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@jeffizy

I feel you

Sard: I saw this coming, the same way homosexuality was declared to be sexual orientation rather than a disorder. The world is going crazy. NL gays/lesbians/pedophiles should spare me any hullabaloo, I only said my mind.

True,...
Its a matter of time... they will revise the revision and bring it back...

YPP... Thanks for your response and I endorse your heart felt expression

The truth is that women are deprived of many things especially in tradtional settings where she is to be seen and not heard
Granted

I have told my cousins to hide money from htheir hubby as I was not comfortbale with certain aspects of the man;s actions.. so its no biggie

But in the specific example on this forum which was referenced, I do not support the action of the woman who went behind her hubby, depriving the family of financial resources considering the properties are in both their names

next of kin does not mean the person will inherit the property though it has been abused in our part of the world

Read the thread wella... the man did not bypass the woman

yellowpawpaw: Biola,I quite disagree with u.
Let me use my culture to buttress my point.
An igbo man got married and along the line started acquiring ppty. In the next of kin, he writes, children,mother, brother but no wife. When the man dies,the family will pounce on d woman. U hv heard of many cases, read many even here. So I ask u, where does this leave the woman?

I did my service in a big organisation and worked in records dept. When we were updating files, MAJORITY of the men did not put their wives as NOK but children and bro. If the man kpai, c tussle even to court level. Now what do u want such women do?

Women r getting wiser by d day and taking destinies in their hands.
Had it been men r doing the suppoesed normal thing, women won't go this far.

I hv seen threads here about whom a man will make his next of kin. Go and read it. I think it answered all the ?s u might want to ask.

I will always encourage women to fight for themselves. If ur man c no reason for bypassing ur name, I c no reason why u wouldn't bypass him and do ur own thing as u deem fit. Its only bad if he is jointly doing things and u decided to go solo.

nanonye: Hello guys with PER's. Please with regards to the Proof of Funds document, can it just be a letter from the bank stating what my bank balance is or must it be a full bank statement over a certain period? I know the Checklist shows it can be a letter from the bank but just want to know if any of our people with OER's used letters. Thanks.

A 3 or 6 month bank statement should suffice.
6 months is preferred

It seems its now politically correct nay the astute thing for married women in these times to acquire property individually in their own names without recourse to the marriage institution while the man acquires in both partners' names.

Interesting......


Truly I wait for the day when it changes from MAN's Money, our money; woman's money , my money , To a more equitable my money my money-face your wahala by yourself....

It should not be long anymore going by the volume of support for the woman's act.

kayceemadug: I'm in a choir....a lead singer....I also sing back up in studios... esp when I'm in school cos that's the only time I HV opportunity....

Then you may be onto something...

Academically how sound are you

You folks will not change

tintingz: The only molested or sexual assaulted act I have confirmed was an egytian woman she was protesting against post-Mubarak regime not human right and not a feminist...

Whether that or not, her rights as a human were flouted

tintingz: it is true but she said they show the video of the woman molested on CNN.

She was assaulted but not r@ped....

Lol.......sean paul doesn't mind......


Seems you just thrive on these brickbats...kulyie
You love throwing back missiles

O gba gbere rara ooo

GoodFaith: Grow up?

Not necessary digging up threads...that place is a sanctuary and you betray the trust of a lot of people by posting comment to make fun of them

armyofone: see BB's question

Good to know u r catching your trips

tintingz: LIES!

Its true... egypt

De Beauvoir: How is the probability low?
Did you not see my last post where I listed the groups of men in her age range and above her age where she can find a mate from?

Hmm..how many women in the advanced ages get married

armyofone: 2Buff, nothing wrong using her money to buy boy toys now especially when little johnny can't stand up or you want her to continue to shuffer and shmilling for ever and ever?
building new house and buying boy toys are precious investments .

Are you joking or really serious...

Now I see why its not clear to you

Prob is probability. Not problem...

De Beauvoir: The 'problem' of her getting a mate from which age range exactly?

Let us assume this hypothetical woman is 40 years old. Are you telling me she has an extremely low chance of getting a mate regardless of the fact that there are men of 45-50 who are still not married and regardless of the fact that there are divorced and widowed men of 45-50 age range?
Are you telling me that the 'problem' of older women getting a mate is very low even though there are men of her age/above her age who are single and also searching for a mate?

tintingz: There are more single women than men. #fact

that may not be factually true


More like: There are more women of marriageable status (age, experience etc) than there are of men (age, money, etc)

So the women hustle for the same pool of men overlooking the males who are getting by..

hypergamy

De Beauvoir: I don't understand you. How does this prove that there are not enough men to go round for women?
Please explain it in your next post.

i assumed the post was clear

Let me try another analogy

if u consider males and females in totality,... ur facts ring true... and shows male mortality on average is higher ...


