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bellong:
Add me to the list too

I am the only person nicknamed Bellong in Nigeria... , your prayers for me won't miss road.....

Amin ashe


Reference...kimoni
Are you referring to footnotes etc

Kimoni:


Pick, am I moving on? I said I'll pray for you on Sunday. Can you quantify that

So you think I am young ehnnn

You missed my point
I lauded you for actually coming back and letting the house know how you did unlike others who just move on..

The prayer is very important o

I will also pray for you
Prayer is never enough ooo

coogar:
the fight scenes were lovely to watch. i like the part where the boss was shooting some of his incompetent henchmen. the pistol jammed & the poor dude thought he would be spared & the boss went into his chest of drawers to bring out a hammer.

Reminds me of the Jackal
Bruce Willis and Banderas

bellong:
Guess I have seen sin city and the legend of bobby Z.

Will check out the others....

ok..
I still love the Transporter films
Expendables

Specialist900:
Justin hoyte

Spy360:
You have simply underestimated what a good, very good goalie can do for you. Well ask L. van Gaal.
And in case you haven't taken notice, this had been Fergie's secret over the years- from Pete Schmeichel to Fabian Barthez to Tim Howard to Edwin van der Saar to David De Gea, now they have their eyes on Hugo Lloris if DDG moves. See?

When Gunners are now used to mediocre mess like Almunia, Flappyhandsski and Scz
Why will cech not be strange to them

DDG has been a huge reason why Utd made 7th in Moyes season and got 4th
Same with Courtois who was superb for A Madrid the year they won the Liga and almost won the UCL

bellong:
I love adventures and actions.

My wife doesn't watch movies with me. She knows my kind of movie is full of violence. No guns, no matchet/sword is equal to No NO except I get good review from others.

I like this guy

In that case.. I recommend the following


Shoot Em Up
Sin City (the original)
The Legend of Bobby Z
Sucker punch
Faster

bellong.....u

Raid?!

Will not have put u for bloody action films...

welldone

Kimoni

More grease to your elbows .. Kudos

good to see someone actually post a feedback based on posts received here
people just use your ideas and move on

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crackhaus:
Lol...who knows indeed.

My only issue here is what exactly were people expecting?
That she'd be withdrawn, sad, depressed, and crying? Lmao... Boo hoo...

Of course she has to put on a strong front, that's her way of life...it seems most people don't know much about this chic - if there was something worse than be a fake, Toke Makinwa would be it.

Well... I guess the tokegate saga will still run for a while

bellong:
Everybody who reads stuff in this section knows my gender.

Maybe he wants to take you out

crackhaus:
Why do you think?

She may take d guy back which negates all her advice of take the walk - women giving advice they cant take since 1900 BC

Or its just ramblings...

who knows

bukatyne:
What do you want her to say

If she gave an in-depth analysis, some people would ask why she is blabbing

She is handling it the best way she can

k

Specialist900:
AW really carry our eyes see something o. Imagine Senderos, Djourou, squillaci , Sylvestre,

Cygan

so why has she not addressed the elephant in the room except a political Im not perfect, I don't know it all

Are the rumors true

Specialist900:
those season you're mentioning are past, we're talking recent happening.

Critically analysing our problems of this past season. Goal keeping wasn't one. Could it have earned us more points? Maybe, maybe not.

Defending has been a perernnial problem of this team after the dissolution of the Invincibles

Even Steve Bould has been marginal

It goes down to the core philosophy of wenger -he likes forward players, high line, ball playing defenders

Not old fashioned guys like Terry

Comments?

