deekseen:

My point is not whether op has the capability of taking care of her or not.

Read again and gain understanding.

TMTR:


yeah right but I did it , though it wasn't easy
Sometimes though the orphanage pays us a visit to check up on her and they can testify that she is doing great.

Put her in the best school I can find in my state, the school that she attends is also being attented by children and relatives of politicians in my state of residence , trust me she is living the life of a princess

The orphanage are now the ones telling me to adopt more but I am like nah for now maybe later in the future

So no stress

deekseen:
Kobo,
There's no point for arguments. But be careful how you bring the Bible into this so you don't mislead others.
When Jesus talked about eunuchs, he said, "some were made eunuchs for the sake of the Kingdom".
Op is not a eunuch neither did he adopt the baby for the sake of the Kingdom.
Everyone must not marry, but I still feel the baby deserves a prominent female figure in her life. And to add, the earlier op understands the psychological effects of growing up in a one-parent home, the better he will help her overcome these worries when they come.
Once again, good step op.

10 The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”
11 But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given.
12 For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.” - Matthew 19 vs 10 - 12.

TMTR:


Lol, I was expecting a comment like this and I wasn't disappointed, like I said in my earlier thread,
'I no fit for baby mama wahala'

Well I considered that option but I thought about it and was like nah, maybe later in the future but definitely not now.

And about my thing not working hahaha
Bring ya sister to come spend a night with me, she go testify give you in the morning about the marvelous work of my thing

StPete:
As much as I applaud your effort, I don't see why you couldn't just fvck a woman and get her pregnant for you and birth a child especially as you're still young abi is ya thing not working?

Kobojunkie:
Huh?

So what is the difference between what I said earlier, that you warned me to be careful of, and what we now see Jesus Christ did in fact say?

You are free to go adopt your own and give it a woman if you want. But it is not written anywhere in stone that a man and a woman have to be involved in the raising of any child.

Matter of fact many are not even raised by either and still turn out OK in society.

StPete:
As much as I applaud your effort, I don't see why you couldn't just fvck a woman and get her pregnant for you and birth a child especially as you're still young abi is ya thing not working?

TMTR:

Hello, good day ,

https://www.nairaland.com/4538476/want-adopt-child

y'all remember the thread I created back in 2018 ,well I did succeed adopting a child, I adopted her from a orphanage and I will say my experience during the process of adopting her was really difficult than I Imagined, first I was a single young guy not even in my mid twenties yet and I had tattoos and lil tjay and lil baby kind of hair styles (those familiar with them will know the kind of hair style I am talking about ) oh mhen the stereotyping was off the roof, what did they not say, is it been called a ritualist , mhen I was suffered by the abusive words that was unleashed on me by all those women but I didn't relent and finally after everything I succeeded,

At one point , I wanted to go with my mum at least to show that I had no ulterior motive but then again I thought to myself, you can do this on your own and I am glad I overcame.

I began the process in mid 2018 and it was not until it late 2018 that my application was granted, I then proceeded with the rest formalities and I took my daughter home, she was 3 when I adopted her .

The first thing I did when we got home was to change her wardrobe, I took her shopping and bought two big boxes filled with clothes and shoes, also bought some female toys and other stuffs.

She was shy at first around me but with time ,she got used to me and became more free with me.

Mehn I must say so far adopting her was one of the best decision I have ever made in my life , I even tattooed her name on my arm, made me more responble in a way

And also in addition, chicks dig babies, like babies are like ladies' magnet. I never believe those statements to be true till I got my baby, like mehn you need to see the attention I get because of her, I mean we get because of her.

Don't get me wrong, ladies trip and drool over me before she came into my life but the amount of attention I get before her more than doubled . Before y'all start thinking this is the major reason I am happy I adopted her , let it be known that this is the least reason why I am happy..

All-in all she is God's blessings to me and I bless the day that I made the decision in adopting her.

