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qbd2:
I dint say love but not love oh. Bsds my idea of indepence sure takes into account the fact datd husband is d head. Its just something like for example, aving my own job, savings e.t.c.

Then u need to explain your own concept of independence

Of course having a job and a measure of financial independence is good n a given in modern days

So what do u mean by love but not crazy love

What do u mean by independence in a marriage

qbd2:
U may have noticed I didn't use the word 'broken' , I said single parent home/ divorced home. That's one of the stereotypes pple lash out without knowing, not all single homes are necessarily broken'. If I think in dat line, well u can't really blame me cos its what I've learnt overtime. Hmm as to those that don't want to marry pple from single parent homes, well dats up to them.
My question for u, what exacvtly do u find bad about such line of thinking?

A single parent home is a function of many things agreed however broken has roots in the manner of the particular genesis

I like your open questioning nature and will answer you what i felt about ur thinking

Marriage by definition means that one has to submit his will or desires to that of the other.

The man makes decisions for the betterment of the family ditto the mother

There should be no 'I' or me in it
You sink or swim together

That's why the choice of a partner is really one of the most important decisions one can make

A woman more so must take care as she has to submit to the headship of her husband

So love but not love sounds weird to .me
But heck..its your opinion

qbd2:
Yep, u gerrit. My own opinion though, everyone choose how they want to b differently

OK...wish u d best in your marriage of convenience
Your line of thinking is why some say they don't want to marry ladies from broken homea

SAMBARRY:
[s] I should be asking you if you are frustrated? And did I just read stalking?




some people will have the body of rokozuna and have the brain of a 3year old cat Oniranu. The bottom line is stop picking on posts unnecessarily especially where there's no reason to. Old fool [/s]

See the degenerate arsewipe talking
Your thirst to just jump on my posts across this forum is really astounding
No wonder you talk in pictures up and down cos u know once you post in words...it is akin to crap

Crapbarry

SAMBARRY:
[s]won de o.won tunde.instead of facing issues they are looking for loopholes to pick and start bout of argument

owalara e.shiooorrr.grow up[/s]!

stop stalking me and face your life
are u frustrated

qbd2:
Hmm,Did u notice the part ' too crazy' and when did independent becone a negative word?

so you plan to be independent, love your hubby but not too much YET hope tp have a great marriage

OwKAY

qbd2:
This post is for those raised in a single parent home.in other words raised by either their father or mother alone. This could be as a result of parents being divorced, widowed or unmarried.
My own parents r divorced nd I was raised by my mother and below is a list of what coming from a single parent home has taught me
_ to be independent
_ to not be too crazy in loving
_to learn how to think like an adult at an early age
_ to not feel too pained by insults and stereotypes from pple around
_to plan a better marriage.
Feel free to share urs, nairalanders.

How can you plan for a better marriage yet neither be loving and/or (inter)dependent

Nothing to add..

UjSizzle:
Oga abeg sell the land give me

That land is more priceless than the mona lisa

this space is for the guber winner

Be careful with idle words


All people that said BUhari will die...

yomola:
Updates on the Missing Orekoyas

@akeem_amao: They found the missing kids around shagamu.. Thanks everyone @Gidi_Traffic @bukolasaraki http:///5Dv7yNdeVw

https://twitter.com/akeem_amao/status/585915752076730368

which account do we believe now]


Can TayoOrekoya tell us the truth

If you cannot tolerate the kid..move on

Miami11:
[s]Black men showing inferiority complex since 1804
Wonder what this breed of sleezy African men will teach there children while Africa is 95 percent black smh.[/s]
Can't you all be proud of your God given black skin..
Ain't this the breed of men that push our girls to make Nigeria anumber one bleaching country

Classic NL angry woman syndrome

Its now the fault of men that you bleach your god given melanin
Its their fault you use your own money gotten by your sweat literally and figuratively to buy substances that give skin cancer

Classic excuses and nonacceptance of responsibility for your own life
Its even the fault of men that you woke up on d wrong side of d bed

5minsmadness:
Hahahaha!

U wicked ooooo
U come add pishurr join

5minsmadness:
You are not and can never be more important than his wife, let's just get that clear. What you guys have is more of a business relationship and not an emotional one.

Having said that, if he has been faithfully fulfilling his end of the bargain for services rendered and then suddenly over the past 3months he has reneged, then you should understand that something has happened. If he is a client worth keeping then I suggest you do some customer care and be understanding during this trying period. He will eventually pick up again. Unless you want to lose him to other 'mistresses' you have to play patience and understanding this period.

Is he your only client?

