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i could remember in 2012

one married man advised me to get married

i replied in the affirmative although i know fully well i wasnt able at the time

many of them will keep building pressure on you, but tell them to find a spouse for you, or bring their younger sister or daughter,

THEY WILL RUN AWAY LIKE A THUNDERBOLT

and its married guys that cheat most, they just use marriage as bojuboju

many of them arent happily married

check the divorce rate
our society is in deep shit
#MAYGODSAVEUSALL

Learn to stick to one pussy.

Strech:
tanks honey , you just made my night.. ever since my wife gave birth to our beautiful baby girl, this is exactly 1 year 3 month, I don join vaseline crew, imagine an active young man like me not having sex for more than a year.. I bin wan send am go him papa house. . But your words really change my mindset.

Na selfish wife she be! 1yr3months? hian.
Something is wrong somewhere cus dryness is when she no longer finds you attractive. Go and spark up your sex life o.

Xilsbridalhouse:
Pray

My dear, do not marry just anyone all because you are due for marriage, otherwise you’d see anyhow.
Before accepting to marry anyone, please and please involve the Author of marriage and our creator who knows the person you want to be with 100% and while doing this, work on yourself as well and pray to be a better spouse for your partner.

1. Do not fornicate with your partner before going into that marriage o! The accuser is always looking for opened doors to accuse you before God. Thank God we are serving a Merciful God but He is also a Consuming Fire.

2. God is not an author of confusion, so He won’t give you someone you are not compatible with! Watch out for compatibility as this would be necessary for peace to reign in your home.

For instance, I wouldn’t advise an introvert to marry an extrovert if you can’t handle his or her moving around, just stay off!

3. Ladies be submissive and respectful o! Dump all those feminists talks at your father’s house as no man will tolerate your rudeness, being disrespectful and nagging like wetin I no know!
Treat your husband like a King, trust me that is his MuMu Button o! Treat him like a king and he’d be willing to do just about anything for you.

4. Pray! This should be like your top most priority in that marriage. Don’t be on social media all day, go down on your knees for few hours and pray as a couple. Pray together please, as this is the unity the devil is fearful of. When two or more people....you know the rest. Pray together o!

5. Kill pride and be extremely humble. Stories like, he offended me so he has to apologize first should be left in your church bin after the ceremony biko! Don’t keep malice oooo...I repeat, do not and never keep malice! Forget pride, just walk to hubby or wife and start bombarding him or her with kisses and hugs, whether you are at fault or not. Be childish, tell Your spouse to carry you like a baby, pull a childish stunt to get your spouse attention and let peace reign. It is for your own good o! Don’t be forming I can keep malice for 200 years, na bitterness and sadness go finish you.
Also learn to forgive like a child. Don’t say things like, I need time to forgive you...which time biko? Unless of course he is a cheat and a wife beater, then you might forgive but I understand emotionally things can’t go back to normal. But once you pray for the right spouse, God will fight for you.

6. No room for Laziness in marriage darlings! You are Lazy? Dirty? Go work on yourselves now! You can’t enjoy such marriage. Also assist each other, wives are not slaves so men do what you have to do as a loving husband and how a king treats his queen.

7. Ehhhhh!!!! Third party Hian! Don’t try it!!! Erm “ I’ll report you to your Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Friend etc ...” eh! Don’t try it o! You only need God to resolve your issues. No single outsider should know what is going on in your marriage o! Quickly settle things before it gets out of hands.

8. Erm “My best friend is coming, My friends are coming “ ughhhh! Which nonsense friends? Better shut your home against friends if you want peace of mind. Not literally in a rude way, but there should be no form of closeness again, you are now married! Men! I understand you like to hang out with your friends but limit this as you are no longer a boy! You are now a man with responsibilities, so spend your time on productive things.