A honest appraisal of the challenges faced by the modern woman

Bolded mine
Note this is from a perspective where husbands were very involved in the home front


cc: Shollypopzz, EnlightenedSoul, Kimoni

If feminism set women free, why do we feel more pressure than ever?
Ex-Cosmopolitan editor LINDA KELSEY fought for equality. Now she believes it's got a very dark side
By Linda Kelsey for the Daily Mail
Published: 00:42 GMT, 19 June 2015 | Updated: 07:31 GMT, 19 June 2015



Last month, at a wedding, I got talking to an attractive woman in her early 40s. She had her own business, two lovely young children and a husband who, she said, saw parenting very much as a joint venture.
Yet when she discovered I was the former editor of Cosmopolitan, she raised her eyebrows and, no doubt fuelled by the free-flowing Prosecco, declared, referring to the mantra invented by my former magazine: ‘Having it all, eh? I’ve “got it all”! So can you tell me why I feel so stressed and self-critical, and that I’m not getting anything right the whole time?’
Her words gave me a jolt. Because, 20 years ago, when I was in my early 40s, this could have been me. I was running a glossy magazine, my son was seven — and I was on the verge of a nervous breakdown.


Large numbers of today’s educated, middle-class women are more stressed, more prone to depression and drinking more than ever before
Yet, back then, I would never have admitted that life was anything other than ‘just fine’. My anxiety was tightly reined in.
I kidded myself, and everyone around me, that I was on top of things; that life was hunky-dory fabulous — which in some ways it was.
But I was ever-more anxious and panicky, and so wound up that I could have snapped at any time. Had I acknowledged the truth, I would have seen that I was placing myself under intolerable pressure, and that there was a dark side to the equality which I and my feminist contemporaries had fought so hard for.

But it would have been a Judas-kiss to the cause of feminism; an act of treachery to the belief system I had not only adopted wholesale but had actively promoted through my work. If there was a downside to the so-called liberation of women, I couldn’t, or wouldn’t, admit to it.
Even when, at 43, I suffered what became a two-year bout of clinical depression and had no choice but to resign, I never once blamed equality for the pressures of trying to do it all. I took the failure — because failure was how I saw it — as a sign of my own personal weakness.

Like Superwoman author Shirley Conran, I knew life was too short to stuff a mushroom — but I’d still be sautéeing them for supper after a day’s work, rather than ordering pizza, in my efforts to be the best wife and mother I could be.
I’d race home from work, fling my coat on the floor, cook a meal, then play with my darling son until bedtime. And to prove to my boss that I could do everything he feared working mums couldn’t, I’d sometimes still be schedule-planning at 3 am.
But I never countenanced the argument that my predicament might be feminism’s fault. Surely not? The weakness was mine and mine alone.
I couldn’t hack it, yet plenty of other women could. They were achieving this Holy Grail all around me — or, at least, that’s how it seemed.
After her outburst at the wedding reception, the woman immediately apologised. ‘I’m not supposed to say that, am I?’ she said.
‘I don’t talk like this to my friends. I have to believe it will turn out all right. That my lack of libido won’t drive my husband away. That my children won’t grow up and think I’ve been a terrible mother. That my business won’t collapse.’

So she, too, was reining it in. Perhaps it’s time to face some uncomfortable truths, to save another generation of women from falling into the same trap.
Experts suggest modern women experience higher levels of stress because of the demands of having to conform to their social
Large numbers of today’s educated, middle-class women are more stressed, more prone to depression and drinking more than ever before. They are leaving it too late to settle down and have children, and ending up alone — and lonely.
Lifestyle changes that are concomitant with equality, and which women like me once welcomed, are taking a toll that seems to grow greater by the year.

Take drinking. The right to binge-drink to oblivion was never on my basic list of demands for equality. But I remember when wine bars were popping up back in the 1970s, and I celebrated that, at last, women could drink away from the hostile, male-dominated pub scene.
I even ventured into a wine bar on my own occasionally and felt quite comfortable having a solo, fortifying glass of vino after work.
What I failed to envisage was that the lifting of the taboo against female drinking in public (and at home, of course, thanks to the ready availability of supermarket wine) would lead to high-achieving women ‘catching up with men’ in such a worrying way. That soon, women wouldn’t be consuming just a glass or two on a night out (or indeed in), but quite likely a bottle or two.
The statistics are terrifying. Women in Britain are now twice as likely to have a drink problem if they have a good education. What’s more, we are the worst country in the world for heavy drinking among professional women.

