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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Virus99: 10:04am On Jul 24, 2021
Amanee:
Never seen someone use 'did' like you 'did' throughout the write-up

So out of the whole thing na weyting you see be that ?
Ode undecided
You are not "A babe and a half" you're just "a half" of whatever you are undecided

And POC, he's right in his use of did

For example where he said "I did play with..." It's his tone and mood. And it shows, admittance, confession and remorsfulness for what he has done.

Find your English teachers and get refund for your school fee. They did a terrible job.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Clicked: 10:05am On Jul 24, 2021
Amanee:


There's such a thing called redundancy, when you repeat a word or phrase a lot of times, it becomes redundant. There are lots of ways to show past tense in a write-up without slamming 'did' in every sentence

By the third "did", I was already pissed off.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Romanoff(f): 10:05am On Jul 24, 2021
DonroxyII:
I ThanGod for you ... Some of you failed to realise when God is helping you .... You need to pay attention to your brain because that's the only way God speaks to Human and other animate objects!

Abuja spirit has entered into her and Abuja spirit is all about "spend and finish" ....

Majorly, Average Abuja people are Lavish and Mouthish. Abuja People spends beyond their pockets and being a resident of Abuja , Her Family, Friends and neighbours would have subjected her to Higher Standards beyond your means and of course, Her Means.

It's not just the wedding but also your marriage would also be toxicised from one extravagance to another. Na frustration go later wound you and you will bow out crying!

Go and do Offering as you have been delivered from evil spirit, Extravagance and ultimately depressing frustrations !!!

Let her go and date Senator Pickin and all these Monies Missed Road Alhajis & Sons dem ......

She is possessed now and her eyes may never be cleared or she might come begging !!

This is not completely true. I grew up in Abuja and right from when I was really young, I told my mum I wanted a small wedding, she thought it was a joke, till covid came and it was the best opportunity.

Guests where barely up to 80, I ensured strict compliance by using bouncers to threaten her to reduce her guests. Cause na her guests plenty pass.

My dad was always a modest person so I didn't have issues from his side of the family.

Most people saw my wedding pictures on social media. Na sorry I take end am when they were like "na wa o, you didn't even invite us".

It's not because we were broke, we planned our finances and channeled it to better things.

You never get land for Abuja, you dey throw lavish wedding. Some don't even have a car, yet they will do 3m wedding and be jumping Uber or along.

Wisdom is highly profitable.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by MONSTERBBQGRILLZ(m): 10:05am On Jul 24, 2021
Congratulation bro..u just dodged a hollow tip bullet
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Judolisco(m): 10:06am On Jul 24, 2021
No be your wife... Go church do thanksgiving
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Nonexisting1: 10:07am On Jul 24, 2021
You dodged a deadly bullet and should be thanking God not just sharing your story. She never wanted to marry you, you were the one forcing it but thank God for your brokeness which forced her to show her true color. You will bounce back and when you do, shine your eyes. Unconditional love only exist in the hearts of men. Woman love for a reason and when that reason is no longer there, the love dies.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Clicked: 10:07am On Jul 24, 2021
Romanoff:


This is not completely true. I grew up in Abuja and right from when I was really young, I told my mum I wanted a small wedding, she thought it was a joke, till covid came and it was the best opportunity.

Guests where barely up to 80, I ensured strict compliance by using bouncers to threaten her to reduce her guests. Cause na her guests plenty pass.

My dad was always a modest person so I didn't have issues from his side of the family.

Most people say my wedding pictures on social media. Na sorry I take end am when they were like "na wa o, you didn't even invite us".

You're just like me. I've been telling my mum the same thing since I was young, that I don't want more than 50 guests. I'm not yet married but she still thinks I will change my mind.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Yettyflower: 10:07am On Jul 24, 2021
don4real18:
Some months ago, I was supposed to get married to a lovely lady (Alias-Celia) whom I thought the universe made just for me. I find it unfortunate that this beautiful story was just never meant to be. This write-up is my story.
______________________________________________
Five years ago, while we both stared at the moon sitting in my compound and telling tales of our childhood, I studied her profile. She had a perfect-shaped jaw with rounded edges, full lips, and her ability to smile with so much ease. Her skin glowed against the moonlight, and her aura filled with so much innocence. It was no surprise when I finally popped the question asking her to be my girlfriend.

Four days later, I got a yes as her reply, and it became a beautiful relationship. Our companionship was a show of true love, or so I thought. She taught me to be a better kisser, and I made her be a better lover. We did almost everything together, and when challenges came, we solved them even though she was stubborn; A bit more than me.

Many moons down the line of love and sometimes distrust, she was to relocate to the FCT, the state where her family resides. I knew I was going to miss her, and it wasn't easy letting her go.

