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Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by BigBizzy(m): 12:10pm On Apr 28, 2021
So all these people wey don dey die since this month on a daily no enter your mind? Na babe matter come dey worry you like this...


Dey there and be dulling, we are at war if you don't know
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by jaxxy(m): 12:11pm On Apr 28, 2021
Leonstar:


Yeah, I thought so.......But I just wished she could just communicate with me freely......... Some of the times that I worry her is because I thought she was giving me a greenlight or sort since she's not so vocal but I guess it was just sleep n all.

U want her to communicate what with u freely? Her greenlight? She is communicating bt Ure not seeing properly again, She’s not interested again atleast for now. If u would stop thinking like a Hot dog u would understand her and behave normal instead of abnormal. Mr communication. undecided
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Myer(m): 12:12pm On Apr 28, 2021
Leonstar:
Hey everybody, So I have this issue that you all can help me with. I stay in Akure in my late twenties doing okay at work and all. Then my sister's husband called me to assist him with a favour saying his cousin who is a single mother (though her child is with the father at Jos) will be coming to Akure because she has a 7 months contract with one of these big farms here so she might need a place to crash for the weekend till the firm gets a temporary accommodation where she will be staying.

The long and short of the matter is that she has been in my place for the past 3 months and she has been really nice and maybe I might have caught some feelings along the way and we might have had a one night stand which might have been one of the most amazing nights for me since I'm so busy that I don't get to have much social life.

Now, here is the thing!!! After that night, I have made several attempts to get her on but to no avail, always rejecting the offer and threaten to report to her cousin. She might be older than me, almost sure of that and she is quite pretty. Before that night, I also asked her to be FwB (Friends with Benefit) which she didn't have a problem with that so it is not as if I forced it on her......... I really told her that I needed a companion, she actually made me realized that (FYI, no serious relationship).

She is nice and really kind (She might have a bf somewhere though). I just want to know what I did wrong since she can't tell me and how I can remedy that without making her feel uncomfortable in my place.

Obviously the one night stand as you called it was one sided. You enjoyed it but she didn't.
You need to up your sex game.

Either that or she probably also realised it was a mistake.
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Efe42(m): 12:12pm On Apr 28, 2021
Kingpele:
U try,your brother in law and probably a friend trusted u with her cousin sister and you lost your mind and composure ,what if her relative got to know u slept with her ,the trust between you two will be damaged,the girl probably saw what u two did as bad and she is trying to avoid a repeat but u are not done with your infatuation and folly ,u have the mind to eat meat older than your manhood ..U try


I like your Candy advice sir it show's how matured and fast thinking you are I even learn from it thanks.

I hope the OP!!! Learn from it too.

The six last line, the girl probably saw what you two did as bad and she's trying to avoid a repeat but you not done with your infatuation and just pretend you never slept with her and get even more busy chasing your destiny.
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Dagr8tosyn: 12:24pm On Apr 28, 2021
Since you have done the act and enjoyed it, how it happened did not matter here, note it is a chance you had and now you want more...My candid advise for you is to think of taking her out for lunch, dinner sometime, buy her gift also to win her confidence in you and be ready to marry her because pregnancy will set in one day. Otherwise, go and get another woman as a friend and let her know the person, by doing so, you can take her off your mind and also note that this may be the best for you since you said her Brother is married to your Sister, you may not be allowed to marry her (Double family tie is not allowed in most Tribes). You cant sit on the fence forever. Cheers!
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Jayrow08: 12:36pm On Apr 28, 2021
Bcoz of ToTo o
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Faithful1234(m): 12:37pm On Apr 28, 2021
bros observe well ooo make d baby no go the give u dog nyash d Bleep.
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by femi4: 12:46pm On Apr 28, 2021
She regretted the act. Let her be

Onidokudo Okunrin
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by niyidenrele: 12:51pm On Apr 28, 2021
chatinent:
That brother-in-law is a brainy one. He didn't have to talk much but waybill his cousin sister ready to settle down to you with a guise of no accommodation!