9. Be a good example. Treat each other in a way that you’d be grateful to God for bringing you two together. Communicate often, be each other’s best friend, look at situations from two angles and not just yours, correct each other with love, Study the word of God together and discuss your flaws and how to work on your flaws together. Laugh more and frown little or at all. Be an example of how a Christian home should be.

10. Don’t cheat on your spouse as all I have stated would totally be a waste of time if you do this. You won’t even escape God’s punishment and your life would remain sour unless you repent.
Don’t cheat on your spouse o!

10b. Ahhhh Finance! How could I have skipped this Ladies and Gentlemen, this is one of the major Koko in marriage o! Wives be like “ I can’t spend my money o” mostly after getting sick advice and Lori iro advice from fake friends! Hubby be like, “pay me back that money you borrowed from me” shior! Mtchew!!!!
If you can’t handle having a joint account, not with a cheat o! Those cheats will spend your money on side chicks and side boos, that’s why it’s essential you pray like Elijah before accepting to marry anyone biko! Nothing is more sweet like having a joint account with your spouse with super understanding and same spending lifestyles! You will so enjoy this marriage ehn! Especially if you both are not materialistic and would rather invest than buy overrated Aso ebis!
Ladies, this is majorly for you! Who told you that man is your ATM? You work, he works but your money is for yourself in particular ? What happened to being joined as ONE? Why would you watch your hubby suffer while you have more than enough to support him with even if you don’t want a joint account. I’m begging you please, do not leave financial responsibilities to men only! They are not robots na! Work hard, improve on yourselves, pray to God for creation of wealth opportunities, Be each other’s support pillar, don’t frustrate and fight over money issues. You must understand that you are no longer different individuals but now ONE.
Men if your spouse agreed to submit her salary or profits to you, and you spend such money on useless things like giving one side chick girl that is playing mind tricks on you or you trying to get in her pants....I hope you know God will forget you and no one will help you.
Don’t fight over finance please, and if you need to do things 50-50, do it peacefully and if you as a husband you are capable of shouldering all the responsibilities please do it without feeling like a god.


I have so much to say but I pray the Holy Spirit leads you right and help you to speak when you should, act right and stay mute when you should, also do not forget your in-laws are important! Treat them like your blood even if this is a bit stressful, God will definitely find a way to reward you and there is nothing we ask our Dear Father in Heaven that He won’t do. For instance you could say, “Daddy, I’m stressed could you please make my brother in-law to stop acting irresponsible “ and He will answer you.

God bless you as you invite Jesus into your home.

No mata the number of pages of advice you write on marriage, 21st century marriage will not still last.
My simple advice: marry a virgin.

Don't marry until you learn and apply the value of patience in your entire life... And even if you're already a patient person before, learn more cos you'll need more of that.... More importantly, have fear of God within; the one that developed from a personal relationship with your maker... This is only what will guide you in obeying the guiding principles of marriage set down by Him in His word.

#shalom

Come go and write book o... See watin u dey write

Xilsbridalhouse:
Pray

My dear, do not marry just anyone all because you are due for marriage, otherwise you’d see anyhow.
Before accepting to marry anyone, please and please involve the Author of marriage and our creator who knows the person you want to be with 100% and while doing this, work on yourself as well and pray to be a better spouse for your partner.

1. Do not fornicate with your partner before going into that marriage o! The accuser is always looking for opened doors to accuse you before God. Thank God we are serving a Merciful God but He is also a Consuming Fire.

2. God is not an author of confusion, so He won’t give you someone you are not compatible with! Watch out for compatibility as this would be necessary for peace to reign in your home.

For instance, I wouldn’t advise an introvert to marry an extrovert if you can’t handle his or her moving around, just stay off!

3. Ladies be submissive and respectful o! Dump all those feminists talks at your father’s house as no man will tolerate your rudeness, being disrespectful and nagging like wetin I no know!
Treat your husband like a King, trust me that is his MuMu Button o! Treat him like a king and he’d be willing to do just about anything for you.