We did part ways at the airport, and ever since then, we were always on calls. I did notice later that I did most of the calling, and as time went on as it must, the regular calls became once in a while, and soon, it became longer.

I did play a little with other girls and tried getting into a relationship with others, but it just didn't work out. Perhaps, I wanted the kind of love that they could not give in return. It was no surprise when years later, my calls with Celia became regular and, I didn't mind doing most of the calling.

Soon, I traveled to Abuja, and she didn't seem enthusiastic about seeing me, even though my love clawed at my heart with a renewed burst of energy. This time, I decided that I wouldn't let go. I stayed in FCT for a while, I met her family, and I guess her feelings returned.

I returned to Lagos to continue working, and some months down the line, I was in Abuja again to see the one that I loved. We agreed that she would have to come to Lagos, and some months after I left Abuja, she arrived in the rowdy Lagos.

She met my family, and I popped the question, "will you marry me?" in a romantic atmosphere, and she was so happy that she was going to spend the rest of her life with me.

We made plans until the event of Corona took place, and it greatly affected my business. I became broke, but that didn't stop me from traveling to 3 different states to meet her family members and her pastor in FCT.

We did agree that we were going to have a small wedding, and the day of the introduction came, and I traveled with my family, spent a lot of money on hotel bills, etc. It did go well, and that was when it started.

She reneged on our agreement on the size of the wedding. She told me that she wanted to have her dream wedding although she had no money. I could not bring myself to spend so much on a wedding only to end up eating hand to mouth in my marriage. It became a back and forth argument. Her dad wanted it small, but her siblings wanted it big. My mum did try to advise her, but she felt my mum shouldn't have a say in her wedding being a supposed generation Z.

I did have to look for ways she would be happy without spending too much. Then the counseling issue came, and I was informed to come back to Abuja by her pastor. It was inconvenient, so I told her to recommend virtual counseling because I'm not ready to go and spend a lot staying there. She was mad at my response, saying that it was disrespectful, suggesting such to a supposed man of God, making it disrespectful to God.

I did try to let her know that we could use the money to do something else, but she was adamant. After some time, I did succumb to her demand, but she felt that it should not have led to an argument in the first place and decided to call the wedding off. I tried calming her down and even suggested that we postpone it, but she wouldn't budge with a reason so petty. It hurt at first. It made me lose focus for a while, but I guess I've pretty patched up now hence my decision to share with you all.

God bless us all.

Sorry. She didn't love you, you were more of a curiosity. She liked that you had potential but she isn't too sure you will make it since you want to settle small.
Just get money. She will come back. If you really want her back, do whatever it takes mad make money and you can marry her, or ditch her on the new wedding of which she will have Field all or most of the money for grin, or you can repair you relationship and become happily married.
Solution--get money.
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by valentineuwakwe(m): 10:08am On Jul 24, 2021
What kind of business do you do? That posture may have affected her actions since the covid 19 hit you hard and she never cared. ....she is just after financial security and I guess you have to let her go...

If her siblings wants a big wedding, why couldn't they assist too?

In a nutshell, she no want the marriage thing in the first place.she was just ok with relationship waiting n thinking any Abuja top shots will come for her as she is based in Abuja not knowing a Lagos bobo go still find am come there. ...lol

It's won't be easy but attimes a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, even yesterday Juliet ibrahim posted on her page; "if you don't like where you are, pls move. You are not a tree!"

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by DARLINGTON869(m): 10:09am On Jul 24, 2021
OP if I were in ur shoes, I would leave her and not look back. If you end up marrying her, be ready to live condone her disrespect and bullying for the next 55 years of your life undecided

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Vicas2000: 10:09am On Jul 24, 2021
don4real18:
Some months ago, I was supposed to get married to a lovely lady (Alias-Celia) whom I thought the universe made just for me. I find it unfortunate that this beautiful story was just never meant to be. This write-up is my story.
______________________________________________
Five years ago, while we both stared at the moon sitting in my compound and telling tales of our childhood, I studied her profile. She had a perfect-shaped jaw with rounded edges, full lips, and her ability to smile with so much ease. Her skin glowed against the moonlight, and her aura filled with so much innocence. It was no surprise when I finally popped the question asking her to be my girlfriend.

Four days later, I got a yes as her reply, and it became a beautiful relationship. Our companionship was a show of true love, or so I thought. She taught me to be a better kisser, and I made her be a better lover. We did almost everything together, and when challenges came, we solved them even though she was stubborn; A bit more than me.

Many moons down the line of love and sometimes distrust, she was to relocate to the FCT, the state where her family resides. I knew I was going to miss her, and it wasn't easy letting her go.

We did part ways at the airport, and ever since then, we were always on calls. I did notice later that I did most of the calling, and as time went on as it must, the regular calls became once in a while, and soon, it became longer.

