ecomalchemist:


It's not as easy as you make it seem brother, immigration policies are stringent worldwide.

Plus the grass ainw always green on the other side.

Hmm with everything he explained that guy needs to get out fast, for him the grass will be greener elsewhere defo.

Yes it's not easy neither is it hard, he has half of what he needs, a degree.

All he has to do now is to apply for a master's program, this is free, then look for a bank statement, the hard part.

He's helper might just be around the corner but he must start making moves

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Success or failure is from within. What you defined as success from afar might be failure, and many you call failure might be success. It all comes from the mind. Satisfaction and striving towards best.

Mere humans know little and always jealous, not knowing he is being envied. Be contented Bro and thank God for where u at today. Many still look up to you.

Be positive and those days will come.

.......................Otherwise, Be ready to do what men do.

WhiteRuler:
First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.

Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.

I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).

Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.

Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of
landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.

My questions:
Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.

Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks.

YOU have not failed.
TRANSITION PERIODS COMES IN DIFFERENT WAYS.
As the going gets tougher, know that your success is at hand.
All you need do is to repeat the actions of what makes you success at some point, you need to know your formula, you own ingredients, what made you you.
Millions of us are worse than you present case.
Show me hopeless man, and I'll show you a dead man.
What I notice is that you losing hope.
Let that be the last thing that will die in you.
It's well man.
Life goes on.

Common, you are not a failure. What I see is an ambitious man whose earliest circumstance, delayed his goals. You are not a failure.
You are 33. Let me try planning your life for you. I’ll assume you are 34 this year.
You have gotten your degree. Create another thread stating your qualification, and other necessary details. Post it on 10 different sections. I don’t know what you can do. State it there. I believe there are some members of this forum that could help you get a good job.
Please silent readers who can move “mountain”, please help this young man, get a job. Please.

As for you, don’t be discouraged. Let’s know your location as well. Things will be fine, soon.

Firstly, Never You compare yourself with anyone or any of your mate regardless of what you going through in life as we have it all are destined for different journey and Path to success and even different Timeline to it

Secondly, you need to stop feeling down, disappointed, demotivated or look so down on yourself, you have said it all, judging from all your hustles, you have tried if anyone not seeing success i am already as with all you still never resorted to any fraud, money ritual or some sort Yet which i commend you for

Thirdly is just to buttress a point you made up there about family background affecting, yes you right and have always said it, success in life is quite easy if one sees or have any family or relatives that can boost one a little, everyone needs help in life, look at the likes of dangote, dangote among other kids of dantata now richest in Africa, his success was initiated by dantata his father by lending him 500k at that time as requested by dangote to start up a business with the mind of returning but in dantata's mind, he gave the money out

Forget quotes or saying of those people saying they are from the gutter, bottom this and that, they still got a helping hand or some kind of push monetarily cuz LIFE IS MONEY AND MONEY IS EVERYTHING NOMATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS OR THINK

In conclusion, you can and will still make it, just keep fasting and praying along, help is on the way even if you don't see it

Nigeria Economy itself has destroyed most people's future and chances of making it big in life as those stupid fools called leaders have sold the country already thereby making a whole lot of people THINKING THEY HAVE SPIRITUAL PROBLEM meanwhile its only economical factor

It's well with you my Brother! May God be with you!

WhiteRuler:
First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.

Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.

I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).

Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.

Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of
landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.

My questions:
Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.

Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks.

WhiteRuler:
First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.

Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.

I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).

Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.

Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of
landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.

My questions:
Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.

Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks.

Who doesn't need money in this life ? Even the richest of people are still in need of money. This means, if you judge yourself only by your need of money then you aren't right. A successful life is a life of purpose. Provided you are adding value to your life and also adding value in others life, you are successful.

All of the things you listed as your needs are majorly a product of money. So, focus on making money.

I perceive you should be a lecturer so,

I will advice you go back to your University and your department. Volunteer as a graduate assistant. Tell your HOD about your present state and plans you have to teach in the university. Tell him you are willing to volunteer as a graduate assistant until the department is willing to employ one. Immediately you state as a graduate assistant, start your masters degree. Give yourself 5 years to work on your plans and I can assure you that this list of yours will be child's play.

Your certificate and your disposition to get your goals are two major weapons you have. Only successful get their goals accomplished amongst all odds like this, You are a success.