However if you consider based on age that genders mate especially in the populous areas of the world.. the ratio of males to females changes drastically

In some parts of afrika, once a woman reaches a certain age, the prob of her getting a mate is low

In Europe n the West, they are more open

I dont know how to explain this obvious reality further

ifechukwukamso: A tip of the iceberg in 2014 FSWP programme

http://www.cicnews.com/2013/10/citizenship-immigration-canada-announces-immigration-plan-2014-103017.html

Not sure there will be a 2014 programme///

De Beauvoir: This doesn't mean that their is an inbalance in the number of available men for women.
While the 27 year old is looking to marry the 23 year old woman, the 29 year old is looking to marry the 25 year old and so on and so forth.

All you have said is that men marry younger women, you didn't prove that there are not enough men to go round.

You are considering facts for facts sake.....

The reality is that in Afrika n Asia men dont marry old cargoes

Interesting post. i see respect, using feminine wiles to get what you want, choosing family over career....


you are not a feminist

Lerrie John: I am quite a feminist in the sense that a woman should have a voice in the family, community and society as a whole but when it comes to the FAMILY I have a different approach. I have read some women complain about giving up on those "dreams" ie career.
I have got a career in which I'm doing extremely well and I've got more room for growth but notwithstanding my "dream" is to raise my FAMILY. MY husband doesn't mind my job but when we do have kids I'm going to leave work and dedicate my time to my kids until they are grown. That's my decision not his. He doesn't agree with me and thinks I should work but I told him I would love to work a part time job or work for him as long as the job permits me to pick my kids after school, cook for them, do home works , play together and have dinner together as a family my husband inclusive. No job or carrier title will ever fill the emptiness you WILL have when you get old. All the material things will come and go but if you as a WOMAN succeed in creating ang growing a PEACEFUL LOVING FAMILY believe me you will live a fulfilling and rewarding life.
That's just my opinion.

If on the other hand your dream is to own your career, house, cars...in other words material things...I hope they give you enough warmth when you get old.
Women are wise and are actually wiser than Men if we could only learn to use our knowledge in the right way. Your man is the HEAD of the family but you are the NECK. The head will always depend on the NECK. it doesn't matter if your husband owns five houses after all what is his is yours if you are legally and happily married. If you play your roles as wise wives and women you will have everything you have ever dreamed. Family and career together.

its not surpirising it will not make sense to you...


However rather than being aggressive why not enjoy the debate... i expected more from you

In the scheme of human arrangements (6000 years), monogamy worldwide is a newbie and will not be up to 300 years at the most and that only in europe. In Africa and Asia it is less than 100 years....

You should open your mind and consider other world views from yours rather than spouting another person is not making sense...

Im not interested in making any woman guilty... but why!

As someone said, the so called married men having clandestine relationships are having it with women...and not goats!
go figure

bukatyne: Then your post doesn't really make sense (no offence intended)

You should know that it is 'a human thing' and not male/female

Just how no normal man wants to share his woman, no normal woman wants to share her man!

Don't make women how do not want to share guilty!

in my experience

Most of them are never cognisant of driving conditions...

They are mostly carefree and rough

They never give way thinking u want to take advantage of their gender

They are good with cars though.. no ugly dents... but they know nothing about cars...

When all is well. my car is fine

When it goes bad U just get a call... Your car has messed up again oooo

stillwater opinion supported..


Do you have elders... u can bunk with them to get a breather

why do u think u have a good voice....

Have u attended voice training....
Are u in a choir...


But finish your study...

bukatyne: Why don't you men teach us how?

I mean, men are soooooo good in sharing their women with other men that we women need to learn how NOT to be jealous...

When can I come for tutorials?

Me ke.. i dont know how to share women....also dont forget a man will rather have his own harem than share another man's

debeauvoir...


you name reminds me of new orleans ish.. what does this variant of your moniker mean


Nice facts.. do you have anything that shows the correlation between age availability of men viz a viz women especially in an african context

A 25 year old will almost not marry another 25 year old chic but will step down 3 years or more
Ditto a 40 yo man will not marry a 40yo women... his range of chics is from 21 to 32

Anything above that is old .. below maybe too young

So your facts do not reflect the abundance of marriageable young women who have no husbands to marry ...

Bpriest: they still have side chicks in polygamy. Men are only being men . You must accept us the way we are

if only the chics will allow

They develop this brain loss and mind-boggling envy when another woman comes near their pwoperteee....
Interestingly these same women will come and say they dont need men..


women cannot live with each other sharing a man unfortunately... even up till old age.. the thing is not the same yet they will not let up
Na do or die oooo

i really wonder how the arabs/northerners do it....

[quote author=Okija_juju]When men cheat, who do they cheat with? [/quote]i hear some men cheat with other men...

haha,,

seems the trend of the thread is to stick to one partner but have side dishes as the case may be

Having a mistress does not even consider the option of sex tourism

lmao...


It will take two generations before monogamy is ingrained in some male folk...

funny thread..

congrats.. yokis...

There is nothing wrong in it.. Depends on what works for you

Every stroke for evry folk

How old is the man and what's the age gap

How mature is d man