I did play a little with other girls and tried getting into a relationship with others, but it just didn't work out. Perhaps, I wanted the kind of love that they could not give in return. It was no surprise when years later, my calls with Celia became regular and, I didn't mind doing most of the calling.

Soon, I traveled to Abuja, and she didn't seem enthusiastic about seeing me, even though my love clawed at my heart with a renewed burst of energy. This time, I decided that I wouldn't let go. I stayed in FCT for a while, I met her family, and I guess her feelings returned.

I returned to Lagos to continue working, and some months down the line, I was in Abuja again to see the one that I loved. We agreed that she would have to come to Lagos, and some months after I left Abuja, she arrived in the rowdy Lagos.

She met my family, and I popped the question, "will you marry me?" in a romantic atmosphere, and she was so happy that she was going to spend the rest of her life with me.

We made plans until the event of Corona took place, and it greatly affected my business. I became broke, but that didn't stop me from traveling to 3 different states to meet her family members and her pastor in FCT.

We did agree that we were going to have a small wedding, and the day of the introduction came, and I traveled with my family, spent a lot of money on hotel bills, etc. It did go well, and that was when it started.

She reneged on our agreement on the size of the wedding. She told me that she wanted to have her dream wedding although she had no money. I could not bring myself to spend so much on a wedding only to end up eating hand to mouth in my marriage. It became a back and forth argument. Her dad wanted it small, but her siblings wanted it big. My mum did try to advise her, but she felt my mum shouldn't have a say in her wedding being a supposed generation Z.

I did have to look for ways she would be happy without spending too much. Then the counseling issue came, and I was informed to come back to Abuja by her pastor. It was inconvenient, so I told her to recommend virtual counseling because I'm not ready to go and spend a lot staying there. She was mad at my response, saying that it was disrespectful, suggesting such to a supposed man of God, making it disrespectful to God.

I did try to let her know that we could use the money to do something else, but she was adamant. After some time, I did succumb to her demand, but she felt that it should not have led to an argument in the first place and decided to call the wedding off. I tried calming her down and even suggested that we postpone it, but she wouldn't budge with a reason so petty. It hurt at first. It made me lose focus for a while, but I guess I've pretty patched up now hence my decision to share with you all.

God bless us all.

Dude...you are yet to marry and this woman has your balls in her hand to squeeze as she likes.

When you get married Ehn...you will hear 'wen' in that marriage.

Someone is broke. Does not contribute anything to a wedding but yet want a big wedding...want to make most decision.

Biko lete ask you. As a man...what is this woman bringing into your life?

What value is she bringing on the table and into your union?

Is it sex? If it is...you can get this easily without marriage?

Is it kids? You can have a child without the stress of adding an entitled girl who cares only about herself and how the world perceives how she is seen.

Ṣeé Ehn....men do not gain anything in getting married. It is only women who has a lot more to gain.

So why should you give away your power to her? She is the one that's meant to be in your good books to be married to you! Not the other way round.

You are acting like you have more to lose if the marriage did not go ahead even though really you don't! You are just being influenced by the 'onetitis syndrom' (Google it)

That's why she is using you to catch cruise.


You have to change that game as soon as possible. You need to put your foot down as the person who pays the piper and dictate the tune.

Renegotiate the terms of your union now before you get married. Make it your own way now or the high way.

You are the one paying for the wedding. Yet you are letting her make all the decision.


Dont ever let her back in your life.no matter how much she beg.

Men need to start placing more value in themselves and seeing themselves as prices that should be wọn which in reality is the case.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by GeneralPula: 10:09am On Jul 24, 2021
Amanee:


There's such a thing called redundancy, when you repeat a word or phrase a lot of times, it becomes redundant. There are lots of ways to show past tense in a write-up without slamming 'did' in every sentence

But he used all the did correctly..

And redundant is when you kept on repeating words without making any meaning... Dude’s making sense in this case momma..

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by bravehost4u(m): 10:10am On Jul 24, 2021
don4real18:
Some months ago, I was supposed to get married to a lovely lady (Alias-Celia) whom I thought the universe made just for me. I find it unfortunate that this beautiful story was just never meant to be. This write-up is my story.
______________________________________________
Five years ago, while we both stared at the moon sitting in my compound and telling tales of our childhood, I studied her profile. She had a perfect-shaped jaw with rounded edges, full lips, and her ability to smile with so much ease. Her skin glowed against the moonlight, and her aura filled with so much innocence. It was no surprise when I finally popped the question asking her to be my girlfriend.

Four days later, I got a yes as her reply, and it became a beautiful relationship. Our companionship was a show of true love, or so I thought. She taught me to be a better kisser, and I made her be a better lover. We did almost everything together, and when challenges came, we solved them even though she was stubborn; A bit more than me.

Many moons down the line of love and sometimes distrust, she was to relocate to the FCT, the state where her family resides. I knew I was going to miss her, and it wasn't easy letting her go.