4. Pray! This should be like your top most priority in that marriage. Don’t be on social media all day, go down on your knees for few hours and pray as a couple. Pray together please, as this is the unity the devil is fearful of. When two or more people....you know the rest. Pray together o!

5. Kill pride and be extremely humble. Stories like, he offended me so he has to apologize first should be left in your church bin after the ceremony biko! Don’t keep malice oooo...I repeat, do not and never keep malice! Forget pride, just walk to hubby or wife and start bombarding him or her with kisses and hugs, whether you are at fault or not. Be childish, tell Your spouse to carry you like a baby, pull a childish stunt to get your spouse attention and let peace reign. It is for your own good o! Don’t be forming I can keep malice for 200 years, na bitterness and sadness go finish you.
Also learn to forgive like a child. Don’t say things like, I need time to forgive you...which time biko? Unless of course he is a cheat and a wife beater, then you might forgive but I understand emotionally things can’t go back to normal. But once you pray for the right spouse, God will fight for you.

6. No room for Laziness in marriage darlings! You are Lazy? Dirty? Go work on yourselves now! You can’t enjoy such marriage. Also assist each other, wives are not slaves so men do what you have to do as a loving husband and how a king treats his queen.

7. Ehhhhh!!!! Third party Hian! Don’t try it!!! Erm “ I’ll report you to your Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Friend etc ...” eh! Don’t try it o! You only need God to resolve your issues. No single outsider should know what is going on in your marriage o! Quickly settle things before it gets out of hands.

8. Erm “My best friend is coming, My friends are coming “ ughhhh! Which nonsense friends? Better shut your home against friends if you want peace of mind. Not literally in a rude way, but there should be no form of closeness again, you are now married! Men! I understand you like to hang out with your friends but limit this as you are no longer a boy! You are now a man with responsibilities, so spend your time on productive things.

9. Be a good example. Treat each other in a way that you’d be grateful to God for bringing you two together. Communicate often, be each other’s best friend, look at situations from two angles and not just yours, correct each other with love, Study the word of God together and discuss your flaws and how to work on your flaws together. Laugh more and frown little or at all. Be an example of how a Christian home should be.

10. Don’t cheat on your spouse as all I have stated would totally be a waste of time if you do this. You won’t even escape God’s punishment and your life would remain sour unless you repent.
Don’t cheat on your spouse o!

10b. Ahhhh Finance! How could I have skipped this Ladies and Gentlemen, this is one of the major Koko in marriage o! Wives be like “ I can’t spend my money o” mostly after getting sick advice and Lori iro advice from fake friends! Hubby be like, “pay me back that money you borrowed from me” shior! Mtchew!!!!
If you can’t handle having a joint account, not with a cheat o! Those cheats will spend your money on side chicks and side boos, that’s why it’s essential you pray like Elijah before accepting to marry anyone biko! Nothing is more sweet like having a joint account with your spouse with super understanding and same spending lifestyles! You will so enjoy this marriage ehn! Especially if you both are not materialistic and would rather invest than buy overrated Aso ebis!
Ladies, this is majorly for you! Who told you that man is your ATM? You work, he works but your money is for yourself in particular ? What happened to being joined as ONE? Why would you watch your hubby suffer while you have more than enough to support him with even if you don’t want a joint account. I’m begging you please, do not leave financial responsibilities to men only! They are not robots na! Work hard, improve on yourselves, pray to God for creation of wealth opportunities, Be each other’s support pillar, don’t frustrate and fight over money issues. You must understand that you are no longer different individuals but now ONE.
Men if your spouse agreed to submit her salary or profits to you, and you spend such money on useless things like giving one side chick girl that is playing mind tricks on you or you trying to get in her pants....I hope you know God will forget you and no one will help you.
Don’t fight over finance please, and if you need to do things 50-50, do it peacefully and if you as a husband you are capable of shouldering all the responsibilities please do it without feeling like a god.