Mandie Holgate, a 41-year-old business coach and mother-of-two, understands this pressure only too well. Until 2013, she was earning as much as £1,000 a day as a business development director in the City — but it came at a price.
‘A career in the City is still very much a male domain, and as a woman, I felt under pressure to work even harder to prove my mettle — and not just during office hours either,’ says Mandie, who lives with husband Andy, 42, a petrochemical engineer, and their children Harrison, 14, and Sophie, 11, in Mersea Island, Essex.
‘To succeed, you must be willing to play hard in the evenings, too, because many a lucrative business relationship is formed over dinner or a glass of bubbly. When you get to know potential clients and associates socially, relationships and trust are formed, and that leads to doing business.
‘But so many times, I’d be sitting in a swanky champagne bar, glass in hand, feeling weighed down with guilt that I hadn’t been there that evening to collect my children from school, cook their dinner and say goodnight.’
Mandie was tipped over the edge in 2011 when she suffered months of ill-health that felt ‘like a permanent hangover’. She resigned in 2013 after being admitted to hospital and diagnosed with an auto-immune disease. She is now working freelance as a consultant.
‘I put it all down to the pressures of my career, and trying — but failing — to balance it with family life,’ she says. ‘After all, by the time a woman arrives at her desk in a morning, she will have put on a washload, organised packed lunches for her children and prepared the evening meal.
Twenty years ago, Linda Kelsey was running a glossy magazine, had a seven-year-old son and was on the verge of a nervous breakdown

‘Although overall I’m happier now, I’ve taken a huge cut in earnings and my health still isn’t great.
‘Yet I miss my old career and it’s difficult to quell the desire to work hard. But I’m resigned to being content with the freedom of working for myself, doing as little or as much consultancy work as I want to.’
Mandie’s situation will be familiar to an army of women juggling full-time careers with children and a husband. Is it any wonder that in any given year, women appear to experience higher overall rates of psychological disorders than men?
Of course, it may be that men are less willing than women to come clean about their problems.

But Daniel Freeman PhD and Jason Freeman, authors of The Stressed Sex, suggest that modern women experience higher levels of stress because of the demands of having to conform to their social role. They are increasingly expected to function as carer, homemaker and breadwinner — all while being perfectly shaped and impeccably dressed.
Emma Sharpe, 40, a deputy headteacher in a secondary school who has two children aged nine and seven, admits she is hugely resentful of the frantic juggling act she has to perform daily. So much so that it almost cost her her marriage to Charles, who is also 40 and a director in the hospitality industry.
‘For years, I’ve earned more than Charles, and four years ago we separated for several months because I felt — and still feel — hugely put-upon. Even as the main breadwinner, everything else still falls to me.
‘Yes, my husband works 60 hours a week, and with two incomes we are able to afford lovely holidays and treats for the children. But I’m the one who enrols the kids in clubs and makes sure they brush their teeth and practise their reading.

‘It’s me who’s a parent governor at their school and who organises everything from dental appointments to flights and holidays.
‘Meanwhile, Charles, although very hands-on with the children when he’s at home, doesn’t have to cope with much more than his career.’
Yet Emma is the first to admit that much of her resentment is of her own making.
‘The problem, I believe, is that you can’t over-ride the inbuilt instincts in men to be the protectors and providers, while women — however career-minded they are — are still natural nurturers and nest-builders,’ she says.
‘So, even though I’m exhausted, I know it’s because I’m a martyr; that I’m the one who wants to be seen to be doing it all. I suppose I just need my efforts to be appreciated and acknowledged.
‘Ultimately, like millions of women, I felt that, despite flogging myself half to death, I was failing at everything and was weighed down with guilt.’


While there’s much to celebrate in terms of women’s achievements, the price paid for equality is rising exponentially.
When, last week, consultant gynaecologist Professor Geeta Nargund reasonably pointed out that the cost to the NHS of IVF treatments is soaring, and that age-related infertility is on the increase, there were social media mutterings that she was scaremongering, and piling the pressure on young women to have babies before they were ready.
But the brutal truth can’t simply be wished away. I don’t think women are ignorant of the biological clock, but I do think they bury their head in the sand about it.
Putting commitment on hold to concentrate on your career, as well as to experience multiple relationships before settling down, has liberated women from the shackles of economic dependence and enriched their lives socially and sexually.
And, of course, for some women, Mr Right comes along in their mid‑30s at the moment they’re ready to commit and there’s a happy-ever-after ending. But a growing number of women are finding themselves alone and unhappy.
Women are now trying to juggle a career and being a mother - and many are on the verge of cracking