We did part ways at the airport, and ever since then, we were always on calls. I did notice later that I did most of the calling, and as time went on as it must, the regular calls became once in a while, and soon, it became longer.

I did play a little with other girls and tried getting into a relationship with others, but it just didn't work out. Perhaps, I wanted the kind of love that they could not give in return. It was no surprise when years later, my calls with Celia became regular and, I didn't mind doing most of the calling.

Soon, I traveled to Abuja, and she didn't seem enthusiastic about seeing me, even though my love clawed at my heart with a renewed burst of energy. This time, I decided that I wouldn't let go. I stayed in FCT for a while, I met her family, and I guess her feelings returned.

I returned to Lagos to continue working, and some months down the line, I was in Abuja again to see the one that I loved. We agreed that she would have to come to Lagos, and some months after I left Abuja, she arrived in the rowdy Lagos.

She met my family, and I popped the question, "will you marry me?" in a romantic atmosphere, and she was so happy that she was going to spend the rest of her life with me.

We made plans until the event of Corona took place, and it greatly affected my business. I became broke, but that didn't stop me from traveling to 3 different states to meet her family members and her pastor in FCT.

We did agree that we were going to have a small wedding, and the day of the introduction came, and I traveled with my family, spent a lot of money on hotel bills, etc. It did go well, and that was when it started.

She reneged on our agreement on the size of the wedding. She told me that she wanted to have her dream wedding although she had no money. I could not bring myself to spend so much on a wedding only to end up eating hand to mouth in my marriage. It became a back and forth argument. Her dad wanted it small, but her siblings wanted it big. My mum did try to advise her, but she felt my mum shouldn't have a say in her wedding being a supposed generation Z.

I did have to look for ways she would be happy without spending too much. Then the counseling issue came, and I was informed to come back to Abuja by her pastor. It was inconvenient, so I told her to recommend virtual counseling because I'm not ready to go and spend a lot staying there. She was mad at my response, saying that it was disrespectful, suggesting such to a supposed man of God, making it disrespectful to God.

I did try to let her know that we could use the money to do something else, but she was adamant. After some time, I did succumb to her demand, but she felt that it should not have led to an argument in the first place and decided to call the wedding off. I tried calming her down and even suggested that we postpone it, but she wouldn't budge with a reason so petty. It hurt at first. It made me lose focus for a while, but I guess I've pretty patched up now hence my decision to share with you all.

God bless us all.

Congrats brother as you have been delivered of an impending mistake you almost made.
Let her go!!!
Do not put yourself under pressure over wedding ceremonies besides it is not our culture. White Wedding is the white man tradition, I am sure her so-called pastor would have advised her to do what she did.
Believe me bro, you are just one lucky chap... You guys were strangers before you met her and you were doing just fine. Who said you cannot be perfect strangers once again.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by DonroxyII: 10:10am On Jul 24, 2021
Romanoff:


This is not completely true. I grew up in Abuja and right from when I was really young, I told my mum I wanted a small wedding, she thought it was a joke, till covid came and it was the best opportunity.

Guests where barely up to 80, I ensured strict compliance by using bouncers to threaten her to reduce her guests. Cause na her guests plenty pass.

My dad was always a modest person so I didn't have issues from his side of the family.

Most people say my wedding pictures on social media. Na sorry I take end am when they were like "na wa o, you didn't even invite us".
That's why I said "Majorly". I think I should have used "Majority". Nothing is cheap in Abuja especially when you are now a socialite ... na mad !!

The Church, Family and Friends, Neighbours as well as the Workforce of the Families would milk this boy dry !

I can't marry from that city .. Their Brain is even Expensive on something that should be quite cheaper .... hiannn!!

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Raxxye(m): 10:10am On Jul 24, 2021
You should be grateful it ended. Such a lady. Na wa o!
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by sammirano: 10:10am On Jul 24, 2021
Stupid. Begging to sholder responsibilty. Good riddance to bad rubbish. What type of boys do we have now bayi.
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by AABBIIMM(m): 10:10am On Jul 24, 2021
don4real18:
Some months ago, I was supposed to get married to a lovely lady (Alias-Celia) whom I thought the universe made just for me. I find it unfortunate that this beautiful story was just never meant to be. This write-up is my story.
______________________________________________
Five years ago, while we both stared at the moon sitting in my compound and telling tales of our childhood, I studied her profile. She had a perfect-shaped jaw with rounded edges, full lips, and her ability to smile with so much ease. Her skin glowed against the moonlight, and her aura filled with so much innocence. It was no surprise when I finally popped the question asking her to be my girlfriend.

Four days later, I got a yes as her reply, and it became a beautiful relationship. Our companionship was a show of true love, or so I thought. She taught me to be a better kisser, and I made her be a better lover. We did almost everything together, and when challenges came, we solved them even though she was stubborn; A bit more than me.

