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Wendy80:
Hmmm, Tot of this too but sincerely can u MYOB in ds case? Be truthful

As I said
Sim cards are cheap and disposable
Send anonymous calls or texts

OR MYOB

The choice is yours

..

Shollypopzz:
I will, after you or op has posted a legit source.

I know radical feminists are fighting for transgenders (men who change to women) to have their own bathrooms. That is the only bathroom situation I know of.

Good point

5minsmadness..post d sauce

I also know there is a move to gender neutral conveniences.

SIM cards cost #100

alternatively you can MYOB

Your call

ok

bukatyne:
How can the mother reach out when the father is not in good terms?

Is she trying to prove that she is a 'good' wife?

She can only appeal to her husband and if he doesn't bulge, na OYO be that

who is this stalker

kaboninc:
[s]
No be only you waka come ni.
That person wey like your comment follow you come.
Okay...
That's all.
[size=18pt]But I said the damn truthhh[/size]
Deal with it bro.... [/s]

You said nothing dude
All the smileys indicate your obtuseness
just drop it and move on with your tail btw your legs

kaboninc

It seems you are suffering from diarrhea of the brain
Last I checked.. u were not paying for my data
If its worrying you, you can jump into the lagoon

Vickybee:
Feminism isn't a gender.

I know it's not a gender
Lol...was wondering why you made an analogy between feminism and men

Anyhow....

They are fighting for equality. Misandry isn't allowed but you can't stop anybody from being a feminist.

Misandry is "men hating" and it doesn't make sense for any misandry to be anti-feminist.
So, it's not all feminists that are "men hater".

still unclear but I appreciate your efforts to explain

Just like in Alpha and Beta men.
All misogynists are Alpha men i.e a fact.
But, not all Alpha men are misogynist.

This is clear

I'm off for class.

Enjoy your day

Vickybee:
I meant Nigerian men are aggressive.
BTW, who doesn't have voyeuristic tendency except asexuals?


That's why I typed;
Misandry equals feminism.
But feminism doesn't equal misandry.

Misogynists equals men but not all men are misogynist.

Can you explain this
Are you saying misandry is allowed in feminism

Is feminism a gender now?

I get all men not being misogynistic

quivah:
let me assume the emboldened was the major reason she chose her career over his marriage card..then I'm free to say she took the right step
if at all you are going to halt your own dream to help a man build his, then that man ought to be 'near Jesus' And worth it. okkk maybe he doesn't worth it in the first place but the op still tried to drop few options just to make them click...which he felt he was too traditional to follow.. then...

person wey you wan manage wey dey form you drop like he's nothing..

Ok

Vickybee:
America no be Nigeria, if we try this one for Naija.
Naija men will

Talk na
I hear ladies too have voyeuristic tendencies

Lol, I think what they meant by their enemy is "male chauvinism" not men theirselves.

Are you sure?
Why not release statements and stage protests rather than destroying property and causing damage

These mademoiselles aren't feminists but bunch of misandrys.
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*sekems outta thread*

Meanwhile, @Pickabeau1

Misandry equals feminism.
But feminism doesn't equal misandry.

These misandrists also identify themselves as feminists

Cc:
LOL

Shollypopzz
Stillfire
Vickybee
Cococandy



Can you guys give an explanation for this wanton destruction

Who is the enemy in the article

Should we have a gender . how does this correlate with your sense of privacy

Any thoughts?

OluwaChinenyenwa:
Thanks much..

However, with the comments about walking away on this thread, i just realised maybe this woman doesnt like me much. Met her just once and it wasnt a wonderful experience...

Thanks once again..

I think It is too premature for that conclusion as you don't know her so well

Is your fiancé an only child?

OluwaChinenyenwa:
My mum.wasnt happy but what could she have done??
My dad doesnt like talking about his folks, tried asking but got tired at some point, because its always gon be go to your room kinda answer.
I wasnt bothered while i was young because i had my maternal folks to look onto, i only asked him when i noticed his folks never visited unlike my mums'.

Ok.. at least she was not the me and my husband type of woman
Maybe she should have still reached out though but that is neither here nor there as water has passed under the bridge

Reaching out? Talked with my dad this morning and he asked me to tell my MIL that everything would take place here or she should forget about having any trad marriage.. So i do not think that he wants any sort of reconciliation..

So in even in his old age, he wants no reconciliation with his aged parents and will jeopardise his daughter's chances of happiness

OK

I reiterate however: There is nothing wrong in doing Trad in the fathers place
Children are named through the fathers in Africa
Modernity is why mothers family has so much influence nowadays

Even among the Igbos if I remember correctly, Okonkwo was exiled after the death of his adopted son and spent those years in his mom's place
It was not his first choice

Even in the Bible
Jacob married in his mothers place (Laban) because he has committed a grave sin against his brother

Marrying in your mothers traditional place is not the ideal

I wish you the best however

OluwaChinenyenwa:
My father's family cant be involved cause they don't even know me.. The rift was between my father and his folks. Ok this is it, my father is the only child. During his service year, he met my mum who is igbo and stuffs led to stuffs and they started talking about marriage which his father refused because mum is igbo.. His father cut him off when he finally got married to my mum and its been that way till date. Never been to my dad's place, dont even know where the place is cause he doesnt even talk about it..
The infos i got was from my mum.


My parents would like to do the traditional marriage only if its going to be in London, but my MIL said she wants us to come back home?? Isnt that absurd??

An only child dilemma...

