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prettyheart:
Married people please gist us

you will live happily for ever if you don't venture into marriage the day you do? Your happiness ceases

Experience is the best teacher.

prettyheart:
Married people please gist us

Spend all your time to pursue self development. Acquire sustainable skills. This government has no plans for you! No be 30k N power you go use feed family!

I'm an introvert I just need an introvert lady I don't want any drama

Be watchful of the kind of family you marry from. You may love your partner but if his or her family does not love you forget it

Lamanii22:
Marry who you love and find attractive..... It's not always rosy... Learn to tolerate your spouse... And to the ladies sex is always different after a baby... The dryness no be here oo.... And to the guys there are other ways to be intimate with your wife after a baby other than sex... Above all put God in your marriage...

That you are dry down there doesnt mean other ladies are dry as well..plenty are wet....

Made619:
stay single....

wahala be like wetin again?

Marriage is overrated, get two baby Mama's give birth to just two children be it boy/boy, girl/girl, any combination all na pikin.

Concentrate on training your children, and go do yourself. You'll be Happy.

Above all, marry someone that shares thesame Faith with you

Lol, marriage over rated things in human want.

Kaybae:
. Are you telling me men are saint, yes we have small percentage that are, but why is it that it's only women people do point accusing fingers at..... I have been married for almost 10years, my husband is not staying where I stay, being faithful, loyal, sincere, respectful, just name it, going through each pregnancy all alone, but despite all this he is still cheating, always on his phone chatting with different girls, he will leave me alone, pretending to be tired and go to his room to sleep but check on him later, u will meet him on the phone. When he wakes up, he will first send good morning massages to all his girlfriends, and always behaving like an innocent. This is the only man I use as pray point whenever I pray, sometimes, I don't even pray for my children and myself........ This is the man that will always tell me, he doesn't understand his health so we should stop having sex, which I agree cos I don't want to hurt him but caught him with condom of recent and lied he just took it out without any intention..... So many...... Don't always blame women alone in marriages, I have never reported him for any one in the last 10years of marriage but I was forced to do so to his parents recently cos I feel betrayed.

I'm sure you didn't read where I said nobody is perfect in my post...i referred to both men and women alike.

D way some people are addicted 247 on nairaland, always displaying religious and tribalistic bigotry. it's hard to figure out if they can even have a relationshipp talk more of marriage

FX:
Don't get married. Just have a partner.

Make sure you tell all your potential partners that you are not looking for marriage, only partnership. Who go stay, go stay. Don’t fear being alone and start lying.

MacANDIES:
Marriage is overrated, get two baby Mama's give birth to just two children be it boy/boy, girl/girl, any combination all na pikin.

Concentrate on training your children, and go do yourself. You'll be Happy.

Get the babymama and come back to tell us how far. Ask those who have babymama how great their life is.

Kaybae:
. Do they know they are putting anybody in sorrow? Imagine after catching a cheating husband and you started crying and asking why, instead of being sober he said" ekun e ko move mi, ma su kun abosi because I never sign agreement of only you"( i.e, your cry does not move me because it's like crocodile tears, I never sign........) Now tell me if such man knows what it's feel for another person's daughter to be in sorrow?

Yes, also carry that crocodile tears outta here with the females support(herd mentality) you seek... Wanna use croc' tears to blackmail the simple candy man

The females wont help you to change a thing, rather would make things worse for the happiness you crave in your house.

Cos, most females don't know anything about happiness and joy. Reason most of you don't reach orgasm

Okay, you saw him with a condom, good for you. detective bediako. Did you catch him fvckin' another woman with it? Do you know, if he was nurturing the idea of the fvcks while you saw the condom.. And still trying to figure if to do it or not. Maybe, na you h even buy the condom for, cos of your new style....

And yes, men see men as lords of their houses.
And yes again, men hate to see a lord being controlled or manipulated by his so called weaker vessel(as Bible talk am)... such manipulative statement.

We have women(weaker vessels) that can run faster than men, even beat men in physical combat.. All these involve energy. So, men are only stronger physically and mentally on the average and not a general thing.

Again, we don't want to hear you females complaining about men having affairs with other women. It's so annoying to even assume men or bring up that word "cheat" when you see a man with another woman. There is nothing like a man being a cheat, it doesn't exist.