Many moons down the line of love and sometimes distrust, she was to relocate to the FCT, the state where her family resides. I knew I was going to miss her, and it wasn't easy letting her go.

We did part ways at the airport, and ever since then, we were always on calls. I did notice later that I did most of the calling, and as time went on as it must, the regular calls became once in a while, and soon, it became longer.

I did play a little with other girls and tried getting into a relationship with others, but it just didn't work out. Perhaps, I wanted the kind of love that they could not give in return. It was no surprise when years later, my calls with Celia became regular and, I didn't mind doing most of the calling.

Soon, I traveled to Abuja, and she didn't seem enthusiastic about seeing me, even though my love clawed at my heart with a renewed burst of energy. This time, I decided that I wouldn't let go. I stayed in FCT for a while, I met her family, and I guess her feelings returned.

I returned to Lagos to continue working, and some months down the line, I was in Abuja again to see the one that I loved. We agreed that she would have to come to Lagos, and some months after I left Abuja, she arrived in the rowdy Lagos.

She met my family, and I popped the question, "will you marry me?" in a romantic atmosphere, and she was so happy that she was going to spend the rest of her life with me.

We made plans until the event of Corona took place, and it greatly affected my business. I became broke, but that didn't stop me from traveling to 3 different states to meet her family members and her pastor in FCT.

We did agree that we were going to have a small wedding, and the day of the introduction came, and I traveled with my family, spent a lot of money on hotel bills, etc. It did go well, and that was when it started.

She reneged on our agreement on the size of the wedding. She told me that she wanted to have her dream wedding although she had no money. I could not bring myself to spend so much on a wedding only to end up eating hand to mouth in my marriage. It became a back and forth argument. Her dad wanted it small, but her siblings wanted it big. My mum did try to advise her, but she felt my mum shouldn't have a say in her wedding being a supposed generation Z.

I did have to look for ways she would be happy without spending too much. Then the counseling issue came, and I was informed to come back to Abuja by her pastor. It was inconvenient, so I told her to recommend virtual counseling because I'm not ready to go and spend a lot staying there. She was mad at my response, saying that it was disrespectful, suggesting such to a supposed man of God, making it disrespectful to God.

I did try to let her know that we could use the money to do something else, but she was adamant. After some time, I did succumb to her demand, but she felt that it should not have led to an argument in the first place and decided to call the wedding off. I tried calming her down and even suggested that we postpone it, but she wouldn't budge with a reason so petty. It hurt at first. It made me lose focus for a while, but I guess I've pretty patched up now hence my decision to share with you all.

God bless us all.
In all fairness and honesty, I would say a big congratulations for escaping an expensive collosal disaster. And I want everyone to learn from this.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by buzorcharles(m): 10:11am On Jul 24, 2021
Another story teller trying out his or her writing skills.
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Prophet777: 10:12am On Jul 24, 2021
I am sincerely happy for you, the magnitude of a wedding ceremony does not determine the success of the wedding.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Romanoff(f): 10:12am On Jul 24, 2021
DonroxyII:
That's why I said "Majorly". I think I should have used "Majority". Nothing is cheap in Abuja especially when you are now a socialite ... na mad !!

The Church, Family and Friends, Neighbours as well as the Workforce of the Families would milk this boy dry !

I can't marry from that city .. Their Brain is even Expensive on something that should be quite cheaper .... hiannn!!

The only expensive thing in Abuja is rent. Even transport is cheaper and food.

Unless you insist on being extravaganza, even with a church wedding, you can use church hall and limit your guests.

Not everyone here lives above their means o. Most people I know that did big weddings could afford it. Their families are doing well.

Where the controversy is is when people know money is not the problem but you chose to do small wedding. That's when they'll be saying "maybe a pastor told them not to loud it".

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by BigBashiru: 10:13am On Jul 24, 2021
don4real18:
Some months ago, I was supposed to get married to a lovely lady (Alias-Celia) whom I thought the universe made just for me. I find it unfortunate that this beautiful story was just never meant to be. This write-up is my story.
______________________________________________
Five years ago, while we both stared at the moon sitting in my compound and telling tales of our childhood, I studied her profile. She had a perfect-shaped jaw with rounded edges, full lips, and her ability to smile with so much ease. Her skin glowed against the moonlight, and her aura filled with so much innocence. It was no surprise when I finally popped the question asking her to be my girlfriend.

Four days later, I got a yes as her reply, and it became a beautiful relationship. Our companionship was a show of true love, or so I thought. She taught me to be a better kisser, and I made her be a better lover. We did almost everything together, and when challenges came, we solved them even though she was stubborn; A bit more than me.

