling others ill mannered and came to do this one for whatever reason. Abeg limit it to these women they don't speak for anyone but themselves

Kitchen Klux Klan

LOL

Good to know our women are claiming back their kingdom

So the message here is that it is easier to sleep in an African woman's home than enter her kitchen

Its called don jassi... .

Setaje:
Don't want to be tribalistic but this happened to my elder sister. She was to get married to an Igbo guy in the u.s who is a psychologist in the army. this guy's was very very ok. His elder sister's children, 2 of them we're living wiv him. He was paying their school fees in the university till they finished. This guy and my sister were supposed to get married. After the guys nephew and niece finished university, the guys twin brother back in Nigeria sent 2 of his own children too for this soldier to train. Meanwhile the soldier is above 40. The soldier was also sending money in millions for his family back here in Nigeria cus he was doing other businesses too. The guy is from abia.

To cut the long story short, the guy tell in people say in won marry o, say in don try for the ones wey in don do. That he wants to start his own family. Like play like play my sister started having terrible dreams wiv people chasing her. A lot of things happened to her that I wouldn't want to divulge more than this. At the end the relationship scattered. The guy is almost 50 and he is not married yet. And less I forget, he has finished training his twin brothers children. The last my sister heard was that his elder sister and her husband are currently staying wiv him. What do u call that?

emmysexxy:
point noted sir thanks for the advice.but to be clear prayer without deeds is useless.I pray and fast as much as I can for dj but we still need to do things fast to perfect his healing.but I never said he had two weeks to live I was only advicing something be done fast so his case does not get critical.sir pls have u seen dj one on one?if you have hen you wouldn't say am blabbing thanks and God bless our struggles.

Post the information you have

So what do you suggest

Themaingate:
To be honest with you if ahmed were to be my brother i will fight to the end to find a final solution to his problem inasmuch as i have people around me who can help and not use the useless Palliative care these TeHN guys are talking about . THEY HAVE ALREADY PULL THE PLUG AND JUST LOOKING FOR A WAY TO TELL THE HOUSE .

Even if they have consulted a doctor before arriving at this Palliative care ARE THEY NOT SUPPOSE TO SEEK THE OPINION OF THIS HOUSE IF ITS OKAY WITH US OR NOT ? WHY MAKE A CONCLUSION THAT STAGE 4 CANCER HAS NO SOLUTION ?

Themaingate

It is unfair to state that there would have been a higher level of accountability if we had personal contributions into the fund
Each fund raised is treated with a duty of care as expected for peoples monies

Also if you did not know, we also contributed financially, with time and materially also

This is to disabuse your mind that actions are different because it is not 'our money'. That is wrong
What do you suggest going forward ... as u have rightly noted, funds are limited

Themaingate:
allowing TeHN take over this case was a big mistake on our part because most of us never new they are not ready for change

This same people have made lots of mistakes in the past yet we decided to ignore those mistake and forge ahead

One thing i am 100% sure of is that if all these fund have come from their purse probably they would have being more accountable and reasonable

when donation was coming in on a daily basis , this thread was always updated every week sometimes 2-3times in a week but now its now a thing of secrecy and that is the problem with the average black man

Now their new method is using the term Palliative care which means when a patient reaches a point at which treatment to destroy the cancer is no longer warranted, palliative care becomes the total focus of care. It will continue to be given to alleviate the symptoms and emotional issues of cancer. Palliative care providers can help ease the transition to end-of-life care.

which means there are lots of information at their disposal that they are not feeding us with

A team that even its member could not coordinate themselves

A team that does not carry its followers alone

A team that kick against all suggestion without looking back

My only question is that if that donation get exhausted WHAT WILL BE THE NEXT ACTION PLAN ? COME BACK TO THIS FORUM TO ASK FOR MORE MONEY OR ABANDON AHMED?

I wonder...

lol

Nicemoc:
Ask them o. I know of a family that sold their lands just to send their son abroad. The guy got there and forgot about his family. He doesn't call them and when they call him, he doesn't pick their calls. They are not even asking for money, they are begging him to keep in touch