The pussified western social construct on relationship/marriage is confusing you people from the nature of a man..

You can continue to let the sorrow you've created for yourself to consume you gradually or learn to free yourself from the brainwashing of social media stories of bitter confused women who seek more companions in their struggles after making bad choices in their lives.


Just let him fvck girls in peace with condoms while he comes home to make love to you with or without condoms..

It won't be a stress if you don't sweat it.

Kaybae:
. Do they know they are putting anybody in sorrow? Imagine after catching a cheating husband and you started crying and asking why, instead of being sober he said" ekun e ko move mi, ma su kun abosi because I never sign agreement of only you"( i.e, your cry does not move me because it's like crocodile tears, I never sign........) Now tell me if such man knows what it's feel for another person's daughter to be in sorrow?

Madam, you need someone close to you to voice out all these pent up worries before it explodes inside of you and gives you mental issues. And one more advice take a few weeks holidays off to any destination of your choice in order to clear you head and decide on the next way or step forward in your marriage. Your mental health and well being is paramount here. God forbid you kpai from acute depression, think of your kids o!

Draslo:
Shut up, this isn't immature or pointless.

The best advice I ever received from a married man is to open a trust fund for your kids' education even before you meet their mother.

Really?? Is it possible without the name of kids or any document...I don't understand??

[b]- Start saving or create funds for your kids even before you marry and while you are married.
- Do not rush into marriage. If you are a guy and have plans of migration to a new country, go to that country first before you think of marriage.
- That term, "have many kids, God will provide", is a lie. You have to consciously plan yourself and your family based on the finance available NOT finance that will be available.
- Never borrow. Wedding is a day's event, if you can do a small wedding, stick to that. It is better to have a small wedding and still have good funds to play with than do a big wedding with debts.
- When you are about to marry, check the immediate family of your potential inlaws very well. if you are a man, watch and listen to your mother-in-law very well. If there is a trait that doesn't fit your principle, run. This is because in most cases, your mother-in-law is a close reflection of your wife.
- Love alone is not sufficient for marriage. You need to be tolerant and be able to communicate freely with your would-be partner.[/b]

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

My real niggar longest time niggar, u cannot never disappoint bro.
Back to the topic, is it the married ones that are happy in their marriages or the ones that are dying silently in their marriages or the ones that if time is reversed now they will opt out of the marriage?

ignore those that tells u marriage ain't easy or stressful most of them made the wrong decision in selecting their life partner beside nothing good comes easy while you keep waiting calculate how old your kids would've been by now is just a matter of sacrifice but if your lucky might end up being with the best partner,if ur ready and financially ok to settle down, start it now

kushme:
Yes, also carry that crocodile tears outta here with the females support(herd mentality) you seek... Wanna use croc' tears to blackmail the simple candy man

They wont help you to change a thing, rather would make things worse for the happiness you crave in your house.

Okay, you saw him with a condom, good for you. detective bediako. Did you catch him fvckin' another woman with it? Do you know, if he was nurturing the idea of the fvcks while you saw the condom.. And still trying to figure if to do it or not. Maybe, na you h even buy the condom for, cos of your new style....

And yes, men see men as lords of their houses.
And yes again, men hate to see a lord being controlled or manipulated by his so called weaker vessel(as Bible talk am)... such manipulative statement.

We have women(weaker vessels) that can run faster than men, even beat men in physical combat.. All these involve energy. So, men are only stronger physically and mentally on the average and not a general thing.

Again, we don't want to hear you females complaining about having affairs with other women. It's so annoying to even assume men or bring up that word "cheat" when you see a man with another woman. There is nothing like a man being a cheat, it doesn't exist.

The pussified western social construct on relationship/marriage is confusing you people from the nature of a man..

You can continue to let the sorrow you've created for yourself to consume you gradually or learn to free yourself from the brainwashing of social media stories of bitter confused women who seek more companions in their struggles after making bad choices in lives.


Just let him fvck girls in peace with condoms while he comes home to make love to you with or without condoms..

It won't be a stress if you don't sweat it.