Overrated? Essential? Women respond to the word 'feminism' A successful solicitor I know, who had a last-ditch baby at 40 after deliberately getting pregnant by a man she had no intention of settling down with, asked me, in all sincerity, why no one of my generation had told her that by focusing so intently on her work and relegating her love life to second place, she would end up without a partner.
I was shocked by her naivety. I would have thought it would have been obvious to this Oxford-educated woman that putting the search for love at the bottom of the to-do list was a risky business.
But she was setting the blame firmly at the feet of us so-called second-wave feminists for not telling her the pitfalls of putting career and independence first.
So did we feminists get anything right?
One thing I was pretty certain about, until recently, was that my generation of successful career women had been wise when it came to marriage — choosing partners who were happy to share their lives with a powerful woman and were willing to pitch in on parenting and domestic chores.
So it struck me with the force of a truck when five high-flying career women in my social circle were abandoned in their mid-to-late-50s by their partners of 25-plus years.

All had grown-up children, all were the principal breadwinners, and in four out of five cases the men left for younger and far less ambitious women. I reckon they thought that the wives they left would be just fine without them; that they’d tough it out.
But each of the women was devastated. And even though they’ve all gone on to remake their lives, they remain convinced that their former partners ultimately felt diminished by their superior earning power and strong opinions.
My marriage broke down around the same time. I was 56 and my son 19. My husband, who had always supported me in my career, made the remark: ‘After your breakdown, you became tougher. I think it was good for you to toughen up, but it wasn’t good for me.’
He packed his bag around the same time as my son left home, leaving me alone.
Only last week, a study of 2,750 young married people, conducted by the University of Connecticut, reported that men who are the most financially dependent on their wives are the most likely to be unfaithful.

‘Engaging in infidelity may be a way of re-establishing threatened masculinity,’ said Professor Christin Munsch, the lead researcher.
Perhaps the real dark side of equality is that, 40 years on from the Sex Discrimination Act of 1975, women are experiencing all these downsides to their new status, while still suffering from practical discrimination on a daily basis.
Mandie Holgate, the mother who quit her City job for a freelance role, says: ‘Equality remains dubious. I discovered recently that I have been paid 30 per cent less by one company than a male consultant doing exactly the same job.’
You could call it a work in progress, but unless we acknowledge the impacts of change on our physical and mental health and relationships, rather than dismissing them as scaremongering and anti-feminist, women will continue to pay a very high price indeed for so-called equality.


Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3130768/If-feminism-set-women-free-feel-pressure-Ex-Cosmopolitan-editor-LINDA-KELSEY-fought-equality-believes-s-got-dark-side.html#ixzz3dVDZ4lsO
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Specialist900:
you don't know how shitty a goalie can be with a useless defence? No matter how good he is, once his defence line is bad a goalie has no say.

Majority of our loses this season , two seasons ago, three seasons, four season, nth seasons were not down to goal keeper error rather faulty defending

Corrected

Freelancer00:
Later they'll come and say they're not winning trophies. Our defence isn't all that so we need a solid goalkeeper

Simple

Freelancer00:
There's nothing like stunting their growth. WS1's growth has already been stunted by himself. If Cech comes in, he's going on loan to an EPL club. Ospina would be backup

He prefers the duds be given chances n club gets stunted as a result

Some fans are now so used to mediocrity n penny pinching as a result of Wenger's pavlovian spiel over the years

I hope they see the injection of quality in the team by the additions of Ozil n Sanchez

Class is class.....

Cech is class

collinoblaze:
I wanna create a nigerian clan.... Please indicate if you wanna join.....
Quote me if u are interested

put the clan name and id

Spy360:
Wenger didn't use to buy early because he wanted to be sure of UCL which is understandable. That's one of the reasons, the other is that clubs who really want to sell especially to raise funds or trim their squads break their resolves on the last day, so the players come at reasonable prices. Same with every other club that is why 70% of transfers take place on the last day.

