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bukatyne

Your initial statement was condescending. like someone is retarded.. speak/write in english


Thats on this thread... no need to bring other things into it

.... 2 leaved gate

I had to laugh,,,, please continue

Chiamaka01:
@freshdude2,

That's why i said it's a partnership, i won't agree and all these things would have been trashed before getting married. It's a two-way thing, if he doesn't allow me to bear my surname and his, he can take a walk.

so which names will the kids bear

The husband name or the hyphenated name

Just a thought to add to the mix
OP

Why the obsession to keep the fathers name? He is still a man anyway,,,, the father is just the known patriarch since porting to the new patriarch's name seems to be the issue.


Why not change the mix.. invent a new name to break from the tradition

To show uniqueness, sophistication and class

Heck,... why do we stop there.. lets choose names as we see fit and change them periodically like the moon

crackhaus:
Will the children of girls from such families bear their maternal grandfather's name?

Will the name not still end?
Think about it...

Oh,,, why did u spoil the whole thing..
Lets look at their preferred scenario

So Alex Osifo marries Patience Ozokwor; she becomes Patience Ozokwor-Osifo(to maintain her fathers lineage)
So Chiamaka01.. if the child is called Peter

Will he named Peter Osifo or Peter Ozokwor-Osifo

which...

Chiamaka01:
@pickabeau1,

Marriage is more or less a partnership to me. Mutual love and understanding between two adults is the first step. The next step is the decision to live together and how they decide to that will be agreed on by the both of them.

ok.. fair enough.... this works too

TV01

https://www.4thletter.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/laughter.gif

freshdude2:
Yes bawse. Apparently, there's no need to get married.

It just so happens I'm in the mood to give lectures. So, gather round children, Uncle Freshdude is in a good mood.

LOL..

Chiamaka01:
crackhaus,
Since there's no point either way, let the woman decide what she wants. Problem solved.

Still waiting for your response...

pickabeau1:
Ok.. lets leave Bible out of it then
So let me, ask you what is marriage to you

freshdude2:
But why marry? Why go through the stress of the ceremony and all. Why bother? You can visit your love interest and vice versa, have children, it's a current reality. No need living under the same roof. You can easily keep your name when you're single.

Exactly

I'm still waiting for the OP response

I think we should agree marriage should be proscribed so we can move on from this embattled level.

bukatyne:
What is the damn about?

Just damn...

Damn

simplyOJ:
We may have heard things like; this babe is deperate, that babe eye cut....etc.

What would make you consider a lady desperate?

you are mixing up two things

babe is desperate is used for one seeking marriage
babe eye cut is slang for a gold digger

which is it

Chiamaka01:
@pichabeau1

Lmao @ 2 are 1. If you want to go biblical, the holy book says, 'a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife'. It's not the other way round.

Ok.. lets leave Bible out of it then
So let me, ask you what is marriage to you

So why marry really

Why the emphasis on vows that say 2 are 1

If the wife is not part of the man...frankly why the heck should people marry

Let's all live together have kids..see how it goes and.move on... no better nor worse

Right?

All these name crap drama....

Chiamaka01:
To
denigrate something is to make it seem less valuable or important. You
said, 'a wife is an extension of her husband' and that is what made me
refer to you as a misogynist. A wife is not her husband's extension, for
God's sake, she had a life before they got married.
In addition, it's demeaning to refer to me as a man's extension. It's more like you're objectifying women.

Fulaman198:
Forgiveness does not necessarily mean you go back to someone. Forgiveness is the act of accepting what someone has done and moving on. I would move (without her) on and accept her act, I would hold no grudge against her but when you are married, you should know that cheating is not acceptable.

Ok

Fulaman198:
Yes I would forgive a woman for cheating on me, but it does not mean I would get back in a relationship with her. Not going to happen! With that said, same goes for women, they shouldn't forgive men for cheating.

You have not specified the woman

Here it means wife

If you forgive her and not get back in a relationship aka divorce or seperation how is that forgiveness

freshdude2:
Well, there's a point to logical conclusion. Per redeeming themselves, many will have to learn the hard way, you know, the proverbial created-for-damnation quota . My broda, soon far sef. That era is already upon us, case in point, this thread.

Interesting

freshdude2:
Bros, you get time to argue marriage matter with person wey still dey sag jeans? No time abeg.

