I swear very scary, I have my reasons sha

Tell us you're advertising yourself that you're available for marriage. This thread is rather created based on desperate motive of all Nigerian females for marriage. Trash

chocolateme:
I come from a very strict background.
I grew up in fear, submission and obedience to my parents, elders and relatives. I am well mannered. I have anger and temper issues but it never goes beyond sulking and crying silently to get it off my chest. I find it difficult to let go when aggravated but in trcent times, i have worked on myself so much that i channel my displeasure to free tears flowing down my cheeks after which i let go of everything.

I am always looking for excuses to run away from any form of marriage discussion whenever its comes to that, i don't give room to premarital sex. I don't know how to overcome this. When my potential suitor seems so nice and with good disposition and everything worth craving for , then i ask myself " who are these people that end up enemies suddenly and what on earth can cause someone to become so horrible that a once lovely marriage turns into chaos "

Honestly, i believe that with my tolerance level that i can manage a home and marriage but then,how can you tell that of your potential partner?

Sometimes, i just want to remain like this and grow old and still be very happy but then societal and family pressure to get married and have your own kids keeps getting higher which results to my running away more and more. To make it worse, i don't keep friends.
Who knows how to overcome this and how can it be ok?

how can u be well mannered but have anger n temper issue hahaha

You will never be truly happy without marriage. Argue with your keyboard

chocolateme:
I come from a very strict background.
I grew up in fear, submission and obedience to my parents, elders and relatives. I am well mannered. I have anger and temper issues but it never goes beyond sulking and crying silently to get it off my chest. I find it difficult to let go when aggravated but in trcent times, i have worked on myself so much that i channel my displeasure to free tears flowing down my cheeks after which i let go of everything.

I am always looking for excuses to run away from any form of marriage discussion whenever its comes to that, i don't give room to premarital sex. I don't know how to overcome this. When my potential suitor seems so nice and with good disposition and everything worth craving for , then i ask myself " who are these people that end up enemies suddenly and what on earth can cause someone to become so horrible that a once lovely marriage turns into chaos "

Honestly, i believe that with my tolerance level that i can manage a home and marriage but then,how can you tell that of your potential partner?

Sometimes, i just want to remain like this and grow old and still be very happy but then societal and family pressure to get married and have your own kids keeps getting higher which results to my running away more and more. To make it worse, i don't keep friends.
Who knows how to overcome this and how can it be ok?

You are Muslim. You will get married don't worry. Let me give you a tip look at how they treat others and that should help you. You can still go in with tension believe me you are smart you will find a way to enjoy it.

Sometimes, i just want to remain like this and grow old and still be very happy but then societal and family pressure to get married and have your own kids keeps getting higher which results to my running away more and more. To make it worse, i don't keep friends.
Who knows how to overcome this and how can it be ok?[/quote]na olosho dey your eye.

If your are scared just avoid marriage o! Just that were happy and eager to marry self dey sweat now.

The Lord will deliver you

If u are a Muslim, listen to all apostle Joshua Selman messages on YouTube everyday and obey the instructions. It will convert u to a Christian and infuse the Holy Spirit in you that helps to clear all fears, doubts and timidity

Just ask for the wisdom to God and let him direct you, and so also work on your state of mind, and have it at the back of your mind that marriage is coming together of two imperfect minds that intends to make everything perfect. God will see you through

chocolateme:
I come from a very strict background.
I grew up in fear, submission and obedience to my parents, elders and relatives. I am well mannered. I have anger and temper issues but it never goes beyond sulking and crying silently to get it off my chest. I find it difficult to let go when aggravated but in trcent times, i have worked on myself so much that i channel my displeasure to free tears flowing down my cheeks after which i let go of everything.

I am always looking for excuses to run away from any form of marriage discussion whenever its comes to that, i don't give room to premarital sex. I don't know how to overcome this. When my potential suitor seems so nice and with good disposition and everything worth craving for , then i ask myself " who are these people that end up enemies suddenly and what on earth can cause someone to become so horrible that a once lovely marriage turns into chaos "

Honestly, i believe that with my tolerance level that i can manage a home and marriage but then,how can you tell that of your potential partner?

Sometimes, i just want to remain like this and grow old and still be very happy but then societal and family pressure to get married and have your own kids keeps getting higher which results to my running away more and more. To make it worse, i don't keep friends.
Who knows how to overcome this and how can it be ok?

You don't have to scared about marriage. From your description of your person it shows you will be submissive to your husband, which is the key to successful marriage. A good woman builds her home. Just be submissive and by God's Grace you will definitely enjoy your marriage, as an enjoying mine.

Early signs of gay...

SpruceMediaNG:
The problem is your psyche,mental outlook on life, perceptions, perspectives and too much noise in your head.

