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9 kids. Depending on u to survive! Like can’t they get something to do. Omo, relocate or discuss with ur wife. Or else sapa go screw u

Don't spoil your marriage because of mere brokage. Get iron box where you'll be keeping valuables like milk, tea etc. Always arrange weekend outing with your family...but if you can afford feeding them and you are here complaining...sorry you must be STINGY.
Those children you are feeding might be the last hope for your child tomorrow. God loves a cheerful giver.

Slimdan360:
Stop being a selfish and stingy person,the more u give,the greater u receive,know this and know peace

u never use ur money buy foodstuffs for market that’s why.

Kindly call your wife and discuss your concerns with her, tell her what you don't like and the financial burden her family visits is imposing on you.

Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.

The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.

Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.

Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.

Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do.

If you want that rubbish to end, Tell your wife to tell her family to stop coming over to your house.
If she refuses to tell them, tell them yourself.
They may begin to show emotions, but that's normal.
Don't get guilt trip.
Do not allow them to use emotional blackmail on you.
Don't be afraid of hurting people in your bid to live a fulfilled life.
You 1st.
Don't impress others and displease yourself.
Be stern and pursue all of them.
Buy food stuffs or give them money when you feel like.

Sorry to hear this bro. They meant no harm, they are just poor. Believe me they are praying for you. Pray that God bless you more to be able to able be source of blessings to them and many more.

Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.

The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.

Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.

Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.

Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do.

That not problem bro, Either you relocate to place little bit far from them, which they may reason their t-fare first before coming to eat, if d t-fare is much than the food then will not bother to come or come once while due to d distance and t-fare, the other thing is that you stay where you and been given them something every month to help them out, u don't have to walk out of marriage because of that, boys don't marry, man that marry

macauley1:
Kindly call your wife and discuss your concerns with her, tell her what you don't like and the financial burden her family visits is imposing on you.

HONESTFACT101:
so anichebe just this week we came to your house you came here to make it seem we are are hopeless poor gluttons whom have been feeding fat into your pocket^{......signing out✈}

Hmmm! Na poverty cause am, my guy. make una pity him small, abeg.

Xenry:
This is what happens when you marry from a poor family, you will automatically become a burden bearer for all.

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Tell your wife to feed her family, while you feed yours! Imagine feeding a family of 11 just because you are married to One—that's unfair na!

He said she feeds them with her money when he doesn’t have. Problem is she can’t give him the money when she’s used it to feed her family. that means they will still be struggling

Twoclans:
Poverty is a bastard

This country is gone finally,food that another human being will eat is now a problem.

Growing up I cant count how many people my late dad feed.Infact if you come to his house and you do not eat he considers it an insult.And he still achieved alot to the best of his ability.

Anyway @ OP the country seems different now ,things are difficult .Tell your wife to stop giving her family food .May God help you as you pass that information to her.

May God save us in this country ma/sir,

xavuv:
Immatured OP.

So You you think its by stopping to feed them that will make you achieve things like cars, house and other comforts,lol.

If i were in your shoes, i will gladly make them comfortable according to my ability whenever they visit and not complain or have grudges against my inlaws or wife. And see how God will bless me.

Note: i said according to my abilty, i will not overstretch. If there is food in the house, we eat, and i won't hide it if there is none either.

I like your view of life.

That's the burden of marrying first child from a poor home... God see u tru but use wisdom to handle this situation. You have a family u wanna raise too.

Xenry:
He better take it, because those guys may end up eating the OP himself one day . They eat too much abeg.
Like play like play, they go just chop the OP like that, e no good na .

Haha bad boy

sir is part if marriage but my question is hope her family are grateful to you not all will accept them

That not problem bro, Either you relocate to place little bit far from them, which they may reason their t-fare first before coming to eat, if d t-fare is much than the food then will not bother to come or come once while due to d distance and t-fare, the other thing is that you stay where you and been given them something every month to help them out, u don't have to walk out of marriage because of that, boys don't marry, man that marry

Please stop cooking in that house. They will all fly away like birds.

That's why I keep telling ladies to marry a rich man weather old or young.
From the write up, you will agree with me that this is a poor man Lamentation

amedualiyu:
My opinion as a married man, I will advise you patiently change your environment. If you stay in Ikorodu before, relocate to Iyana ipaja. Please don't make your annoyance known to them. Just patiently relocate far away from them.