, your taught tho, I will never blackmail my husband, no matter what and I'm not seeking social media attention if you must know, only trying to pour out my mind, which I have done and really feel relieved about it, let's becareful how we contribute to issue that might be heating other up........ The love I have for my husband is not here, but just felt betrayed that he could do that..... So forget the fact that am shedding crocodile tears, you comment like someone who doesn't value a woman.... I'm not like ladies of today and I don't even do social media stuff, nairaland is only my place and just joined few months ago, if you must know, my husband introduce me to the platform years back so as to be reading news and doesn't want me on other social media which I'm always obeying till date, so don't just talked to people like you know them well, if you can't be positive then stay clear off. Thanks, don't mean any insult, I'm a well cultured and trained lady.

WeRblessed:
For women, have something doing for youeself.
In othe words, build yourself ( financially).

Stop looking for rich men and look for a man with potentials that truely loves you.

If all you are bringing to a marriage is sex and cooking honey you are not ready.

You must work as hard as your husband so that you both can live in a condusive environment, enjoy life, and secure your children's future.

Your money is your husband's while your huaband's is yours.

You do not have to be a perfect chef but try as mush as you can to make tasty and healthy meals for your family.

Your husband's family is your family.

Your husbands friends are your friends, but don't call his friends or visit them in his absence.

Always praise your husband and love him unconditionally.

It's okay to be angry, but think before you speak, because you cannot take your words back.

Never ever ever ever and ever compare your husband's look, finances, job, or anything with that of others.

Make time to have fun with your husband.

Don't ever lie or steal from your husband. It's like lying and stealing from yourself.

Eat healthy and exercise at least 4 days in a week.

Make sure you mantain a toned figure and a flat belly always.

Even after you had a baby, go on crash diet together with running and power lifting to get your figure back.

Spend money on sexy underwears, dresses, and hair.

Always suprise your husband with giftts and banging Hot sex every day or frequently.

Sex should be enjoyed between you and your husband always!

I will come back and drop my advice for the man later... I mean, what do I know?

Banging hot sex every day indeed. Lol. Talk is cheap.

It's obvious you aren't married yet.

Xilsbridalhouse:
Pray

My dear, do not marry just anyone all because you are due for marriage, otherwise you’d see anyhow.
Before accepting to marry anyone, please and please involve the Author of marriage and our creator who knows the person you want to be with 100% and while doing this, work on yourself as well and pray to be a better spouse for your partner.

1. Do not fornicate with your partner before going into that marriage o! The accuser is always looking for opened doors to accuse you before God. Thank God we are serving a Merciful God but He is also a Consuming Fire.

2. God is not an author of confusion, so He won’t give you someone you are not compatible with! Watch out for compatibility as this would be necessary for peace to reign in your home.

For instance, I wouldn’t advise an introvert to marry an extrovert if you can’t handle his or her moving around, just stay off!

3. Ladies be submissive and respectful o! Dump all those feminists talks at your father’s house as no man will tolerate your rudeness, being disrespectful and nagging like wetin I no know!
Treat your husband like a King, trust me that is his MuMu Button o! Treat him like a king and he’d be willing to do just about anything for you.

4. Pray! This should be like your top most priority in that marriage. Don’t be on social media all day, go down on your knees for few hours and pray as a couple. Pray together please, as this is the unity the devil is fearful of. When two or more people....you know the rest. Pray together o!

5. Kill pride and be extremely humble. Stories like, he offended me so he has to apologize first should be left in your church bin after the ceremony biko! Don’t keep malice oooo...I repeat, do not and never keep malice! Forget pride, just walk to hubby or wife and start bombarding him or her with kisses and hugs, whether you are at fault or not. Be childish, tell Your spouse to carry you like a baby, pull a childish stunt to get your spouse attention and let peace reign. It is for your own good o! Don’t be forming I can keep malice for 200 years, na bitterness and sadness go finish you.
Also learn to forgive like a child. Don’t say things like, I need time to forgive you...which time biko? Unless of course he is a cheat and a wife beater, then you might forgive but I understand emotionally things can’t go back to normal. But once you pray for the right spouse, God will fight for you.

6. No room for Laziness in marriage darlings! You are Lazy? Dirty? Go work on yourselves now! You can’t enjoy such marriage. Also assist each other, wives are not slaves so men do what you have to do as a loving husband and how a king treats his queen.

7. Ehhhhh!!!! Third party Hian! Don’t try it!!! Erm “ I’ll report you to your Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Friend etc ...” eh! Don’t try it o! You only need God to resolve your issues. No single outsider should know what is going on in your marriage o! Quickly settle things before it gets out of hands.

