ChineduChinedu:
Please help, I need advice, I am very confused man, I don't know what to do in this situation

There is this girl I met in Lagos she help me find a house in Lagos from there we started dating.

I Asked her to marry me and get pregnant for me. Later she got pregnant for me.
She started disturbing me about marriage rights.

On the wedding day I discovered that she has 3 children for one man.
I have asked her several times even before she got pregnant she keep saying no

A day before the wedding, one of my uncle called me and tell me that one babalawo said that the woman I want to marry has 3 kids already.

All that day I wasn't myself I woke her up at midnight and forced the truth out of her
She admitted and start begging me to forgive her, she said she has been looking for the best time to tell me. All this are happening on our wedding day, she beg me not to tell anyone that it can be secrets between me and her àlone, I insisted that I must tell my people from my state enugu to Lagos

My people discouraged me and said I should thank God for revealing this early.
That's how I cancelled the church wedding.

Court marriage 30th September
Church wedding 2nd October
But Before that wedding day, we did court marriage, I told her that I don't want to do court marriage because if she cheat on me I will divorce her and loose my half of my money she got angry, the first day we didn't talk, 2nd day same, Then 3rd day she start packing her loads, I beg her to stay that we have few days to church wedding she insisted that If I don't do the court that I should cancel the church wedding that she can't trust me without court marriage

We did the court marriage, without my parents consent cuz it didn't come from my heart, her junior brother is the one that sighn for me in the court

I don't know what to do in this situation oo

Her first son is 13 years
2nd son 8 years
3rd girl 6 years
And now she is pregnant for me aa

Am 30 years while I don't know her real age

We have lived together for 8 months before I could discover this
And during this period we have been together
She controls me alots and that make me sad
She shout at me too
If ask me to do something for her and I refuse it becomes problem

Please what do I do ?

Calm down, bro. We all do have people that have taken our trust for granted at a time or the other.

Relax! Marriage built on deceit is null and void. She is even the one in trouble. File for divorce and get a good lawyer.

tommy20:
God forbid ooo, but its the begining of your nemesis.... The foundation is absolutely faculty...... 3 children!!! boss don't even go there. Forget the court marriage!

That's the only thing you have discovered so far. Don't forget the truth doesn't even come from her but a pastor abi prophet you call ham.


Sir, the journey is far, Wise up bro... All the best

k

Caseless:


This chineduchinedu guy is a comedian. He really got me laughing here.

I can imagine the look on his face while saying this and I can also see how he'd announce to everyone that his supposed bride-to-be has 3 kids like a village town crier while holding bell.

Are you sure that woman is not an Ex prostitute who stayed in a brothel? No responsible woman will keep such information away from her man. It even took your uncle to consult a babalawo to unravel the mystery and reveal the secrets

Chineduchinedu, that woman isn't done with you yet. She could hire assassin to come and kill you. She could launch spiritual attacks too. Hold that your uncle tight and close - he seems to know the way.


Why do I find this funny?

eweee

FreeIgboho:


File for annulment? Easier said than done

God bless nairaland
Thanks everyone

Ndidi2:
ask God for forgiveness.
Sleeping with a married woman is bad.

I will do that to cleans my self

Mydazz:
A big fool and a total idiot, here you are still confused about what to do,......
You entered into the most important part of marriage (court) without letting your family know about it.......
You're already married sir,.... the rest are just celebrations,
Please go on and enjoy your marriage to your yahoo girl, abi na woman

uncle calm down na mistake

[quote author=Popesuccess post=106591693][/quote] nawao

samguru:


Guy,
The same registry and file the divorce later.I know this is against the law,but cannot tie my life down with one useless law.

I told my wife what happened between me and my former wife and she even supported me.

As am typing,she does not want me to see my son and I don't care as my new wife has given me more than what she gave me.
I pray for the boy everyday sha

All I know is that one day u will see your son
Thanks man

calcal:
When I was 30 toto dey sweet me well well but now fucking toto na too much work for me.

abi

drimzsmoke:

She is a very fertile woman,marry her!!!

lol

I am very sure he is among the men that rubbishes women's imagine here, now look at what has caught up with him .
I can't even spend a moment with a mumu man all in the name of being quiet talk more of marry him.

Just call me. I will give you the best thing to do.

AkaraAndBread:


'Edu my brother, look at the picture below very well and think about your life.

Obviously, you did very little consultations with ANYONE before frolicking with this woman. And now....

Tomorrow is Sunday. Go and talk to a real Man of God (not god of man O!).

Thank me later.

PS: If you have no idea on the next best step, send me a DM.

Yes i have to see a man of God tomorrow

ChineduChinedu:
I don't know how I enter this problem
Please help me

l It's a simple thing bro don't stress over it. She is obviously also older than you. 100% please don't marry her divorce her immediately because she will surely make you die before your time with several heart breaks. And besides make sure you carry out a DNA test on your said baby in her womb when it is born before accepting it. If DNA says it's not yours package the baby very well and add it to her baggage. Stress no too much for Nigeria?

