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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Emperorlanky: 2:01pm On Apr 04, 2021
The problem I had with this thread are those that quote the entire epistle just to make one sentence comment. God de see all of wuna o! hmmmmmmm!!!
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by femifemi1(m): 2:08pm On Apr 04, 2021
It's a pity....

One dude just donated his glorious destiny, with a pride of being a bad guy.

Those who know how to mismanage destiny has just collected it.
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by uncletbuddy(m): 2:37pm On Apr 04, 2021
PERVENCHE:
*NOTE
With all due respect, I have changed names and some too familiar details about myself out of respect for my wife to be. I know she likes to catch cruise on nairaland.

My name is Friday (of course not my real name) I am from the middle-belt. So please save your tribalism with all those una Igbo, Yoruba and Hausa insults. I met Grace(my wife to be) few years ago. It was love at 1st sight. She was everything and is still everything I had hoped a woman should be. There is this crass about her that makes her effortlessly better than any lady around her. My type in the true sense of the word. Tall, busty, curvy, sassy, elegant, personable and above all, she has a graceful soul. From the 1st date to this day, I still pinch my self like.. What in God's green earth is a beauty like her doing with a shrek like me.

But then, true perfection is always a utopia. Grace in all her graceful demeanour and aura, has a flaw; Indecision! More so, blind trust seems to be her albatross. (I swear she can even take Lai Muhammad's word to the bank) Though, I still love her; flaws and all. Her complete or should I say blind trust for me and Abigail became one of the reasons Abigail(her younger sister) has become an unending chapter in our relationship. Even though the blame of what happened squarely falls on me.

Abigail just shy off 20, is too savvy for her age. Not the outright outstanding beauty like my Grace. What ever little she lacks in beauty, she more than makes up for it in her mentality. For she is truly a smart and an intelligent girl. Just five years younger than Grace. One who expect them at least to be close and be like Asaba and Onisha but then...they are the direct opposite of each other. While Grace is the introverted shy person, Abigail is quite the extrovert and likes to make friends for Africa. It is only fair to believe their formative time in secondary school played a part in their output towards life. Grace likes to conform like most day school students. Abigail on the other hand, is the boarding school nightmare all parents hope not to experience: the deviant.

Through the 1st years we dated, Abigail was in secondary school and was never in the picture. For some odd or strange reason, Grace was not ready to fully commit. Not that I blame her or something. At 23, Most girls her age are like Alice in wonderland; they crush on celebrities and Chase childhood dreams and fantasies. The vile ones, if truth be told...tend to live out their hoė phase. At 28, I was already grounded to know what I wanted and it was Grace and marriage. Sometimes, you do all you can do but then life has a way of throwing in a curveball. More over, "No be say because I wan chop egg I go begin dey worship chicken." Sensing her shakara, I pulled the hand brakes on us and walked out of the relationship.

***2 years later***
Fortunately or unfortunately after letting go, Grace became incensed and started to want me back. I hardly do any social media at this point. Pride won't let her call me, so there was no way to send coded messages on whatsapp status to me. Being the introvert that she is and the all trusting graceful Grace, she started to send Abigil over to my place to bridge the gap. In just over two years, Abigail had changed and developed into a sexy hippie bohemian. Not that I fancy her in any erotic way or something. It's just that in our contemporary naija society where mostly everyone conforms, it is hard not to notice a bohemian.

Knowing I would do no better than Grace even with a million dollars and in a hundred years of searching, I mended fences with Grace and our relationship became stronger than ever. Over time, Abigail became a bridge between us. At first, Grace would send her over to run errands for her. After a while, it became a second nature for her to come over and fidget with my electronics. Courtesy demands you be nice to your in-laws to be and so I was nice to Abigail.

Abigail's posturing over time made it difficult for me to say no to her especially during them Nengi and Laycon days in the house. She was a fan of big brother lockdown. And would always ask for my keys to watch the silly show for she was equally as silly to be gushing over that vanity fair. Grace seems not have any issues with her coming over and I also did not for I was hardly home and God knows the sub was kinda wasting away.