8. Erm “My best friend is coming, My friends are coming “ ughhhh! Which nonsense friends? Better shut your home against friends if you want peace of mind. Not literally in a rude way, but there should be no form of closeness again, you are now married! Men! I understand you like to hang out with your friends but limit this as you are no longer a boy! You are now a man with responsibilities, so spend your time on productive things.

9. Be a good example. Treat each other in a way that you’d be grateful to God for bringing you two together. Communicate often, be each other’s best friend, look at situations from two angles and not just yours, correct each other with love, Study the word of God together and discuss your flaws and how to work on your flaws together. Laugh more and frown little or at all. Be an example of how a Christian home should be.

10. Don’t cheat on your spouse as all I have stated would totally be a waste of time if you do this. You won’t even escape God’s punishment and your life would remain sour unless you repent.
Don’t cheat on your spouse o!

10b. Ahhhh Finance! How could I have skipped this Ladies and Gentlemen, this is one of the major Koko in marriage o! Wives be like “ I can’t spend my money o” mostly after getting sick advice and Lori iro advice from fake friends! Hubby be like, “pay me back that money you borrowed from me” shior! Mtchew!!!!
If you can’t handle having a joint account, not with a cheat o! Those cheats will spend your money on side chicks and side boos, that’s why it’s essential you pray like Elijah before accepting to marry anyone biko! Nothing is more sweet like having a joint account with your spouse with super understanding and same spending lifestyles! You will so enjoy this marriage ehn! Especially if you both are not materialistic and would rather invest than buy overrated Aso ebis!
Ladies, this is majorly for you! Who told you that man is your ATM? You work, he works but your money is for yourself in particular ? What happened to being joined as ONE? Why would you watch your hubby suffer while you have more than enough to support him with even if you don’t want a joint account. I’m begging you please, do not leave financial responsibilities to men only! They are not robots na! Work hard, improve on yourselves, pray to God for creation of wealth opportunities, Be each other’s support pillar, don’t frustrate and fight over money issues. You must understand that you are no longer different individuals but now ONE.
Men if your spouse agreed to submit her salary or profits to you, and you spend such money on useless things like giving one side chick girl that is playing mind tricks on you or you trying to get in her pants....I hope you know God will forget you and no one will help you.
Don’t fight over finance please, and if you need to do things 50-50, do it peacefully and if you as a husband you are capable of shouldering all the responsibilities please do it without feeling like a god.


I have so much to say but I pray the Holy Spirit leads you right and help you to speak when you should, act right and stay mute when you should, also do not forget your in-laws are important! Treat them like your blood even if this is a bit stressful, God will definitely find a way to reward you and there is nothing we ask our Dear Father in Heaven that He won’t do. For instance you could say, “Daddy, I’m stressed could you please make my brother in-law to stop acting irresponsible “ and He will answer you.

God bless you as you invite Jesus into your home.

This is absolutely a good one.

And to think that it is coming from a lady, honestly, this is commendable and thoughtful.

I am impressed.

May God bless our homes...and give us the courage and fortitude to fight and quench the fiery darts of the enemies... and again, may the Lord give us the wisdom to hear word when our ears are blocked...

Lord keep on helping us. Amen.

1. If she won't submit to your leadership and authority, don't bother getting married to her.
2. Your marriage relationship with each other takes precedence over everything else including the kids.

Just listen to the young man and grow up champ. I don’t know you neither do I care to know you but from the few comments you dropped here already, he is correct. You need to grow up

Draslo:
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Advise - Verb
Advice - Noun.


Now f**k off back into the cave you emerged from and stop derailing the thread.

Lamanii22:
Marry who you love and find attractive..... It's not always rosy... Learn to tolerate your spouse... And to the ladies sex is always different after a baby... The dryness no be here oo.... And to the guys there are other ways to be intimate with your wife after a baby other than sex... Above all put God in your marriage...

Really? I thought it’s only menopause that causes that ? Waoo! Thank you for the info.