Greenfusion:
Funny you, if this story is true.

Firstly, you need community koboko.

Secondly, u need good deliverance from any spell or juju.

Thirdly, 1 more kokobo to straighten your head.

Fourthly, if you are to seek divorce, i do not think it would lead you to pay any alimony of any kind. You have to stand on the ground that you were deceived and not told she had 3 kids ( it would be taken as a case of deceit, you can discuss with a legal professional on this...my advice is based on common sense).
If na me sha, i know say i nor go do again...because the real intention of the woman is not clear.


If you eventually succeed to divorce, i would advice you go for another "koboko", to refactor and reprogram your brain cells.

I no go fit survive koboko abeg oo

I want to say a big thank you to all nairaland's members for looking into my live story.

I have never be this confused all my life, thank you all for all your comments, your comments really gives me hope, strength and reliefs


God bless nairaland



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ChineduChinedu:
Please help, I need advice, I am very confused man, I don't know what to do in this situation

There is this girl I met in Lagos she help me find a house in Lagos from there we started dating.

I Asked her to marry me and get pregnant for me. Later she got pregnant for me.
She started disturbing me about marriage rights.

On the wedding day I discovered that she has 3 children for one man.
I have asked her several times even before she got pregnant she keep saying no

A day before the wedding, one of my uncle called me and tell me that one babalawo said that the woman I want to marry has 3 kids already.

All that day I wasn't myself I woke her up at midnight and forced the truth out of her
She admitted and start begging me to forgive her, she said she has been looking for the best time to tell me. All this are happening on our wedding day, she beg me not to tell anyone that it can be secrets between me and her àlone, I insisted that I must tell my people from my state enugu to Lagos

My people discouraged me and said I should thank God for revealing this early.
That's how I cancelled the church wedding.

Court marriage 30th September
Church wedding 2nd October
But Before that wedding day, we did court marriage, I told her that I don't want to do court marriage because if she cheat on me I will divorce her and loose my half of my money she got angry, the first day we didn't talk, 2nd day same, Then 3rd day she start packing her loads, I beg her to stay that we have few days to church wedding she insisted that If I don't do the court that I should cancel the church wedding that she can't trust me without court marriage

We did the court marriage, without my parents consent cuz it didn't come from my heart, her junior brother is the one that sighn for me in the court

I don't know what to do in this situation oo

Her first son is 13 years
2nd son 8 years
3rd girl 6 years
And now she is pregnant for me aa

Am 30 years while I don't know her real age

We have lived together for 8 months before I could discover this
And during this period we have been together
She controls me alots and that make me sad
She shout at me too
If ask me to do something for her and I refuse it becomes problem

Please what do I do ?

Na age mate we be, so if I tell you you be fool e no big pass my mouth.

Mr man I laugh you in Spanish . You just disgraced yourself here. When you were in relationship with the lady did you post here for advise ? According to the information I got you went to her village with your families to do the traditional rights before the court marriage. did she charm you nd your families then ? Woo ko shi lo. Why will u come here to say ur families are not aware of ur marriage. Children are blessings from God, not curse or liability. Ogbeni go and sit down u are still a boy, not a man. When men are talking don’t talk.

Oga I’m also a qualified lawyer. I go like handle her case. Dm me her details. No be you be first wey marry girl wey don born. No be new thing. And it’s not a taboo. When a man loves a woman, he will Stand by her. You said both of you do almost all things together. Why come here to call her names. If she controls you like you said, will you and your family go for traditional rights? Guy like I said before, you ain’t man enough. No come here con fake nonsense stories. The same girl u say bad, na same girl u write for ur above comment say u Dey miss. People self. Guy grow up joor..

It's not too late, divorce her.

malcom1X:


I know of a woman in south west, she has 5 different kids for 5 different men, if you see her you won't know she has had kids. She has a very big ass with flat tummy. And very beautiful.

It's very common in that part of the country.

Akute?

EndRape2:
There is nothing wrong in marrying a woman with children ,notji g is wrong, she might not tell you because she felt if she should tell you you will leave her ,

Now the decision is just to make , can you stay with her, and the children ? If yes forgive her and go ahead with the marriage
If you can not forgive her and stay with the children then end the marriage
Period

But the truth is she might be a better and perfect wife ,than a lady without a child .

Just sit down and think if you can cope ,

Thanks










quote author=ChineduChinedu post=106575742]She said she dreamed were I cheated on her and marry someone else that's why she insisted of leaving if I didn't do the court marriage

All their family members hide this secret from me, they intend to tell me after the wedding

You guys may be wondering how I enter this problem
I wasn't into girls at all
I don't anything about girl cuz am a very shy type
For 30 years am a Virgin until I met a surger momy who toast me and took my virginity.
I broke up with my sugar momy immediately I met this girl

I don't know anything about women at all
That's how I landed into this problem
Make una help abeg

Woman, you have a wicked advice for his foolishness. I guess u r doing same.

What if was the man,lazy, without a house and job with 3kids outside wedlock, wedded a woman with a little resource for livelihood, not telling her the truth about his state but his family endorsed the marriage like nothing happened. Would you encourage your fellow woman to continue?

