I'm writing based on the thread that grace the front page either this week or last, see below for the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/6833377/type-relationship-desire

In my own opinion, I feel it is the full responsibilities of every man, to foot every bills in your home, you claim to be the head and as the head you should always be responsible and not shy away from your responsibilities..

It is only broke men that fight their wives to share mans responsibilities, if you are not capable to take up your sole responsibility, please remain single..

You can't see Dangote or Femi Otedola splitting bills at home with their wife..

Your woman can only support you at her own will without being told to do so....

Know this and have peace of mind

Alot of mentions, I'm sure aloy of people didn't read the heading before quoting me wrongly....

Marriage is not for everybody, if you know as a man, you can't take care of your responsibilities as the head of the house you always beat your cheat to be, kindly remain a bachelor till thy kingdom come......

I'm allergic to stupid mentions, I have said what I have to say, if you don't like it, jump and pass

Seconded.

If a woman wants to support, it should be willingly not by coercion.

chatinent:
Ok

wunmi590:
I'm writing based on the thread that grace the front page either this week or last, see below for the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/6833377/type-relationship-desire

In my own opinion, I feel it is the full responsibilities of every man, to foot every bills in your home, you claim to be the head and as the head you should always be responsible and not shy away from your responsibilities..

It is only broke men that fight their wives to share mans responsibilities, if you are not capable to take up your sole responsibility, please remain single..

You can't see Dangote or Femi Otedola splitting bills at home with their wife..

Your woman can only support you at her own will without being told to do so....

Know this and have peace of mind

I have no issues with the bolded. I just have a question for you:

If the man is footing all your bills & taking 100% financial responsibility, do you have the right to say "No" when he says "Yes"?

Please answer this.

DoggoneDogg:


I have no issues with the bolded. I just have a question for you:

If the man is footing all your bills & taking 100% financial responsibility, do you have the right to say "No" when he says "Yes"?

Please answer this.

As it stands the man is the head of the family, and when he says NO, the NO must stand...

I'm a male

Don't mind them, bring that spiliting and sharing bills before me and watch me apply it everywhere such that you will hate yourself.A man should just be good,do his best,give love and care and you won't ever need to sound it to your wife to be supportive. But you see those redpillers immediately asking for bills to be shared ehn,me sef will activate my other side and even the air we breath will be shared,down to the bedroom as you'll only release sperm when I want kid,other times I'm going to stop you at your peak because we have to divide the energy as well.rubbish

wunmi590:


As it stands the man is the head of the family, and when he says NO, the NO must stand...

I'm a male

Good answer.

When you see a man asking the wife to foot bills, it is usually because she has challenged his authority in the home.

wunmi590:
I'm writing based on the thread that grace the front page either this week or last, see below for the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/6833377/type-relationship-desire

In my own opinion, I feel it is the full responsibilities of every man, to foot every bills in your home, you claim to be the head and as the head you should always be responsible and not shy away from your responsibilities..

It is only broke men that fight their wives to share mans responsibilities, if you are not capable to take up your sole responsibility, please remain single..

You can't see Dangote or Femi Otedola splitting bills at home with their wife..

Your woman can only support you at her own will without being told to do so....

Know this and have peace of mind

U are right

wunmi590:
I'm writing based on the thread that grace the front page either this week or last, see below for the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/6833377/type-relationship-desire

In my own opinion, I feel it is the full responsibilities of every man, to foot every bills in your home, you claim to be the head and as the head you should always be responsible and not shy away from your responsibilities..

It is only broke men that fight their wives to share mans responsibilities, if you are not capable to take up your sole responsibility, please remain single..

You can't see Dangote or Femi Otedola splitting bills at home with their wife..

Your woman can only support you at her own will without being told to do so....

Know this and have peace of mind

....You might think that you have spoken well but don't forget that in such a union that the woman has no say.

She will always abide and take anything the man says.

The kids go the whichever school the man wants even when you as the woman might not like it.

Eats anything he feels like eating because you have no say.

