Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by TiglathPILESER: 1:17pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
FreeSpirited: Guys, When you want to date married women, women who are like 5 to10yrs above in marriage are the most vulnerable to fall into your trap. Many times they crave attention..or are just bored of their husband. . It's not gainsay when they say the first 5 to 7 years is the most turbulent in marriage that can break or make a marriage. . The story this young woman detailed above is a typical cycle of almost all marriages. The point our OP finds herself, for an average lady, after trying to endure or make things work will just succumb to the pressure of guys out there...and before u say jack..smart bold guys are already pounding her pvssy with all alacrity.. It's natural these days.. especially if you are in the business of chyking/chopping married women. You will know this. . It's only a matter of time if nothing is done before this woman starts riding the BBC of a guy who gives her attention and tickle her fancy...Naso e dey start...Nothing new. . That's why to me, fidelity in marriage is overrated..cos most times couples have broken their vow long before their significant other realises. But in her situation, some women will deliberately go out and give in to the advances of their admirer just to kill boredom, depression and feel happy. To hell with marital vows..women do this most times to be Happy. However, the smart ones still find a way to balance home demand by not making it affect the integrity of the marriage...what they do is just flow with the marriage and not stress too much for the attention of their busy husband since he's not ready to be disturbed. . In thesame vein, the busy husband most times is also somewhere cheating with a university or polytechnic slayqueen cos he's also bored of her wife....That's the paradox of marriage. . You see... cheating on both sides maintains the marriage and happiness of both party codedly. Argue with me all you care...that's the reality.. Meanwhile, the stupid couples when they start the cheating game, they transfer the bottled anger and aggression on their partner which usually cause breakup......While the coded smart ones maintain their and we keep praising and complimenting their marriage as the best thing that ever happened since Adam and Eve. May God give us wisdom in all we do. You are simple a fool for typing this... 1 Like |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Nobody: 1:28pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
CsRockefeller:
Okay o. Just curious as a young man, what exactly do they find repulsive in the man? Is it the body? (Out of shape, overweight) the habits (smoking, drinking, womanising) or his total disdain for affection?
I will really like to know. Repulsion between couples may come from many sources (bad habits and repulsive personalities like you've mentioned) but on this particular occasion, I was referring to wives finding their husbands sexually repulsive. Unfortunately, sometimes, it could be as a result of something beyond the husband's control. The husband may be what she never imagined she would end up with and she finds herself struggling to adjust to that reality. Her mind just can't come to bring her body to respond to him. Forget all that overweight, out of shape stuff. He's just not what she wanted (no fault of his). Some husbands experience this too, but on this particular occasion, I addressed wives because the OP came from a wife. |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by weedfada(m): 1:49pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
generationz: This thing about gisting all the gist really baffles me?
Do you people really marry your intellectual equal or someone you flow with on the same level or do you marry people cause of looks and shared external values (like being a Christian) cause gist no dey ever finish o.
That one shock me o... Gist finish ke?! In this life wey we dey so. Hell no! Of course the success of a union ain't solely based on gisting... but just to buttress that part. 2 Likes |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Carbonated: 2:26pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
drmikeadams: ..my manci My man Mike, do you still reside In Lagos??....... |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by CsRockefeller(m): 2:32pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
Cakhama:
Repulsion between couples may come from many sources (bad habits and repulsive personalities like you've mentioned) but on this particular occasion, I was referring to wives finding their husbands sexually repulsive. Unfortunately, sometimes, it could be as a result of something beyond the husband's control. The husband may be what she never imagined she would end up with and she finds herself struggling to adjust to that reality. Her mind just can't come to bring her body to respond to him. Forget all that overweight, out of shape stuff. He's just not what she wanted (no fault of his).
Some husbands experience this too, but on this particular occasion, I addressed wives because the OP came from a wife. Oh! I see. Thanks for the explanation. |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by sylve11: 2:42pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
justosee:
or you don't understand the nonsense you wrote there. |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by sylve11: 2:44pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
wealthyhenry:
Your marriage is 5years and you have a son that's 17years old according to one other thread you created.