There are some things in life that are not planned. They just happen! My boss at work then tested positive for Covid and we were all asked to quarantine at home. Grace still had to go to work while Abigail was always free because of the ASSU strike. Suddenly, I started to be alone with Abigail. She would come over "for big brother" around 9am and leave around 7pm in time to beat her curfew at home. It was awkward staying all day with Abigail. Grace too predictable, only comes over on Sunday. For some strange reasons, on Sundays, Abigail will never show up.

There were times, and I am sure it could just be my imagination, that she enjoyed teasing me. She would come dressed like a sister Mary Amaka from home but after a while, she would take her bath and transform into a Kardashian. Wearing skimpy cloths and heavy make-up. I tried to give her her space. I was in quarantine and therefore, had practically no where to go. I am basically the type that don't flock with co-workers and I hardly keep any friends except for Grace. I am not one to be neighbourly with my neighbours so I was stuck with Abigail all day. Humans are social animals and we tend to gravitate towards each other especially when we are alone with someone. Gradually, she won me over and I started to watch the big brother show with her. While she was rooting for Nengi after her Erica left, I was simply for Neo for he had my height. And the bond between us grew. God knows I had no vile motives and evil intentions. It is hard not to enjoy Abigail's company for she is a smart, gleeful and witty girl. While I do all the talking with Grace, Abigail on the other hand does all the talking with me and it was a welcome change.

*** D Day ***
It became obvious Abigail was not telling the truth at home. She would pick their calls and tell them she was in her female friend's house. And in the spirit of our new found big brother bond. We kept the secret. On this faithful day, it had rained all day and Nepa had struck and the plug in my generator was no good. The rain had brought with it a cool breeze and some magical thunder. Seemingly, we could not watch our show so I took a blanket because of the cold and buried my attention on my PC (laptop) re-watching season 5 of the game of thrones.

Naively, Abigail joined me and entered the blanket with me. I use the word 'naive' because I honestly do not want to qualify her as a minx. And I know she does not see me as a Justine Bieber of a crystal ball for her to be drooling at. While in that warm blanket watching the movies in such compromising position, One thing led to another and alot of that one thing opened up her Pandora's box and I... I ate the most forbidden fruit there ever was. There is no telling how wonderful making love to her was at the heat of the moment and there's no shame in the world that equates to the shame that immediately dwell and still dwells in my soul shortly after even to this day. There's a lot to blame our mistake and betrayal on. Could it just be the moment? the weather? the chemistry? the devil? (laughs) my opportunistic habit? Her feminine warmth in such close proximity? my placing a hand on her thigh and meeting no resistance? My foggy mind and grown erection? Her racing and panting heart? Her feisty zeal and deviant nature? My libido? Hers? My morals? Buhari? Herdsmen? IPOB? Sunday Igbahor? Dstv and big brother? NEPA? Game of thrones? Was she after all really a minx? In all fairness, she is just a little naive girl that does not deserve to be pilloried for my betrayal. As the adult, I should have known better and acted a lot better.

Climbing down from our lustful climax, we both knew immediately what we had done, the gravity and the implications it could have on not just us, but grace and the whole family. In the most contrite way possible, we apologized to ourselves and vowed never to repeat it again. We felt it would be better not to tell Grace or anyone and we agreed Abigail would stop coming over. I started to avoid Abigail at all cost. I did not just release cum after my despicable act with Abigail, I released every thing good in me and every form of happiness. I felt much less of a man and wished I had died as a child or better still was aborted.

I hardly could face Grace after. The more I try to ghost her, the more she held on tightly. It became awkward visiting their family house for I was not comfortable around them trusting and accepting me. Not for the fear that they would find out...just my conscience eating me up. I stayed away and made peace with my gross mistake. For over six to seven months. I did my penance and nothing happened with Abigail. I know I am in a better place now to make sane decisions about cheating. To give something back to Grace, I have vowed never to sleep with anyone till die. We know how cheating amongst married men is common these days. I no call Adekule Gold name oh!

Me and Grace are set to marry on the 17th of this April. The thing is...Abigail is her chief bridesmaid and preparation demands I see her most times. She still has a look in her eyes...dunno what to make of it. A look of blackmail? Of you could still hit it if you want? We have unfinished business kinda look? You should be paying a bride price for two look? I die inside every time I see Grace happy she again got us back to talking terms because of the wedding. Ignorance is truly bliss.

