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Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by lilvicky68(m): 3:14pm On Sep 11, 2021 |
Digmygold:Im not sure you got what I wrote.. Read it again calm down and you will understand better.. 2 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by JayCynic(m): 4:32pm On Sep 11, 2021 |
Victerica: "Bad" and "Irresponsible" are two distinct and distant words. And I'm no juudge for what is bad or good 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by UcheforGod(f): 10:23pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
J2381:It is a sin against God. Sex is only permitted in marriage according to God's Word. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by J2381: 10:31pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
UcheforGod:Did you forget not everybody believe in your God? 2 Likes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:34am On Sep 16, 2021 |
BePrepared: if you'd read what i wrote PROPERLY, you wouldnt write the obove deluded rubbish. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:46am On Sep 16, 2021 |
SenatePresdo: the above shows your mindset... its called insecurity/low self esteem. why would you even think that because a woman had a child with someone, she would automatically cheat on you to be with that dude again? how did you even come up with that narrow minded conclusion (akak all single mothers will be unfaithful to their new man). are you saying that any man who had a child with a woman, will always have access to her toto, regardless of the life she had AFTER the baby OR regardless of the relationship you have with this woman?!?!? Is this the kind of Dramas you would risk to plunge into, just to show the world that nothing is wrong with marrying single mothers? is that really what you see here....aka showing the world that nothing is wrong with single mothers?!?! why dont you instead show us what is actually wrong with all single mothers....instead of the insecure/low self esteem bla bla you just wrote? We pray not to enter marital problem, someone would see a potential marital problem beforehand and still jump in.. it's only a simpleton that does that a SIMPLETON is a man trhat automatically dismisses a woman simply because she had a life before him. .a SIMPLETON is a man that cantuse his brain to differenciate between a good woman and a bad one. a SIMPLETON is a man that believes that a single motheris automatically a problem a SIMPLETON is a man that is so weak that he cant use his own brain to make decisions on each individual women and instead would rather hate on all women while beating his chest. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:50am On Sep 16, 2021 |
Kccheechy: no, our problem is that there are some few people who believe that they can decide on how EVERYONE should live their life, as if you have an authority on other's life. if you dont want to indulge on premarital sex or believe its wrong, then so be it,,,, but stop trying to impose YOUR way of life unto others. some people are perfectly happy having premarital sex and there is NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT! |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:55am On Sep 16, 2021 |
AfroKnight: namecalling?!?! what do you mean? you must be mistaking my above post from someone else's. i just asked you a simple question that you have dodged and failed to answer (time and time again). so i will put it up there again: if you as a man dont show your flaws/fears/weaknesses to women when you 1st meet them, why would you expect these single mothers to be any different on the matter?! or better yet: do you think that violent men, abusive men, unfaithful men, disrespectful men etc tell these women that they are violent/abusive/unfaithfull/untrustworthy/disrespectful etc after a few phone calls?!?! |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Bornboy4: 8:29am On Sep 16, 2021 |
We make these women Single Mothers because we want to taste any cheap kpekus later we look down on them. African ladies don suffer. My wife had two female children from previous relationship before I decided to marry her. It changed nothing. We grew to love each other for 25 years till her death early this year. I will marry another Baby Mama over and over again because they make better wives. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by SenatePresdo(m): 9:56am On Sep 16, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: I didn't mention "Automatically". I said the chances are high she would cheat with the Baby Daddy, you don't have to misquote me just to make your point seem valid. is that really what you see here....aka showing the world that nothing is wrong with single mothers?!?! why dont you instead show us what is actually wrong with all single mothers....instead of the insecure/low self esteem bla bla you just wrote? I repeat again; The Single mom or the kid born out of wedlock is not the problem. You can genuinely love a single mom and still not want to marry her, simply because you don't the have mind to bottle the aftermath effects. And of course, is logical to feel insecure with a woman that already has a baby for another Man. You can't tell for sure, the relationship level she has with the baby father, she Will always tell you something to make you feel she has nothing going on between them any longer. Low self-esteem? I should marry a woman that has a kid for another man, just to show that I'm as confident as Samson? If low self-esteem is being careful to avoid possible marital issues, then it's worth it. a SIMPLETON is a man trhat automatically dismisses a woman simply because she had a life before him. You keep running outside of the circle. Who told you anything is wrong with a single mom? I can be friends with a single mom, even buy them gifts and offer a hand if need be. A good person is a good person, regardless. Nobody is hating on them, just that you don't want to wife them. Is marriage now a medium to show pity? It's only a simpleton that marries out of pity One can choose to marry a single mom, if he finds no problem in it and can handle anything that comes out of it, and it's not a must that problem must come out of it, just that some people don't want to risk it at all. And their decision is good for them, you can't change it or condemn it, neither would I condem someone that wants to marry a single mom. Every Man is not ready to take up the responsibility of a bastard child, not even as charity, but as a responsibility. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by SenatePresdo(m): 10:01am On Sep 16, 2021 |
Bornboy4: Nobody is condemning single moms, just that every man is not strong hearted enough to overlook the fact that the person they want to marry has a baby for another man. 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by dontrulee: 10:24am On Sep 16, 2021 |
Bornboy4: Sorry about your loss Sir. Single mothers can be very respectful if you love them very well. They are very unique only that they don't like to be taken advantaged of |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by dontrulee: 10:33am On Sep 16, 2021 |
