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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by Haakeem(m): 12:21pm On Nov 07, 2021
WISE up its simple,attend her catholic church but after the marriage go back to ur own church.........does gender thinks they are wise show her and her family u are wiser!

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by Righteousness2(m): 12:22pm On Nov 07, 2021
Mercychen:


She has right to decide for HERSELF, not for him.
Besides marriage is in view from the ops narration. So why not already begin to consider things as married couples?

Their is nothing to consider as Married as they not yet married. Until you are Married , you are not married!
And like I said , I Believe she has her reasons. And it is an important issue in a Home.

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by Aksnoopy: 12:22pm On Nov 07, 2021
KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.
They are telling you to leave her now, you don't wanna listen.

Even your conscience is telling you thesame, but your weakness which is fear of uncertainty is holding you hostage.

Please if you go ahead and marry her don't come here disturbing us ok.

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by BlackPantherxXx: 12:23pm On Nov 07, 2021
As someone said ...

I know a Deeper Life woman who said " no one but DL member"

After she don knack 30... " no one but a Christian"

When she was 40, an Uztaz friend of mine was kidding about adding a wife.

After the meeting, she went to beg for consideration as Wife Number 2

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by muheeb01(m): 12:23pm On Nov 07, 2021
In 2021 people still dey discriminate cos of religion or type of church nawa o

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by Agbalanze(m): 12:23pm On Nov 07, 2021
Please don't give room for such nonsense.. Your wife and children should attend the same church with you. For me, it's a must not even an option!
Be ready for more conditions if you accept this. love is not all that matters in marriage... its too early, let her gooooooo.....

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by na2016: 12:23pm On Nov 07, 2021
KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.
I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.
She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.

OP: It is not advisable for the husband to attend another church while the wife attends another. You may not see anything bad in it but this can even cause separation if not managed well. I will suggest if you really love her and you feel she meets all your requirement for a wife, join her in her church but make it explicit that you are doing that for the union. However, be firm when it comes to other decisions later.

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by meetme01: 12:24pm On Nov 07, 2021
iriakanns:


Bros, you have quoted the scripture wrongly. It's a man that leaves and cleaves to his own wife. “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
— Genesis 2:24 (KJV)

To the bros that sought our opinion. If you are ready to compromise, then go on with the marriage, no be say after you agree now, if you don marry her finish, you go come rescind your decision. If you can't compromise now, just make it clear to her that you can't continue with the ship.

Going back will cause more havoc. It shows he is not man who can stand by his words. Respect her wish for crying out loud. If it happens the other way round, battery comes in and of care is not taken, someone will loose heavily to something that can be avoided.

Men.....please respect women. They are humans and not second fiddle. Let's treat them right nah. We have mothers, sisters and aunts. Can we see see them in situations like this and advise as we are advising men online..?

Orientation is really needed for this generation on how to treat women. Now, I can conclude my research on increase in marital disputes.
Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by omenayoung: 12:25pm On Nov 07, 2021
You have just advices yourself. Since you love her and can't start all over again then do what she wants.
Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by barcaboi(m): 12:26pm On Nov 07, 2021
KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.
If she likes you she’d not try to change you. She’s adjust or do her thing
Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by kmaster007: 12:27pm On Nov 07, 2021
You try
RoyalBoutique:
Religion; the bane of progress in Nigeria.

My wife goes to mountain of fire.

I'm a traditional worshipper.

I can never set foot in church.

She knows that.

That's why we only did court marriage and traditional marriage.

No church.

I can't let religion dictate my life.
Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by mechanics(m): 12:27pm On Nov 07, 2021
If you are led by the spirit to leave your present church for her own church no problem, but if you feel are church won't lead you to heaven or they don't preach sound doctrine, then you need to think twice, I know some Reverend do preach the truth of the Word of God like father Mbaka.

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by Mvena(f): 12:27pm On Nov 07, 2021
2ndchildhood:
So as husband scarce reach, women still the give conditions?
Dem never ready

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by azammi(m): 12:27pm On Nov 07, 2021
She wants the best for you , your new family will need a very Good Christian tradition.
KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by franchasng: 12:28pm On Nov 07, 2021
KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.
My wife was a catholic, staunch member, those type they call Umu Mary (daughter of Mary), she also insisted at the beginning, but with time she agreed but on one condition; that I allow her worship in Catholic after marriage and I agreed that Church is Church, the only denomination I am scared of are the White garments because of their mixture of Christianity with fetishism and ifaism.

After our wedding, whenever I am around she attends her Catholic while I attend my own denomination.

But with time, no be person tell her that it's riskier for her allowing me to be attending my Church that have the most hottest chicks in Naija as a single young man, she had to run follow me, I even refused that please stick to our agreement, she said ehen, seems you are eyeing some girls in that your Church, and that was the last time she attended Catholic church and now she enjoys my Church more than I do lol.


Same happened to one of my elder bro.


Ladies are more attached to their religious beliefs than men, and that's why they fall prey to bad men masquerading as men of God.



If she can't accept your terms of letting you stick to your Catholic while she stick to hers, please let her go, she won't make a good partner for you.

Mind you, love is not enough reason to marry anybody, be it man or woman, marriage is beyond romantic love.

If you weren't a Christian then I will agree with her, but you are a Christian of another denomination created by man, so who is she to decide for you? Please free her, time will reset her brains.