I guess he trusts you'll make a good husband.


BTW, I don't support premarital sex.



Her recent attitude after the act, I think, is to build the remaining fallen blocks of her pride.

My crazy opinions tho.




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Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Simba00007(m): 12:53pm On Apr 28, 2021
mbahdi:
Which one be FYI
for your information
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by sugarfrank(m): 12:57pm On Apr 28, 2021
If you had done a good job in za oza room, she will be begging for more
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by ogbonnachrys: 1:01pm On Apr 28, 2021
Very possible

IYANGBALI:
maybe him prick too small for the babe sef
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by RPG2020(m): 1:03pm On Apr 28, 2021
You nor beans her well that's the problem you are facing
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Matthew2925(m): 1:04pm On Apr 28, 2021
Leonstar:
Hey everybody, So I have this issue that you all can help me with. I stay in Akure in my late twenties doing okay at work and all. Then my sister's husband called me to assist him with a favour saying his cousin who is a single mother (though her child is with the father at Jos) will be coming to Akure because she has a 7 months contract with one of these big farms here so she might need a place to crash for the weekend till the firm gets a temporary accommodation where she will be staying.

The long and short of the matter is that she has been in my place for the past 3 months and she has been really nice and maybe I might have caught some feelings along the way and we might have had a one night stand which might have been one of the most amazing nights for me since I'm so busy that I don't get to have much social life.

Now, here is the thing!!! After that night, I have made several attempts to get her on but to no avail, always rejecting the offer and threaten to report to her cousin. She might be older than me, almost sure of that and she is quite pretty. Before that night, I also asked her to be FwB (Friends with Benefit) which she didn't have a problem with that so it is not as if I forced it on her......... I really told her that I needed a companion, she actually made me realized that (FYI, no serious relationship).

She is nice and really kind (She might have a bf somewhere though). I just want to know what I did wrong since she can't tell me and how I can remedy that without making her feel uncomfortable in my place.
My best advice for you is to stay away from her. Go get your own gal so it doesn't look as if because you gave her a place you want her to be a companion as payment for that.
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Alove1(m): 1:06pm On Apr 28, 2021
You fell for the oldest trick in the book! Older women have been using it on prudes and good guys since 1900. Flash him the green light, confuse him with some niceties, lay him (he's inexperienced, so he'll be wowed by your skills) and boom! you lock up.. completely

The young man will be in limbo. What happened? why is she treating you this way? what happened to the loving and romantic partner, the times you shared, the memories? You'll even start blaming yourself for not performing up to her standard. And you'll start trying to get her back to yourself.

Her hook is in and the game has shifted, she's in control, she's now the trophy and you're the chaser. Don't even bother trying to get out of this situation cos it will end in tears, the more you struggle, the deeper the hook goes in.

She had an itch and you were available to scratch it but you think it was the beginning of something tantalising. you've become a prey of your own lustfulness. But your situation is not entirely hopeless. Spend some nights away from your house if you can, distance yourself from her, find a distraction and make her realize the world does not revolve round her, go get laid and look for a sweet 18 that you'll be chatting online with and smiling the whole time.. Make yourself attractive not for her but for yourself.. and see the results

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Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Cutie09(m): 1:11pm On Apr 28, 2021
Leonstar:
Hey everybody, So I have this issue that you all can help me with. I stay in Akure in my late twenties doing okay at work and all. Then my sister's husband called me to assist him with a favour saying his cousin who is a single mother (though her child is with the father at Jos) will be coming to Akure because she has a 7 months contract with one of these big farms here so she might need a place to crash for the weekend till the firm gets a temporary accommodation where she will be staying.

The long and short of the matter is that she has been in my place for the past 3 months and she has been really nice and maybe I might have caught some feelings along the way and we might have had a one night stand which might have been one of the most amazing nights for me since I'm so busy that I don't get to have much social life.