I have doubts going through with this wedding. Folks may laugh and say I chickened out because of the inflation and money, others might blame Grace. It may ruin Grace for ever. How do I do this knowing Abigail will always be family?








I enjoy your write up, story looks so good to be true. In same vein a million advice must have passed through to your mind.

If the story is really the case, there's chances that you might sleep with her again if you don't take right steps, but pls don't call off the wedding and don't tell Abigail.

If Abigail is an introvert add you said, she might say she has forgiven but the scar of your lustful act will forever remain on the wall of her heart and your marriage.

Just build a hedge in your mind that makes you never do such again. How on earth do you think you will keep chicken at home with with a plate of rice open without it being touched. Keep distance with her biko. No more confined area.

Comfort zone promotes sex like fuel does to fire. If you allow yourself to be trapped with her alone Again it will certainly happen, and gradually the guilt will fizzle off until you lost more than just your conscience.

Body no be firewood! Urge* no get shoulder.

By the way, I don't know your view on this but I think you should find Christ. As in just try read Bible small, even if it's just all of Matthew or John. The rest will be taken care of. �
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by uncletbuddy(m): 2:39pm On Apr 04, 2021
Iseoluwani:

u are a good writer. tell grsce the truth and break up.
Awful advice
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Chirowman(m): 2:54pm On Apr 04, 2021
This is the reason self control is very important in everyone's life. You have bought 1 and have 1 free, your conscience will keep on hunting you unless you let go of your silly mistake. You haven't let go of Abigail the lust is still there playing prank on you ,until you give your all to Grace and be at peace with your conscience . You will keep on lusting over Abigail get ride of your lustful life and focus on Grace .
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by kechywillz(m): 3:00pm On Apr 04, 2021
When u tell ur wife to be the truth ,you will betray her trust
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Fantazy(m): 3:16pm On Apr 04, 2021
You should have just told us that you mistakenly/unintentionally or whatever word, nack your sister in-law to be instead of punishing me/us with this long Epistle.

Anyway, try to clear your self of guilt and move on with your wedding plans. just don't have anything intimate to do with Abigail again.


You can send me her contact so I can help take her attention away from you after the wedding
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by tolguy(m): 3:21pm On Apr 04, 2021
learn how to summarise
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Bahamas95(m): 3:36pm On Apr 04, 2021
OP what's your problem can't you summarize?



Your girlfriend sister wey you fvck nai make you write novel?

Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Bahamas95(m): 3:37pm On Apr 04, 2021
OP what's your problem can't you summarize?



Your girlfriend sister wey you fvck nai make you write novel?

Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Bahamas95(m): 3:37pm On Apr 04, 2021
OP what's your problem can't you summarize?



Your girlfriend sister wey you fvck nai make you write novel?

Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Bahamas95(m): 3:38pm On Apr 04, 2021
OP what's your problem can't you summarize?



Your girlfriend sister wey you fvck nai make you write novel?

Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Bahamas95(m): 3:39pm On Apr 04, 2021
OP what's your problem can't you summarize?



Your girlfriend sister wey you fvck nai make you write novel?

Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Bahamas95(m): 3:39pm On Apr 04, 2021
OP what's your problem can't you summarize?



Your girlfriend sister wey you fvck nai make you write novel?

Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by culf: 4:05pm On Apr 04, 2021
you're a good writer?

hmmm, you need prayers, I believe both of you haven't gotten over what happened, I fear for your wife because, truth be told, she is your sister-in-law which means she will always be around. chaiii, I no envy you oooo
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Famousdex1: 4:16pm On Apr 04, 2021
This is just a chapter
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by etrange: 4:23pm On Apr 04, 2021
Kingstanding:
. The guy is wicked more than devil. How on Earth would you had sex with two siblings? Haba at least you should have thought of you being a father one day and would you be happy if a man do this to your daughters? There is no temptation on Earth will let me have sex with my friends girlfriend talkless of my girlfriend sister. That guy knew that the younger sister to his girlfriend is a bad girl, he should have not given her ant chances at all. Well, who is that man without sin to crucify you first? May Almighty God forgive you your sins and our sins too. My candid advice for you is to keep off from them.