Is it easy to find a young man ready to get married nowadays. It is easier for any girl or lady to get a sex mate or boyfriend or dates, but very difficult to get a husband, na time go teach her that truth

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by Shakathezulu1: 12:28pm On Nov 07, 2021
Vinnie2000:

Look around the Catholic Church nah!
Statistics show dat We have the Finest, Freshest and morally disciplined Babes amongst all Churches cool cheesy
Whey some Rev Father's dey Bleep on a steady. Yinmu.
Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by mrblessed(m): 12:28pm On Nov 07, 2021
What rubbish! That you are even considering her unreasonble anti-Catholic posture, reveals an unpleasant side of your person, as someone fickle and effeminate. Couldn't she find any "brother" in her church to marry her?

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by Austineva(m): 12:29pm On Nov 07, 2021
Mood11:
Oga if you start living your life by her dictates even before the marriage just know that you must continue with it and never stop else any day you do otherwise from her bidding the marriage will scatter angry
Let her join you in your church, it's the same God everywhere...

Na this type go say make you forget about your family angrywe

After the marriage wetin you go dey hear na "my pastor says, my pastor said, pastor said, pastor will, I will ask pastor" angry
I wish I can like this ur comment one million times. I swear

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by maduxs: 12:30pm On Nov 07, 2021
What are you waiting for,
Is your father the founder of Catholic Church?

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by omenayoung: 12:30pm On Nov 07, 2021
You can never be firm in this relationship if you start like that. She will always be the one to take major decisions if you lay This foundation
OP: It is not advisable for the husband to attend another church while the wife attends another. You may not see anything bad in it but this can even cause separation if not managed well. I will suggest if you really love her and you feel she meets all your requirement for a wife, join her in her church but make it explicit that you are doing that for the union. However, be firm when it comes to other decisions later.[/quote]
Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by Shellsploit: 12:31pm On Nov 07, 2021
Hanks0000:
Let her go
...

Reminds me of the song "Let her go" by Passengers

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by Mvena(f): 12:31pm On Nov 07, 2021
Just invite me to the wedding abeg I no care about the church wey una go do am

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by Angelfrost(m): 12:31pm On Nov 07, 2021
KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.

Then leave Catholic Church, since you have decided she is the only one you can ever love or be with...

However, mark my words... This won't be the least or last thing you will have to give up to make her happy or make that union blissful.

Eventually, you will give up your manhood and personality!!!

Love! What a joke!!! Mtchewwww!

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by West2019(m): 12:31pm On Nov 07, 2021
if na she want to feed and take care of the family and many others things at home no prb if nah she want to marry you No prb but if nah you want to marry her and take good care of the family as a husband you better leave that girl

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by SILVERLINES: 12:33pm On Nov 07, 2021
KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.
let her go
Many girls have tried that with me in the past but couldn't succeeded

Just let her Walk away

Don't be that [b]SIMP[/b]le for her to manipulate
Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by cayorday89(m): 12:33pm On Nov 07, 2021
chiommy123:
I understand her sha. Some of us do not feel very comfortable in some churches
I hope you also understand the OP too as he is part of the some of you who don't feel very comfortable in some churches too.

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by franchasng: 12:33pm On Nov 07, 2021
Vinnie2000:


OP
No servant can serve Two Masters at the same time..You Must love one and Hate the other!

In dis case, you MUST CHOOSE BETWEEN Catholic Church and Your Girlfriend..

You love the Catholic Church too Much!
She loves her Pentecostal Church same way! I will advice you forget about dis young lady!
The Two of You Cannot Mix! sad

Look around the Catholic Church nah!
Statistics show dat We have the Finest, Freshest and morally disciplined Babes amongst all Churches cool cheesy
You have a good point, Catholic Church seems to have the highest number of morally disciplined ladies than most other Church denominations.



After Catholic comes Deeper Life, The Apostolic Faith and maybe Assemblies of God.


This is based on my own observations, I could be wrong

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by Mysticwebb: 12:34pm On Nov 07, 2021
I was once in this kind of situation. In my case we dated for 6 good years, then when it got to settling down, babe started talking about my church as if she didn't know all these while. I thought it was just a delay tactics but it was more than that. Long story cut short, I couldn't let go of everything we have shared so far. Since I know her cycle very well, I targeted her fertile days, spoil her with gifts and got her pregnant. After that I warned her against any attempt on abortion, then I reported myself to her father, it was hell initially then everything calmed down, marriage was the only thing on the table. Now we are good, surprisingly we are even attending my church together once in awhile as she has continued with her church. But I have not been to her church even once. We do joke about the past sometimes, on those times she always accuse me of using deceit to marry her. Few months after marriage, one particular morning, after our morning prayer, she thanked me for doing what I did, claiming she was just confused then. She thanked God I didn't leave her. Though I still pretended I didn't know what she was talking about that I did.

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by LollySeaSide: 12:34pm On Nov 07, 2021
It's her decision and she has a reason for it.
You should make yours too.
It's not a crime to change your place of worship because of a woman you want to marry. I can't do it though.
#ProudlyCatholic

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by franchasng: 12:35pm On Nov 07, 2021
West2019:
if na she want to feed and take care of the family and many others things at home no prb if nah she want to marry you No prb but if nah you want to marry her and take good care of the family as a husband you better leave that girl
lolz, na so, very simple grin



The girl must be below 27yrs wink

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Re: She Wants Me To Leave Catholic Church Before She Can Marry Me by 27Pushing30: 12:35pm On Nov 07, 2021
KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.
Please find another person kudos

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