| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Cnach: 6:30am On Jun 14, 2021 |
airminem:
My philosophy is basically this, and this is something that i live by, and i always have, and i always will. Dont ever, for any reason, do anything to anyone for any reason, ever. No matter what. No matter where, or who, or who you were with, or where you are, or where you've been. Ever, for any reason what so ever... What am i even saying self 
My fellow Nairalander op, it is well with you. Wrong and impossible philosophy. Imagine u apply that as mathematical formular, it either u get back to the problem or u land at the wrong answer. I hate it. Op, pls don't think about ending the marriage , ur wife has to defend u on this and u too has to device a support u may be giving them maybe on monthly basis while they stay at their own place and if your work and ur wife's work won't be affected relocation is the best bargain. Talk to ur wife, I feel ur pains too..just that the ones coming are kids n knew just nothing, grown people don't do that. Easy pls |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Fantacy4(m): 6:32am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.
The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.
Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.
Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.
Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do. What I will suggest to you is that you should just pack ND go very far from them that the transport to ur place alone would discourage them and you would them stop coming to your place |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Chuka200: 6:32am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.
The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.
Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.
Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.
Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do. Hahahaahahahahahahahaaa..wahala be like bicycle e nor need key starter..or jump start ...if you love your wife my brother it’s gonna be hard so ask urself that question first. |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by airminem(f): 6:35am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Cnach:
Wrong and impossible philosophy.
Imagine u apply that as mathematical formular, it either u get back to the problem or u land at the wrong answer. I hate it.
Op, pls don't think about ending the marriage , ur wife has to defend u on this and u too has to device a support u may be giving them maybe on monthly basis while they stay at their own place and if your work and ur wife's work won't be affected relocation is the best bargain. Talk to ur wife, I feel ur pains too..just that the ones coming are kids n knew just nothing, grown people don't do that. Easy pls  |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by gbagyiza: 6:35am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Bigger123:
I will advice you to change environment i.e move your family to another state. What if his business or job is located within the environment? You know living will not be easy for him considering the economic n security situation of Nigeria. |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by legacystore: 6:37am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.
The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.
Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.
Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.
Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do. Food is very expensive now n u must take drastic measures to cut down their visits to the lowest. This is what to do initially, stop buying food in bulk since it's wasted, make weekly budget for food n give your wife the money to manage, if she wastes it then don't give anything else till the coming week. She will get the message. Don't confront her ppl directly, it's her duty to do that. Also stop giving them welcoming look if they visit too often, give them cold/silent treatment. U can't be buying them soft drink and gisting with them n expect them to stop coming. Silence can do more than talking. If u come to my house and I don't like u, u will leave in few minutes even if u are senseless just from my behavior alone without saying a word. I don't tolerate nonsense. This should reduce their visits if not we move to next strategy 1 Like |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by authority2006(m): 6:38am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Sammieuwa:
Bro based on your write up, your wife has 6 younger sisters. Don't forget they must marry tomorrow. And their husband might be a blessing to your family by giving you and your wife a high paying job. They have been feeding b4 u enter the family and they will continue to feed.
It's the joy and love they have for your new family that make them to come to your house � and eat. Don't forget that hungry man Don't visit where he/she is not welcome despite how he/she is been beaten by hunger. Always support with the little u can bc they will support your family tomorrow.
From ur write-up, ur wife is a good woman. Sit her down with love, Remind her that you people has a future. Let her device how u people will manage the situation. You people can get a cupboard to limit how they consume some food stuffs.
Don't speak evil against a pensioner bc u r working. Remember rest is sweet after labour.
Always be nice to the family within ur financial capacity but don't forget to save for your car and land. Remember when the second child come by the Grace of God. You need one of them to assist in house chores. Remember you and your family needs a happy life. Pray for high paying job so you shall be a source of joy and blessing to them. Don't say u r tired of your marriage bc satan can use it against your family. God shall strengthen you. All the best. Your logic and reason is flawed! You want him to continue suffering and feeding battalions with the hope that they might marry rich men tomorrow and help him even when it's clearly showed in his write-up that the couple is just managing? And since they had been feeding themselves before he married someone from their family, why couldn't they continue to feed themselves? Why must they become his responsibility when he doesn't even enough for his own young family of three? Your comment is pure emotional blackmail 2 Likes |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Chuka200: 6:38am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Xenry:
He better take it, because those guys may end up eating the OP himself one day  . They eat too much abeg.