Are you a guy? If so, I'm both surprised and elated by your post. And I'm glad that's the first thing I'm reading on Nairaland today. Only a very few men on this app apply logic when discussing relationship issues. Others are just there to defend whatever the man does while insulting the female gender. I think they call it red capsule or something like that.

Happy Easter.
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by pryme(m): 4:54pm On Apr 04, 2021
PERVENCHE:
*NOTE
With all due respect, I have changed names and some too familiar details about myself out of respect for my wife to be. I know she likes to catch cruise on nairaland.

My name is Friday (of course not my real name) I am from the middle-belt. So please save your tribalism with all those una Igbo, Yoruba and Hausa insults. I met Grace(my wife to be) few years ago. It was love at 1st sight. She was everything and is still everything I had hoped a woman should be. There is this crass about her that makes her effortlessly better than any lady around her. My type in the true sense of the word. Tall, busty, curvy, sassy, elegant, personable and above all, she has a graceful soul. From the 1st date to this day, I still pinch my self like.. What in God's green earth is a beauty like her doing with a shrek like me.

But then, true perfection is always a utopia. Grace in all her graceful demeanour and aura, has a flaw; Indecision! More so, blind trust seems to be her albatross. (I swear she can even take Lai Muhammad's word to the bank) Though, I still love her; flaws and all. Her complete or should I say blind trust for me and Abigail became one of the reasons Abigail(her younger sister) has become an unending chapter in our relationship. Even though the blame of what happened squarely falls on me.

Abigail just shy off 20, is too savvy for her age. Not the outright outstanding beauty like my Grace. What ever little she lacks in beauty, she more than makes up for it in her mentality. For she is truly a smart and an intelligent girl. Just five years younger than Grace. One who expect them at least to be close and be like Asaba and Onisha but then...they are the direct opposite of each other. While Grace is the introverted shy person, Abigail is quite the extrovert and likes to make friends for Africa. It is only fair to believe their formative time in secondary school played a part in their output towards life. Grace likes to conform like most day school students. Abigail on the other hand, is the boarding school nightmare all parents hope not to experience: the deviant.

Through the 1st years we dated, Abigail was in secondary school and was never in the picture. For some odd or strange reason, Grace was not ready to fully commit. Not that I blame her or something. At 23, Most girls her age are like Alice in wonderland; they crush on celebrities and Chase childhood dreams and fantasies. The vile ones, if truth be told...tend to live out their hoė phase. At 28, I was already grounded to know what I wanted and it was Grace and marriage. Sometimes, you do all you can do but then life has a way of throwing in a curveball. More over, "No be say because I wan chop egg I go begin dey worship chicken." Sensing her shakara, I pulled the hand brakes on us and walked out of the relationship.

***2 years later***
Fortunately or unfortunately after letting go, Grace became incensed and started to want me back. I hardly do any social media at this point. Pride won't let her call me, so there was no way to send coded messages on whatsapp status to me. Being the introvert that she is and the all trusting graceful Grace, she started to send Abigil over to my place to bridge the gap. In just over two years, Abigail had changed and developed into a sexy hippie bohemian. Not that I fancy her in any erotic way or something. It's just that in our contemporary naija society where mostly everyone conforms, it is hard not to notice a bohemian.

Knowing I would do no better than Grace even with a million dollars and in a hundred years of searching, I mended fences with Grace and our relationship became stronger than ever. Over time, Abigail became a bridge between us. At first, Grace would send her over to run errands for her. After a while, it became a second nature for her to come over and fidget with my electronics. Courtesy demands you be nice to your in-laws to be and so I was nice to Abigail.

Abigail's posturing over time made it difficult for me to say no to her especially during them Nengi and Laycon days in the house. She was a fan of big brother lockdown. And would always ask for my keys to watch the silly show for she was equally as silly to be gushing over that vanity fair. Grace seems not have any issues with her coming over and I also did not for I was hardly home and God knows the sub was kinda wasting away.

There are some things in life that are not planned. They just happen! My boss at work then tested positive for Covid and we were all asked to quarantine at home. Grace still had to go to work while Abigail was always free because of the ASSU strike. Suddenly, I started to be alone with Abigail. She would come over "for big brother" around 9am and leave around 7pm in time to beat her curfew at home. It was awkward staying all day with Abigail. Grace too predictable, only comes over on Sunday. For some strange reasons, on Sundays, Abigail will never show up.