Has your father made any moves over the years to reach out to his father and mom and what was the result of such overtures

Your mum gave u an account //// Have u asked your dad

Did your mum ever attempt to reach out to her inlaws knowing she was married to an only child or she was happy with the state of things

Speak to your father

This may be the opportunity for him to reach out after all these years

There is nothing absurd in holding trad at home

There is a lot being unsaid

Traditional marriage is a rich expression of culture

Why don't your parents want to do traditional marriage

Why should your fathers family not be involved in giving out their daughter

Why should a rift caused by ur fathers marriage choice years ago still be relevant today


Is your father a proud man

Are you talking about his extended or nuclear family ( your uncles an aunts)

OluwaChinenyenwa:
Can i

Ewuro4:
Uncle wan marry another oreke

He is trying to follow tradition

For me he has been given the go ahead

ebonflex:
Pizza? So she doesn't even know how to cook, yet she wants to live in his house.....for what?

GUYS, especially brothers wey dey obodo oyinmbo, don't ever let a girlf friend come live with you O.
Because when it's time for them to go, the law treats that shiit just like divorce.

A woman living with you here after 3 months automatically becomes a common law situation. You don't even have to sign papers or nothing.

Talkless of now entering that kind of wahala with a girl that can't cook!!!

Lol

Dyt:
In your own case do you mind?


A child is a child
Whatever you nurture them with is what they grow up to know
If its with love
You get it Ib return
And if its the other way
Do you expect miracles?

Even applies to your own children

Ok

wildikeman:
if this can't happen then I begin to wonder if Nigerians were ever serious aand doubt that they can ever be found until those terrorist want them to be released.

If what can't happen

Do you live in Nigeria at all?

wildikeman:
well the citizens can raise up funds for the army. Donations for a non govt organization and ensure that the families of the dead or wounded soldiers don't lack. This would serve as a counter insurgent approach. I'm still thinking though but they should try something like this.

Raise funds is good but cannot work here in a country with high poverty coupled with a general mistrust of an army which kept the people under its boots for 30 plus years


Donation to NGOs is good

Dyt:
So what's with your child consideration
Na you wan marry her?
Just give your own lil input
But you keep stressing it like you are thinking of bringing home another woman


That your no
Hmmmmmm

I meant only few guys will not mind raising another man's child
There is a chance the child will not even appreciate the sacrifice

FrancisTony:
I return the slap and she'll definitely stop.

Why should a normal girl slap whether a man or her fellow woman?

You will slap a woman?

Dyt:
Are you thinking of a second wife?

True true

Lol..i don't get how this came about
But no

wildikeman:
more partnership with our neighbors and focus our resources in getting the girls. Employing experienced tactical strategist from advanced countries with similar experience like the states and Israel. Then curb or start fighting Poverty in the north so that that wud not happen or would be difficult to happen again.

This is at the govt level
What can a citizen do

Give suggestions pls

Dyt:
Beau beau
Do you personally have issues with single mum?
True true

I don't

However you can never consider a single mom without putting the child in context

I have no issues with ex..

That's the truth

MadCow1:
Op.

Once upon a time, I would have opened a thread like this because I honestly believed it to be true but look at me now..

I have dated 3 single mothers and they were amongst the best relationships I ever had. The stories behind the babies ranged from r-ape at the age of 15 to juvenile delinquency that resulted in a pregnancy. I am older now and understand the complexities of the world a little better now that is why i advocate legalization of abortion cos some of these girls would have aborted these babies if they could do it legally and safely.

However I will address your post for what it is.

The reason is seems like single mothers don't find suitors are as follows;

1. The single mothers themselves.. If the women let's herself go just because she is a single mother, then she only has herself to blame for not attracting ant suitors. In fact whether she is a mother or not, if she does not packages herself to be attractive, she will not attract anyone. Some women just wallow in self pity or what have you and just let themselves go. They are not attractive, don't seem to be pushing themselves to achieve any goals and tend to blame their situation on the kid.

2. Only a handful of men and mostly boys have this mentality of not marrying single mothers. I use to be one of them, then I grew up.

3. For the handful of guys who hold this line of thought, it is based mostly on the fact that they would have to raise another man's child. Also that child would always be the elephant in the room in that relationship and the child is very likely to complicate the marriage. Issues with regards to discipline, love, respect and more are issues that make most guys who hold this view abstain from marrying a single mother. Another key reason is also acceptance by extended family members like his mother and co. These I believe are the reasons why the few guys who feel this way would rather not marry a single mother and I can't fault them as such.


To the single mothers; You are seen by men as what you present yourself to be. If you see having a child out of wedlock as a problem then that's what that child would be. Men (not boys) mostly don't care about such especially when the mother has a good head on her shoulder and seems to be doing very well for herself and her kid. My advice to you is simply to accept the child as a part of your life which they are and start pursuing a future for them. Raise the child well so their attitude isn't appalling to your dates. Take care of yourself and look as sweet and sexy as possible. Be focused and watch men fall all around you.


Shout out to Dyt. If we were in a different place and time, you would be my other wife and I would nickname you Wiggles...

You said all the right things..bro
However you dated 3 single mom's and married none.....right?

wildikeman:
no...but awareness without acting is so empty and pointless. They are alive and so must be rescued. Awareness now is like we r bluffing

So what do you suggest

Suarez is evul

See hanging

kaboninc:
Are you trying to absolve 'Ambo' from any blame?

Nope

But is he is the cause of the issue here?

Ewuro4:
[size=18pt]I don't think it really about the money but the traditional implication attached to it.[/size]

When you're seperated, the onus is on the brides family to refund the bride price. to free both candidates.

I could be wrong tho.

for those who don't want to see and are harassing uncle for wanting his money back