No vex ooo....bros

I wanted to understand the link no matter how puerile it sounded

Just give them a chance to redeem themselves


How not allowing multiple names is now misogyny?

Soon if u tell a woman anything she does not feel happy about..u r a miso

Interesting angle on damage limitation but he should not have kidnapped the girl.


There is a double whammy over you on your actions

Traditionally u are not married.... U have no rights over d child..... Igbo custom


Modernically...u did not want the child...kidnap over waters is serious game.

stinggy:
Lmao @ the conversation; pickabeau1 and freshdude2



For allowing their wives hyphenate?
That's where I felt you're a miso freshdu. Well, maybe our views differ greatly. All man to his thought.

Dude...

You felt he's miso for saying men who allow wives to hyphenate should be castrated.

How can be a miso if he wants to castrate men


Duh...

Secondly if he's a miso...according to you...will u be a misandrist since u use the common word used by ladies to stifle dissenting opinion

UjSizzle:
Not really. I don't deliberately seek 'em out.
.

ok.. they r interesting/...i like them... they tell u how d world will be when technology destroys us all

Others are Terminator
Matrix
Running Man etc

any fans of Asimov in the house

It is well

please go through this thread
You may pick one or two things there

https://www.nairaland.com/1347408/feeling-suicidal-come-here-first

UjSizzle:
Hmm will look it up then. Thanks

Yep... are u into apocalyptic stories or films

Solid books

15 men on a dead mans chest Yohoho and a bottle of rum

That song can never leave my mind forever....

The Iliad is deep mehn,... do u know there were a clan of warrior women called the Amazons.... those babes could fight
The heroes of the war.... ajax, achilles, odysseus, hector
The gods jostling for spoils

The curse of Aganmemnon

Damn....i feel like reading it again


LOL

Other classics

Moby Dik
The Lord of The Rings
The Hobbit
Silmarillon

Nonso23:
Treasure island I think that book is responsible for my crazy obsession with the sequels of the movie 'pirates of the caribbean'

Gulliver travels - Read

Frankenstein - Read shortly before i read HP and the philosopher's stone.

I never knew Dracula had a book. - Unread

Lady chatterley's lover kidnapped - Unread

I get the 'oddysey' now - Read

UjSizzle:
Haven't heard of it before. How good?

It expands on the Big Brother themes in 1984

Its actually a comic... but a movie was made out of it

UjSizzle:
The first is by Charles Dickens.

1984, yeah it did. Orwell was thinking about the soviet union when that book was written, though it wasn't published the same year and garnered a lot of criticisms (for obvious reasons). This writer sure loves satires.

Yes...it was about the SU.... but its applicable to the New World Order
have u read or watched V For Vengeance

Add


Frankenstein
Dracula
I think she means the Illiad as the Odyssey is a part of the Illiad
Lady Chatterleys Lover
Kidnapped
Treasure Island
Gullivers Travels

Nonso23:
1984 - Unread.

Animal Farm - I gave the song 'Beasts of England' when i read the book.

Count of Monte Cristo - Unread.

Oddysey - Read (hope it's the same oddysey i know)

Tale of Two cities - Read

Oliver Twist - Read
So these are classics?
*Facepalm*.

Thanks

UjSizzle:
Ok!
While at it also get:
1984
Animal Farm
The Count Of Monte Cristo
The Odyssey
A Tale Of Two Cities
Oliver Twist

Nice books.. i have not read A Tale of Two Cities and 1984 though ive watched 1984
Set the tune for our Hunger Games and Divergence movies

ladygogo

Oh..u are the mouthed one to talk...
few months after wedlock and ur bitchy ways are already back online
anything wrong offline?

As i said,...its all fun and games

You cats all make subliminal jabs.. then will start screaming wolf....

all fun and games

ok.... have it ur way....

Nonso23:
Honestly, It's frustrating but when you've searched the ends of the earth for a particular novel even if it is written on papyrus you'll settle.
I wasn't a fan of e-books until it dawned on me that i had very few options in that regard. I'm slower and i do get dry eyes once in a while but i'm getting used to them.

I only read classic novels on recommendation. I always think it'll have something to do with princes and knights and damsels in distress. Sentimental much.

then u will like IvanHoe

I had it on paperback long ago

Shirley07:
His wife is a woman. Or is she not?

ok.... whats the relevance of that to this debate
and before u get carried away...the like u got are for that statement and not for the diatribe on Paul legitimising slavery bit