There were times, and I am sure it could just be my imagination, that she enjoyed teasing me. She would come dressed like a sister Mary Amaka from home but after a while, she would take her bath and transform into a Kardashian. Wearing skimpy cloths and heavy make-up. I tried to give her her space. I was in quarantine and therefore, had practically no where to go. I am basically the type that don't flock with co-workers and I hardly keep any friends except for Grace. I am not one to be neighbourly with my neighbours so I was stuck with Abigail all day. Humans are social animals and we tend to gravitate towards each other especially when we are alone with someone. Gradually, she won me over and I started to watch the big brother show with her. While she was rooting for Nengi after her Erica left, I was simply for Neo for he had my height. And the bond between us grew. God knows I had no vile motives and evil intentions. It is hard not to enjoy Abigail's company for she is a smart, gleeful and witty girl. While I do all the talking with Grace, Abigail on the other hand does all the talking with me and it was a welcome change.

*** D Day ***
It became obvious Abigail was not telling the truth at home. She would pick their calls and tell them she was in her female friend's house. And in the spirit of our new found big brother bond. We kept the secret. On this faithful day, it had rained all day and Nepa had struck and the plug in my generator was no good. The rain had brought with it a cool breeze and some magical thunder. Seemingly, we could not watch our show so I took a blanket because of the cold and buried my attention on my PC (laptop) re-watching season 5 of the game of thrones.

Naively, Abigail joined me and entered the blanket with me. I use the word 'naive' because I honestly do not want to qualify her as a minx. And I know she does not see me as a Justine Bieber of a crystal ball for her to be drooling at. While in that warm blanket watching the movies in such compromising position, One thing led to another and alot of that one thing opened up her Pandora's box and I... I ate the most forbidden fruit there ever was. There is no telling how wonderful making love to her was at the heat of the moment and there's no shame in the world that equates to the shame that immediately dwell and still dwells in my soul shortly after even to this day. There's a lot to blame our mistake and betrayal on. Could it just be the moment? the weather? the chemistry? the devil? (laughs) my opportunistic habit? Her feminine warmth in such close proximity? my placing a hand on her thigh and meeting no resistance? My foggy mind and grown erection? Her racing and panting heart? Her feisty zeal and deviant nature? My libido? Hers? My morals? Buhari? Herdsmen? IPOB? Sunday Igbahor? Dstv and big brother? NEPA? Game of thrones? Was she after all really a minx? In all fairness, she is just a little naive girl that does not deserve to be pilloried for my betrayal. As the adult, I should have known better and acted a lot better.

Climbing down from our lustful climax, we both knew immediately what we had done, the gravity and the implications it could have on not just us, but grace and the whole family. In the most contrite way possible, we apologized to ourselves and vowed never to repeat it again. We felt it would be better not to tell Grace or anyone and we agreed Abigail would stop coming over. I started to avoid Abigail at all cost. I did not just release cum after my despicable act with Abigail, I released every thing good in me and every form of happiness. I felt much less of a man and wished I had died as a child or better still was aborted.

I hardly could face Grace after. The more I try to ghost her, the more she held on tightly. It became awkward visiting their family house for I was not comfortable around them trusting and accepting me. Not for the fear that they would find out...just my conscience eating me up. I stayed away and made peace with my gross mistake. For over six to seven months. I did my penance and nothing happened with Abigail. I know I am in a better place now to make sane decisions about cheating. To give something back to Grace, I have vowed never to sleep with anyone till die. We know how cheating amongst married men is common these days. I no call Adekule Gold name oh!

Me and Grace are set to marry on the 17th of this April. The thing is...Abigail is her chief bridesmaid and preparation demands I see her most times. She still has a look in her eyes...dunno what to make of it. A look of blackmail? Of you could still hit it if you want? We have unfinished business kinda look? You should be paying a bride price for two look? I die inside every time I see Grace happy she again got us back to talking terms because of the wedding. Ignorance is truly bliss.

I have doubts going through with this wedding. Folks may laugh and say I chickened out because of the inflation and money, others might blame Grace. It may ruin Grace for ever. How do I do this knowing Abigail will always be family?