Best advice

Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.

The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.

Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.

Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.

Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do.

Hahahahahahah i know but keep ON enjoy her comfort pls because she your wife there is noting you can do

okoroemeka:
poverty is too bad,it will make you behave abnormal and think weird things,what better joy will a man have if his in-laws come to his place and he will feed them very well and even given them transport money when going,when my in-laws use to come to my house I usually prepare nsala soup myself for them with catfish and oldlayers,poverty it shall not be well with you.

Oga, you no get sense o. That you can feed ur own in-law & give dem t.fare doesn't mean another man should follow ur step.
My brother, the best you can do is to sit your wife down, agree on relocating to a place they can't have access to you easily. If possible go and stay in a secure estate.
60 year old man born 9 pikin so he come dey Sidon for house dey collect pension allow the innocent girls dey feast on an innocent in law.
Poverty must to die o but you sef go use ur head

Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.

The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.

Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.

Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.

Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do.

Bros,
It is not a serious issue. If you have not been giving your wife money before, start by giving her a certain fraction of your salary for home upkeep. Save the rest for the future. She will be forced to get her people from coming around when the money you give her is exhausted. Since your marriage is young, I can bet she will discuss you with her family should you complain about the family members.

Florencejames:
Put poison for their food

If they die in your house, you are responsible..
More will come from the village to hold you responsible for the death and burial.

That is the worst thing you can ever do.

Better to just move away to a far place with your family.

Slimdan360:
Stop being a selfish and stingy person,the more u give,the greater u receive,know this and know peace

Mr. Giver here is my account God bless you.
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Onyi22:
That's why I keep telling ladies to marry a rich man weather old or you.
From the write up, you will agree with me that this is a poor man Lamentation

You be real big mumu

This is one of them reasons I advice u do your calculation before getting married. Don't just base every on 'i love her', do some calculations.

I once dated a girl, a very good one who I wouldn't mind settling with but na this calculation wey I do I take japa. She's d first born, the only one working in their house and they're a family of seven. Me, working too but leg never strong reach and I still gotta appreciate my parents even as I move on with my life.. so I used my head, I checked well, 4 siblings from the girls side, her popman wasn't working, and her mom sells some kini.. it means if we get married, we might not even be able to take care of our own kid(s) cos are siblings were really looking up to her.. I just begin move back small small till d whole thing faded. Make we dey try check well before we jump into marriage oh.

madridguy:
Your write up don almost choke me with laughter

Baba, discuss with your wife again and this time try to be more serious. This Naija we dey now person need to calculate well especially with price hike everywhere.

Discuss gini?
What has the lady or her family done?
The agreement was that no family menber should live with them.
The wife's relatives are not staying with them, they come and go...agreement is agreenent they kept that agreement.......they kept it.

Smart family..

Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.

The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.

Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.

Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.

Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do.

So much disrespect to your in-laws by putting so much information about them online. Don’t be surprised when they read about this.
You are being emotional. Address issues with your wife and put things in order. Dragging your wife’s family online doesn’t make you look good.

I feel your pain, things are extremely expensive now. It's advisable to avoid any unnecessary spendings for now. Talk to you wife about it but it will be difficult for her to handle sha. Just exercise patient and pray to God for provision. Hunger is everywer

Just because of food my guy don carry he family matter come niaraland if the woman cheat on you na BBC go carry am

okoroemeka:
poverty is too bad,it will make you behave abnormal and think weird things,what better joy will a man have if his in-laws come to his place and he will feed them very well and even given them transport money when going,when my in-laws use to come to my house I usually prepare nsala soup myself for them with catfish and oldlayers,poverty it shall not be well with you.

Not when they are coming everyday.
He is a young man who is just starting a family.

Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.

The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.

Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.

Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.

Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do.

Locate an accommodation very far from their family or even another state. Since they can't stay. Transport fare self won't allow any interference

Ajiyegbe:
Bros,
It is not a serious issue. If you have not been giving your wife money before, start by giving her a certain fraction of your salary for home upkeep. Save the rest for the future. She will be forced to get her people from coming around when the money you give her is exhausted. Since your marriage is young, I can bet she will discuss you with her family should you complain about the family members.

Because of this thing, one of my friends carry him family run go USA.
But in this case it was both the man's family that were begging everyday and the woman's family as well. Begging from both sides, food, house rent everything.