I have so much to say but I pray the Holy Spirit leads you right and help you to speak when you should, act right and stay mute when you should, also do not forget your in-laws are important! Treat them like your blood even if this is a bit stressful, God will definitely find a way to reward you and there is nothing we ask our Dear Father in Heaven that He won’t do. For instance you could say, “Daddy, I’m stressed could you please make my brother in-law to stop acting irresponsible “ and He will answer you.

God bless you as you invite Jesus into your home.

Stay single. Real advice my people.

I miss being able to get up and travel wherever I wanted at the drop of a hat. I had a very small space that didn't cost much. Slept when I wanted, worked as hard (or not) as I wanted. No responsibilities, no bills, no inlaws, no dependents. I miss the quiet peace.

If somebody had sat me down and told me the true amount of work marriage (and kids) are, I would have stayed single.

People will say: "who will take care of you when you get old". Well, with all the money you should saved from being single - without children - you can spend on a very decent nursing home (they are becoming popular in Lagos I see). Even now, how many people with kids are being taken care of now?

neyyoh:
Inflation is your worst enemy, fight it with all your might!

Especially in a country with low income, slow growth and overpopulation full of desperados...

The situation is sad mehn..

Don't get married, especially if you're broke.

Don't get married especially if you have a prospect.

Only get to a rich girl or a girl from a wealthy home.

Simple.

VlamesIffect:
The 2 people above me abeg let's pick a place & time.

E dun tey wey i see person collect blow for face....

I just wan watch fight.

The kind of free comedy Seun avails Nigerians on Nairaland is incomparably topclass...

Indeed Naija na pure cruise...

The two adults in question itching badly for an e-fight na someone's mummy and someone's daddy...

Both thinks and sees themselves as an Authority and Professor over the matter...but each sees the other as a clout chasing tout...


The back and forth verbal insult flinging won't come to an end

nextstep:
Stay single. Real advice my people.

I miss being able to get up and travel wherever I wanted at the drop of a hat. I had a very small space that didn't cost much. Slept when I wanted, worked as hard (or not) as I wanted. No responsibilities, no bills, no inlaws, no dependents. I miss the quiet peace.

If somebody had sat me down and told me the true amount of work marriage (and kids) are, I would have stayed single.

People will say: "who will take care of you when you get old". Well, with all the money you should saved from being single - without children - you can spend on a very decent nursing home (they are becoming popular in Lagos I see). Even now, how many people with kids are being taken care of now?

I totally agree with you.

Especially for men,there's nothing in it for men.

Belial06:
Well looking at how fast you escalated to ghetto mode I was right.

I am sure women dislike you with a passion

you think people care about being liked? If that is your goal in life then you are just foolish.

Country no good and am getting older day by day

Oyaa who will be my Wifey

ubola:
It's 2 different things. Dating her as a single dude and marrying her. As a single guy you can take unilateral decisions, manage 1k for 2days and stay at your lane to avoid trouble. Whereas in marriage, your spouse may decide to originate problem either by using abusive words on you, comparing you to her ex who's doing better and even calling you a lazy ass, thereby facilitating your death unconsciously. If you don't have a good shock absorber, you may have High Bp and die young. As a man, always hustle hard so as to call the shots, don't depend on her money to avoid tantrums. Also examine her libido level, if it's higher than yours, just run away cuz you'll die trying to satisfy her in bed. This is one of the reasons we have more widows than widowers. Be guided!

no wahala. I'm up to the task. I be horse eshi for bed

CHoccolaTE:
My advice is to the ladies,


Marriage to the modern crop of Nigerian men is crap.
80 percent of them are selfish and self centered and don't want to provide for their wives but they expect her to be obedient, submissive, to answer their surname, to ruin her beauty and physical appearance with childbirth and the children will also answer their papa surname too.
You will literally spend the rest of your life cooking and cleaning and keeping his damn house in order but they don't want to give back anything in return to their wives. If they do it's with reluctance and they want to be praised and worshiped for it.