WhiteRuler:
First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.

Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.

I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).

Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.

Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of
landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.

My questions:
Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.

Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks.

No you have not and will never fail. Just keep pushing it. All ways thank God and pray for mercy, things shall change soon.

...In 2004,I had a play station I had Stopped playing long ago in my room...One day,One Local boy that normally washes and does cleaning for me asked if he can borrow the game and go play small at home with friends,I gave it to him without wasting time....7days later,the boy came back with 1k pieces of money in his hand,and gave me and I asked what it was for,he said it was the gain he made from the play station I gave him... I asked how,He Explained...I gave him 5h and Kept 5h from the money,Followed him there the next day....He had connected the play station to one small old black and white TV and Kids were all over the small plank batcher hut his mother owns just in front of their house playing video games....I was surprised and Impressed at the same that I had to enter market that very day to buy them more gaming CDs to play both Car racing and socccer....We later expanded the business in that area...I must say,That was how I made Some Good amount of money back in school by saving everything coming from the PS Gaming Venture... After I Graduated and Was Finally leaving the town,I Left and Dashed The Boy Every Thing... Haven't Gone Back or Seen The Boy Ever Since But I Can Never Forget How Our Small Relationship Grew into something Strong, Profitable and Productive...God, Will Conetinue To Bless You Kofi...The Every day people around you matter, Don't take anyone for granted.
Hey OP,Cases like Yours,happens in Life more than you think... Financially,I'm in a bad Place than I used to be even if I dey here dey wine myself...You can't change yesterday but can change tommorow,You Gotta Keep Pushing Forward.

Congratulations on your success but your response wasn't very helpful. You didn't say exactly what you did on the streets.
[ I didn't have capital so I had to familiarize with some importers of food stuffs; I searched for customers and conveyed the goods to them while making my own profit. Its all based on trust but believe me I make sales in millions in a single transaction; I also have a vehicle to convey the goods at my own financial advantage. You must be very straightforward to earn trust!]

Romanoff:
Nope. You're not a failure.

Your ambition and all you did to get through the university proves you have a fighting spirit.

Many of your secondary school mates your comparing yourself with have different destinies and who is to say you won't even overtake them tomorrow.

I'll suggest you learn a trade.

But you have to keep you age aside and be willing to learn.

If it's to be an apprentice at an electronics shop, provision shop, printing house, Betting shop etc.

From there, Oga can be giving you small stipends while you learn the ropes. I don't know if those Ogas still settle their apprentice but I assume they still do.

Another option is to look for a school you can teach in, no matter how small the pay, it is a starting point.

Some starts are very tough and rough but the end will make you forget all you went through.

Know that them no dey catch late comer for heaven for who last to marry, get job or born pikin. Like na per head.

You'll get there.

were u not There,, the time I posted I need a wife why can't u quote ,, see as u beautiful ... I hate rubbish

You are 33 for christ sake not 63! You still have ur peak years ahead of you! Try improving yourself, work on yourself, if u got good grades in school you are more likely to land a good paying job!

You are not a failure to have even strived to achieve your first dream which was education.
Aspire again and still strive. You will achieve again. You are not a failure. Above all God is alive. Trust Him and work. He will bless

WhiteRuler:
First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.

Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.

I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).

Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.

Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of
landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.

My questions:
Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.

Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks.

My brother u are a failure u just failed in many ways .
Just try and identify ur mistake and correct it.

WhiteRuler:
First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.

Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.

I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).

Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.

Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of
landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.

My questions:
Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.

Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks.

Change your environment.

Nawaoh. How does getting a serious girlfriend mean success in life?

There are men over 50 years and unmarried and you are only 33 and beating yourself.

Op behave.

THE op doesnt know that he is in the middle of life.. some are better than you while others are below you. Ray Kroc was 52 when, on this day, April 15, 60 years ago, he opened his first McDonald's franchise in Des Plaines, Ill.

you shd look inward of your mind and decide that u are going to make a difference by having positive mindset daily and stop comparing yourself to others, be it course mates, friends oe family..
work on your your passion. the area u have passion for shd be your driving force.. also u shd pray more for GOD to show you your area of destiny to excel..

I don't think so.


Just dey humble dey search for your way.


