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. Wakanda Igbo man is your boyfy ? ... All the Igbo men I knew weren't dirty ....

Instead of telling him to ""do tis and do tat" ...say it to his face , that he's dirty , and you're ashamed , tell him other people are complaining that' he' is stinking ...

Eyyaa! Hustling don enter this one's brain ooo! He over-believed that the handsomeness of a man lies in his money.

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This life no balance shaaa: One will have money but can't take care of himself, while another will not have anything, but can still be able to look clean and neat; Just like the Narcissistic guy that I saw this evening, he no get shishi, but he still dey package himself wella — even with lipstick and eye pencil .

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But seriously, were you blinded by his money all these while or is it his performance in bed? I know something is holding you back, or maybe he is speaking the language that you can understand —MONEY.

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No worry ooo! Just take am as you see am abeg, because he speaks the language that girls understand, and he can easily fill up your space if you leave.

If you are very sure there's no one you are beginning to eye on the side while trying to now capitalize on his lack of a proper grooming now that you seem to be self-sufficient/reliant, I'd advise you to simply continue with the advice and help him through this aspect of his life and hopefully, he'll turn a corner.

Hmmmmmmm! Make i learn

OlayemiAshraf:
. Wakanda Igbo man is your boyfy ? ... All the Igbo men I knew weren't dirty ....

Instead of telling him to ""do tis and do tat" ...say it to his face , that he's dirty , and you're ashamed , tell him other people are complaining that' he' is stinking ...

my brother how many Igbo men do you know?

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I don't mean to be rude but you seem like a very foolish person.
Didn't you see his appearance before you agreed to date him ?
Oh you need someone you can flaunt and do show off to your friends.
Madam leave obviere alone if he does not smell he's a real man.

Cholls:
my brother how many Igbo men do you know?

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Like 30 ..

I'm afraid you got your work cut out for you.

Changing dirty and sloppy people who care less about their looks takes quite a lot of patience and determination. It might take you years of hardwork to effect some semblance of change in them. For others it might take a lifetime. You're trying to change an entrenched culture of dirtiness that prolly started from their childhood and has become ingrained their DNA. It's a tough job.

Weigh your options and quit now if you're not up for such arduous task of constantly correcting and teaching him. He's mostly likely going to put up a stiff resistance and frustrate your efforts and infuriate you. If you're not cut out for such, quit.


I really detest slovenly folks. My experience with a dirty and slovenly lady left me traumatized. Gosh!

Leave him to his dirtiness and find another man. A girl that loves dirty guys is waiting for him somewhere


A dirty guy with clean money is a turn on for most girls. Know this and know peace

Nne just tell us say you don collect enough bill from him, and your game don dey want cast so you dey find strategy wey you take japa go enjoy the loot with your main guy without it looking like you did so

What am I even saying E be like say this schnapps do dey hit the right spots.

Gracejeri:
Nairalanders I need advice oo, I am a lady, 27yrs and my boyfriend is 35yrs,he's an engineer, he has a company here in Nigeria but he lives outside the country where he's doing a construction work too, he takes care of me, sends money to me, and his family, we pray and he gives me advice too, he sustained me after my nysc for 3months before I got a job and he does that out of SELF WILL.
But my issue is he doesn't take care of himself, I made him change his haircut style, I always remind him that he should trim his beards, get some under wear, clothes etc, he can spend money to stock the house, but I don't like what he wears.
He believes that "nma nwoke bu n'ahu nwanyi ya" that's an igbo saying meaning that for a man to be said to have money and look good, you have to see his wife hence he wants me to look good but don't do same to himself, I advice him on businesses too, just as all normal guys in relationships they always ask for their babes pictures and I send them to him but when I ask him, he sends dirty pictures which I end up deleting, note I am not talking about his construction clothes, but even at home. The colour and everything makes me delete them,
Yesterday we had an argument on it and I stated clearly that I am attracted to neat and simple guys, it mustn't be expensive, then he said its Nollywood movies that is distracting me, that when I come in that I will change him, I told him I am not ready for that, that he should start it now.
But we ended with an argument yesterday and uptil now we've not talk to each other, what do i do pls.