Many moons down the line of love and sometimes distrust, she was to relocate to the FCT, the state where her family resides. I knew I was going to miss her, and it wasn't easy letting her go.

We did part ways at the airport, and ever since then, we were always on calls. I did notice later that I did most of the calling, and as time went on as it must, the regular calls became once in a while, and soon, it became longer.

I did play a little with other girls and tried getting into a relationship with others, but it just didn't work out. Perhaps, I wanted the kind of love that they could not give in return. It was no surprise when years later, my calls with Celia became regular and, I didn't mind doing most of the calling.

Soon, I traveled to Abuja, and she didn't seem enthusiastic about seeing me, even though my love clawed at my heart with a renewed burst of energy. This time, I decided that I wouldn't let go. I stayed in FCT for a while, I met her family, and I guess her feelings returned.

I returned to Lagos to continue working, and some months down the line, I was in Abuja again to see the one that I loved. We agreed that she would have to come to Lagos, and some months after I left Abuja, she arrived in the rowdy Lagos.

She met my family, and I popped the question, "will you marry me?" in a romantic atmosphere, and she was so happy that she was going to spend the rest of her life with me.

We made plans until the event of Corona took place, and it greatly affected my business. I became broke, but that didn't stop me from traveling to 3 different states to meet her family members and her pastor in FCT.

We did agree that we were going to have a small wedding, and the day of the introduction came, and I traveled with my family, spent a lot of money on hotel bills, etc. It did go well, and that was when it started.

She reneged on our agreement on the size of the wedding. She told me that she wanted to have her dream wedding although she had no money. I could not bring myself to spend so much on a wedding only to end up eating hand to mouth in my marriage. It became a back and forth argument. Her dad wanted it small, but her siblings wanted it big. My mum did try to advise her, but she felt my mum shouldn't have a say in her wedding being a supposed generation Z.

I did have to look for ways she would be happy without spending too much. Then the counseling issue came, and I was informed to come back to Abuja by her pastor. It was inconvenient, so I told her to recommend virtual counseling because I'm not ready to go and spend a lot staying there. She was mad at my response, saying that it was disrespectful, suggesting such to a supposed man of God, making it disrespectful to God.

I did try to let her know that we could use the money to do something else, but she was adamant. After some time, I did succumb to her demand, but she felt that it should not have led to an argument in the first place and decided to call the wedding off. I tried calming her down and even suggested that we postpone it, but she wouldn't budge with a reason so petty. It hurt at first. It made me lose focus for a while, but I guess I've pretty patched up now hence my decision to share with you all.

God bless us all.

You succumbing to her demands showed you are not a real man. succumb to demands.... but not to every single demand....thats the sign of a wussy.... this is why she called off the wedding....

also you seemed desperate. even on my wedding day il still hv a few other girls I talk to and most importantly God.

This is the mindset that keeps girls....

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by inumidun2010(m): 10:13am On Jul 24, 2021
Vicas2000:


Dude...you are yet to marry and this woman has your balls in her hand to squeeze as she likes.

When you get married Ehn...you will hear 'wen' in that marriage.

Someone is broke. Does not contribute anything to a wedding but yet want a big wedding...want to make most decision.

Biko lete ask you. As a man...what is this woman bringing into your life?

What value is she bringing on the table and into your union?

Is it sex? If it is...you can get this easily without marriage?

Is it kids? You can have a child without the stress of adding an entitled girl who cares only about herself and how the world perceives how she is seen.

Ṣeé Ehn....men do not gain anything in getting married. It is only women who has a lot more to gain.

So why should you give away your power to her? She is the one that's meant to be in your good books to be married to you! Not the other way round.

You are acting like you have more to lose if the marriage did not go ahead even though really you don't! You are just being influenced by the 'onetitis syndrom' (Google it)

That's why she is using you to catch cruise.


You have to change that game as soon as possible. You need to put your foot down as the person who pays the piper and dictate the tune.

Renegotiate the terms of your union now before you get married. Make it your own way now or the high way.

You are the one paying for the wedding. Yet you are letting her make all the decision.

Well I know you may not listen to this advise.

so let me not waste my precious time too much this morning ontop your matter.


Out of everything you just posted... Na ONETITIS SYNDROME I see... Make I go check am, wait 4 me....
I don check am, Another Knowledge added..
Oga OP, Una dey try oooooo... Drama is the least thing I can ENDURE in my LIFE.... E be like say that GIRL Na TROPHY WIFE abi.... Shake the DUST off your FEET. Better Girls are everywhere and you should thank God she exhibited the RED FLAGS now. Cos if you go BROKE lasan( God forbid ), PEACE will be your TOPMOST PRAYER POINT cos she's going to FRUSTRATE your EXISTENCE.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Gravity56: 10:14am On Jul 24, 2021
God , has saved you, besides you should collect the car and house you bought for her.
Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by iLegendd(m): 10:16am On Jul 24, 2021
In summary, you're a weak man. If you see how scared beautiful and rich women get in thwarting my decision, you'll think I'm God or a gang leader.