ChineduChinedu:
Please help, I need advice, I am very confused man, I don't know what to do in this situation

There is this girl I met in Lagos she help me find a house in Lagos from there we started dating.

I Asked her to marry me and get pregnant for me. Later she got pregnant for me.
She started disturbing me about marriage rights.

On the wedding day I discovered that she has 3 children for one man.
I have asked her several times even before she got pregnant she keep saying no

A day before the wedding, one of my uncle called me and tell me that one babalawo said that the woman I want to marry has 3 kids already.

All that day I wasn't myself I woke her up at midnight and forced the truth out of her
She admitted and start begging me to forgive her, she said she has been looking for the best time to tell me. All this are happening on our wedding day, she beg me not to tell anyone that it can be secrets between me and her àlone, I insisted that I must tell my people from my state enugu to Lagos

My people discouraged me and said I should thank God for revealing this early.
That's how I cancelled the church wedding.

Court marriage 30th September
Church wedding 2nd October
But Before that wedding day, we did court marriage, I told her that I don't want to do court marriage because if she cheat on me I will divorce her and loose my half of my money she got angry, the first day we didn't talk, 2nd day same, Then 3rd day she start packing her loads, I beg her to stay that we have few days to church wedding she insisted that If I don't do the court that I should cancel the church wedding that she can't trust me without court marriage

We did the court marriage, without my parents consent cuz it didn't come from my heart, her junior brother is the one that sighn for me in the court

I don't know what to do in this situation oo

Her first son is 13 years
2nd son 8 years
3rd girl 6 years
And now she is pregnant for me aa

Am 30 years while I don't know her real age

We have lived together for 8 months before I could discover this
And during this period we have been together
She controls me alots and that make me sad
She shout at me too
If ask me to do something for her and I refuse it becomes problem

Please what do I do ?

...but guy you take style dense ohh...na so you take marry your enemy! This matter na for the elders ohh!

You are a disgrace bro, a big fool and a stupid fellow. If you do not do these three things, then you will live a life of regret upon regrets.

1) Make sure she aborts the pregnancy
2) Sue for annulment to secure ur wealth and divorce asap
3) Seek spiritual help to counter whatever she might have done on you...trust me, there's more to life than just the physical.

Chai, this gal juju strong o. Abeg where wuna d see this kind dirty love biko? Chinedu you fall my hands

I pray the pregnancy is really yours, to start with

ChineduChinedu:
Please help, I need advice, I am very confused man, I don't know what to do in this situation

There is this girl I met in Lagos she help me find a house in Lagos from there we started dating.

I Asked her to marry me and get pregnant for me. Later she got pregnant for me.
She started disturbing me about marriage rights.

On the wedding day I discovered that she has 3 children for one man.
I have asked her several times even before she got pregnant she keep saying no

A day before the wedding, one of my uncle called me and tell me that one babalawo said that the woman I want to marry has 3 kids already.

All that day I wasn't myself I woke her up at midnight and forced the truth out of her
She admitted and start begging me to forgive her, she said she has been looking for the best time to tell me. All this are happening on our wedding day, she beg me not to tell anyone that it can be secrets between me and her àlone, I insisted that I must tell my people from my state enugu to Lagos

My people discouraged me and said I should thank God for revealing this early.
That's how I cancelled the church wedding.

Court marriage 30th September
Church wedding 2nd October
But Before that wedding day, we did court marriage, I told her that I don't want to do court marriage because if she cheat on me I will divorce her and loose my half of my money she got angry, the first day we didn't talk, 2nd day same, Then 3rd day she start packing her loads, I beg her to stay that we have few days to church wedding she insisted that If I don't do the court that I should cancel the church wedding that she can't trust me without court marriage

We did the court marriage, without my parents consent cuz it didn't come from my heart, her junior brother is the one that sighn for me in the court

I don't know what to do in this situation oo

Her first son is 13 years
2nd son 8 years
3rd girl 6 years
And now she is pregnant for me aa

Am 30 years while I don't know her real age

We have lived together for 8 months before I could discover this
And during this period we have been together
She controls me alots and that make me sad
She shout at me too
If ask me to do something for her and I refuse it becomes problem

Please what do I do ?

you are legally married to her in this country. Baba try organize how to leave the country if I was you.

ChineduChinedu:
thanks

Don't leave your house for anyone, she should be the one to leave or you will come home one day and see she has packed all your luggages and that's the end.

jeyselassie:
you are legally married to her in this country. Baba try organize how to leave the country if I was you.

ok

Baba you can't loose anything base on the fact that she lied to you

@op, move out of the house, don't ever eat or sleep with her again. Go to the same court to annul ur false marriage. Send money to her till she births, then carry out a DNA test to be sure you are its owner. If yes, take care of yours thru her very well, if not, just move on.
But I won't fail to tell u how gullible u were, I won't be surprised if u one day turn up deceased. Just try hard and get a father figure to be guiding u. Or dnt u have a family?