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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Joe4real1988(m): 1:56pm On Oct 27, 2021
advanceDNA:

It's two months ago like you said..someone already said yes when u said u will go an think about it .....

A guy asking for a baby first obviously wants a baby more...not love.... Everyone has their aim in a relationship..... He's only taking a calculated risk....with several abortions out there from the shédì bálábálá girls ...the guy doesn't want to risk marrying someone that wont bear children....

But it's good you said no....so why are u still lamenting??



We talk?
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by elantraceey(f): 1:57pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:


I opened this thread for my fellow ladies to learn from this experience.
Most ladies hop into bed with a guy in a bid to get married without due diligence. The guy is married to a lady that lives in Dubai. He kept that part away from me.

You should add this to your original write up because it's not new that some men wants pregnancy before marriage
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by humilitypays(m): 1:58pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:


I opened this thread for my fellow ladies to learn from this experience.
Most ladies hop into bed with a guy in a bid to get married without due diligence. The guy is married to a lady that lives in Dubai. He kept that part away from me.
With the trend of infertility among newly married couple today, most smart guys prefer she carry belly before they tie the knot.


Spending years and millions on infertility and childbearing issues is now like a norm, so smart young men are playing safe, dont blame the young man
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Saintmary(f): 1:58pm On Oct 27, 2021
I will drop my opinion regardless of the negative responses you've gotten.


You. Did. The. Right. Thing. Period.

I don't care about the morality, my concern is that you should have a child when YOU are ready. Not when a man pressures you into it.

Not to mention a stranger you met two months ago.

Let biological clock continue ticking until you have YOUR OWN money to care for your child.

A man's presence is only an added advantage.

Peace out.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by okuta007: 2:01pm On Oct 27, 2021
MrBrownJay1:


sadly, many women A) dont know the above and/or B) are too scared to tell the man to go for test because that may upset/anger the dude.

its a psychological trick that is very easy to fall into... not only does the man wants to have sex with the lady, but he also wants to have unprotected sex with her. sadly, there is only one valid reply to the above story:" i am sorry that this is what you desire from me before marriage, because you clearly wasted your time and obviously fooled yourself, as i aint gonna have sex with you before marriage....that was my position yesterday, thats my position today, and this will be my position til the day of the wedding."


your position yesterday today and tomorrow but you can give kpekus to Morufu the carpenter who lives across the street because he cracks jokes that makes u laugh always and when he playfully touch your hair and body while engaging in those yeye rough play with him - your kpekus start to wet uncontrollably and he as a sharp man will just corner u enter inner store go gbolarize your towtow anyhow in a kwikie for those quiet mornings or early afternoons but you are here reading the riot act to that man who genuinely wants to marry you just with a little condition

Lesson - guys for every girl forming good girl for you that no se x before marriage - there is one dude codedly wacking her puna crazily - a dude she is not proud to let anyone know about but You the mumu man who wants to desperately marry and set up a family will inherit the left over from those sexcapades…. And if u are not careful - after marriage she will still be collecting from the guy codedly and populate your house with kids from another man - BE WISE!

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by rahztafari(m): 2:03pm On Oct 27, 2021
olabrinks:
So somebody else has agreed to be his wife under his conditions, and you have moved on, so why are you opening a thread about this? At the end of the day If you’re having sex with a guy before marriage, what is the difference if the guy asks you to get pregnant before he marries you? Let’s not be hypocritical here. A lot of us like to act like we are above certain things, when in reality you are just deceiving yourself. Let’s not act like women dont date 5 men at once before they settle down with one. Move on with your life, you’re not better than the girl he impregnated, you’re both the same, just that there’s proof of fornication in her stomach. Ah beg jare.

So onpoint abeg

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by advanceDNA: 2:06pm On Oct 27, 2021
Joe4real1988:
We talk?

About??
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Aganju849: 2:09pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.

Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.

The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.

Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.

Young lady, you must understand, the dude is sowing his seed anywhere he can find fertile ground

It's a Divine imperative: Go forth and multiply!
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by daddynasa: 2:12pm On Oct 27, 2021
olabrinks:
So somebody else has agreed to be his wife under his conditions, and you have moved on, so why are you opening a thread about this? At the end of the day If you’re having sex with a guy before marriage, what is the difference if the guy asks you to get pregnant before he marries you? Let’s not be hypocritical here. A lot of us like to act like we are above certain things, when in reality you are just deceiving yourself. Let’s not act like women dont date 5 men at once before they settle down with one. Move on with your life, you’re not better than the girl he impregnated, you’re both the same, just that there’s proof of fornication in her stomach. Ah beg jare.

GBAM! May ur days be longer than east west road.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwibii: 2:13pm On Oct 27, 2021
Evrybody can you Imagine that....
Style plus...
Always pay a listening ear to your instinct no mater what.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by azpekuliar: 2:14pm On Oct 27, 2021
Bola146:
shocked Olorun ooooo shocked shocked, hope you haven't aborted any pregnancy for him? If no congratulations, if yes, seek God's face for forgiveness, He will surely forgive you. The mumu never loved you but lust you grin grin just thank God you didn't fall into his trap, move on with your life, better husband's materials is coming.

It’s a game of numbers. Na the one wey conceive e wan marry.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by adedayoa2(f): 2:16pm On Oct 27, 2021
You for be 2nd wife abi na baby mama now. Anyways just take your time, obviously he never loved you.

