Polyol:
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Oh I see the picture clearer now. He deserves better. He actually dumped you and not the other way round like you made me believe. Forget the calling to ask you why you had to leave him, he doesn't want you anymore. I'm speaking his mind.

For me, I can't even date you talk more of saying I cheated on you. In a world of looking sexy on the street, pepper them gang and the rest, you'll now keep me from having sex? No na. Or do you pay his bills? Like do you cloth, house and feed him? What is that that you do for him that his mum or sister can't do for him? You should know better, he left you. You didn't leave him.

Will you want the same fate for him if he's your brother? You people have mind o, you're even bragging that you left him clueless and you don't give second chance, lol. Will the second chance change anything? Please allow him love whoever she is he cheated on you with. I'll have problem with him if he doesn't appreciate his newly found love more than he has ever thought of loving you.

God will provide you a simp and pray his family members will simp like him too cos I can't imagine you being dumped cos some people perceived you to have used juju to tie their son in the name of marriage.

LOGICALKEN:
So I met this lady in 2019 through a mutual friend, after few weeks of getting to meet her we started dating. She is 29 and I’m 31. She’s based in Benin where she works and I am in Lagos.

The agreement was that after our wedding she will join me in Lagos which she agreed. Our relationship has been going on smoothly which made me do the introduction January this year and I’ve told her the wedding will be by January next year, which she knows I am making adequate preparation to that effect. I even had to get involved in a monthly contribution of 30k which is done in her workplace, I told her she should collect 2 slots so we can save enough for the wedding. She has never made any financial request that i did not grant.

Just two months ago she started acting all weird, I have asked her what the problem was and she would say nothing. She stopped picking my calls and told her parents I offended her, I called her to know what my offense was and she said I should forget. God knows I have never deliberately done anything to upset her. Just yesterday morning she called to tell me she is done with the relationship which left me so confused and devastated. I have already paid for cow and all the wines we will use for the wedding and now she has called it off.

Please nairalanders what could possibly be my offense? I have thoroughly searched my heart and I can’t seem to remember when I offended her.

LOGICALKEN:
So I met this lady in 2019 through a mutual friend, after few weeks of getting to meet her we started dating. She is 29 and I’m 31. She’s based in Benin where she works and I am in Lagos.

The agreement was that after our wedding she will join me in Lagos which she agreed. Our relationship has been going on smoothly which made me do the introduction January this year and I’ve told her the wedding will be by January next year, which she knows I am making adequate preparation to that effect. I even had to get involved in a monthly contribution of 30k which is done in her workplace, I told her she should collect 2 slots so we can save enough for the wedding. She has never made any financial request that i did not grant.

Just two months ago she started acting all weird, I have asked her what the problem was and she would say nothing. She stopped picking my calls and told her parents I offended her, I called her to know what my offense was and she said I should forget. God knows I have never deliberately done anything to upset her. Just yesterday morning she called to tell me she is done with the relationship which left me so confused and devastated. I have already paid for cow and all the wines we will use for the wedding and now she has called it off.

Please nairalanders what could possibly be my offense? I have thoroughly searched my heart and I can’t seem to remember when I offended her.

LOGICALKEN:
I have already paid for cow and all the wines we will use for the wedding and now she has called it off.

LOGICALKEN:


She has never made any financial request that i did not grant.
Just yesterday morning she called to tell me she is done with the relationship.

Please nairalanders what could possibly be my offense? I have thoroughly searched my heart and I can’t seem to remember when I offended her.

Pimine:

Aswearugaaad

Lol pesin wey dey pay 60k monthly contribution (2 slots) still dey cater for the babe no dey financially stable?

Make money for yourself not for any goddamn woman. Money no dey keep woman; if you like buy her the moon she go still off pant and won ma do!

flexyrule:
You seem to be the only one that understands the OP's situation.

OP, dust yourself, work on your finances.

omojesu202:


Only you pointing towards money, it's like you didn't pass comprehension.

authority2006:


So marriage in Nigeria should be all about the amount of money the husband can bring home? It is well.

DonEd:
Sometimes distance relationship is risky.
Both parties might just be fooling around

drtwist:


Sorry I feel your pain . I had a similar situation last year . There is this girl from my church I planned tying the knot with April 4. She just woke up with no tangible reason and ended the relationship saying I traveled and didn't call her on time when she knows I am livig Nigeria for the very first time. Situation got worst for me when I tried all possible best to get her back , I think she started manipulating me and I went into depression November, December. I later realized she just after me sponsoring her education and someone else have given her a juices offer .

Please don't push her more , if not you will loose your sanity and have her as your biggest regret . Move on and understand shit happens

TechQe:



You are eternally stvpid. He has a love rival who is multiple times better than him financially she didnt reveal to him. Ode

walkingshadow911:










there's nothing like long distance relationship, it's long distance friendship. let stop fooling ourselves with English. Distance would destroys any romantic relationship in a twinkle of an eye.

i stopped reading when he said she stays in Benin while he is in lagos

FunnyDude:


Not true. What will work will work

walkingshadow911:


Women don't reveal that thing even at gunpoint.

Sonnobax15:

Na wa oh....

But bros op, what if this whole thing should turn out to be a blessing in disguise.... Sometimes God works in mysterious ways that may seem too difficult for us to comprehend.....

Like my dad always tell me--"that a woman who has set her heart to depart a man, there's nothing the man'll do that'll make her change her mind".........

Well,it's very obvious she has found another nigha cha...Very obvious.... The same thing happened to my friend one time ago.....The other nigha disappointed her las las and she came back to my friend....The part that really got me angry was that he accepted her back.......Love is blind cha..

Clickguy44:
Men,

In any sexual relationship,

You are either the source or the target.

Be the source.

Have the power to call it off.

