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I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by chocolateme(f): 11:49am On Jul 07, 2021 |
I come from a very strict background. I grew up in fear, submission and obedience to my parents, elders and relatives. I am well mannered. I have anger and temper issues but it never goes beyond sulking and crying silently to get it off my chest. I find it difficult to let go when aggravated but in trcent times, i have worked on myself so much that i channel my displeasure to free tears flowing down my cheeks after which i let go of everything. I am always looking for excuses to run away from any form of marriage discussion whenever its comes to that, i don't give room to premarital sex. I don't know how to overcome this. When my potential suitor seems so nice and with good disposition and everything worth craving for , then i ask myself " who are these people that end up enemies suddenly and what on earth can cause someone to become so horrible that a once lovely marriage turns into chaos " Honestly, i believe that with my tolerance level that i can manage a home and marriage but then,how can you tell that of your potential partner? Sometimes, i just want to remain like this and grow old and still be very happy but then societal and family pressure to get married and have your own kids keeps getting higher which results to my running away more and more. To make it worse, i don't keep friends. Who knows how to overcome this and how can it be ok? 84 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Bekermann(m): 11:50am On Jul 07, 2021 |
OP. Let's do daddy and mommy. We'll be alright... 48 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by b3llo(m): 11:52am On Jul 07, 2021 |
Marriage is supposed to be fun and loving. Cast your mind on its positive aspects though not ignoring the challenges. Things will work out fine. Cheers! 90 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by SpruceMediaNG: 11:55am On Jul 07, 2021 |
The problem is your psyche,mental outlook on life, perceptions, perspectives and too much noise in your head. To tackle this to it's root needs overhaul in your outlook,views,beliefs, perspectives,perceptions and assumptions You're creating problems that don't exist in your mind. Declutter your soul and purge yourself of yourself. 60 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by benuejosh: 11:56am On Jul 07, 2021 |
No one can give you the best marriage advice. Even the marriage counselors have one issue or the other with their marriages while some are even divorced. No body is perfect. The best advice I can give you is to pray and ask God for direction and guidance. He should give you someone he has prepared for you even before you came into the world from your mum's womb. We can only advise based on our perceptions, look of things and what we have passed through. We are not from the future, if others are, I am not. My challenge and how I overcame won't be the same as the challenge you will face and the technique you will employ to over come it. Remember, the worst mistake one will make is marrying who wasn't meant for you. So PRAY TO GOD AND SEEK HIS WILL AND DIRECTIONS. Don't take decisions based on what people will say. At the end of it all, it is you and your home. They won't be there for you incase there's turbulence. Best of Luck. 109 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by SUPERPACK: 12:04pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Marry me and all your worries will be history. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by PrimeWatermark: 12:12pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Majority of us are. 9 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by valentineuwakwe(m): 12:13pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
You did not say if you are a man or a woman..... But marriage is a beautiful thing to look forward to. You upbringing no doubt affected your psychic and mental state of mind...forget the well mannered and obedient stuffs you said here, your parents never allowed you to mix up perhaps that would have given you an avenue to watch n see many behaviour of people. Perhaps you were an introvert who they kept indoors, thinking that will make you a better person and give them a good name as better mama and papa dem. @Op, explore the world,mix up with people, make friends and ask couples how they see marriage. E no work for uche no mean e no go work for you...as you make your bed so you lay on it....get a close friend and build up from there. Above all, embress marital life n ask God to bless your union and home! 16 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Savedday: 12:16pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it. In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them! 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Nobody: 12:32pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
I know someone will come and accuse an innocent spiritual husband 8 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Mophor: 1:30pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
Damn Niggar!!!!! Work hard & smart then you’ll be comfortable with marriage and also find peace of mind in your wife 1 Like |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by SonofGod231: 2:48pm On Jul 07, 2021 |
OP,When it comes to Marriage I think you should just know what you're getting into with regards to extended families.But like you mentioned It is more about who you marry than what you can do to keep a marriage happy. If you marry a kind and considerate person who you genuinely enjoy being with and admire, your marriage has a much higher chance of lasting.There's no need rushing into marriage as many who did rushed out. Still take your time to chose wisely,It Is Better Late Than Never But Never Too Late Is Better. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Goldbw122(m): 3:58am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Well just make sure that you find the soul mate that will be compatible with you, you know the woman or man you choose in your life determine the success and failure you face in life.. trust me. 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Bola146(f): 6:31am On Jul 08, 2021 |
I understand you, just know what you want and don't be too careful too, I can mislead you. Don't sell yourself for any man. Pray to God to give you your heart desires, go for counseling, read relationship books, watch relationship tips on Facebook too. You shall never get married to the wrong hand. 9 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Nobody: 6:34am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Marriage is scary these days, take a look at the young men we have around, its easier for the camel to pass through the eye of a needle than it is to finding good and worthy husband. 18 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Nobody: 6:41am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Rozcol:Lol.. calm down 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Nobody: 6:44am On Jul 08, 2021 |
dairykidd:Lol,how are you doing |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by JOACHINpedro: 6:50am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Marriage in 2022 will be solely on renewable contract. This I have seen 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Nobody: 7:00am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Rozcol:I'm good just at the airport now to pick my old boy. How u been? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by SeekerofTruth1: 8:02am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Rozcol: It is Easier for A Camel to pass through the Eye of a Needle that it will be For You to Get Married. See you in Shiloh 2035 18 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Nobody: 8:46am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Deactivate your NL account or stop visiting romance section 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Nobody: 9:01am On Jul 08, 2021 |
dairykidd:I'm fine, my regards to your old boy lol 1 Like |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by bigpicture001: 9:01am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Don't worry OP, only age will get the fear out of you..lets wait till your 32 nd know if you still have fear 7 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by ITbomb(m): 9:33am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Make more friends first. As you handle your friendship, that's how marriage works. It's not bliss all the time but you should enjoy it most of the time 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by goodmuscopi(m): 11:29am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Dont get married!!!!! 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by KristaPretty(f): 11:30am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Do whatever makes you happy my dear. After being counselled and talked to but you're still scared of marriage and don't want to to get married? Please don't so. It is not a do or die issue as some people are married but unhappy. Society puts pressure on people too much in Nigeria (which I am sure of). Due to personal encounters with several women who had severe issues and died, I developed severe Tokophobia (make una check google ) and no matter the pressure do not see myself wanting to go down that path when married - Gestational surrogacy is the plan and I am hoping and praying for a man who would understand this. You see this life ehn, na how you do am you go enjoy am. Do only what makes you happy without thinking of these negative shallow minded people. They judge others without hearing their story, they act like saints but are devils inside. I no kukuma send anybody 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Ezedon(m): 11:47am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Grow up 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Ugaboy: 11:47am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by FarahAideed: 11:48am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Marriage is crap trust me 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Nobody: 11:48am On Jul 08, 2021 |
Hmmm |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by Bar1941(m): 11:48am On Jul 08, 2021 |
It's not a must you get married so why are you entertaining unnecessary fear? Marriage is meant to be enjoyed not a scary adventure. But if you wish to go into it with your current condition, then wait till you have all maturities (physical, emotional, spiritual and financial) required before venturing into it, by then your fear would have gone. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Scared Of Marriage, Advise Me Please by SoftP(m): 11:49am On Jul 08, 2021 |
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