Your writing style is very discerning and articulate.
However you should know that these words ring true in every situation

"The Truth Shall Set You Free"

Tell Grace the Truth and set yourself free (though it will piss her off - at first).
And make peace with whatever decision she takes when you tell her the truth.

You could either be a man and face your mistakes
Or
Be a sissy and and leave your fate in Abigail's hands and hope she doesn't blackmail you.
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Kingstanding: 5:31pm On Apr 04, 2021
etrange:


Are you a guy? If so, I'm both surprised and elated by your post. And I'm glad that's the first thing I'm reading on Nairaland today. Only a very few men on this app apply logic when discussing relationship issues. Others are just there to defend whatever the man does while insulting the female gender. I think they call it red capsule or something like that.

Happy Easter.
I am a man. Happy Easter to you and your family.

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Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by ToughGong(m): 5:46pm On Apr 04, 2021
Very Good and well-written
piece.
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by stormborn28(m): 7:04pm On Apr 04, 2021
ngoziwrites:



I just weak! The manipulation!

OP go still nack the girl again especially if she dey hor..ny and come visit OP
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by continentalceo(m): 7:07pm On Apr 04, 2021
Bornsinner7:
Baba you need to pay me for reading this.. even that year for school lecturer handout no long like this..

And to those who patiently perused through this literalistic piece.. you are the hope of Africa..

Back to the matter!
The whole thing just look like a dobed piece or perhaps the op is just showcasing his writing skill..

Well since you've tasted the coochie of your beloved wife to be sister and you're feeling guilt.. why not confess your sins and be free again

Tell grace what has happened and make her understand that it was just a one time thing that you will forever regret.. that way you are saving your relationship and freeing yourself from bondage.. Abigail will be family again when you confess your sins
Wrong idea mehn! The truth in this case will be a huge mistake. Take the secret to ur grave
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Chykes4micheal: 7:26pm On Apr 04, 2021
Mr man you are a big problem. From middle belt plus the fact that he slept with his wife sister.... Nigga is definitely from Benue. Idoma to be precise... Mtcheeewww angry
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by FishLaps: 8:14pm On Apr 04, 2021
PERVENCHE:
*NOTE
With all due respect, I have changed names and some too familiar details about myself out of respect for my wife to be. I know she likes to catch cruise on nairaland.

My name is Friday (of course not my real name) I am from the middle-belt. So please save your tribalism with all those una Igbo, Yoruba and Hausa insults. I met Grace(my wife to be) few years ago. It was love at 1st sight. She was everything and is still everything I had hoped a woman should be. There is this crass about her that makes her effortlessly better than any lady around her. Cursed Images My type in the true sense of the word. Tall, busty, curvy, sassy, elegant, personable and above all, she has a graceful soul. From the 1st date to this day, I still pinch my self like.. What in God's green earth is a beauty like her doing with a shrek like me.

But then, true perfection is always a utopia. Grace in all her graceful demeanour and aura, has a flaw; Indecision! More so, blind trust seems to be her albatross. (I swear she can even take Lai Muhammad's word to the bank) Though, I still love her; flaws and all. Her complete or should I say blind trust for me and Abigail became one of the reasons Abigail(her younger sister) has become an unending chapter in our relationship. Even though the blame of what happened squarely falls on me.

Abigail just shy off 20, is too savvy for her age. Not the outright outstanding beauty like my Grace. What ever little she lacks in beauty, she more than makes up for it in her mentality. For she is truly a smart and an intelligent girl. Just five years younger than Grace. One who expect them at least to be close and be like Asaba and Onisha but then...they are the direct opposite of each other. While Grace is the introverted shy person, Abigail is quite the extrovert and likes to make friends for Africa. It is only fair to believe their formative time in secondary school played a part in their output towards life. Grace likes to conform like most day school students. Abigail on the other hand, is the boarding school nightmare all parents hope not to experience: the deviant.

Through the 1st years we dated, Abigail was in secondary school and was never in the picture. For some odd or strange reason, Grace was not ready to fully commit. Not that I blame her or something. At 23, Most girls her age are like Alice in wonderland; they crush on celebrities and Chase childhood dreams and fantasies. The vile ones, if truth be told...tend to live out their hoė phase. At 28, I was already grounded to know what I wanted and it was Grace and marriage. Sometimes, you do all you can do but then life has a way of throwing in a curveball. More over, "No be say because I wan chop egg I go begin dey worship chicken." Sensing her shakara, I pulled the hand brakes on us and walked out of the relationship.