Currently in a relationship with a single mother, but am weighing my options. I am a virgin, never had sex before (that's a personal choice) and this woman has agreed to get married to me. She tells me virtually everything, she has told me everything about herself. Showed me all her chats, so she's clean. She is not materialistic, she even sends me money and buy gifts for me. She said, she has seen the perfect man in me (I don't claim to be perfect) but I don't see her as my future partner yet. Her character is good for now but I understand that people can change after marriage so am still observing for now. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:09pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
SenatePresdo: check your mindset bro, we can clearly understand from what you wrote that your problem is deeper than you think. thats why you didnt just write that it was high chances the a baby daddy FUKCS a woman again, but instead wrote that there was high chances he would GET HER PREGNANT, which is on another level completely. i didnt misquote you. I repeat again; The Single mom or the kid born out of wedlock is not the problem. bro you are truly confused..... so you mean to say you can love a single mother (aka date her etc) but but as soon as marriage issue is concerned, thats where your problem is?! And of course, is logical to feel insecure with a woman that already has a baby for another Man.You can't tell for sure, the relationship level she has with the baby father, she Will always tell you something to make you feel she has nothing going on between them any longer. A) there is no logic to the above insecurity you are talking about. if she aint with him any longer AND act right in your r/ship then there is no reason why you should automatically have doubts about a single mother. B) why do you care what r/ship level she has with baby daddy IF SHE IS WITH YOU NOW and act right in your r/ship? C) why do you automatically think that there would still be something going on between them? Low self-esteem? I should marry a woman that has a kid for another man, just to show that I'm as confident as Samson? If low self-esteem is being careful to avoid possible marital issues, then it's worth it. remember, you are the one who is focussed on marriage here, as the OP was solely talking about dating....and as we can confirm, since you can "love" a single mother it means that dating is ok for you....aka CASE CLOSED! You keep running outside of the circle. - a man that automatically assumes that a single mother is a potential problem (or that there are risks with such woman), simply because she had a kid with someone else, thats a SIMPLETON move. . a man that cant tell a single mother what time it is...aka that her bastard child is hers and her only and that you want nothing to do with him/her... thats a SIMPLETON move. - a man that automatically shakes in his boots when he sees a single mother, regardless of the interaction you guys have together etc , is a SIMPLETON |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 12:41pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
jiboladhino:Its all about the responsibility for the child, that's the central cruise,try to understand something please |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 12:51pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
NaijirianKing:This is due to lack of exposure and they think anything America is good without having real life experience on what is obtainable over there |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 12:52pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
Roseey0:There is absolutely nothing like love here |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 12:57pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
cococandy:Your questions to him Is irrelevant and manipulative, his personal life doesn't concern you and between even if he fvcked some IRRESPONSIBLE ladies ,those ladies bear the consequences and not him. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 12:59pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
Gamesmart:You can now see why we are advising men to shun single mothers |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 1:07pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
Toks2008:Is not about u toks, it takes 2 to tangle ,you play yours and can definitely not determine how she play hers,be wise! |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 1:09pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
Toks2008:Is not the same with the two categories of ladies u mentioned ,the single mom has a very hefty baggage and responsibility she's coming with which is th3 child and that's the bone of contention in this thread and not just a mere ex |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 1:09pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
debbydams:Practically it is not possible not to take responsibility, we do know how it goes |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 1:11pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
Gamesmart:It makes them look more terrible bc we already know those antics ,lol they fvcied and bore a child,they should live with the consequences , no one owes anyone anything |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 1:12pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
debbydams:His babe mama kee am? |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 1:12pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
cococandy:Becoming childish already |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 1:13pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
emsco:You did well 1 Like |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 1:15pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
Nma3595:Reason why women need to get sense knowing they will be the ones to suffer the consequences 9f such ill advised adventures ! |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 1:20pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
AutoChick4U:You could have used #50 condom or #500 postinor 2,it would have saved you this headache |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 1:30pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
Digmygold:Please find new thing ,we have seen this line 9f emotional blackmail before ,thank u |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Ikwerelastborn: 1:31pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
Bornboy4:See this single mother disguising |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by Digmygold: 1:36pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
Ikwerelastborn: The emotional blackmail continue with your frustrated single mother daughters at 45. |
Re: A Case For Men Who Don’t Want To Date Single Mothers by debbydams(f): 1:36pm On Sep 16, 2021 |
Ikwerelastborn:it is possible.don't argue wiitth me |
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