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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by largeman4u(m): 10:41am On Jul 17, 2021
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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by mygem: 10:41am On Jul 17, 2021
Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.
I will like to chat you privately am a victim of domestic violence and verbal abuse in my marriage .it’s not easy trying to cope with the stress of work and come home to a violent and nagging wife.
Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.
Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by ItachiGold(m): 10:41am On Jul 17, 2021
Nonexisting1:
Did he tell you he was a Christian? You said if she is not committed to the marriage, he should work things out. How? Does that statement make sense to you? You expect him to remain married to a vile woman and when he dies in it, you will turn around and call him a fool. You people should stop asslicking the women folks here, the highest thing they can give una is puna which one can easily order online nowadays.
Aswear the guy just dey talk rubbish
Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by nonhuman(m): 10:41am On Jul 17, 2021
SpruceMediaNG:

[/b]Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for there father sins.[b]
this is so true girls raised NY single mothers are the worst type of woman yiubcan ever come across

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Nobody: 10:41am On Jul 17, 2021
sisisioge:
Actually, people should avoid marrying people that are venous in their speech while angry. Dont even befriend them let alone marrying them. How can you be cursing your spouse? Whew! I honestly distance myself from people who talk evil when angry biko....not worth it.

As for your predicament, may God help you.
You wouldn't know for some of them.
Some activate such character in your home.
It's like installing a DSTV at home and activating it thereafter. It's not easy.

MEN may start marrying animals soonest.
MEN no longer wed in the United States like b4.
Most men are into BABY FATHER now.
No strings attached and that's what suits them.
The LADIES started it, now the men have come to appreciate it. Everyone to his or her tent
Every Aboki with him kettle.

The Last CHILD DEDICATION I attended in my county in the US, the Lady has no man. She was artificially inseminated.
She waited & waited. No marriage.
She submitted to it.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by ItachiGold(m): 10:42am On Jul 17, 2021
Stupidquestions:

Very idiotic comment
Walahi
Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Krismas(m): 10:42am On Jul 17, 2021
Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.
cool

Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by UDUJ(m): 10:42am On Jul 17, 2021
chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attack and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?

You must be a Catholic or Jehovah's witness. Forget this talk bro. Once a woman constantly insults, disrespects and belittles you then that's cause for separation.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by ItachiGold(m): 10:42am On Jul 17, 2021
MJBOLT:
Marriage was/is designed to favour women no matter what,I'm glad you are learning grin
Bro you sef dey here
Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by solonubinho(m): 10:42am On Jul 17, 2021
chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attack and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?

It's like there's bed bug in this one's head.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by diplomat058(m): 10:43am On Jul 17, 2021
dacblogger:

What makes you think that the next person he will marry will give him peace of mind?
Whenever she starts abusing him,he should just leave the house for her or completely ignore her.she will do it n get tired
You have to apply psychology in marriage,when you notice that the person you're abusing is less concerned,it's not somebody that will tell you to close your mouth.i am a psychologist n a counselor so I should know better.
Divorce is not always the solution please
It is always easy to advise people when you are not in their shoes. Believe me, my parents separated when my siblings and I were very young. Before then, we were just the regular average family. The divorce plunged us into great poverty cos my Mum refused to give us up, but she wasn't financially capacitated to sponsor our livelihoods. Our education, growth, social status, orientation, and other aspects of human life suffered. I initially blamed the two of them for the divorce, but now that I am grown and I can see domestic violence leading to deaths on an every day basis, I don't blame anyone of them for choosing sanity over toxic tolerance. My Dad is late now. I stayed with him for a while, but I saw hell via his wife, and my Dad and I were almost like strangers to each other until he died.

Divorce isn't bad. A messy divorce is. If adequate preparations are put in place by the divorcing adults to make sure that the children aren't seriously impacted by the negative consequences of their separation, things could still be under control for all the parties involved.