Now, here is the thing!!! After that night, I have made several attempts to get her on but to no avail, always rejecting the offer and threaten to report to her cousin. She might be older than me, almost sure of that and she is quite pretty. Before that night, I also asked her to be FwB (Friends with Benefit) which she didn't have a problem with that so it is not as if I forced it on her......... I really told her that I needed a companion, she actually made me realized that (FYI, no serious relationship).

She is nice and really kind (She might have a bf somewhere though). I just want to know what I did wrong since she can't tell me and how I can remedy that without making her feel uncomfortable in my place.

Moved on bro grin grin go find your own girlfriend dem plenty for fb and nairaland.

you self na wa for you.
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Cutie09(m): 1:14pm On Apr 28, 2021
Alove1:


She had an itch and you were available to scratch it but you think it was the beginning of something tantalising. you've become a prey of your own lustfulness. But your situation is not entirely hopeless. Spend some nights away from your house if you can, distance yourself from her, find a distraction and make her realize the world does not revolve round her, go get laid and look for a sweet 18 that you'll be chatting online with and smiling the whole time.. Make yourself attractive not for her but for yourself.. and see the results

You should be a relationship expert bros. Best advice so far
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Cutie09(m): 1:15pm On Apr 28, 2021
femi4:
She regretted the act. Let her be

Onidokudo Okunrin

Haha brother femi there is god oo chai grin grin grin
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Bigprick9inches: 1:24pm On Apr 28, 2021
god or satan will never allow them to bring any female with big yansh that is not related to me to come and stay with me o.
na Bleep i go use finish am. if she come be the type wey like Bleep , just forget it. we go die there grin
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by coming2america: 1:33pm On Apr 28, 2021
She wants fwb...you hbae to pay to fvck.. You, you just want to be fvcking sara.

Better tell her she has to start paying hou rent. Cos, you intend to start paying her for knacks.

How can she tell you whats on her mind when she wants to pay to access the cookie..then remembers she is stying for free
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Nobody: 1:48pm On Apr 28, 2021
chatinent:

Her recent attitude after the act, I think, is to build the remaining fallen blocks of her pride.

Or they were just not sexually compatible and she doesn't know how to tell him without bruising his ego.
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by kkins25(m): 1:52pm On Apr 28, 2021
grin grin grin that your man set you up. grin grin
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by obryns: 1:56pm On Apr 28, 2021
Maybe she has some regrets or you didn't do the act very well dt night,so what you do is ignore her,if she really wants you she will give you adequate green light,yeah I know it is not easy staying with a woman on same bed without urges coming upandan,but what choice do you have
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by QorQ: 2:01pm On Apr 28, 2021
Bola146:
Oniranu sad Get a meaningful life undecided


Mo fo o grin grin grin
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by AKWATGOLD1(m): 2:01pm On Apr 28, 2021
You want to use home advantage.
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Newboss(m): 2:05pm On Apr 28, 2021
That sex was her way of paying for the accommodation. There was no meaning to it. Just another prostitute. Fūcking bìtches.
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Thylord(m): 2:06pm On Apr 28, 2021
Ahmad62:
Another cooked up story!
everything na cook story for una.have experience almost something like this,let me say 4years ago.
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by lordimmaogidi(m): 2:24pm On Apr 28, 2021
I don't think you satisfied her,at the first time,that is why she's rejecting you. Up your game.
Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by ofiko123(m): 2:28pm On Apr 28, 2021
Good for you..
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Re: Can't Get Her Off My Mind, I Need Help!! by Hassanmaye(m): 2:56pm On Apr 28, 2021
donstan18:
Una preeeq no dey ever rest??

Your sister’s husband asked for a favor to accommodate his cousin for few days till she settles, you don begin fvck fvck am dey worry am.



Nawa for some of una o!!
Haha grin

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