To tackle this to it's root needs overhaul in your outlook,views,beliefs, perspectives,perceptions and assumptions


You're creating problems that don't exist in your mind. Declutter your soul and purge yourself of yourself.

finally l got answer and advise to a problem l am facing for long time, kudos sir

chocolateme:
I come from a very strict background.
I grew up in fear, submission and obedience to my parents, elders and relatives. I am well mannered. I have anger and temper issues but it never goes beyond sulking and crying silently to get it off my chest. I find it difficult to let go when aggravated but in trcent times, i have worked on myself so much that i channel my displeasure to free tears flowing down my cheeks after which i let go of everything.

I am always looking for excuses to run away from any form of marriage discussion whenever its comes to that, i don't give room to premarital sex. I don't know how to overcome this. When my potential suitor seems so nice and with good disposition and everything worth craving for , then i ask myself " who are these people that end up enemies suddenly and what on earth can cause someone to become so horrible that a once lovely marriage turns into chaos "

Honestly, i believe that with my tolerance level that i can manage a home and marriage but then,how can you tell that of your potential partner?

Sometimes, i just want to remain like this and grow old and still be very happy but then societal and family pressure to get married and have your own kids keeps getting higher which results to my running away more and more. To make it worse, i don't keep friends.
Who knows how to overcome this and how can it be ok?

First, work on your mindset. Ignore what you read on social media. Personally, I have Learnt this and stopped reading those sh** because it affects your views on marriage. This days, with all this social media theories and stories, most people go into marriage with the aim of fighting 3rd world war. There are lots of good beautiful marriages out there. Tell yourself that yours would be beautiful. Just be wise, pray to God for direction. If you want a good marriage, keep love aside first, watch out for the person's mindset and views on major aspects of life and marriage as a whole. This are the major red flags which people fail to realise until it gets too late. Look out for someone who shares your views. Look out for someone who is gonna be more than a bestfriend and partner.
With this, coupled with love, you're good to go.

That makes two of us.

You should be but with knowledge and prayer toy shall be alright

chocolateme:
I come from a very strict background.
I grew up in fear, submission and obedience to my parents, elders and relatives. I am well mannered. I have anger and temper issues but it never goes beyond sulking and crying silently to get it off my chest. I find it difficult to let go when aggravated but in trcent times, i have worked on myself so much that i channel my displeasure to free tears flowing down my cheeks after which i let go of everything.

I am always looking for excuses to run away from any form of marriage discussion whenever its comes to that, i don't give room to premarital sex. I don't know how to overcome this. When my potential suitor seems so nice and with good disposition and everything worth craving for , then i ask myself " who are these people that end up enemies suddenly and what on earth can cause someone to become so horrible that a once lovely marriage turns into chaos "

Honestly, i believe that with my tolerance level that i can manage a home and marriage but then,how can you tell that of your potential partner?

Sometimes, i just want to remain like this and grow old and still be very happy but then societal and family pressure to get married and have your own kids keeps getting higher which results to my running away more and more. To make it worse, i don't keep friends.
Who knows how to overcome this and how can it be ok?

You must have it at back of ur mind that, you are not perfect neither will u meet a perfect man, but you need two Ingridients mostly.

The 2 most ingridents that make marriage workable are .


1.Money to pay bills
2.compromise from both sides

Before I comment where is Phoebe ?

chocolateme:
I come from a very strict background.
I grew up in fear, submission and obedience to my parents, elders and relatives. I am well mannered. I have anger and temper issues but it never goes beyond sulking and crying silently to get it off my chest. I find it difficult to let go when aggravated but in trcent times, i have worked on myself so much that i channel my displeasure to free tears flowing down my cheeks after which i let go of everything.

I am always looking for excuses to run away from any form of marriage discussion whenever its comes to that, i don't give room to premarital sex. I don't know how to overcome this. When my potential suitor seems so nice and with good disposition and everything worth craving for , then i ask myself " who are these people that end up enemies suddenly and what on earth can cause someone to become so horrible that a once lovely marriage turns into chaos "

Honestly, i believe that with my tolerance level that i can manage a home and marriage but then,how can you tell that of your potential partner?

Sometimes, i just want to remain like this and grow old and still be very happy but then societal and family pressure to get married and have your own kids keeps getting higher which results to my running away more and more. To make it worse, i don't keep friends.
Who knows how to overcome this and how can it be ok?

the only way is to yield yourself to holy spirit if you are a christian ,allow him to help you and teach you all things.i was once like you.He will fix you and you will be happy.you see that your anger na satan borrowed you that,give it to him back and collect this fruits of the spirit "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.but you cant have them unless you yeild to the spirit

Marriage is really worth all the fear. Oja okunkun ni igbeyawo. You can never be sure until you begin to live & spend time together under the same roof.

May God help us ni ooo

I wanted to advise you until I saw the "f" in your moniker. I don't do favors for daughters of Jezebel.

chocolateme:
I come from a very strict background.
I grew up in fear, submission and obedience to my parents, elders and relatives. I am well mannered. I have anger and temper issues but it never goes beyond sulking and crying silently to get it off my chest. I find it difficult to let go when aggravated but in trcent times, i have worked on myself so much that i channel my displeasure to free tears flowing down my cheeks after which i let go of everything.