Wish you a good marriage.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by jamace(m): 10:44am On Jul 17, 2021
And today is Saturday, Undeclared OFFICIAL WEDDING DAY.....Music of new marriage ceremonies booming everywhere in town...I can see ABOUT TO WED well decorated Lexus jeep just zoomed past me..Hmmm. lipsrsealed

It is well.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by UDUJ(m): 10:45am On Jul 17, 2021
sisisioge:
Actually, people should avoid marrying people that are venous in their speech while angry. Dont even befriend them let alone marrying them. How can you be cursing your spouse? Whew! I honestly distance myself from people who talk evil when angry biko....not worth it.

As for your predicament, may God help you.

From your username I believe you are a woman.

I have so much respect for women that are open minded and not gender biased. Respect sis. cool

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Edusouls(m): 10:45am On Jul 17, 2021
Brother this man ain’t happy again, he is dying in agony and distress which kind of advice is this? So he should stay and die in torment in the hands of a Jezebel? These sisi men I tire for una..
chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attack and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Tajbol4splend(m): 10:46am On Jul 17, 2021
Obakashdee:
Anyone who sees women abusing and Cursing as normal is not normal


Most primitive and crude people who lack exposure will tell you you are not man enough if you can't absorb the excesses of your wife, that every woman is like that

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by lordally(m): 10:46am On Jul 17, 2021
dacblogger:

What makes you think that the next person he will marry will give him peace of mind?
Whenever she starts abusing him,he should just leave the house for her or completely ignore her.she will do it n get tired
You have to apply psychology in marriage,when you notice that the person you're abusing is less concerned,it's not somebody that will tell you to close your mouth.i am a psychologist n a counselor so I should know better.
Divorce is not always the solution please

For 3yrs he has been leaving the house! Maybe you didn't read that part! So for how long will a man continue to leave the house he's been paying rent for? Yeah Divorce isn't always the solution that I agree but for him to always leave the house is what I don't agree with! I feel a temporary separation might help

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by BigBashiru: 10:47am On Jul 17, 2021
MJBOLT:
Marriage was/is designed to favour women no matter what,I'm glad you are learning grin

then they should get married young.
Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by lordally(m): 10:48am On Jul 17, 2021
dacblogger:

Are you beating her
If that's the case,I will have to advise the both of you ,not just you alone.

Please read what he wrote? He didn't say he was beating her , he asked a question

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Nobody: 10:48am On Jul 17, 2021
Don't divorce her yet please. Have you considered talking to her about it? I bet you, she might be ignorant of how bad her attitude is, that's why you need call her when she's calm and talk to her. Let her know exactly how you feel about her attitudes. If she persists afterwards, you can then do what you consider to be in your best interest.
Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Temmylee01(m): 10:48am On Jul 17, 2021
Werey sighted
chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attack and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by dragnet001: 10:49am On Jul 17, 2021
Nonexisting1:
So you just woke up to the reality. You are lucky not to have opened this thread from your grave. She was giving you hell and you were there deceiving yourself thinking you could cope with her. I am not shocked to hear that she was raised by a single mother. Daughters of Jezebel will always be daughters of Jezebel but you see the brand that are raised by single mothers, they are usually psychologically damaged beyond repair.
Do dead nairalanders open thread from graves? cheesy cheesy

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Asiseeit: 10:49am On Jul 17, 2021
Susily:



Well he can't take her abusive ways anymore and have decided to divorce for his Sanity

He should always put his Sanity and peace of mind first, and if divorce will lead to it then he should go ahead with the divorce

Perhaps he should try separation first.
The best bet to all these issues is to shine eyes well before marriage

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by lordally(m): 10:51am On Jul 17, 2021
dacblogger:

You're quite rude,I only asked a simple question which you might have lied about in your post.
No wonder your wife is always abusing you.learn how to talk to people,I was only trying to help out

Madam go and read the whole post again!! It seems you were distracted while reading it. And looking at the way you responded bringing his situation into play using it as a tool shows that even if you happen to be a psychologist as you claim then you might likely not be a professional at it or you either allowed your emotion get the better part of you.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Temmylee01(m): 10:52am On Jul 17, 2021
Romanoff:
as long as there is no physical abuse.

I know verbal and emotional abuse is as bad as physical abuse but once you take divorce out of the table, you'd be able to find other ways to resolve you're conflicts. You both need counselling and you need to express how you both feel in your counselling sessions.