Alot of disadvantages in such union.

chatinent:
Seconded.

If a woman wants to support, it should be willingly not by coercion.

A woman should support her family with a sense of obligation, and not by “will”.

Iyaebe:
Don't mind them, bring that spiliting and sharing bills before me and watch me apply it everywhere such that you will hate yourself.A man should just be good,do his best,give love and care and you won't ever need to sound it to your wife to be supportive. But you see those redpillers immediately asking for bills to be shared ehn,me sef will activate my other side and even the air we breath will be shared,down to the bedroom as you'll only release sperm when I want kid,other times I'm going to stop you at your peak because we have to divide the energy as well.rubbish

Kids will always be kids.

Iyaebe:
Don't mind them, bring that spiliting and sharing bills before me and watch me apply it everywhere such that you will hate yourself.A man should just be good,do his best,give love and care and you won't ever need to sound it to your wife to be supportive. But you see those redpillers immediately asking for bills to be shared ehn,me sef will activate my other side and even the air we breath will be shared,down to the bedroom as you'll only release sperm when I want kid,other times I'm going to stop you at your peak because we have to divide the energy as well.rubbish

Mariangeles:


A woman should support her family with a sense of obligation, and not by “will”.

.....And any woman who doesn't realize that it's her obligation to support her family shouldn't complain if being treated like a nobody.

I like the way you approach issues here with open heart. Keep it up and remain blessed.

JONNYSPUTE:
....You might think that you have spoken well but don't forget that in such a union that the woman has no say.

She will always abide and take anything the man says.

The kids go the whichever school the man wants even when you as the woman might not like it.

Eats anything he feels like eating because you have no say.

Alot of disadvantages in such union.

Nobody is saying the woman will not have a say, what we are saying is that husband should stop forcing their wives to split bills, bill is the sole responsibility of the husband....

My wife pay bills, she buy fuel in her car, it was suppose to be my responsibility, because I gave her the car, but she does it at her own will....

Mariangeles:


A woman should support her family with a sense of obligation, and not by “will”.

That is for women who have a sense of obligation. Dem no many wey remain.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....And any woman who doesn't realize that it's her obligation to support her family shouldn't complain if being treated like a nobody.

I like the way you approach issues here with open heart. Keep it up and remain blessed.

Thank you.

wunmi590:


Nobody is saying the woman will not have a say, what we are saying is that husband should stop forcing their wives to split bills, bill is the sole responsibility of the husband....

My wife pay bills, she buy fuel in her car, it was suppose to be my responsibility, because I gave her the car, but she does it at her own will....

.......Like you were asked. In such union if the man says Yes,can the woman counter his opinion?

Your wife is sensible enough to understand that it is her obligation to fuel her car and that she is not doing it willingly.

Tell yourself the truth. If your wife stops supporting you,will you ever want to take any decesion in the family and put her on the know?

chatinent:


That is for women who have a sense of obligation. Dem no reach five wey remain.

Go to the market, you see those women selling under the hot sun and rain, they wouldn’t do it if it was by will.

I support the op...

But chebi God that created woman out of a token of man's rib did that Simply because he wanted her to be supportive to him in all ramifications?

It ought to be something that should be done willingly,and not by force....

Mariangeles:


Go to the market, you see those women selling under the hot sun and rain, they wouldn’t do it if it was by will.

Majority of women in Nigeria are married to incompetent husbands. Some are incompetent willingly. Some lost it on the way due to one reasons or the other.

These women provide more for the family than the husband because she doesn't want her kids to suffer. She has to do whatever to make ends meet.



This isn't obligation. This is struggle. This does not in anyway mean I disrespect them. No, struggle is golden.

What I earlier said is it is difficult to see a woman speak up for the responsibilities to be shared. It may happen in Europe.

chatinent:


Majority of women in Nigeria are married to incompetent husbands. Some are incompetent willingly. Some lost it on the way due to one reasons or the order.