You girls reading this, better open your eyes and don't be deluded, majority of males are selfish and all your romance fantasies you watched on your Zee world and Korean drama can never work in real life marriage. Don't expect too much from men, many of them

coming from a man hater and bloody misadrist. Pls don't succumb to this crap

Marry your friend!

Belial06:
Well looking at how fast you escalated to ghetto mode I was right.

I am sure women dislike you with a passion

Take simple correction and move on.

Kaybae:
. Are es we have small percentage that are, but why is it that it's only women peopled for almost 10years, my husband is not staying where I stay, being faithful, loyal, sincere, respectful, just name it, going through each pregnancy all alone, but despite all this he is still cheating, always on his phone chatting with different girls, he will leave me alone, pretending to be tired and go to his room to sleep but check on him later, u will meet him on the phone. When he wakes up, he will first send good morning massages to all his girlfriends, and always behaving like an innocent. This is the only man I use as pray point whenever I pray, sometimes, I don't even pray for my children and myself........ This is the man that will always tell me, he doesn't understand his health so we should stop having sex, which I agree cos

sorry. Thing is, he doesn't find you attractive anymore after yrs eating the same nkwobi. Which is sad tho but that's the truth.

Dorime


Latire....



Married people don see shege for marriage



I hope uyai is reading this

prettyheart:
Married people please gist us

Go and marry stop fornication

CryptoRepublic1:
I totally agree with you.
Especially for men,there's nothing in it for men.

sex

You will only enjoy a woman very well in her youthful prime...you are the luckiest if you can catch her between 18-23yrs...get her done with baby making before 28yrs...by late 30s and 40s the care and affection from her kids will overshadow whatever zero sexual libido she now has, while the man is still very agile even at 70. women change so drastically, the beautiful 18year old face that can make you lay down even your life to please her suddenly becomes disgusting and a thing to be endured at 28/38years. Once they give birth a pipe becomes a drum, stretch marks, accumulation of fat, etc

Please don't go and marry or date any 11yr-17year old...in the name of any culture, religion or whatever conviction. It's pure abuse and nonsense. Spreading fistula and stuffs like that. Cultures and religious convictions should be dynamic as such to factor in human rights, health, maturity, self-control, etc.

Someway somehow the man is naturally configured/wired to not feel any better or different after you have slept with a female. Taste it once. Conquest achieved. Other retaste-ing activity with same person na repetition no matter the style or flavor adopted. You can only get the same original first time special feeling again only with a new mate. Somehow someway too the male folks are hardwired naturally to sojourn, go hunt, go do battle, etc for months and come back to see/mate with a woman, play with and nurture kids, etc...complacency and boredom and familiarity and issues begins to crop up from being around the same woman day in day out, week in week out, year in year out. Polygamy was/is a solution until resources and ease of a man easily acquiring wealth began dwindling and women became more vicious at interferminine hatred and dog eat dog mentality even in the midst of abundance

1) please don't fall into the pressure of marriage, cos of age, of trying to please parents, be like your peers and mate, rushing to born children that will answer your name but you no get even a quarter plot for them to inherit or even 1kobo to train them...you are recycling poverty and suffering. Kids of this generation will soon start attacking,suing and insulting there parents for bringing them into poverty. They have zero chill and patience.

2) some people are hard wired to live better alone or off people as much as possible. The marriage of a thing brings out the worst in them. Same thing on the flip side, 90% of the reasons why people lose their sanity is cos of pressure, stigma, expectations and standards set by other humans, culture, environment, religion, government, etc. Know yourself. Know your type and what suits you and be yourself. But don't be gay pervert or sodomistic please. If you like an open marriage, closed marriage, just an affair, money for hand back for ground arrangement, you love kids but don't need a wife, u love kids but don't need a husband, u want marriage but you don't need in-laws, etc...just find your rhythm and be yourself .