If she calls it off before you do it, then you were the target.

Learn & be better in your next.

Don't repeat the same mistakes.

Iyaebe:
You just want to shift the blame on me because I didn't let a man manipulate and drag me into an emotional wreck and torture. Yes I'll keep taking my leave till I find the right person but I will never tolerate some bullshits all in the name of love.If two people decide to be together then let them be true to themselves, the foundation of every relationship matters a lot and there are flaws you shouldn't overlook so as to avoid stories that touch in marriage. I don't jump from one to the other but my dumping game is top notch when necessary, nothing like a second chance in my world.

Parisian:
Sense dey far from this one.



Fish brained Nigerian men never fail to show their senselessness.

Newbielearner:


Your points are valid though. It's a huge risk to give a second chance when the heart is concerned.

However, it's also important to find out why the individual did what he did.

If he seems coy and deceptive in his response, then you can make conclusions.

Otherwise, you might just be working on assumptions.

Thumbs up to your firm grip on choosing emotional sanity. Stay safe

Iyaebe:
Why on earth will I pay a man's bill if I don't demand from him,why?why should I also give my body to someone's son all because of a relationship? do I owe him sex?if a man wants sex let him marry,its that simple. The same you saying these now wanted to slut shame me until I corrected your wrong assumptions. Be forming redpill for all I care there will always be a bbn Ozo and Saga.I have noticed one thing in my little experience and interaction with men,you can have a firm grip on any man as long as you are in full control of your emotions as a lady.

walkingshadow911:


and what wont work won't work.

long distance dont always work kiddo. distance itself is a great threat.
wake ur ass up before your learn in a hard way.

LOGICALKEN:
So I met this lady in 2019 through a mutual friend, after few weeks of getting to meet her we started dating. She is 29 and I’m 31. She’s based in Benin where she works and I am in Lagos.

The agreement was that after our wedding she will join me in Lagos which she agreed. Our relationship has been going on smoothly which made me do the introduction January this year and I’ve told her the wedding will be by January next year, which she knows I am making adequate preparation to that effect. I even had to get involved in a monthly contribution of 30k which is done in her workplace, I told her she should collect 2 slots so we can save enough for the wedding. She has never made any financial request that i did not grant.

Just two months ago she started acting all weird, I have asked her what the problem was and she would say nothing. She stopped picking my calls and told her parents I offended her, I called her to know what my offense was and she said I should forget. God knows I have never deliberately done anything to upset her. Just yesterday morning she called to tell me she is done with the relationship which left me so confused and devastated. I have already paid for cow and all the wines we will use for the wedding and now she has called it off.

Please nairalanders what could possibly be my offense? I have thoroughly searched my heart and I can’t seem to remember when I offended her.

CAPSLOCKED:


GET YOUR SHĮT TOGETHER AND THROW YOURSELF A PARTY IF YOU CAN'T GET BACK WHAT YOU'VE SPENT.



YOUR BIGGEST OFFENCE IN LIFE IS HAVING FAITH IN A HUMAN BEING, A WOMAN ESPECIALLY.. ALONG WITH DOING "ALL" HER BIDDING LIKE A SHEEP.
TERRIBLE MISTAKE. NEVER ENDS WELL.

THERE'S NO NEED TO BE DEVASTATED OR CRY TO DEATH. SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU, IT'S REALLY THAT SIMPLE. EVEN IF YOU'VE GIVEN HER HEAVEN AND EARTH, IN HER BOOKS THERE'S NOT A SINGLE THING THAT YOU'VE DONE FOR HER.
IF IT'S POSSIBLE, EXTRACT YOUR REMAINING MONEY FROM HER POSSESSION NOW THAT SHE MAY STILL HAVE IT, THEN YOU HEAD STRAIGHT TO THIS THREAD FOR KNOWLEDGE: https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know
YOU'RE ONLY 31, AND THERE'S STILL TIME FOR YOU TO LEARN THAT THERE'S NO WOMAN ALIVE THAT WILL LOVE YOU LIKE YOU SEE IN MOVIES NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO OR WHO YOU ARE, SO WHY WORRY ABOUT GETTING MARRIED JUST TO SIGN UP FOR INFIDELITY, PATERNITY FRAUD, WICKEDNESS AND UNENDING DRAMA??

THE REALITY OF THIS LIFE IS THAT NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU TRY TO FIGHT AGAINST IT AS MEN, THE RP TRUTH, WHICH IS UNIVERSAL JUST LIKE WOMEN'S NATURE, CAN NEVER BE DEFEATED.
- Martinez39s

FunnyDude:


LOL who is kiddo

Add 10 years to your current age still senior you
Chai faceless forum ooh. Good bye anyway.

LOGICALKEN:
So I met this lady in 2019 through a mutual friend, after few weeks of getting to meet her we started dating. She is 29 and I’m 31. She’s based in Benin where she works and I am in Lagos.

The agreement was that after our wedding she will join me in Lagos which she agreed. Our relationship has been going on smoothly which made me do the introduction January this year and I’ve told her the wedding will be by January next year, which she knows I am making adequate preparation to that effect. I even had to get involved in a monthly contribution of 30k which is done in her workplace, I told her she should collect 2 slots so we can save enough for the wedding. She has never made any financial request that i did not grant.

Just two months ago she started acting all weird, I have asked her what the problem was and she would say nothing. She stopped picking my calls and told her parents I offended her, I called her to know what my offense was and she said I should forget. God knows I have never deliberately done anything to upset her. Just yesterday morning she called to tell me she is done with the relationship which left me so confused and devastated. I have already paid for cow and all the wines we will use for the wedding and now she has called it off.

Please nairalanders what could possibly be my offense? I have thoroughly searched my heart and I can’t seem to remember when I offended her.