Is God not wonderful? 1 Like |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by sylve11: 2:45pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
RealGboy:
she can lie for africa . just to get likes |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Eastcaostboy: 2:58pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
justosee: sick comment. cheating is the only thing I can never think of forgiving in a relationship. then you need to forgive yourself first |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by sylve11: 2:59pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
thebosstrevor1:
Couples that usually travel because of work hardly have this problem of boredom because when they see each other the spark and the drive comes back People won't see this, but i can assure you that there's a lot of sense there. |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by sylve11: 3:00pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
CalmElder:
Plenty of the "smart bold guys" who made a career out of sleeping with married women in festac town, are now being replaced by another set of unfortunate fellows. They wasted their most valuable time for laying a strong foundation for the future, and placed it in married women's hands. You look into their eyes, what you see is hopelessness. After all the fantasy about sex, when you finally have it, it's not worth it. Be careful..... Me love this.... 1 Like |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by sylve11: 3:04pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
Uyi168: .. And from her other thread about her dirty counsin, she claimed the counsin who is 28 was way other than her.. Meaning she should be around 24/25..and her son that was caught with hardcore porn in his phone is 17...
In all, is like she gave her at a very tender age of 7 or 8.
Nawa. Lol You go fear fabu 1 Like |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by FreeSpirited: 3:24pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
TiglathPILESER: You are simple a fool for typing this... The thought of your wife being fvvcked by a random deek is actually making you go crazy...Then be a good husband otherwise, better deek will fvvck her and nothing, I say nothing will happen...Ozuor Even when u are the best husband... sometimes it doesn't matter for a woman who is bored of ur single preeq..Ode |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by FreeSpirited: 3:25pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
professore: not always true, we praise some who we think have integrity and are in the best marriage, and yeah, we are right. Do you know live or go around with them? Do you know their secret...such ideal marriage are rare..very rare.. |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by drmikeadams(m): 3:27pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
Carbonated:
My man Mike, do you still reside In Lagos??....... Yes bro |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Carbonated: 3:39pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
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Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Benzemma(m): 3:59pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
OnlyDeCapPlease:
That is why I say marriage is a scam. Everything about marriage is rigged towards failure.
You share the same room with someone day in day out
You see them shltting
You hear them farting
You hear them burping
You see them sick
You see all their nasty personal habbits
You see them when they are weak
You see them crying
You see the 'other side' of them
You see them naked, and as they relax in the marriage and add some weight, You see the hanging belly, boobs/man boobs, stretch marks etc
You see their early morning face, early morning toh toh or preeq, that no one else sees.
You see all their vulnerabilities
As our people say "you don see them finish" aka "familiarity breeds contempt"
On top of all that, you will have quarreled severally and said very hurtful things that nobody else (including your mama or papa) had ever said to you.
Na so so curse you go dey curse am for you mind "Hello darling" but your mind will say "useless man" or "lazy woman".
One day you go just look the man/woman and ask yourself "how did I end up here with this thing?"
Meanwhile one guy outside, who only sees the finished product (make up on point, waist trainer activated and wig in place) will be eying your wife. Or one babe outside who only sees oga with power dressing activated inside nice car will be eying your husband.