She is such an Angel and a darling

I love her so much

Fatherhood is sweet

VTJN:
Are you a JW?

WoundedLamb:


Getting married is a choice and if you don't want to, it's perfectly okay. However, whatever you do, don't be a wayward father. The child's self esteem will stem from how you treat women. Let her know that there's more to life that being a good wife. Tell her that regardless of her gender, she can be anything she wants to be in life. Tell her that it's not cool to refer to women as "bitches", "vagina people" or "that gender" cause they are human as we are. Tell her to always voice her opinion even in a society where it doesn't seem to count. Tell her to look beyond the stigmatization of Nigerian girls and pursue her dreams head-on. Tell her to be careful with the boy child but know that he's not an enemy.

VTJN:
Are you a JW?

AutoChick4U:
I for ask you to come adopt my baby but she all I got now. Very cute Lil lovely love. God is good abeg

Mrsoft3:



Whenever you want to give her up for adoption kindly mention me. Good future gurantee

TMTR:


You are almost correct but I don't really see myself as a religious person like I haven't been to church for years now, I just believe that there is a God somewhere and say my prayers every morning.

I rarely go to church but when I do it's definitely Jehovah's witness because my spirit aligns with their teachings like this is how Christianity is to be and practiced but let's not go into all that now.

I am not going to force any religion on my daughter, my parents didn't force one on me. They allowed me to choose my path same way I am going to allow my daughter choose her path.

In a nutshell, I don't really fancy religion

Munzy14:

Your story is awesome and Inspirational...


I might give this a try....At a point in life.

mariahAngel:


That’ll be awesome.

Munzy14:



Yea av thought about it when I was 24...


Just two kids with my wife and then adopt one.

mariahAngel:


I asked one of my brothers if he could do it, and dude was whoa! This isn’t something you just throw on someone. It’s something one has to decide on their own.
And I was like it’s nothing if you put your mind to it.

Life is really that simple. It is humans that complicate life.

AutoChick4U:
I for ask you to come adopt my baby but she all I got now. Very cute Lil lovely love. God is good abeg

GboyegaD:


Yes ooo, He truly is.

folake4u:


Lol you think say na only by fúcking?.

StPete:


It is not only by fvcking, that's why he has the capability to take care of the child. Why not do it to his own blood. I must say that I fear for that child while growing up cos the OP knows she's not his own blood so what if he starts getting sexually attracted to her

Not everyone has a dirty mind like you, I am not a paedophile, she is just a kid and how I will get sexually attracted to someone I see as my daughter and calls me dad.

Being blood related has not stopped stopped some men from being sexually attracted to their relations, so I don't know what you are on about, it's all about mindset and mentality so I can never be sexually attracted to her in any way

And you know what I have noticed in these life, people that are quick to throw accusations like you are usually guilty of what they accuse people of, you need to take a look at the man you see when you look into the mirror not me

TMTR:



Not everyone has a dirty mind like you, I am not a paedophile, she is just a kid and how I will get sexually attracted to someone I see as my daughter and calls me dad.

Being blood related has not stopped stopped some men from being sexually attracted to their relations, so I don't know what you are on about, it's all about mindset and mentality so I can never be sexually attracted to her in any way

And you know what I have noticed in these life, people that are quick to throw accusations like you are usually guilty of what they accuse people of, you need to take a look at the man you see when you look into the mirror not me

StPete:


It is not only by fvcking, that's why he has the capability to take care of the child. Why not do it to his own blood. I must say that I fear for that child while growing up cos the OP knows she's not his own blood so what if he starts getting sexually attracted to her

StPete:


I am being a realist. Many of the men who slept with their kids (most are usually not their biological kids) didn't find them sexually appealing as toddlers. That a young boy like yourself opted for adoption at a young age doesn't seem the least natural. I presuppose there is more to this case than meets the eye. I however congratulate you on your selfless endeavour

folake4u:



@ The last sentence.
Why do you people like focusing on the negative all the time?