You black well well o. Your leg is extremely black. Chei!

Since you agreed to date him despite his look, I think ,you can work on his weakness. If you truly love this guy, and not his money. His body grooming should be important to you. Help him. Look , no one is perfect. Would you have preferred him broke and neat? Won't you complain if he has no money to spend on you? You're in his life for a reason. Help him to become what you want.

Can't deal. I easily get irritated by things like that, so I'll constantly be disgusted.

I stopped hanging out with a guy once because he was always scratching his bumbum in an annoying way. He seems to have a dry skin and he likes scratching his body such that you'll see white scratch marks all over.

It always irritated me.

Dirty people are hard to change o. So if you know you can't live with a dirty man forever, please break up. You'll be constantly pissed and ashamed of him. That can choke up love.

Omo igbo with dirtiness

Gracejeri:
Nairalanders I need advice oo, I am a lady, 27yrs and my boyfriend is 35yrs,he's an engineer, he has a company here in Nigeria but he lives outside the country where he's doing a construction work too, he takes care of me, sends money to me, and his family, we pray and he gives me advice too, he sustained me after my nysc for 3months before I got a job and he does that out of SELF WILL.
But my issue is he doesn't take care of himself, I made him change his haircut style, I always remind him that he should trim his beards, get some under wear, clothes etc, he can spend money to stock the house, but I don't like what he wears.
He believes that "nma nwoke bu n'ahu nwanyi ya" that's an igbo saying meaning that for a man to be said to have money and look good, you have to see his wife hence he wants me to look good but don't do same to himself, I advice him on businesses too, just as all normal guys in relationships they always ask for their babes pictures and I send them to him but when I ask him, he sends dirty pictures which I end up deleting, note I am not talking about his construction clothes, but even at home. The colour and everything makes me delete them,
Yesterday we had an argument on it and I stated clearly that I am attracted to neat and simple guys, it mustn't be expensive, then he said its Nollywood movies that is distracting me, that when I come in that I will change him, I told him I am not ready for that, that he should start it now.
But we ended with an argument yesterday and uptil now we've not talk to each other, what do i do pls.

Let him go sis, since you are not attracted to him. You can chop his money but you don't like his appearance.

I bet he will find another lady who will genuinely love him for who he is and be willing to help him improve on his outward appearance.

She will buy him clothes and underwear and body sprays. She will buy him/recommend to him a nice phone and teach him how to pose to take neat pictures. Gradually her kind and loving gesture will rub on him. Soon he will be used to looking neat and attractive that he would begin to buy nice outfits and dress neat himself.

So please let him go.

Cheers.

gozzlin:



You black well well o. Your leg is extremely black. Chei!

And what's wrong with it?
It is ur type that encourages ladies to bleach.
Stupid boy.

Dear Op,nothing a washing machine and drycleaner won't solve.Hes not dirty from your post but unconcerned with looking glamorous.

The main problem will be if his home looks like a pigsty or doent bother to flush toilets or wears a boxer sshort for more than a day.

let us assume he was neat and he didn't have money.
You would still complain.

My advice is for you to keep reminding him that cleanliness is next to holiness.

But wait oo, have you thought about him becoming neat and other women start tripping for him?



At Op, be careful.

Ulunne777:


And what's wrong with it?
It is ur type that encourages ladies to bleach.
Stupid boy.

Who be dis one?!

Ogbeni abeg face front. Did you see anywhere I castigated her color. I only expressed surprise at the degree of blackness of her legs and nothing more. Why take panadol for another pesin headache?

But when he was sustaining you post nysc you didn't mind the dirtyness. As you don turn working class now, you don realize sey he too dirty. Na so una dey always do.

If you read my post very well, you will see where I said he's in another country, don't be too fast to reply without proper understanding, if he were to be around,
I would have bought them myself, but he's in Italy, do I buy clothes from here and send to Italy?

Beloved3:


Let him go sis, since you are not attracted to him. You can chop his money but you don't like his appearance.