Marriage na scam. But you could still get lucky though infact, you just summarized the whole problem in marriage when it comes to admiration. This is exactly the problem the lady and the husband is having in their marriage. |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by naijaempiregist: 4:17pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
I can give you an idea in this post if you will allow me to tell you a secret when God was creating the world the first thing he created was light that tells you a very deep secret about life there is nothing in this life that is sweet every thing is ugly except a light shine upon it that is why everybody who got into marriage with their common sense made a mistake because this world is deeper than what we see on a surface level if God has not told you any thing about marriage and you have not gotten a good book on marriage wait for inspiration before you fall into a deep shit 2 Likes |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by kceeblaze(m): 5:25pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
debbydams: V bn reading alot about marriage nd I'm totally confused � I'm totally in the same boat with you |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by TiglathPILESER: 5:52pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
FreeSpirited:
The thought of your wife being fvvcked by a random deek is actually making you go crazy...Then be a good husband otherwise, better deek will fvvck her and nothing, I say nothing will happen...Ozuor Even when u are the best husband... sometimes it doesn't matter for a woman who is bored of ur single preeq..Ode Another fool...what a world... 1 Like |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by debbydams(f): 6:03pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
kceeblaze: I'm totally in the same boat with you seriously |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Nobody: 7:03pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
CsRockefeller:
Oh! I see. Thanks for the explanation. You're welcome. |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by generationz(f): 7:51pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
weedfada:
That one shock me o... Gist finish ke?! In this life wey we dey so. Hell no! Of course the success of a union ain't solely based on gisting... but just to buttress that part. Yeah, you are right. |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by EvangelistChuks(m): 8:16pm On Mar 02, 2021 |
Solution:Give your heart to Jesus to manage by His Spirit.He will regulate your excesses.He will weed it from unwanted intruders. Remain Blessed. Amen |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by yemre: 10:21pm On Mar 03, 2021 |
�✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️ FreeSpirited: Guys, When you want to date married women, women who are like 5 to10yrs above in marriage are the most vulnerable to fall into your trap. Many times they crave attention..or are just bored of their husband. . It's not gainsay when they say the first 5 to 7 years is the most turbulent in marriage that can break or make a marriage. . The story this young woman detailed above is a typical cycle of almost all marriages. The point our OP finds herself, for an average lady, after trying to endure or make things work will just succumb to the pressure of guys out there...and before u say jack..smart bold guys are already pounding her pvssy with all alacrity.. It's natural these days.. especially if you are in the business of chyking/chopping married women. You will know this. . It's only a matter of time if nothing is done before this woman starts riding the BBC of a guy who gives her attention and tickle her fancy...Naso e dey start...Nothing new. . That's why to me, fidelity in marriage is overrated..cos most times couples have broken their vow long before their significant other realises. But in her situation, some women will deliberately go out and give in to the advances of their admirer just to kill boredom, depression and feel happy. To hell with marital vows..women do this most times to be Happy. However, the smart ones still find a way to balance home demand by not making it affect the integrity of the marriage...what they do is just flow with the marriage and not stress too much for the attention of their busy husband since he's not ready to be disturbed. . In thesame vein, the busy husband most times is also somewhere cheating with a university or polytechnic slayqueen cos he's also bored of her wife....That's the paradox of marriage. . You see... cheating on both sides maintains the marriage and happiness of both party codedly. Argue with me all you care...that's the reality.. Meanwhile, the stupid couples when they start the cheating game, they transfer the bottled anger and aggression on their partner which usually cause breakup......While the coded smart ones maintain their marriage and we keep praising and complimenting their marriage as the best thing that ever happened since Adam and Eve. May God give us wisdom in all we do. |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Hathor5(f): 4:54am On Mar 04, 2021 |
It sounds like you are waiting on your husband to make your life interesting. Are you an interesting person yourself? What do you contribute to make your lives exciting?
The thing with the sex, I don't get it. How can it be boring? Do you get bored with food too? Or do you get hungry on a regular basis? |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by SirMichael1: 8:40pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
Bookmarked!! Danhoys: I could totally relate to you dear op, but I'm sure we're the lucky ones.
First of all, you married someone you love, someone you find both romantically and sexually attractive.
That's a plus.
When I and my hubby were passing through this turbulent phase, what helped was having similar interest.
I'm hugely into politics, and so is my husband. Trust me, there is always something to gist on when he's back from work.
Aside from politics, we're both hardcore gamers too, and we're already saving to get PS4, and it doesn't stop us from giving our young kids the attention they deserve.
Aside that, we both have huge interest in other areas too, like science. There is always something to talk about.
I've always love men who are built, and my husband knows this.
Every weekend, we go running, and we help each stay fit. Sometimes I teases him that he should be a model, and I do take alluring pictures of him too.