All the best.
just imagine the kind of advice someone is dishing out.
Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by murphyibiam15(m): 10:53am On Jul 17, 2021
batstan:

True!
I can truly relate.

Very sad.

Mine slept with her boss. They even had the audacity to throw me a surprise birthday wish with his son blowing the saxophone. They left my friends and I, went to do the do and brought home grilled fish.
I no see my wife kpekus that night. angry
You're a weak man then

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by 2special(m): 10:54am On Jul 17, 2021
dacblogger:

Are you beating her
If that's the case,I will have to advise the both of you ,not just you alone.
did you read and comprehend his write-up before asking this question

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by MummyD2020(f): 10:54am On Jul 17, 2021
Xxx123xxx:
Seconded bro..Many of us lack introspection thus we are solely responsible for our plight .
This women who is sniper tongued bitch now was once your girlfriend whom YOU made your wife.

Now lie to yourself that she hasn't been inflicting injuries on your ego with her tongue before marriage.

Or that you didn't know she was raised by a single mom.

You and only you are culpable for the fix you are in.

Your poor choice in women brought you thus far I would advice you seek counsel from people who have a pedigree in this matters moving forward before you make a bigger mess of things.

Firstly i get your points.
It might not even be a poor choice to start with. There is no perfect marriage. There could be an underlying problem. Theres need for communication becos you dont know what is waiting for you in the next marriage. Also we don't to rule out new marriages with their unavoidable problems. I had one o. So im talking from experience. But theres much understanding now between us. Honestly u might think u made a perfect choice but give it time, kasala go burst. But even after three years, Its still a learning process. Remember he said they did not court. Its not a lost course yet. Third parties can even intervene. We dont know the womans reasons as well. So we all need to factor that.

BIA OP, THE PEOPLE YOU SEEK ADVICE FROM HERE ARE NOT EVEN IN RELATIONSHIPS. SO JUST CALMDOWN. I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST. OGA

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Wealthy15(f): 10:55am On Jul 17, 2021
My dear,she needs deliverance from the spirit of anger and nagging, tell her to go to a good man of God,even you too needs deliverance too from whatever bad or negative attitude you possess, but if she refused then let her go, because I know the evil women can cause with their mouths especially if backup by an evil spirit.
Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Nobody: 10:55am On Jul 17, 2021
The problem is not that she was raised by a single mother, it is when a woman doesn’t have a father figure in her life. If she does not have a father figure that she respects, she will never respect you. A father figure could be her natural father, or uncle, or a pastor, or even her elder brother. Jezebels do not change, they become more of what they are. There are some jezebels out there that were raised by both parents, only that their Jezebel mothers dominated their fathers with constant abusive words and curses which eventually killed their spirits and made them weak. That is what she will do to you. Meanwhile as a man, be sure you are right with God because it is no coincidence you ended up with a Jezebel. Do some spiritual check up. Examine yourself.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Adlac(m): 10:55am On Jul 17, 2021
Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

Your Last Line Says it All.
Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by alizma: 10:56am On Jul 17, 2021
Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.
Well the world is gradually turning upside down, what was know to be right is now consider wrong. It's still baffles me how a grown up woman that is being feed 3times a day, clothes will turn around to insult the man who is doing all these yet the society will tell you that is how women behave, they have even extend it to the idea of telling the man to try not to get her angry. Well if you still love her, I will advise you to try some tricks on her and see if she will change. Try to provide her needs as at when due but start skipping some of her meal, also keep late once a while and if you don't see any sign of fear of losing the marriage and move for reconciliation not reconsideration from her, bro know it that you need to take the necessary steps while you can still get someone to grow with.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by lordally(m): 10:56am On Jul 17, 2021
dacblogger:

You're not paying me to do jack,so you DNT have the right to order me about.
I was only trying to help but I can see you have serious mental health issues.i will leave you your problems,adios.

Habah! When I was expecting to see a response liken to those I watch in psychology Documentaries this is what I'm seeing. It seems you just studied psychology in school and I'm 100% sure it's definitely not what you're practicing as a Career... No offence intended please

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