How did I attain that status? It's by having principles early on and making the principle favorable for everyone without giving them room to thwart it or making myself appear rigid.

Even my parents respect my decisions let alone a woman from another womb. Most men of nowadays have been weakened by love and feminism.

I guess those of us that don't fall in love are the only ones with our brains intact.

Who in his right mind does long distance relationship? The moment the distance is far, remove the person as your girlfriend or boyfriend but friends-with-benefit.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Ficeo(m): 10:16am On Jul 24, 2021
I read this with so much compassion. I will suggest you allow her be for now. If she is yours, she will come back else, you allow her be. If there is a man to pray, there is a God to answer. Go on your knees! Its time to seek God's advice.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by komols856: 10:16am On Jul 24, 2021
don4real18:
Some months ago, I was supposed to get married to a lovely lady (Alias-Celia) whom I thought the universe made just for me. I find it unfortunate that this beautiful story was just never meant to be. This write-up is my story.
______________________________________________
Five years ago, while we both stared at the moon sitting in my compound and telling tales of our childhood, I studied her profile. She had a perfect-shaped jaw with rounded edges, full lips, and her ability to smile with so much ease. Her skin glowed against the moonlight, and her aura filled with so much innocence. It was no surprise when I finally popped the question asking her to be my girlfriend.

Four days later, I got a yes as her reply, and it became a beautiful relationship. Our companionship was a show of true love, or so I thought. She taught me to be a better kisser, and I made her be a better lover. We did almost everything together, and when challenges came, we solved them even though she was stubborn; A bit more than me.

Many moons down the line of love and sometimes distrust, she was to relocate to the FCT, the state where her family resides. I knew I was going to miss her, and it wasn't easy letting her go.

We did part ways at the airport, and ever since then, we were always on calls. I did notice later that I did most of the calling, and as time went on as it must, the regular calls became once in a while, and soon, it became longer.

I did play a little with other girls and tried getting into a relationship with others, but it just didn't work out. Perhaps, I wanted the kind of love that they could not give in return. It was no surprise when years later, my calls with Celia became regular and, I didn't mind doing most of the calling.

Soon, I traveled to Abuja, and she didn't seem enthusiastic about seeing me, even though my love clawed at my heart with a renewed burst of energy. This time, I decided that I wouldn't let go. I stayed in FCT for a while, I met her family, and I guess her feelings returned.

I returned to Lagos to continue working, and some months down the line, I was in Abuja again to see the one that I loved. We agreed that she would have to come to Lagos, and some months after I left Abuja, she arrived in the rowdy Lagos.

She met my family, and I popped the question, "will you marry me?" in a romantic atmosphere, and she was so happy that she was going to spend the rest of her life with me.

We made plans until the event of Corona took place, and it greatly affected my business. I became broke, but that didn't stop me from traveling to 3 different states to meet her family members and her pastor in FCT.

We did agree that we were going to have a small wedding, and the day of the introduction came, and I traveled with my family, spent a lot of money on hotel bills, etc. It did go well, and that was when it started.

She reneged on our agreement on the size of the wedding. She told me that she wanted to have her dream wedding although she had no money. I could not bring myself to spend so much on a wedding only to end up eating hand to mouth in my marriage. It became a back and forth argument. Her dad wanted it small, but her siblings wanted it big. My mum did try to advise her, but she felt my mum shouldn't have a say in her wedding being a supposed generation Z.

I did have to look for ways she would be happy without spending too much. Then the counseling issue came, and I was informed to come back to Abuja by her pastor. It was inconvenient, so I told her to recommend virtual counseling because I'm not ready to go and spend a lot staying there. She was mad at my response, saying that it was disrespectful, suggesting such to a supposed man of God, making it disrespectful to God.

I did try to let her know that we could use the money to do something else, but she was adamant. After some time, I did succumb to her demand, but she felt that it should not have led to an argument in the first place and decided to call the wedding off. I tried calming her down and even suggested that we postpone it, but she wouldn't budge with a reason so petty. It hurt at first. It made me lose focus for a while, but I guess I've pretty patched up now hence my decision to share with you all.

God bless us all.

God just save you from premature death without you knowing. Kindly go for thanks giving in the church and rejoice. She is not for you and there is nothing you can do to please her. Pray before proposing to any lady. Don't be carried away in your love and sex affairs. Marriage is more spiritual than physical. It happened to me before but later when I moved on. God directed an angelic wife to me and we are married now with kids happily forever.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by don4real18(m): 10:17am On Jul 24, 2021
valentineuwakwe:
What kind of business do you do? That posture may have affected her actions since the covid 19 hit you hard and she never cared. ....she is just after financial security and I guess you have to let her go...