Kaybae:
, your taught tho, I will never blackmail my husband, no matter what and I'm not seeking social media attention if you must know, only trying to pour out my mind, which I have done and really feel relieved about it, let's becareful how we contribute to issue that might be heating other up........ The love I have for my husband is not here, but just felt betrayed that he could do that..... So forget the fact that am shedding crocodile tears, you comment like someone who doesn't value a woman.... I'm not like ladies of today and I don't even do social media stuff, nairaland is only my place and just joined few months ago, if you must know, my husband introduce me to the platform years back so as to be reading news and doesn't want me on other social media which I'm always obeying till date, so don't just talked to people like you know them well, if you can't be positive then stay clear off. Thanks, don't mean any insult, I'm a well cultured and trained lady.

Keep praying for him. I think he has been carried away by some women, or friends might have had a bad influence on him. I know how you feel and I pray that God would restore your marriage immediately. Amen.

Keep praying and also try to get busy with other things that can help you stay fit and happy. Like going on a beach with your kids, playing with them often.

God bless you for taking your time to pen � this down.

Xilsbridalhouse:
Pray

My dear, do not marry just anyone all because you are due for marriage, otherwise you’d see anyhow.
Before accepting to marry anyone, please and please involve the Author of marriage and our creator who knows the person you want to be with 100% and while doing this, work on yourself as well and pray to be a better spouse for your partner.

1. Do not fornicate with your partner before going into that marriage o! The accuser is always looking for opened doors to accuse you before God. Thank God we are serving a Merciful God but He is also a Consuming Fire.

2. God is not an author of confusion, so He won’t give you someone you are not compatible with! Watch out for compatibility as this would be necessary for peace to reign in your home.

For instance, I wouldn’t advise an introvert to marry an extrovert if you can’t handle his or her moving around, just stay off!

3. Ladies be submissive and respectful o! Dump all those feminists talks at your father’s house as no man will tolerate your rudeness, being disrespectful and nagging like wetin I no know!
Treat your husband like a King, trust me that is his MuMu Button o! Treat him like a king and he’d be willing to do just about anything for you.

4. Pray! This should be like your top most priority in that marriage. Don’t be on social media all day, go down on your knees for few hours and pray as a couple. Pray together please, as this is the unity the devil is fearful of. When two or more people....you know the rest. Pray together o!

5. Kill pride and be extremely humble. Stories like, he offended me so he has to apologize first should be left in your church bin after the ceremony biko! Don’t keep malice oooo...I repeat, do not and never keep malice! Forget pride, just walk to hubby or wife and start bombarding him or her with kisses and hugs, whether you are at fault or not. Be childish, tell Your spouse to carry you like a baby, pull a childish stunt to get your spouse attention and let peace reign. It is for your own good o! Don’t be forming I can keep malice for 200 years, na bitterness and sadness go finish you.
Also learn to forgive like a child. Don’t say things like, I need time to forgive you...which time biko? Unless of course he is a cheat and a wife beater, then you might forgive but I understand emotionally things can’t go back to normal. But once you pray for the right spouse, God will fight for you.

6. No room for Laziness in marriage darlings! You are Lazy? Dirty? Go work on yourselves now! You can’t enjoy such marriage. Also assist each other, wives are not slaves so men do what you have to do as a loving husband and how a king treats his queen.

7. Ehhhhh!!!! Third party Hian! Don’t try it!!! Erm “ I’ll report you to your Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Friend etc ...” eh! Don’t try it o! You only need God to resolve your issues. No single outsider should know what is going on in your marriage o! Quickly settle things before it gets out of hands.

8. Erm “My best friend is coming, My friends are coming “ ughhhh! Which nonsense friends? Better shut your home against friends if you want peace of mind. Not literally in a rude way, but there should be no form of closeness again, you are now married! Men! I understand you like to hang out with your friends but limit this as you are no longer a boy! You are now a man with responsibilities, so spend your time on productive things.

9. Be a good example. Treat each other in a way that you’d be grateful to God for bringing you two together. Communicate often, be each other’s best friend, look at situations from two angles and not just yours, correct each other with love, Study the word of God together and discuss your flaws and how to work on your flaws together. Laugh more and frown little or at all. Be an example of how a Christian home should be.

10. Don’t cheat on your spouse as all I have stated would totally be a waste of time if you do this. You won’t even escape God’s punishment and your life would remain sour unless you repent.
Don’t cheat on your spouse o!