I'm a super intelligent lady, (not bragging), so I ensured that my husband's intellect matched with mine before saying 'I do!'
We've been married for 5 years now, and the love and fun is still there. During leave, we always make it a duty to travel to another state, and see an interesting place.
A week vacation doesn't hurt, and it has a way to rekindle the love we have for each other.
When you marry your friend, you discover that your love is new every morning lol.
Work and children can't steal love away, that's an excuse people give to avoid talking about how they no longer find their partner attractive or interesting.
I don't want to talk about sex, cause ours is on a whole new level. Sex shouldn't be the traditional offing of light and missionary thrusting.
That's boring!!! It needs spicing every time or it becomes boring and a chore.
I wouldn't like to go into details, before some religious folks label us sinners.
You have work to do, and I'm sure you've gotten a cue from my write up. Wishing you more bliss in marriage. |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Olawalelead(m): 10:04am On May 22, 2021 |
It is well... |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by goodheart02(m): 7:24pm On Jul 13, 2021 |
Juliearth: Rhoda dear, have you tried matching up to your husband's interest? Marriage is all about compromise and if you want this to work, you should find out what interests him (thank God it is not another woman) and then work your interest up on that.
The sex life is boring because (I think) you don't try to spice it up. On a very good day, deport the kids to their parents', prepare his best meal. Send him a nerve wrecking erotic message while he is at work, make him come running to you, let the first thing he would see to be you, stark naked and ravish the heck out of his body. Be spontaneous.
Cc goodheart02 Hmmmmmmm... Counselling counsellor |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by bukatyne(f): 9:32pm On Jul 13, 2021 |
@Rhodaogunpeju:
What does he say when you suggest spicing things up?
What do you mean by spicing things up?
From the OP, you are not interested in politics which he has picked up; what are you interested in?
Can you both meet at a point? Develop interest in politics/ just listen to him and also discuss your interests with him.
@sex appeal, what turns you on in a man? What appeals to you sexually? Can you implement it in him? Is there something turning you off unconsciously in him? Perhaps his weight? Lack of similar interests? Lack of romance?
Do you guys still date? Go out together? Romance yourselves? Talk about your sex life? 1 Like |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Idaytesj29(m): 10:33pm On Jul 13, 2021 |
Danhoys: I could totally relate to you dear op, but I'm sure we're the lucky ones.
First of all, you married someone you love, someone you find both romantically and sexually attractive.
That's a plus.
When I and my hubby were passing through this turbulent phase, what helped was having similar interest.
I'm hugely into politics, and so is my husband. Trust me, there is always something to gist on when he's back from work.
Aside from politics, we're both hardcore gamers too, and we're already saving to get PS4, and it doesn't stop us from giving our young kids the attention they deserve.
Aside that, we both have huge interest in other areas too, like science. There is always something to talk about.
I've always love men who are built, and my husband knows this.
Every weekend, we go running, and we help each stay fit. Sometimes I teases him that he should be a model, and I do take alluring pictures of him too.
I'm a super intelligent lady, (not bragging), so I ensured that my husband's intellect matched with mine before saying 'I do!'
We've been married for 5 years now, and the love and fun is still there. During leave, we always make it a duty to travel to another state, and see an interesting place.
A week vacation doesn't hurt, and it has a way to rekindle the love we have for each other.
When you marry your friend, you discover that your love is new every morning lol.
Work and children can't steal love away, that's an excuse people give to avoid talking about how they no longer find their partner attractive or interesting.
I don't want to talk about sex, cause ours is on a whole new level. Sex shouldn't be the traditional offing of light and missionary thrusting.
That's boring!!! It needs spicing every time or it becomes boring and a chore.
I wouldn't like to go into details, before some religious folks label us sinners.
You have work to do, and I'm sure you've gotten a cue from my write up. Wishing you more bliss in marriage. Hmmmmm |
Re: Love Is not always sweet .. 7 years marriage experience by Juliearth(f): 2:39am On Jul 14, 2021 |
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