I bet he will find another lady who will genuinely love him for who he is and be willing to help him improve on his outward appearance.

She will buy him clothes and underwear and body sprays. She will buy him/recommend to him a nice phone and teach him how to pose to take neat pictures. Gradually her kind and loving gesture will rub on him. Soon he will be used to looking neat and attractive that he would begin to buy nice outfits and dress neat himself.

So please let him go.

Cheers.

We've been together for a year and throughout that one year, he only helped me when I wasn't working, now I've started he rarely sends money. Moreso this issue has been ongoing, I equally said it when we began.

Blingblings:
But when he was sustaining you post nysc you didn't mind the dirtyness. As you don turn working class now, you don realize sey he too dirty. Na so una dey always do.

I love my colour, it's such a beautiful colour

gozzlin:


Who be dis one?!

Ogbeni abeg face front. Did you see anywhere I castigated her color. I only expressed surprise at the degree of blackness of her legs and nothing more. Why take panadol for another pesin headache?

I don't mind

Kylekent59:
let us assume he was neat and he didn't have money.
You would still complain.

My advice is for you to keep reminding him that cleanliness is next to holiness.

But wait oo, have you thought about him becoming neat and other women start tripping for him?



At Op, be careful.

This is the kinda negative advice you give yourself before making a stupid decision, so a lady will love him for being dirty?, I am willing to help him that is why I am asking for help me as we have discussed this and he's getting upset.

Beloved3:


Let him go sis, since you are not attracted to him. You can chop his money but you don't like his appearance.

I bet he will find another lady who will genuinely love him for who he is and be willing to help him improve on his outward appearance.

She will buy him clothes and underwear and body sprays. She will buy him/recommend to him a nice phone and teach him how to pose to take neat pictures. Gradually her kind and loving gesture will rub on him. Soon he will be used to looking neat and attractive that he would begin to buy nice outfits and dress neat himself.

So please let him go.

Cheers.

I don't even know why I sort for help here,
do u guys think I would share this if I don't love him and love to help him? You think I wouldn't keep quiet and continue eating his money if I don't want him? Ode

Blacknote:
Nne just tell us say you don collect enough bill from him, and your game don dey want cast so you dey find strategy wey you take japa go enjoy the loot with your main guy without it looking like you did so

What am I even saying E be like say this schnapps do dey hit the right spots.

Gracejeri:
Nairalanders I need advice oo, I am a lady, 27yrs and my boyfriend is 35yrs,he's an engineer, he has a company here in Nigeria but he lives outside the country where he's doing a construction work too, he takes care of me, sends money to me, and his family, we pray and he gives me advice too, he sustained me after my nysc for 3months before I got a job and he does that out of SELF WILL.
But my issue is he doesn't take care of himself, I made him change his haircut style, I always remind him that he should trim his beards, get some under wear, clothes etc, he can spend money to stock the house, but I don't like what he wears.
He believes that "nma nwoke bu n'ahu nwanyi ya" that's an igbo saying meaning that for a man to be said to have money and look good, you have to see his wife hence he wants me to look good but don't do same to himself, I advice him on businesses too, just as all normal guys in relationships they always ask for their babes pictures and I send them to him but when I ask him, he sends dirty pictures which I end up deleting, note I am not talking about his construction clothes, but even at home. The colour and everything makes me delete them,
Yesterday we had an argument on it and I stated clearly that I am attracted to neat and simple guys, it mustn't be expensive, then he said its Nollywood movies that is distracting me, that when I come in that I will change him, I told him I am not ready for that, that he should start it now.
But we ended with an argument yesterday and uptil now we've not talk to each other, what do i do pls.

Better leave him like that before he tushes up and another woman will hijack him from u. Just allow him be

Gracejeri:
I don't even know why I sort for help here,
do u guys think I would share this if I don't love him and love to help him? You think I wouldn't keep quiet and continue eating his money if I don't want him? Ode

Did he ask for your help? Allow him and stop creating problems for yourself cos such men scarce o abi na ur village people dey untop ur matter so