I am always looking for excuses to run away from any form of marriage discussion whenever its comes to that, i don't give room to premarital sex. I don't know how to overcome this. When my potential suitor seems so nice and with good disposition and everything worth craving for , then i ask myself " who are these people that end up enemies suddenly and what on earth can cause someone to become so horrible that a once lovely marriage turns into chaos "

Honestly, i believe that with my tolerance level that i can manage a home and marriage but then,how can you tell that of your potential partner?

Sometimes, i just want to remain like this and grow old and still be very happy but then societal and family pressure to get married and have your own kids keeps getting higher which results to my running away more and more. To make it worse, i don't keep friends.
Who knows how to overcome this and how can it be ok?

Can we talk?

Be careful of what you expose your mind to. I know how difficult this can be when in our society, bad news trends more than good news.

I know people enjoying over 26 years of blissful marriage; I also know a woman who literally breaks her husband's head whenever they are quarrelling.

You will be fine when you see the good in having a partner

The solutions to your problems are in your hands. You have to grow up and start reasoning like a rational adult to be able to make fundamental decisions that work for you
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You have lived all your life up till this moment like a child. Taking orders and being coercively told what to do. Now is the time to free yourself and start thinking for yourself.

Marriage is not a criterion for an ideal for, but if you must do it, do it because you want to and you love it.

We are all scared but wetin man go do? It's a circle of life.

specialmati:
the only way is to yield yourself to holy spirit if you are a christian ,allow him to help you and teach you all things.i was once like you.He will fix you and you will be happy

Now that she is a Muslim nko?


What will happen ?

Na men fear marriage pass... Even me fear am.

chocolateme:
I come from a very strict background.
I grew up in fear, submission and obedience to my parents, elders and relatives. I am well mannered. I have anger and temper issues but it never goes beyond sulking and crying silently to get it off my chest. I find it difficult to let go when aggravated but in trcent times, i have worked on myself so much that i channel my displeasure to free tears flowing down my cheeks after which i let go of everything.

I am always looking for excuses to run away from any form of marriage discussion whenever its comes to that, i don't give room to premarital sex. I don't know how to overcome this. When my potential suitor seems so nice and with good disposition and everything worth craving for , then i ask myself " who are these people that end up enemies suddenly and what on earth can cause someone to become so horrible that a once lovely marriage turns into chaos "

Honestly, i believe that with my tolerance level that i can manage a home and marriage but then,how can you tell that of your potential partner?

Sometimes, i just want to remain like this and grow old and still be very happy but then societal and family pressure to get married and have your own kids keeps getting higher which results to my running away more and more. To make it worse, i don't keep friends.
Who knows how to overcome this and how can it be ok?

Exactly the state I'm at now...fully aware of myself, what I can accommodate, etc. Then the concern of what the potential spouse would be, if they possess the kinda energy or if they will be willing to learn.

But in all, even as we patiently work to get to that point or end up with the kinda partners we need, we also need to consciously tell ourselves that we would one day have that peaceful loving home we so much desire, we need to be positive.

Every marriage passed through some degrees of fire to get to where it is today...it depends mainly on the two people involved. So praying for & working towards finding the right spouse made for you to build together to achieve the kind of marriage you both desire for me, should be the major concern.

Fix your fears
Reset your mindset
Look for the positives in every situation
Learn from your past, from other people
Try as much as possible not to hold on to negative energy
Speak life into what you desire and into the kind of spouse you pray for
Then watch how it starts manifesting in your life

chocolateme:
I come from a very strict background.
I grew up in fear, submission and obedience to my parents, elders and relatives. I am well mannered. I have anger and temper issues but it never goes beyond sulking and crying silently to get it off my chest. I find it difficult to let go when aggravated but in trcent times, i have worked on myself so much that i channel my displeasure to free tears flowing down my cheeks after which i let go of everything.

I am always looking for excuses to run away from any form of marriage discussion whenever its comes to that, i don't give room to premarital sex. I don't know how to overcome this. When my potential suitor seems so nice and with good disposition and everything worth craving for , then i ask myself " who are these people that end up enemies suddenly and what on earth can cause someone to become so horrible that a once lovely marriage turns into chaos "

Honestly, i believe that with my tolerance level that i can manage a home and marriage but then,how can you tell that of your potential partner?

Sometimes, i just want to remain like this and grow old and still be very happy but then societal and family pressure to get married and have your own kids keeps getting higher which results to my running away more and more. To make it worse, i don't keep friends.
Who knows how to overcome this and how can it be ok?

You'll never know how sweet it would be,if you don't give it a try. Everyone and everything must not come with negative impression. Don't be scared, making friends is not a must, the importance of making friends is having the ones who tells you the exact words and true look of things when it gets on nerve. If you don't mind, I love to know more about you.