3) There are a lot more unhappier and more impoverished married people than single people. If 90% of married folks tell you the truth about the schemings, game of thrones in marriage, hate for each partners relatives, financial and sexual cheating, subtle plots and plans on who will die first, etc....most single folks won't ever think of marriage. Marriage is actually an arrangement fashioned by religion and government to control, monitor, manipulate, track, profile the people under them as the case maybe. People can be happier, more hard-working, more focused, more organised, more successful, even without marriage. It has been proven.

4) Marriage matter and wahala often favors one person, enslaves the other, enslaves both, favours both, enslaves none, favours none, triggers some to insanity, etc depending on prevailing pressure, temperature and other conditions around it.

5) If sickle cell, epilepsy, dwarfism, orther inheritable heavily life impairing conditions are traceable in your genes...why not adopt like the more civilized, educated, comfortable and humane folks do. Instead of recycling this ailments and suffering by breeding.

prettyheart:
Married people please gist us

Be discerning enough to marry right. In case you mistakenly marry or married wrong, zero your expectations in order to live long and healthy.

MALIGNANTGuest:
You are GUARANTEED to likely lose your peace of mind immediately after marriage.
GUYS be wise.
So Love carefully.

The 1ST thing a bad wife attacks is ur FREEDOM.
The 2ND she offers is disrespect.
The LAST you experience is mental torture...
Then peace of mind would have eluded you.

I will never forget the bolded for the rest of my life. I will hold it dearly to my heart . I’ve screenshot this and sent it to my email .. noted!!

prettyheart:
Married people please gist us

What works for your friends marriage may not work for yours... study yourself. Both spouse should have this mindset, say it and practice it, "my marriage must work against all odds!"

Lamanii22:
Marry who you love and find attractive..... It's not always rosy... Learn to tolerate your spouse... And to the ladies sex is always different after a baby... The dryness no be here oo.... And to the guys there are other ways to be intimate with your wife after a baby other than sex... Above all put God in your marriage...

Psychologically, you've made us know your marital problem. There's solution for such.

Don't get married. Just have a partner.

Xilsbridalhouse:
Pray

My dear, do not marry just anyone all because you are due for marriage, otherwise you’d see anyhow.
Before accepting to marry anyone, please and please involve the Author of marriage and our creator who knows the person you want to be with 100% and while doing this, work on yourself as well and pray to be a better spouse for your partner.

1. Do not fornicate with your partner before going into that marriage o! The accuser is always looking for opened doors to accuse you before God. Thank God we are serving a Merciful God but He is also a Consuming Fire.

2. God is not an author of confusion, so He won’t give you someone you are not compatible with! Watch out for compatibility as this would be necessary for peace to reign in your home.

For instance, I wouldn’t advise an introvert to marry an extrovert if you can’t handle his or her moving around, just stay off!

3. Ladies be submissive and respectful o! Dump all those feminists talks at your father’s house as no man will tolerate your rudeness, being disrespectful and nagging like wetin I no know!
Treat your husband like a King, trust me that is his MuMu Button o! Treat him like a king and he’d be willing to do just about anything for you.

4. Pray! This should be like your top most priority in that marriage. Don’t be on social media all day, go down on your knees for few hours and pray as a couple. Pray together please, as this is the unity the devil is fearful of. When two or more people....you know the rest. Pray together o!

5. Kill pride and be extremely humble. Stories like, he offended me so he has to apologize first should be left in your church bin after the ceremony biko! Don’t keep malice oooo...I repeat, do not and never keep malice! Forget pride, just walk to hubby or wife and start bombarding him or her with kisses and hugs, whether you are at fault or not. Be childish, tell Your spouse to carry you like a baby, pull a childish stunt to get your spouse attention and let peace reign. It is for your own good o! Don’t be forming I can keep malice for 200 years, na bitterness and sadness go finish you.
Also learn to forgive like a child. Don’t say things like, I need time to forgive you...which time biko? Unless of course he is a cheat and a wife beater, then you might forgive but I understand emotionally things can’t go back to normal. But once you pray for the right spouse, God will fight for you.