10b. Ahhhh Finance! How could I have skipped this Ladies and Gentlemen, this is one of the major Koko in marriage o! Wives be like “ I can’t spend my money o” mostly after getting sick advice and Lori iro advice from fake friends! Hubby be like, “pay me back that money you borrowed from me” shior! Mtchew!!!!
If you can’t handle having a joint account, not with a cheat o! Those cheats will spend your money on side chicks and side boos, that’s why it’s essential you pray like Elijah before accepting to marry anyone biko! Nothing is more sweet like having a joint account with your spouse with super understanding and same spending lifestyles! You will so enjoy this marriage ehn! Especially if you both are not materialistic and would rather invest than buy overrated Aso ebis!
Ladies, this is majorly for you! Who told you that man is your ATM? You work, he works but your money is for yourself in particular ? What happened to being joined as ONE? Why would you watch your hubby suffer while you have more than enough to support him with even if you don’t want a joint account. I’m begging you please, do not leave financial responsibilities to men only! They are not robots na! Work hard, improve on yourselves, pray to God for creation of wealth opportunities, Be each other’s support pillar, don’t frustrate and fight over money issues. You must understand that you are no longer different individuals but now ONE.
Men if your spouse agreed to submit her salary or profits to you, and you spend such money on useless things like giving one side chick girl that is playing mind tricks on you or you trying to get in her pants....I hope you know God will forget you and no one will help you.
Don’t fight over finance please, and if you need to do things 50-50, do it peacefully and if you as a husband you are capable of shouldering all the responsibilities please do it without feeling like a god.


I have so much to say but I pray the Holy Spirit leads you right and help you to speak when you should, act right and stay mute when you should, also do not forget your in-laws are important! Treat them like your blood even if this is a bit stressful, God will definitely find a way to reward you and there is nothing we ask our Dear Father in Heaven that He won’t do. For instance you could say, “Daddy, I’m stressed could you please make my brother in-law to stop acting irresponsible “ and He will answer you.

God bless you as you invite Jesus into your home.

Xilsbridalhouse:
Pray

My dear, do not marry just anyone all because you are due for marriage, otherwise you’d see anyhow.
Before accepting to marry anyone, please and please involve the Author of marriage and our creator who knows the person you want to be with 100% and while doing this, work on yourself as well and pray to be a better spouse for your partner.

1. Do not fornicate with your partner before going into that marriage o! The accuser is always looking for opened doors to accuse you before God. Thank God we are serving a Merciful God but He is also a Consuming Fire.

2. God is not an author of confusion, so He won’t give you someone you are not compatible with! Watch out for compatibility as this would be necessary for peace to reign in your home.

For instance, I wouldn’t advise an introvert to marry an extrovert if you can’t handle his or her moving around, just stay off!

3. Ladies be submissive and respectful o! Dump all those feminists talks at your father’s house as no man will tolerate your rudeness, being disrespectful and nagging like wetin I no know!
Treat your husband like a King, trust me that is his MuMu Button o! Treat him like a king and he’d be willing to do just about anything for you.

4. Pray! This should be like your top most priority in that marriage. Don’t be on social media all day, go down on your knees for few hours and pray as a couple. Pray together please, as this is the unity the devil is fearful of. When two or more people....you know the rest. Pray together o!

5. Kill pride and be extremely humble. Stories like, he offended me so he has to apologize first should be left in your church bin after the ceremony biko! Don’t keep malice oooo...I repeat, do not and never keep malice! Forget pride, just walk to hubby or wife and start bombarding him or her with kisses and hugs, whether you are at fault or not. Be childish, tell Your spouse to carry you like a baby, pull a childish stunt to get your spouse attention and let peace reign. It is for your own good o! Don’t be forming I can keep malice for 200 years, na bitterness and sadness go finish you.
Also learn to forgive like a child. Don’t say things like, I need time to forgive you...which time biko? Unless of course he is a cheat and a wife beater, then you might forgive but I understand emotionally things can’t go back to normal. But once you pray for the right spouse, God will fight for you.

6. No room for Laziness in marriage darlings! You are Lazy? Dirty? Go work on yourselves now! You can’t enjoy such marriage. Also assist each other, wives are not slaves so men do what you have to do as a loving husband and how a king treats his queen.

7. Ehhhhh!!!! Third party Hian! Don’t try it!!! Erm “ I’ll report you to your Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Friend etc ...” eh! Don’t try it o! You only need God to resolve your issues. No single outsider should know what is going on in your marriage o! Quickly settle things before it gets out of hands.