Nevertheless if the money is available, it is better to pick up the player early enough so he can blend with others during preseason. I think that was what helped Sanchez to have his spectacular first season with us. So now that we are already in the UCL lets hope that Arsene will complete his major business early.

Not sure about this logic

Clubs now sell on the last day as a result of knock on effect

bale goes to Madrid.. spuds buy

suarez goes... sanchez goes

buyt otherwise I agree with most of ur post

UjSizzle:
Really? I think the series should have ended in the first season.

Meanwhile Pickabeau1 I think Salem is starting to get interesting. The last episode was awesome! The kid playing Little John can act

Yes the boy did well. Lets see how the act plays out especially after the demon in him just ravaged Ann Hale

Prison Break lost focus

Specialist900:
but he tried doing his business early last summer. Let's hope he repeats same now

Yes he did
Lets wait n see

Specialist900:
there's no fact there na

Let's hope Wenger starts his transfer business early

ok..

As usual, lets wait for the last day to buy
Maybe a thrashing will help him make his mind up like the 8 -2 by United some years back

continue laffing.. does not change the fact

ok.. no problem... cech will be even great addition

cesc was not a priority but as per keepers.. we just have manageable ones

Specialist900:
I laugh at victor Baia being a world class. A solid defence line covers flaws of a keeper.

IMO, David Ospina hasn't performed badly. If Cech does come, no problemo if he doesn't it doesn't do us harm

Remember, AW turned down Cesc return cos he felt he had a good attacking midfield

Spy360:
Ermm, we can't just say Ospina and Sz...ny aren't world class for they are both internationals, just say Cech is best and can make the difference the former two won't make for us.
I always point that Man Utd wouldn't be in the top 4 if not for De Gea. We have always had great goalies- from Seaman to Lehmann. They were difference makers. Lehmann did not concede a goal in the 2006 UCL in all matches until he was sent off in the finals. But when Aluminium came in... You saw the Belletti goal didn't you?

But how will it feel to have 3 international keepers in one team? I think Sz...ny would go on loan.

In one breath you say the fact they are international means they may be world class
In another you concede keepers save points in the case of de gea.


So why do you rate ospina or scz ahead of cech

Scz has been.given a lot of opportunity
His ball distribution is whack..
He has lost command of his box unlike his first full season

He can b sold really or loaned

His head is not there now
...

Specialist900:
I think world class is giving a great performance day in day out, he's not spent a long time with us for us to determine that

As regards winning the EPL or UCL. it's funny, somethings are not as simple as 1+1. Pls the keeper who won FC porto the UCL, was he world class? I can't even remember his name. Meaning you just can't tell it until they do

Victor baia was a world class keeper

So ospina needs time....ok...

Specialist900:
I'm not dismissing Cech's quality. I'm only stating that David Ospina statistics last season was good. Moreso, he wasn't developed by us he was bought.

You shouldn't have headache and be treating stomach pain

I have two questions


in your opinion

is ospina world class

is he a EPL or UCL winning keeper

when you say development... when will this effort yield a top title....

how Can you not rate Cech..

arsenal...always developing

Specialist900:
I'm not sure Arsene will want to stunt the development of his keepers. Personally, i don't see the need for Cech

wicked...

funlord:


No its not "DAME sambarry!" It is actually a caricature of 2 fictional but popular cartoon comic characters called "superman and wonder woman" depicting the style of "written slap" you had received on the post!

If only your childhood had not been characterised by "low rations,squalor, extreme poverty, poor diets, lack of adequate home training, ignorance, child rape, _incest, exposure to crime, prostitution and other social vices, then maybe you may have developed into a fully cultured and knowledgeable lady and then would have had an idea of "who and what" they both are and represent!

But unfortunately you have been left to spawn into a "local, brash, rant obsessed, mentally impaired zelda like creature that refuses to quit acting like a court jester in public!" Kindly swerve onto oncoming traffic, you would be of more benefit to the earth if you end up as "road kill for wild animals to devour!" Speaking of "charity beginning at home", I don't think your present location under the oshodi bye pass bridge qualifies as a home! Your daughter deserves better please!

Toodles!