6. No room for Laziness in marriage darlings! You are Lazy? Dirty? Go work on yourselves now! You can’t enjoy such marriage. Also assist each other, wives are not slaves so men do what you have to do as a loving husband and how a king treats his queen.

7. Ehhhhh!!!! Third party Hian! Don’t try it!!! Erm “ I’ll report you to your Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Friend etc ...” eh! Don’t try it o! You only need God to resolve your issues. No single outsider should know what is going on in your marriage o! Quickly settle things before it gets out of hands.

8. Erm “My best friend is coming, My friends are coming “ ughhhh! Which nonsense friends? Better shut your home against friends if you want peace of mind. Not literally in a rude way, but there should be no form of closeness again, you are now married! Men! I understand you like to hang out with your friends but limit this as you are no longer a boy! You are now a man with responsibilities, so spend your time on productive things.

9. Be a good example. Treat each other in a way that you’d be grateful to God for bringing you two together. Communicate often, be each other’s best friend, look at situations from two angles and not just yours, correct each other with love, Study the word of God together and discuss your flaws and how to work on your flaws together. Laugh more and frown little or at all. Be an example of how a Christian home should be.

10. Don’t cheat on your spouse as all I have stated would totally be a waste of time if you do this. You won’t even escape God’s punishment and your life would remain sour unless you repent.
Don’t cheat on your spouse o!

10b. Ahhhh Finance! How could I have skipped this Ladies and Gentlemen, this is one of the major Koko in marriage o! Wives be like “ I can’t spend my money o” mostly after getting sick advice and Lori iro advice from fake friends! Hubby be like, “pay me back that money you borrowed from me” shior! Mtchew!!!!
If you can’t handle having a joint account, not with a cheat o! Those cheats will spend your money on side chicks and side boos, that’s why it’s essential you pray like Elijah before accepting to marry anyone biko! Nothing is more sweet like having a joint account with your spouse with super understanding and same spending lifestyles! You will so enjoy this marriage ehn! Especially if you both are not materialistic and would rather invest than buy overrated Aso ebis!
Ladies, this is majorly for you! Who told you that man is your ATM? You work, he works but your money is for yourself in particular ? What happened to being joined as ONE? Why would you watch your hubby suffer while you have more than enough to support him with even if you don’t want a joint account. I’m begging you please, do not leave financial responsibilities to men only! They are not robots na! Work hard, improve on yourselves, pray to God for creation of wealth opportunities, Be each other’s support pillar, don’t frustrate and fight over money issues. You must understand that you are no longer different individuals but now ONE.
Men if your spouse agreed to submit her salary or profits to you, and you spend such money on useless things like giving one side chick girl that is playing mind tricks on you or you trying to get in her pants....I hope you know God will forget you and no one will help you.
Don’t fight over finance please, and if you need to do things 50-50, do it peacefully and if you as a husband you are capable of shouldering all the responsibilities please do it without feeling like a god.


I have so much to say but I pray the Holy Spirit leads you right and help you to speak when you should, act right and stay mute when you should, also do not forget your in-laws are important! Treat them like your blood even if this is a bit stressful, God will definitely find a way to reward you and there is nothing we ask our Dear Father in Heaven that He won’t do. For instance you could say, “Daddy, I’m stressed could you please make my brother in-law to stop acting irresponsible “ and He will answer you.

God bless you as you invite Jesus into your home.

May God give me a woman who has this understanding about marriage and who praticies it's realities .


Good bless u ma...u should be a marrigae counsellor...or maybe someone who gives relationship and marital tips on social media...thanks for this wealth of wisdom