8. Erm “My best friend is coming, My friends are coming “ ughhhh! Which nonsense friends? Better shut your home against friends if you want peace of mind. Not literally in a rude way, but there should be no form of closeness again, you are now married! Men! I understand you like to hang out with your friends but limit this as you are no longer a boy! You are now a man with responsibilities, so spend your time on productive things.

9. Be a good example. Treat each other in a way that you’d be grateful to God for bringing you two together. Communicate often, be each other’s best friend, look at situations from two angles and not just yours, correct each other with love, Study the word of God together and discuss your flaws and how to work on your flaws together. Laugh more and frown little or at all. Be an example of how a Christian home should be.

10. Don’t cheat on your spouse as all I have stated would totally be a waste of time if you do this. You won’t even escape God’s punishment and your life would remain sour unless you repent.
Don’t cheat on your spouse o!

10b. Ahhhh Finance! How could I have skipped this Ladies and Gentlemen, this is one of the major Koko in marriage o! Wives be like “ I can’t spend my money o” mostly after getting sick advice and Lori iro advice from fake friends! Hubby be like, “pay me back that money you borrowed from me” shior! Mtchew!!!!
If you can’t handle having a joint account, not with a cheat o! Those cheats will spend your money on side chicks and side boos, that’s why it’s essential you pray like Elijah before accepting to marry anyone biko! Nothing is more sweet like having a joint account with your spouse with super understanding and same spending lifestyles! You will so enjoy this marriage ehn! Especially if you both are not materialistic and would rather invest than buy overrated Aso ebis!
Ladies, this is majorly for you! Who told you that man is your ATM? You work, he works but your money is for yourself in particular ? What happened to being joined as ONE? Why would you watch your hubby suffer while you have more than enough to support him with even if you don’t want a joint account. I’m begging you please, do not leave financial responsibilities to men only! They are not robots na! Work hard, improve on yourselves, pray to God for creation of wealth opportunities, Be each other’s support pillar, don’t frustrate and fight over money issues. You must understand that you are no longer different individuals but now ONE.
Men if your spouse agreed to submit her salary or profits to you, and you spend such money on useless things like giving one side chick girl that is playing mind tricks on you or you trying to get in her pants....I hope you know God will forget you and no one will help you.
Don’t fight over finance please, and if you need to do things 50-50, do it peacefully and if you as a husband you are capable of shouldering all the responsibilities please do it without feeling like a god.


I have so much to say but I pray the Holy Spirit leads you right and help you to speak when you should, act right and stay mute when you should, also do not forget your in-laws are important! Treat them like your blood even if this is a bit stressful, God will definitely find a way to reward you and there is nothing we ask our Dear Father in Heaven that He won’t do. For instance you could say, “Daddy, I’m stressed could you please make my brother in-law to stop acting irresponsible “ and He will answer you.

God bless you as you invite Jesus into your home.

is it only men that cheat!

You useless Naija women are so demented

nijaomegacode:
No mata the number of pages of advice you write on marriage, 21st century marriage will not still last.
My simple advice: marry a virgin.

As if virgins were saint, I just deflowered my GF which I wanted to marry only for me to discovered that she had sex with two of her exs' when I traveled. All these virgin stuff na crap, I don't bliv it a bit. Am talking about an issue of just 2weeks, she has been begging and I was told she's presently admitted in hospital coz I told her I can't date get again. If you want to av rest of mind in marriage, marry ur best female friend.

Oga what point are you trying to make?that your wife has not allowed you to have sex with her for over 1 year +?if that is so then the advice you quoted is not for you..your case is different..your wife is having sex with another person..she is cheating, period..there is no way you will put it to me and I will buy it..so you are saying she stopped having sex with you because she had a baby?one month is still understandable but 1 year and 3months?oga go and run a DNA test on your child.im single and I have not had sex for one year and one month and that is because I'm not in a relationship..I feel like having sex sometimes but even when some guys to me I still do not have sex with them because I know what I want but there is no how I will be in a relationship and in love with a man and wouldn't have sex with him

Strech:
tanks honey , you just made my night.. ever since my wife gave birth to our beautiful baby girl, this is exactly 1 year 3 month, I don join vaseline crew, imagine an active young man like me not having sex for more than a year.. I bin wan send am go him papa house. . But your words really change my mindset.