One more thing you might add to your accolade might be a skill e.g. making shoes, sewing clothes or bed sheets, understanding places in Nigeria so that you can go online and start your own tourism, welding for cars and houses ( I do this), electronics for homes and houses ( I do this), teaching, cleaner, Water treatment or distribution, animal care or packaging, restaurant helper or owner, food logistics for any state or even neighboring countries; learn music production - learn a software or two, Etc


I no too senior you, with 2 years ahead of you, in my early 20s when I dey school, confra be like food and sleep for me, family cast me, I no send visa to travel out - I mess up all chances, most of my siblings been dey NA or Cid, I no send; I just dey do local ruggedity win some lose some. I been dey feel like say nothing for naija. The school nko, I pass comot because looking back now, I been get some intelligence but honestly na mago mago runs, I been take clear comot school. So I been no get confidence in my future, so when I comot school I just continue with my confra work.



Na when an opportune family member carry me enter Yankee, I cun dey see say hustle broad. I see one guy dey always happy dey go him welding class wey he work hard to pay for, me and am go smoke aluwe finish, he go shake me cun clear go learn, I go go back my sis house, balance, dey pi pi remote control, until the day I follow am go the school. I cun see enough people dey dun go jail for 7 years or so, and cun see say knowledge dey the thing. I follow the instructor talk as in say I go come dey help you daily if I go fit attend. I convince the guy by God's grace; Small small, I begin push am, even that my aluwe guy, dey burst him brain for my Mata. My sis still dey look me with one eye, so she no dey too rest finish where I dey.


Long story short, I take the knowledge plus some programming knowledge I acquire from Google and books, enter naija again. Knowledge na life long and always need sharpening. So I just find balance between knowledge and fun. I no too make physical money from that Yankee movement, but from general observation of others and the welding knowledge I get, I use am fit in for naija. I begin get direction of where I dey go. I go wake up go work for one guy for ojo, we go weld many things and do some electronics, na him I package everything I know after saving and one of my guy wey fall from Yankee help, open my own. Small small I dun hire many people, dun dey train them. Expand am enter big welding; dey do major welding.


My whole point be say, our story no too align but I use the knowledge, deny myself many fun times, use my contacts (many people ghost me), improve my conversation skills and psychology, and the struggle continues; but today I fit work hard and play hard. Expand my reach to other African countries. I no dey use family clout travel again since that one time way be one luck I get.


No give up baba. Your story go align with your intended destiny. No let other people success block your view or form hate for your mind. Some go shit on you, but you gatz gallant for your mind.


I no live with my people since I turn 20, then later2 years with my sis, no be full time sef. Many days I sleep for the training shop for Yankee wey dem no dey tolerate, but I make the guy feel say nothing dey for my life, I loyal to am. I beg am many nights to stay there, I use those times read about all kinds of welding and the electronic workshop next door. When I come back naija cun start my journey, People from jand, Yankee, and other places dey come see me because I understand them. Dem dey enjoy my company, and I get a knack for understanding people and situations. So also find and expand your non academic skills like people skills, or other thing wey you get idea say you get.


As for marriage or women, e go come, just try stay healthy and maintain yourself.

You are a success!

How do I know?

You set a target and achieved it.

Next is to set another target with timeline and how you intend to get there.

Also reach out to your old friends and inform them that you are now a graduate that you need job or assistance to start a trade. Most of them may laugh at you or not willing to help you but don't still be discouraged. Keep pushing. You will surely get there. Also always pray asking God for help.

Bro. You see in this life, you have no mate, yes you may have people who are of same age with you and doing well, but then, ask yourself what do I need to do to achieve success...stop looking at other people achievement you need to ask yourself what potentials do I have in me, as God has already deposited on each and everyone a unique potential, what you should be thinking now is how to bring out that potential that has already been deposited by God in your life. Note:. You don't need money to start anything. think of ideas on your head on how to start up something meaningful, thinking beyond the capacity of your level now, don't ever limit yourself in life, each and everyone one in life has his/her limit, so the best thing to do is to Invest in your time wisely. You can't be a billionaire in one day, you have to take a step at a time. All the best in life......... Think!!!!!!

Bro, I can tell u for free that u have done well and u are not in anyway a failure. Think about your mates that are dead, think about your mates that can't even boost of a certificate, think about those who have absolutely nothing. Well, I am older than u by 2yrs and I graduated in 2018 at the age of 32. I am not married but I ventured into business. In fact call me if and when u see this message 09092570191

Olarewaju89:



Go back to house and take your evening medicine first then come back and i will answer you. Ode

Your mother dey call now.