Like play like play, they go just chop the OP like that, e no good na  . Hahahahahahahahahaha their plan na to suck the guy blood and they must suck that blood hahahhahahaahhha |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by NaijaOlosho(f): 6:38am On Jun 14, 2021 |
okoroemeka:
poverty is too bad,it will make you behave abnormal and think weird things,what better joy will a man have if his in-laws come to his place and he will feed them very well and even given them transport money when going,when my in-laws use to come to my house I usually prepare nsala soup myself for them with catfish and oldlayers,poverty it shall not be well with you. The Op is a fool and just a kid in marriage So he brought his poor in-laws matter to Nairaland just because if food stuffs. He doesn't know what marriage and relationship is at all. |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by davedoe: 6:38am On Jun 14, 2021 |
The word shame no dey dictionary again bcus if m part of the siblings coming there to eat will b like a shame to me jeez who does that most especially d girls dey have a better chance of getting a job or something dey are just been lazy oga talk to ur wife infact change am for her small make she see watin buhari cause |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by mufex(m): 6:41am On Jun 14, 2021 |
It is not really an excuse to leave your marriage. You are lucky that your wife works and even contributes. You have to understand the reason they come to your house is their bond and love they have for their sister, your wife and your family. See it like sacrifice you are making. You no know tomorrow. Food shouldn't be the reason you want to exit your marriage. |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Dozie32(m): 6:41am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.
The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.
Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.
Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.
Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do. Baba please divorce your wife and tell me her location lemme come and marry and her family. You get better woman as wife you dey complain of her little ones. Did anyone forced you to go and marry her? Abi she didnt tell you that she has younger ones? You dey jonz. If you don't like how they comes to your place, you should man up and tell them no to come. Than complaining to us, were we there when you were telling her you cant stay or live without her? |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by sam2dok2020: 6:43am On Jun 14, 2021 |
This people u see as poor today can be very rich tomorrow that u may need there help also, Life is funny.
Feed the poor and be happy about it. |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by gbagyiza: 6:50am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Pls, take my advice, Issues like this are supposed to be discussed n resolved by you n your wife, not to bring it to social media. Look how some of them r mocking you indirectly by pointing out that your wife family is poor n suffering. Handle this issue maturely, you are the head of your family. Don't give people the channel to abuse your wife n her people, always remember that the same people you want to chase away might be the ones you hold on to tomorrow. God has a way of doing things. Use more friendly n mature means to resolve this issue. |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by kogi2010: 6:51am On Jun 14, 2021 |
im disappointed in you, just because u are feeling the needy u now come to naira land to insult her parents? Mr complain no condition is permanent do u know how u are going to end up? even with the 2 or 3 children u plan to have? Instead of u to b happy u are feeding the less privileged u come to nairaland to insult her poor father right? Let's see how u are going to end up |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by seunny4lif(m): 6:54am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Some of the comments are funny to me Some people are saying the guy is poor, that’s the reason for complaining? Like really? No wonder the country is rubbish So, because am rich like Dangote, I should be feeding my in-laws like it’s my responsibility? Most people calling the names have never be married. How can a young married man be responsible for the feeding or paying school fees for the in-laws in Nigeria and what about his own immediate family. My advice to OP is to straight things up with his Wife like a MAN 1 Like |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Ikpongiton: 6:55am On Jun 14, 2021 |
You are a greedy man.so, because your in-laws come to your house, because they love their sister.na make you de paranoid, sotey you de enter kitchen go de count Maggi and indomie.that is stinginess of the highest order.your mates are funding their in-laws in school and empowering others around them.you need to change your mentality and stop to mock others who are down, because you are up. |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by seunny4lif(m): 6:55am On Jun 14, 2021 |
What a load of rubbish Married? kogi2010:
im disappointed in you, just because u are feeling the needy u now come to naira land to insult her parents? Mr complain no condition is permanent do u know how u are going to end up? even with the 2 or 3 children u plan to have? Instead of u to b happy u are feeding the less privileged u come to nairaland to insult her poor father right? Let's see how u are going to end up |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Fanuchi007: 6:58am On Jun 14, 2021 |
U can marry a poor lady, bit never marry a poor lady from a broke family. The type of broke family that has a whole volleyball team plus 1 sub. If u want to get serious with a lady, make sure while you are dating her, some of her siblings have your phone number. If them start billing you, run for ur Life.