***2 years later***
Fortunately or unfortunately after letting go, Grace became incensed and started to want me back. I hardly do any social media at this point. Pride won't let her call me, so there was no way to send coded messages on whatsapp status to me. Being the introvert that she is and the all trusting graceful Grace, she started to send Abigil over to my place to bridge the gap. In just over two years, Abigail had changed and developed into a sexy hippie bohemian. Not that I fancy her in any erotic way or something. It's just that in our contemporary naija society where mostly everyone conforms, it is hard not to notice a bohemian.

Knowing I would do no better than Grace even with a million dollars and in a hundred years of searching, I mended fences with Grace and our relationship became stronger than ever. Over time, Abigail became a bridge between us. At first, Grace would send her over to run errands for her. After a while, it became a second nature for her to come over and fidget with my electronics. Courtesy demands you be nice to your in-laws to be and so I was nice to Abigail.

Abigail's posturing over time made it difficult for me to say no to her especially during them Nengi and Laycon days in the house. She was a fan of big brother lockdown. And would always ask for my keys to watch the silly show for she was equally as silly to be gushing over that vanity fair. Grace seems not have any issues with her coming over and I also did not for I was hardly home and God knows the sub was kinda wasting away.

There are some things in life that are not planned. They just happen! My boss at work then tested positive for Covid and we were all asked to quarantine at home. Grace still had to go to work while Abigail was always free because of the ASSU strike. Suddenly, I started to be alone with Abigail. She would come over "for big brother" around 9am and leave around 7pm in time to beat her curfew at home. It was awkward staying all day with Abigail. Grace too predictable, only comes over on Sunday. For some strange reasons, on Sundays, Abigail will never show up.

There were times, and I am sure it could just be my imagination, that she enjoyed teasing me. She would come dressed like a sister Mary Amaka from home but after a while, she would take her bath and transform into a Kardashian. Wearing skimpy cloths and heavy make-up. I tried to give her her space. I was in quarantine and therefore, had practically no where to go. I am basically the type that don't flock with co-workers and I hardly keep any friends except for Grace. I am not one to be neighbourly with my neighbours so I was stuck with Abigail all day. Humans are social animals and we tend to gravitate towards each other especially when we are alone with someone. Gradually, she won me over and I started to watch the big brother show with her. While she was rooting for Nengi after her Erica left, I was simply for Neo for he had my height. And the bond between us grew. God knows I had no vile motives and evil intentions. It is hard not to enjoy Abigail's company for she is a smart, gleeful and witty girl. While I do all the talking with Grace, Abigail on the other hand does all the talking with me and it was a welcome change.

*** D Day ***
It became obvious Abigail was not telling the truth at home. She would pick their calls and tell them she was in her female friend's house. And in the spirit of our new found big brother bond. We kept the secret. On this faithful day, it had rained all day and Nepa had struck and the plug in my generator was no good. The rain had brought with it a cool breeze and some magical thunder. Seemingly, we could not watch our show so I took a blanket because of the cold and buried my attention on my PC (laptop) re-watching season 5 of the game of thrones.

Naively, Abigail joined me and entered the blanket with me. I use the word 'naive' because I honestly do not want to qualify her as a minx. And I know she does not see me as a Justine Bieber of a crystal ball for her to be drooling at. While in that warm blanket watching the movies in such compromising position, One thing led to another and alot of that one thing opened up her Pandora's box and I... I ate the most forbidden fruit there ever was. There is no telling how wonderful making love to her was at the heat of the moment and there's no shame in the world that equates to the shame that immediately dwell and still dwells in my soul shortly after even to this day. There's a lot to blame our mistake and betrayal on. Could it just be the moment? the weather? the chemistry? the devil? (laughs) my opportunistic habit? Her feminine warmth in such close proximity? my placing a hand on her thigh and meeting no resistance? My foggy mind and grown erection? Her racing and panting heart? Her feisty zeal and deviant nature? My libido? Hers? My morals? Buhari? Herdsmen? IPOB? Sunday Igbahor? Dstv and big brother? NEPA? Game of thrones? Was she after all really a minx? In all fairness, she is just a little naive girl that does not deserve to be pilloried for my betrayal. As the adult, I should have known better and acted a lot better.

