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Secondly, Paul said Eve was the deceiver and the sinner, not Adam. However, the bible made us know that both Adam and Eve were sinner and it's also known fact that Adam had his own share of the curse because he was disobedient and allowed himself to be deceived.

The truth is Paul championed slavery and you're obviously blind not to see it.

TV01:
Leave them. The quality of a womans eggs can start to deteriorate as early as 26 and early menopause can happen from 32. It's the older 35+ ones who will be taking this offer up - erroneously thinking this a good thing & that it extends their "marriageable shelf lives".

In the end, it won't make them more attractive to men - the key to that has, and always will be youth and beauty. Thinking about it, they'd be best served freezing their faces !


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BluIvy:
Lol! Sorry to you too. There is no way in hell I would request a trip to Nigeria. Its not only the worst place to live but its the worst place to die at.

tintingz:
and I was like OK you deserve a Like.

tyconcepts:
Is a random thought but WHAT IF.

tyconcepts:
Would it really be wrong for a man to adopt his wife's maiden name just to make way in life given the current economic situation of the country amidst other "what ifs" plus we all know some names do opens doors.

hispinkolo:
Well,I for one don't see anything wrong with sharing..after all most of us here have written the good and bad about ourselves.
If you've cheated or almost cheated,please come and share..
Or just come and talk about cheAting generally and say its a friend or close uncle.
We will accept.
How else will we learn and adjust?

bukatyne:
I would really like to know

bukatyne:
Short ke? Why?

@bolded: Please na... today is my b.day

hispinkolo:
^^
Those are the only reasons I could think of..
Chrisbenegor is asking the men to come and confess to cheating,near miss cheating or things that could make them cheat.
How easy would it be for someone who quotes the bible to come and write it down here?

bukatyne:
Thanks

You thought I was an old wrinkled feminist right?

So what mental image did you have?

hispinkolo:
Chrisbenogor,
Start with yourself naww.We de wait

I think our male contributors are shy or too holy.I don't think they'd want to dent their Nairaland image especially on other threads where past utterances could be dug up and used against you

bukatyne:
2. Me (Without my face)

edi287:
Why can't we go a full season without having a injury crisis??

freshdude2:
Abi na. The type that will go and fvck Nnamdi the yahoo boy because Emeka the boyfriend is in the library doing his assignment and therefore, doesn't have time to "give attention".

zboyd:
Just like a man will only do what a woman allows him to do - so will a woman only do what a man allows her to do.

FYI...most women detest men who they can walk all over - they consider them weak and passive - they respect strong, assertive men.

If a woman can turn her back on an unhappy marriage where she is disrespected and/or subjected to verbal and physical abuse and take her kids and raise them by herself...so can a man...no matter the investment. I've seen women walk away from cushy lifestyles because of some messed-up in the head men, vowing never to return and they don't return. As for the kids...some pray for their warring parents to separate and/or divorce. It becomes too much for them. It messes with their heads.

And I don't know the kind of men you know, but the ones I know don't take nonsense from women. You will not disrespect them or talk to them crazy because they will check you, without laying one finger on you or calling you any nasty names. They don't wait for any BS from any woman to become a habit, if they know, without a doubt in their minds that they have been good husbands and fathers. They will walk. For them, peace of mind is far more valuable than any material things. Some even take their kids with them or share joint custody.

To be more specific, I know of several Naija men over here who have done that very thing. One has five kids he's raising, with the help of his parents who live here now. As for his ex-wife, she's in the banking field, makes good money and has to pay him child support and the kids hate her, for the way she talked to and treated their father. She's one nasty piece of work! As for him and the kids, they are so much happier. And the ex-wife? Word on the street is that she swears he'll come crawling back to her one day. Yeah...when pigs fly.

Life is too short to be miserably married.

So...why stay in an unhappy marriage?

Here are 10 reasons some people do...http://anamikas.hubpages.com/hub/Divorse-unhappy-Marriage-reasons

freshdude2:
ABEautifulChick, the words above are words of the wise. You'd do well to heed them. Refrain from enjoying comfort from words of pre-degree students who have never kept a relationship for up to 6 months.

What would be more disgusting than this thread is another thread complaining of this same issue. You don't have to get married to him, you shouldn't marry him just because "he can't do without you or begs with cars and houses". If your heart says don't, then don't. Move on if you feel you need to.

Dbestmax:
Left to me shaa...I refuse to debate dis besides glory or no glory..D gains ends in dia pockets..I jts enjoy seeing my country participating in various Events...weda dey end up winning or losing as usual

Chrisbenogor:
True that about the dealing with inlaws, however men generally have not spoken of their own experiences on this thread or how they see things which can sometimes be really different from how women perceive it.

Now to cheating.....Cheating is wrong I could not totally agree more.
However it happens as can be seen on this thread. When it does however I do not think it is just enough to say oh he/she cheated on you, it was wrong. In my small experience when someone you really care about cheats on you, asides from the anger you feel sometimes most people cannot help but feel a sense of inadequacy on their part led to their partner straying. This can sometimes be true, however at other times not so true. I am talking about getting to the root cause, why it happened and not if what happened was bad. Unless that root cause is dealt with as with a marriage then I think it is a set up for further disappointment.

I think not cheating for a both couples has to do with discipline but most especially for men. Men don't like to talk about their challenges, there are some men here who have gone through these things and fashioned very good ways to deal with it, others could not be bothered about it - they do it because they can, others have fallen and learned from their mistakes and vowed not to do it again, others have decided to live with it.

This is really a difficult topic to talk about without ruffling feathers of impatient people, its like trying to explain how a ghetto neighbourhood would be very prone to vices, explaining what kids go through from starting off life without many options but to go into drugs or violence. Its not a justification for going into it, however if something is to be done about it a proper understanding of the problem is important to fashioning a solution.


So I will try and leave the floor open for men to try and open up, this is not about being self righteous because many men with even bigger things to loose have fallen prey to cheating on their wives. For instance As a man

1. What are the factors that could lead you to cheat?
2. How do you handle it when you find yourself in situations that lead to it?
3. If you have had this experience before or a near miss, could you share how you handled it?

This list by no means exhaustive, but its a start.

Dbestmax:
Jst watch dose matches u'ld see dat Keshi is tactically lost....besides his Ego wudnt allow him bring in his big names to play...and u say he shudnt b blamed...D success of evry team lies on d hands of d coach
Even Arsene Wenger can atest to dat

Dbestmax:
Xo hu do u think shud b blamed

moemoni:
Am a girl of 21 and a guy of 32 is asking me out he is not married though,is he too old for me to date cos I like him

Chrisbenogor:
It has been a hit and miss on this thread in terms of understanding the mindset of men, generally and individually.


Maybe some of the married men reading this thread can come and break this whole cheating thing down for instance. The problem usually is that offering an explanation usually comes across as a justification. I cannot help but feel that in the end most ladies still wonder why their man cheated (or do some other things) and I think this makes it harder to get over, to forgive and move on from it ( or not).

This "battle" of the sexes cannot be won without a good understanding of what makes your partner (man/woman) tick, and then working this to achieve what you want.