Ode

Free Ur mind and u see facts

Bornsinner7:
Damn bro!!!!

Believe in God like the sun up in the sky see science can tell us how but they can't tell us why.. I've seen a baby cry then seconds later she laughed the beauty of life the pain never last..

There are no rules to life... No stated age for achieving of anything.. there are people who had graduated long ago in their 20s without jobs and there are people making it towards there 40s..

I understand it hurts to see your mates looking like they are ahead.. you just got to believe in the wonders tomorrow holds..

J Cole for real

Hey young man, stop the negative view of your life and start looking at the bright side.
Dust yourself up and keep pushing always make sure you look good at all times. When you meet new people don’t complain about how difficult life is or beg them for money instead discuss business ideas with them. Just master the art of success and it will redirect your thinking. You can do it, good luck

WhiteRuler:
First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.

Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.

I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).

Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.

Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of
landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.

My questions:
Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.

Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks.

Never you call yourself or think you are a failure, you are not alone in this, your time will definitely come as long as you don't give up, not all are born with silver spoon, look for a pharmacy around you explain, their cheap drugs you can take even while doing the menial jobs, you are a graduate is a mind thing until someone identifies you, good luck and don't give up.

Mr. Man u r not a failure. First u have a certificate, not all ur age mate can boast of that.

I can relate so well to your situation bro. But one thing you need to (and must) understand is that Life is never fair be you rich or poor. As long as there is breath in your lungs, always strive to LIVE. What you do now as way of making ends meet, let it be tied a goal perhaps of making it big someday. Let that goal and vision be your daily motivation to strive ahead. Never compare your life anyone else's, that will rather make you yield more to self pity and discontent. Believe in your God given abilities. I know its hard but have faith and trust in God that one day, things will turn around for better.

I was a university graduate at 33 with zero account balance , but to the glory of God, family members dey hold meeting for me... but I don get married at that 33 though

You are only a failure if you got no assets . Simple

You have only failed in appreciating life. Always know that where you are today, there are many striving to be half as educated as you, have a roof over their head (be it straw or zinc) and the health you enjoy.

You may feel you have suffered in life doing menial jobs, but your years of experience maybe your helper in the future. Those people you see driving fancy cars & living wealthy lifestyles, If you hear their life stories you will be amazed to hear your own na childs play.

It takes a split second for your life to turn around, your break through maybe around the corner. But until then dont loose hope, stay away from negative energy & thoughts. Keep your hustle tight and be prayerful always.

You are far from being a failure.

@OP,
Since you are straightforward, I will also be straightforward with you.
You are not a failure at all. You have only failed to concentrate on your pros rather than your cons.
You have laid solid academic foundation for yourself and entire family. You have done solid preparations, all you need now is opportunity, which can come at any point in time. Whichever job you get, you will still be regarded as a graduate (if you are a sound one)
People still get good jobs at 50, if they can prove their worth. Keep adding value to yourself. Learn skills. Don't be in a rush. Have Hope and Let your faith be strong. Also, be prayerful
This is the summary: Someone who started a journey to Libya with bicycle and the other person waited for another 2week to get a Toyota Hilux. Tell me who will get there fast and strong.
Shalom

I'd like you to know that you exist for a reason. To everyone who has good success story, there's a bitter experience coming up except for few. However, if you don't give up, sky will be your starting point. Nothing lasts forever, difficult times inclusive i.e if you are not lazy and don't give up on your dream.
Set SMART objectives for yourself and run to achieve them. Success doesn't just come, it's as a result of preparation and opportunity. With your education, you've prepared for success waiting for the right time for the opportunity to come. It will surely come but don't misuse it when it eventually comes. Shalom!

Hmmmm, tears dropped from my eyes as I read this post. I once was in the same position, masters degree with no job as I lost my job due to recession and other job offers were just too poor. I started to hustle, learnt some skills on organics skincare and haircare. From there I started my own business, now with a brand name and registered with CAC. I now have customers all over the country and even outside the country.


Please don't let depression bring you down. You're well learned formally and informally with many skills to show. Stand strong, have faith, and you will be known all over the world someday for good. It is well with you