Climbing down from our lustful climax, we both knew immediately what we had done, the gravity and the implications it could have on not just us, but grace and the whole family. In the most contrite way possible, we apologized to ourselves and vowed never to repeat it again. We felt it would be better not to tell Grace or anyone and we agreed Abigail would stop coming over. I started to avoid Abigail at all cost. I did not just release cum after my despicable act with Abigail, I released every thing good in me and every form of happiness. I felt much less of a man and wished I had died as a child or better still was aborted.

I hardly could face Grace after. The more I try to ghost her, the more she held on tightly. It became awkward visiting their family house for I was not comfortable around them trusting and accepting me. Not for the fear that they would find out...just my conscience eating me up. I stayed away and made peace with my gross mistake. For over six to seven months. I did my penance and nothing happened with Abigail. I know I am in a better place now to make sane decisions about cheating. To give something back to Grace, I have vowed never to sleep with anyone till die. We know how cheating amongst married men is common these days. I no call Adekule Gold name oh!

Me and Grace are set to marry on the 17th of this April. The thing is...Abigail is her chief bridesmaid and preparation demands I see her most times. She still has a look in her eyes...dunno what to make of it. A look of blackmail? Of you could still hit it if you want? We have unfinished business kinda look? You should be paying a bride price for two look? I die inside every time I see Grace happy she again got us back to talking terms because of the wedding. Ignorance is truly bliss.

I have doubts going through with this wedding. Folks may laugh and say I chickened out because of the inflation and money, others might blame Grace. It may ruin Grace for ever. How do I do this knowing Abigail will always be family?






Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Nobody: 8:22pm On Apr 04, 2021
Pls learn to summarize your points next time, you don't need to write a dictionary to prove you know how to play with words
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Lostchild(m): 12:09am On Apr 05, 2021
jantman:


Ofcourse I am thinking normal

There is no man on earth that will deny that sex with multiple women is not fun, but if you look at the consequences you will never venture into such exploit.

The reason I said I regret not doing the did with them is because as a man there are things you do that will always be in your (memory) or record. It is like a trophy you will always feel proud of within you - in your memory

It is like taking the virginity of a woman, you will always feel proud of it in your heart. I dont know if you get the meaning of what I am trying to convey to you.

But that was 15 years ago and I have given my life to God for the last 13 years. There are things I can no longer do anymore as a man because it is not right

There will always be consequences over our actions.

Good or Bad


grin grin grin
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by HolySword: 12:11am On Apr 05, 2021
This is to remind 'Christians' that fornication is a sin

-- HolySword --
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Wolfeye: 1:37am On Apr 05, 2021
NobleDeSage001:
My mind is telling me that this is a made up story. The accuracy of narration and the flawless expression is just too good.

Meanwhile, at about the time BBNaija lockdown happened, the case of Sunday Igbogho had not happened.
OP, you couldn't have been having sex with Abigail during BBNaija lockdown that happened last year and be thing about Sunday Igbogho that happened this year.

Fictional story, but you are a good story teller.

Some of you are so re.tarded it’s funny. You think things happened WHEN YOU SAW THEM online.
Most people that liked your nonsense didn’t even bother to research to see if you are saying the truth.

The same you said the accuracy is too flawless to be believable, the same you said there are two disparities, so what exactly are you saying?

It’s too accurate - flawed.
It has some flaws - flawed.

Confused contortist.
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Wolfeye: 1:38am On Apr 05, 2021
Many humans enter into bondage. Don’t start what you can’t finish except you are ready to keep playing the game with your chest.
Re: 3 Weeks To Our Wedding, I Feel Like Calling It Off by Ginaz(f): 11:31am On Apr 05, 2021
Magnoliaa:


You mean it, wow?

I'd be willing to bet my last cash, though, that you'd hit harder if it was a lady who slept with her brother-in-law some weeks to her wedding.

I will advice her the same thing . this isn't a gender war. Some truths do nothing but make things worst and complicated. Wisdom is necessary when dealing with some issues. Even Jesus, there were times he was asked direct questions by the Pharisees, but he gave an indirect answer or completely ignored.

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