Forget all these people yabbing you, if you had tried it and you found out he had another woman who is pregnant, they will still blame you.

Thank your stars.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by HEDREEZ1(m): 2:23pm On Oct 27, 2021
I think the guy is sincere / ready to marry you. His request favor you too. If you want him. The scenario might be different if the guy can’t produce. You might have said the same he requested if you guys got married. Who knows that’s what the other lady want to confirm. Goodluck
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by NiceMen: 2:23pm On Oct 27, 2021
RightToReject:
The unpronounced reason behind this thread is simply to announce that you are single, available, and looking for a serious relationship that will lead to marriage as soon as possible because of pressure from different quarters for you to marry. There is no need to be ashamed of saying it as you want it because it isn't a crime.
grin grin grin grin grin guy, wetin b ya problem?

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by joyandfaith: 2:23pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.

Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.

The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.

Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.

You have to be grateful.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by linearity: 2:24pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:


The guy is a married man.

Let’s assume he is married as you later said…..you did not mention that as part of your reasons for declining to marry him.

Your bone of contention was, his demand that you get pregnant first. More so as you stated, his married wife leaves abroad and may even be a foreigner he used to get his papers or that relationship is in a bad shape and either have hit the rock or about to hit the rock, hence he is looking for a solution.

And many ladies won’t mind getting into such relationships, but you appear not to be the type, so just move on. The truth is, men to marry dey scarce and the competition is very tough, so your public service announcement is not going to make ladies of marriage age look back. Ladies are even dating married men these days on purpose with the aim of taking over, hence many married women don’t package and leave their marital home again, when they caught their husbands cheating as that will be fulfilling the cherished dreams of another lady.

As a result of the above many ladies who don’t want to tolerate or play the above games opt to become independent ladies and fashy the marriage thing altogether or wait absent-mindly for God to answer their prayers of a husband as they live single, focus on their careers and grow old.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 2:24pm On Oct 27, 2021
mbjsuki:
The guy is just going about doing "random sampling". You are just lucky, thank your God.

Exactly. Random sampling without protection.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by djseanjohn77: 2:27pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:

Yes he was but never mentioned it to me.

This "married before" narrative is what you have brought up after people started bashing you, why didn't you include that in your post. Abegi, we no buy that narrative. �

Nobody will post stories without favoring themselves in the narrative, supposing we can hear the side of the guy now ehn, e for better.

That said, no need to become adviser or motivational speaker, people are different, because yours turned out like this does not mean others will happen like yours.

The kind of life ladies are living today ehn, it calls for such. I know few people that have been married for few years (8-15 yrs) now and they are still childless. I know one particular one, when we were in school, she aborted for her school Bf like 2 months before wedding to her real fiance, they have been married for about 13 years now, no child. And who born us to talk, and we still remain the family friend. A lot is happening. People like you will still be the one fighting your brother's wife for childlessness. This life no balancen do what works for you

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 2:28pm On Oct 27, 2021
ignis:


[s]You just goofed and messed up the opportunity you have to get married. You should be hiding your face in regret now.[/s]
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 2:29pm On Oct 27, 2021
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pedrilo:
So?
Which crime him commit?
Every man with his choice.
U made ur choice so Wetin dey mk u cry?
U, d guy and d pregnant gal, make all of una getat
[/s]
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by jaybee345(m): 2:30pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:


Nwachi22
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 2:32pm On Oct 27, 2021
[s]
femi4:
Mess up your life,? How? You can be the second wife now ....Kini big deal, your biologist time is saying tik tok
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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 2:33pm On Oct 27, 2021
Maobichek:


I like your boldness dear, the truth is that she won't send any mail to you. From the thread, she appreciates rich men.

Wrong. I appreciate men that gives me peace of mind not rich men.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by greatseed: 2:34pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:


Wish kor! Wish ni! Would you wish for any of your sisters or daughters to marry this kind of man?
Nah angry
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 2:34pm On Oct 27, 2021
Edge1:


Please rest abeg. We've heard these lines before.
You rejected the offer doesn't mean every other woman should reject it. I know many ladies here wouldn't think twice before accepting

You’re right. Life is choice driven.
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 2:35pm On Oct 27, 2021
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mabea:
This thing wey you talk sweet me well well. Lol
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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Elonmuzk(m): 2:35pm On Oct 27, 2021
Well, you missed your shot and someone else took in for him. So, case closed.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 2:35pm On Oct 27, 2021
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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Cousin9999: 2:36pm On Oct 27, 2021
You should automatically dump any guy who asks you to do this. There's so many things wrong with that.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nobody: 2:39pm On Oct 27, 2021
Nwachi22:


I opened this thread for my fellow ladies to learn from this experience.
Most ladies hop into bed with a guy in a bid to get married without due diligence. The guy is married to a lady that lives in Dubai. He kept that part away from me.
Nigerian girls LIVING IN NIGERIA, stay AWAY from Nigerian guys living abroad.
He may end up abandoning the pregnant lady sef. I don't know why my fellow females no dey hear word.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by TheOnlyUyai(f): 2:40pm On Oct 27, 2021
Better dump him and never look back.

All these men wey never ready for marriage. Ask him to tell you if it's a baby he wants or you.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 2:41pm On Oct 27, 2021
Loverboy3333:


Some girls are even looking for such opportunities, Regina Daniels married Ned with many wives and kids.
I bet if this man was to be a billionaire na speed you for open legs to deposit sperm put.

No my Dear. Money is not my problem.
God has already blessed me.

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