Eat Drink and Be Merry
For Tomorrow we die

TV01:
True
Although colour is not a "prime directive" for me, there are undoubtedly serious pathologies in some black communities and nations. And as such co-opting "alien" notions does not necessarily help if not done smartly and with - dare I say it - proper "consciousness.

My main thrust - as ever - is always to exhort men to stand.


TV

true at the bolded

Big Hero 6

TV01:
...enter fray jor...it's fun


TV

lol... there are issues

The black man nd woman need change.. that's the truth

Some men have abdicated their responsibility as authorities in the family which has led to the ascendance of 'strong black women' - filled with anger and hate

Some idolize the white woman look and make themselves bleached, burn their curly hair or use attachments all to hide their God given beauty

Some equate strength to being mouthed and rude all over the place

One can go on... The matter no go end today

Just here to read comments..

bukatyne:
Had to go through this thread again

Unfortunately, the objectives of this thread has not been met

On the contrary I think there was no objective
happily married women of NL don't need any help.

coogar:
fellaini is a good player - gollum didn't have the balls to play in the hole at the expense of rooney/RVP - he played as a CM and that position isn't his best.

Hmmmm......he is a utility player

OwKAY
Whatever rocks your boat

jadelyn007:
. C'est fini

UjSizzle:
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No probs although I prefer to batch up and watch rather than weekly
But I will see this because of you

Interesting...


So you can talk like this without typing in CAPS and exclamations

More of this

Sophyrocks:
Now inspite of the higher morals we had back amongst our forefathers, some of them still married wrongly. Some homes back then had all manners of abuse. Its not everyone that would be enlightened when it comes to marriage and morals. But divorce wasnt the culture, women were always advised to endure as long as their husbands still cared for the kids. Most women were just homemakers, housewives with nothing going for their lives. There are also some exceptional households with women as breadwinners. Yes, women being breadwinners didnt start from this modern age. There were men who did nthing but drink while their wives went to farm and sell their produce.

In this modern age, most people do not find arranged marriages desirable because it could involve forcing a person to accept someone they dnt like at all. Modern age must come with a lot of changes. Economic changes have changed everything. women now work and earn money. A lot of enlightenment and education is going on now. Things of old have passed away. The bad change is our morals have gone down. Nowadays, a lot of s.ex is going on before marriage which has introduced unwanted pregnancies, stds, abortions and single motherhood. Gross infidelity is everywhere because of our fallen morals. There are too many vices going on that would disrupt marriages. also many people now marry for flimsy reasons, to show off, to please society. women could tolerate then but not now. the vices are too prevalent to do any tolerating.

Truth be told, if marriages of now are to survive, they must revive their dying morals. High morals〓 better marriages. Since we all know what destroys marriages, we have to avoid all these vices to make marriages work. The same bible that talked about love also talked about adultery. we know all these but because of our fallen morals, we ignore them. Too bad.

jadelyn007:
she doesn't visit, n even when she does (that is like once in 2 or 3yrs) she doesn't spend more than a week. That way the women don't have to tolerate her excesses for more than a week in 2-3yrs.

My uncles do all the visiting. She has other female kids she can visit as many times as she likes to.

OK and you think this is the best way on this issue?

UjSizzle:
Pickabeau1 Season 2 has begun You'll love the newest episode. Mercy is batshiit crazy. Our baby witch is still confused and Mary is well...Mary

cool... will try and look for it


Will like to see how the young Hale witch plays out

jadelyn007:
movies are not responsible for the hate most people hv for their mil, it happens for real n I hv seen it life, the onus is on the spouse whose parent the inlaw is to put his/her offending parent in check.
Its not only MIL that are insufferable, some FIL are like that too. Sometimes its nt only the Man's mother, it could even be the woman's mother that is constantly a thorn in the flesh of couples.

Their was a time my maternal grandma was having issues with my uncles wife constantly. I am very close to the said woman and I've stayed long periods with her severally, we got along fine.
This same woman who seemed nice to everyone couldn't get along fine with grandma cos my grandma will always find faults.
Mind you, I have only 2uncles, granny doesn't like any of the wives. Is it a mere coincidence? Or are both wives bad? I have visited these women severally and I don't see anything wrong with them.

Some MIL's are just like that, no woman is ever good enough for their son, but their daughters are always the best thing that can happen to any man.

OK..let's go along on your tangent
So how was the issue resolved

I watched one film

nnem onye Olu n I now see why the stereotype of wicked mil continues to thrive

This film n many like it have shaped the mind of many to just harbour hate for their mil

Nollywood n telemundo.....affecting women's minds since 1960