These women provide more for the family than the husband because she doesn't want her kids to suffer. She has to do whatever to make ends meet.

This isn't obligation. This is struggle.

....This is where most of us get it wrong.

Everybody must not marry a well to do man and if you as a woman you find yourself in such situation then it is your obligation to make sure your kids doesn't suffer.

Look at it this way. A man lost his job and the family starts starving just because the woman who is still employed simply forgot that it's her obligation to cater for the family. How will you as a man see such woman?

wunmi590:
I'm writing based on the thread that grace the front page either this week or last, see below for the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/6833377/type-relationship-desire

In my own opinion, I feel it is the full responsibilities of every man, to foot every bills in your home, you claim to be the head and as the head you should always be responsible and not shy away from your responsibilities..

It is only broke men that fight their wives to share mans responsibilities, if you are not capable to take up your sole responsibility, please remain single..

You can't see Dangote or Femi Otedola splitting bills at home with their wife..

Your woman can only support you at her own will without being told to do so....

Know this and have peace of mind

Do you mind going through the thread you quoted one more time.
Is Jay Z broke? Nigeria girls and self entitlement.
Confused set of people

.

JONNYSPUTE:
....You might think that you have spoken well but don't forget that in such a union that the woman has no say.

She will always abide and take anything the man says.

The kids go the whichever school the man wants even when you as the woman might not like it.

Eats anything he feels like eating because you have no say.

Alot of disadvantages in such union.

that is the main reason a woman shouldn't be a liability and be ready to be supportive willingly....all this thing happen in our home before we even get married.... let's say a guy in his late 30s is still jobless in d house, do u think he wl earn any respect? A child that is contributing financially to the house would be more respected and his words taken seriously and accepted.

Oizee:
that is the main reason a woman shouldn't be a liability and be ready to be supportive willingly....all this thing happen in our home before we even get married.... let's say a guy in his late 30s is still jobless in d house, do u think he wl earn any respect? A child that is contributing financially to the house would be more respected and his words taken seriously and accepted.

....Nne it is not supporting willingly but it's her obligations to support her family.

When we use the word "willingly" it only means she can choose to support or not.

chatinent:


That is for women who have a sense of obligation. Dem no many wey remain.

Buying diesel for her car has nothing to do with sense of obligation jare , let's us not normalizes abnormalities.

JONNYSPUTE:
....You might think that you have spoken well but don't forget that in such a union that the woman has no say.
She will always abide and take anything the man says.
The kids go the whichever school the man wants even when you as the woman might not like it.
Eats anything he feels like eating because you have no say.
Alot of disadvantages in such union.

I don't smoke from that silly man-is-head pipe either but there is something really unsettling about a married couple splitting the bills. It doesn't make any sense at all.

And yes, a woman can foot and should take it on herself to foot the bill where she is able to afterall the family also belongs to her.

The days when paying bills was the sole responsibility of a man are far gone. In those days men didn’t want their wives working and the made that abundantly clear.

If a woman makes money she should contribute towards the bills. They either contribute a percentage of their income to a joint account with which they take care of all bills or they split bills equally.

Even children should pay bills when they start earning, if they continue to live at home. Any woman who doesn’t want to split bills should be fine if her husband tells her to stop working.

It’s this kind of pride that makes men die early. Keep paying bills while she saves up all her own money. You will be telling your siblings you don’t have 10k to give them, she will send her own siblings abroad for studies.

The man is the head doesn't make him the financial head of the home. If the wife is opportune to make more, he should support her.

Overall, each home should work what works for them.

chatinent:
Seconded.

If a woman wants to support, it should be willingly not by coercion.

You're always a darling .
I ve just included you to my list of darlings
Crackhauz
Pocohantas
Mariahangel/mariaangeles
Folake4u
Fanofmyself (this one can like admire himself
Chatinent.

Thank you all

chatinent:
Seconded.

If a woman wants to support, it should be willingly not by coercion.

True talk....God bless our mothers who stood by their hubby in good and bad times.