Na so I toast one girl collect her number. As we started chatting on whatsapp, the next tin I see "pls I need your financial assistance"
Till today I never open that message. Make she go micro finance bank collect loan 1 Like |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Mystery9(m): 7:00am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Tell your to impact sense into them. It is totally wrong to be a frequent visitor in someone else's house. Even the word of God support it. |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by kogi2010: 7:01am On Jun 14, 2021 |
seunny4lif:
What a load of rubbish
Married? o course n my in laws come around any time dey feel like n im happy to always help them out not dragging d family publicly what is food for God sake dat u are complaining |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by phemmyfour: 7:02am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Marrying first born from a poor family... What do you expect |
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| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by JuanDeDios: 7:07am On Jun 14, 2021 |
amedualiyu:
My opinion as a married man, I will advise you patiently change your environment. If you stay in Ikorodu before, relocate to Iyana ipaja. Please don't make your annoyance known to them. Just patiently relocate far away from them. So you want him to start paying transport join. You don't like OP at all!  1 Like |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by seunny4lif(m): 7:07am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Your in-laws come to your house 5 times a week? Or they visit once a while is total diff from each other. You talked about them visiting once in a while? Right? kogi2010:
o course n my in laws come around any time dey feel like n im happy to always help them out not dragging d family publicly what is food for God sake dat u are complaining |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by izubext007: 7:10am On Jun 14, 2021 |
[s] Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.
The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.
Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.
Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.
Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do. [/s] My parents always warn me about the dengers of keeping silent, wen u talk at last, it look as if an � alien is talking, because u did not talk at the first instance. Well my advice is caution one of the girls , telling ur wife is like telling her stop her own family |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Ikpongiton: 7:10am On Jun 14, 2021 |
tasceige:
Holla bro..
Seems you're the introvert type.
I as a person can't advise you outta your marriage. Believe you me, talking to your partner will impact alot. Reason with her and appeal to her conscience.
If not for anything, but for the sake of the baby..
Talk bro. Do the talking. all these your grammar na because food where op in-laws eat ?I don't believe this type of man can throw a lavish party on his child birthday.may God don't allow our daughters to bring us this type of man as our in-law. |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by kalu61(m): 7:12am On Jun 14, 2021 |
MrMcJay:
Very simple solution.
1 Go to Oyingbo market and buy a big bag of unpeeled Egusi.
2 When next they come to your house, put off the TV, say something like 'Aunty Chizoba and Uncle Pius, when you finish eating, help me peel small egusi".
3 Use paint rubber and pack a heavy heap of egusi in front of them let them peel.
Sit back, relax and see what God will do.
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| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by KHALIFAMAYOR(m): 7:14am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.
The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.
Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.
Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.
Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do. ,,brozz nah u cause all this mess, don't hide behind a finger u knew the is the first born of almost a dozen and u went and marry her ,,love overshadow ur sight and brain now marriage is opening it for you,, they can't stop coming and trust me even if u relocate to Australia den u will have to be sending more money to each an everyone of them ,,if u talk to your wife she can't help in this issue she is like monther to all ,,my advice is be a man go meet ur father in law ,tell him direct to instruct his carnivorous animal he downloaded to stop coming ,,man to man |
| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Joetttimua1811(m): 7:15am On Jun 14, 2021 |
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| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Nathaniel111(m): 7:16am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Dis na normal thing to do. But am sorry, you are not even capable to feed more than a wife and a kid. You 4 no dey complain if pepper rest. Buh aswear bro u no get moni at all.
Cus feeding my inlaws and Neigbors na joy to me.
Remember the bible verse that say "Blessed be the hand that giveth than the one that taketh " 
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| Re: Tired Of My Marriage by caprini1: 7:16am On Jun 14, 2021 |
Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.
The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.
Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.
Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.
Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do. It is well bro...i feel your pain,judging by that you are honestly making your income and have made a perfect budget on that,it can be frustrating. But from what you wrote,your wife is a great woman,all i will advise is not to end your marriage,but re strategise......tell your wife with alll sincerity of heart that you are choking and her family members have to give you guys space,thats all. In igbo there is a saying that," he who is been backed dont back another person" |