If her siblings wants a big wedding, why couldn't they assist too?

In a nutshell, she no want the marriage thing in the first place.she was just ok with relationship waiting n thinking any Abuja top shots will come for her as she is based in Abuja not knowing a Lagos bobo go still find am come there. ...lol

It's won't be easy but attimes a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, even yesterday Juliet ibrahim posted on her page; "if you don't like where you are, pls move. You are not a tree!"
I do designs and animation, and sometimes construction. Clients include Google, Nando's, Virgin Atlantic etc so I guess I could still have provided that security she needed. Well, it's all in the past now.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Vireani79: 10:17am On Jul 24, 2021
The moment she left for abuja and the calls started becoming irregular
That was when she lost the passion for u
U would have let it die
U used marriage to bring a spark back but it soon went low cos u are not what she wants

Most ladies are materialistic
And see relationship as a poverty alleviation program

She was looking at ur pocket and it was not the dream she wanted
Calling off a marriage is a big step even nature will not forgive her

Funny thing is she will still blame u for this.

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Nobody: 10:18am On Jul 24, 2021
don4real18:
Some months ago, I was supposed to get married to a lovely lady (Alias-Celia) whom I thought the universe made just for me. I find it unfortunate that this beautiful story was just never meant to be. This write-up is my story.
______________________________________________
Five years ago, while we both stared at the moon sitting in my compound and telling tales of our childhood, I studied her profile. She had a perfect-shaped jaw with rounded edges, full lips, and her ability to smile with so much ease. Her skin glowed against the moonlight, and her aura filled with so much innocence. It was no surprise when I finally popped the question asking her to be my girlfriend.

Four days later, I got a yes as her reply, and it became a beautiful relationship. Our companionship was a show of true love, or so I thought. She taught me to be a better kisser, and I made her be a better lover. We did almost everything together, and when challenges came, we solved them even though she was stubborn; A bit more than me.

Many moons down the line of love and sometimes distrust, she was to relocate to the FCT, the state where her family resides. I knew I was going to miss her, and it wasn't easy letting her go.

We did part ways at the airport, and ever since then, we were always on calls. I did notice later that I did most of the calling, and as time went on as it must, the regular calls became once in a while, and soon, it became longer.

I did play a little with other girls and tried getting into a relationship with others, but it just didn't work out. Perhaps, I wanted the kind of love that they could not give in return. It was no surprise when years later, my calls with Celia became regular and, I didn't mind doing most of the calling.

Soon, I traveled to Abuja, and she didn't seem enthusiastic about seeing me, even though my love clawed at my heart with a renewed burst of energy. This time, I decided that I wouldn't let go. I stayed in FCT for a while, I met her family, and I guess her feelings returned.

I returned to Lagos to continue working, and some months down the line, I was in Abuja again to see the one that I loved. We agreed that she would have to come to Lagos, and some months after I left Abuja, she arrived in the rowdy Lagos.

She met my family, and I popped the question, "will you marry me?" in a romantic atmosphere, and she was so happy that she was going to spend the rest of her life with me.

We made plans until the event of Corona took place, and it greatly affected my business. I became broke, but that didn't stop me from traveling to 3 different states to meet her family members and her pastor in FCT.

We did agree that we were going to have a small wedding, and the day of the introduction came, and I traveled with my family, spent a lot of money on hotel bills, etc. It did go well, and that was when it started.

She reneged on our agreement on the size of the wedding. She told me that she wanted to have her dream wedding although she had no money. I could not bring myself to spend so much on a wedding only to end up eating hand to mouth in my marriage. It became a back and forth argument. Her dad wanted it small, but her siblings wanted it big. My mum did try to advise her, but she felt my mum shouldn't have a say in her wedding being a supposed generation Z.

I did have to look for ways she would be happy without spending too much. Then the counseling issue came, and I was informed to come back to Abuja by her pastor. It was inconvenient, so I told her to recommend virtual counseling because I'm not ready to go and spend a lot staying there. She was mad at my response, saying that it was disrespectful, suggesting such to a supposed man of God, making it disrespectful to God.

I did try to let her know that we could use the money to do something else, but she was adamant. After some time, I did succumb to her demand, but she felt that it should not have led to an argument in the first place and decided to call the wedding off. I tried calming her down and even suggested that we postpone it, but she wouldn't budge with a reason so petty. It hurt at first. It made me lose focus for a while, but I guess I've pretty patched up now hence my decision to share with you all.

God bless us all.
Na you fvck up na. You dey marry Gen Z. grin

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Re: Well, She Called Off Our Wedding. by Ficeo(m): 10:18am On Jul 24, 2021
iLegendd:
In summary, you're a weak man.
I don't think its weakness. I think he is a gentleman and an articulate fellow.

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